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Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by ButterBurger: 2:01pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Na money or dick for women. Na money or pussy for man. Red flags dey turn orange when pussy too sweet some men. Red flags can even turn pink when prick and money too sweet some women. We never even talk of make red gays turn peach. Lol |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by emerged01(m): 2:05pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
I use to laugh at those who think love is the inability to control your feelings. Those people are stupid! Very stupid. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 2:09pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Yusufisraelj:I don't follow. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by TechSkill: 2:10pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Ahmed0336:NO... it is insecurity and lack of self-worth |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by smile11s(m): 2:14pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Francisanointed: The matter tire me too. https://gist.am/question/why-do-people-get-married-with-someone-they-saw-red-flags |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Munzy14(m): 2:15pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Jennyclay:You gave the best analysis as regards to the topic...Experience is truely the best teacher. So did you later found out why he kept malice with the man he called Dad? 3years is too much...Though some fathers can be extremely annoying, but not to extent of malice. My Dad ones he offends me, I bodly tell it to his face what he did is wrong...He will carry face for small time, then later will call to engage me in serious discussion...now I am imagining him staying off for 1yr...damn! . 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 2:15pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
nighter:Like I said, a Flaw is a redflag and A redflag is a flaw. I even posted grom an article written by a psychiatrist on this for you to maybe see this. If you have anything meaningful to add, then go ahead and we can iron it out. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by girlygirlyMain: 2:15pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Mostly PREMARITAL SEX. We ignore alot when we are sleeping with somebody. Secondly, voodoo or juju or love spells... Many people are under shit they know nothing about because they were careless with themselves or victims of the cunningly wicked... Imagine making a woman cook for you and she adds her ................. to it... you will not come out of it easily unless you turn to God. Imagine chopping a guy's money non stop and he is collecting your light while you think he's a simp. LMAO Many people dey learn work for here. STOP PREMARITAL SEX & STOP COLLECTING MONEY FROM MEN/WOMEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE NOT READY TO MARRY. WHEN YOU STOP THE RED FLAG WILL BE RED ENOUGH & YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO IGNORE IT Francisanointed: 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 2:17pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
kingyakos:God no send anyone carry burden wey him no send dem. The gal is, again, obviously not at peace with this particular flaw in her husband and she is not his mother that she would marry him with the intention of fixing him.. Since she is not at peace with it, the sensible thing is for her to leave him alone and go find herself a man that best fits her specs. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 2:18pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
pashiano:Some folks actually think it is possible to find a person without flaws/redflags. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Tribalism123(m): 2:19pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
The single reason is WHEN THE TWO HAVE SLEPT TOGETHER. They see marriage as compensation 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by babztee(m): 2:20pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Orgasm is nobody’s mate |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Nobody: 2:23pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Francisanointed:My brother na part of our Nigerian mentality, we always do the wrong things and PRAY for the best results! |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by kingyakos: 2:24pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Where will she find a man that best fits her in a world where men will always be boys |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 2:25pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
kingyakos:Abeg don't! Not all men out there are boys! And the world does not begin and end with Nigerians. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by yinkeys(m): 2:34pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Lack of options Blinded by love The inability to think you can do better or improve yourself to get someone better. Moral reason - some people just don’t like changing sexual partners |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by BluntTheApostle(m): 2:36pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Francisanointed: It is psychological. How do people get so stuck up in such a relationship? The bully gains total control over the victim using other subtle abusive means. In fact, physical abuse is the most ineffective method of gaining control over the victim. The most effective method is emotional abuse. The bully constantly uses verbal abuse to reduce the self esteem of the victim till the victim feels useless without the bully. The bully may constantly body-shame the victim, and make the victim feel like they can only be desired by the bully. In fact, they begin to perceive their appearance based on how the bully has described it. Emotional abuse becomes even more effective when the bully combines it with financial abuse. The bully uses emotional abuse to make the victim question their financial knowledge, and makes the victim surrender total financial decisions to the bully even if the victim is the owner of the money. With financial decision totally in the hands of the bully, the victim becomes more stuck with them. And finally, there is psychological abuse which the bully will eventually combine with emotional and financial abuse to make the victim totally dependent on them. Since they have gained control over the victim's emotion, they will now use the threat of leaving the relationship whenever the victim shows a sign of regaining some control over their situation. They may say to the victim, "If you leave me, no one will be able to even look at you. No one will be as good as I am. Yes, I am not perfect, but I am the best you will ever find out there. See youe big stomach, who will want to marry you? Men want women with nice figures and trim bellies. Remember you also have poor financial decision making skills. Men don't like such women." This is why emotional abuse is regarded as the most dangerous form of domestic violence. It messes you up both physically and psychologically, and makes you stuck to your abusive partner with absolute no way out. It will even get to a stage where the victim starts blaming themselves for the abusive action of their spouse. The woman victim will start blaming herself for her husband slapping her. She may say, "It is because I got him angry. I shouldn't have served his food late. I shouldn't have interrupted him." The man victim will start blaming himself for his wife calling him names, and nagging him all day. He may say, "It is my fault that she is so angry. I shouldn't have forgotten to take out the trash." |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Hezzyluv: 2:37pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
ORIAYO70: Some even go as far as hitting the lady during courtship and yet, she assumed he's not going to beat her if they marry each other, after marriage, she'll be shocked and start saying, "I never see it coming" |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by kingyakos: 2:40pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:U dey even reason Nigeria wen u dey yarn... All round the world, men will always be boys |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by GOSPELTRUTH31: 2:40pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Francisanointed:Out of lost of the flesh Most people see marriage as an hospital that cures redflag. The problem with the wrong marriage is that God hates Divorce for different reasons Divorce can damage a child psychologically for life. Its that bad. You can avoid Divorce when you marry a woman who wants you for who you are. Not the woman that is lost over your wealth. Seek Christ today |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 2:41pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
kingyakos:I disagree! |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 2:48pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
GOSPELTRUTH31:Divorce can actually also save a child from psychological damage and help him/her heal from damage incurred in an unhealthy family situation. God hates Divorce but He never said the reason He does so is for the sake of the child, so don't twist God's Truth here abeg. Also, God's Law against Divorce applies to those who belong in the Kingdom of God - who trust and obey His commandments, something a majority of you who throw God's name around in these things reject with all your hearts. The same God who hates Divorce however said it is OK to chose it in case of fornication, so let's be real here. Choosing a woman who accepts you this while you hold on to the wickedness of your hearts does not make you or your marriage of God but of your desires - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by kingyakos: 2:50pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Men like pastor Jimmy Swaggart in the US who became a boy twice in a prostitute joint |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by amazingspiderma: 2:53pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
People make decisions based on emotions without asking questions such as 1. What quality does he/she bring into my home. 2. Is this the type of life I want my children to emulate from. 3. Will she or he bring peace in my turbulent situations or upgrade my problems to disaster. When you see the flag stop and don't go ahead, it is a red flag because you don't have what it takes to handle it. If you are an evangelical and marry a Catholic, but as a man you want your home to be evangelical, then you must take leadership. For instance you marry a woman with SSCE and want her to become a graduate not knowing that you also have to prepare to be her home tutor. In marriage weaknesses and problems are not delegated, weaknesses and problems are adopted. So is strength and positive attributes. People must understand the weaknesses they face in their marriage and must accept responsibility for whatever it takes to get it done. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 2:53pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
kingyakos:What has Jimmy swaggart to do with this here conversation? |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by 9japride(m): 3:03pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Everyone is just being selfish, they all are after something to they think it's worth risking for. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by prophetfire: 3:08pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Ahmed0336:. Blinded by lust and foolish emotions rather. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Walewow: 3:25pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
benuejosh: I swear |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Hamachi(f): 3:27pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
It rains everywhere get a good umbrella Jennyclay: |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by kaymart: 3:36pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Wizywiz:Hi bro.. Can u share me some of the experience? What happened? What did ur family see that made them against d union from d outset? And why were u bent on proceeding against all odds? What later happened during the marriage....cheating? Are there children involved already? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by asiga(m): 3:44pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Pity |
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