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Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Nobody: 6:49pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
seyz91:Yeah my paddy paddy 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Elporo(m): 7:07pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
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Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by cayorday89(m): 7:59pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Jennyclay:I remembered this, but then I was not tempted to comment as I was in a similar but not neecesaarily same situation and it's hard commenting because he refused to give reasons and even his siblings and mum could not let you know the offense of his father which is the only part I will fault the guy... In my case my dad is a commandant that you must never go against his word whether right or wrong and the few times I will summon courage to talk he will shut me up with me leaving his house or do his bidding either its favorable to me or not. Now as an adult, I feel no connection with him and I can't even pick up my phone to call him if he calls I pick and our conversation will always be in seconds and when we see it's just greeting and that's all. But it's all your decision to take especially as your bf is not giving you reasons to hold onto for your own peace. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by oshionelecky: 8:49pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Jennyclay: In such situations, try to understand the root cause. A person reacting negatively to a particular behaviour doesn't make that person a write off, unless you know you have traits he/she doesn't like then you can jakpa. Also, a person who seems good doesn't mean he/she is okay. Remember, behaviour is largely circumstancial. The word is all about cause and effect. Actions and reactions. I don't subscribe to the believe that a person is good or bad, I believe that there are reasons for actions unless the person is crazy. You can't expect a person to remain calm when his/her partner cheats, unless that person has a more evil plan cooking or the person is a complete fool. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Sunsets: 8:59pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Every time, red flag red flag! What is red flag sef? People's imperfections. Nobody is perfect. Respect that, respect yourselves and all will be fine. Don't attempt to change anyone but make sure your life is not at risk around them and that your relationship with them doesn't expose you to fraud or illegality. Your husband or bf cannot be your father neither will your wife or gf be your mum or your ex. Francisanointed: |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Amhappy(f): 9:08pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Because we never saw the red flag as a deal breaker. We thought it'd something we can cope with until it shock us. Most times we overestimate ourselves and don't know that we are not that strong. There's no relationship without a red flag shaaa |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Connected1: 10:02pm On Mar 12, 2022 |
Jennyclay:If he tells you why they are keeping malice, what will you do then, what if his Dad raped his sister or killed someone close to him, do you expect him to forgive his Dad, for me I can't, it's either I kill you or we remain at malice forever. Over curiosity kills a cat, it's even better you leave him, you clearly said he's a great guy, and if believe If you are worthy of hearing what happened he will definitely tell you, but I doubt you would keep your lips shut without letting a third ear hear about it. Don't even try to say he hasn't forgiven in your relationship because both sides err in a relationship. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Harryzubbes77: 4:11am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Francisanointed: Soul tie is the major reason. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by daylay7(m): 5:46am On Mar 13, 2022 |
For the fear of what people would say! Francisanointed: |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by MrRemedyAlagbo(m): 5:57am On Mar 13, 2022 |
They believe or hope they can change them |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by bepositive11: 3:30pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: People in healthy relationships have no red flags. We all have flaws, but people who are capable of having healthy relationships have no red flags People who have red flags get attracted to people who have red flags. That's why they end up in unhealthy relationships People who don't have red flags can't stand people who have red flags, because the toxicity feels uncomfortable I promise you, if you have red flags, you can never have a healthy relationship. If you are working on those red flags, you can grow with your partner and eventually get to a point where the relationship becomes healthy. But if you don't work on the red flags, you can never have a healthy relationship You need to study why those red flags lead to toxic relationships and marriages to understand why I'm saying what I'm saying You may also notice that I used terms like "extreme jealousy", because a little jealousy is ok but it becomes toxic when it's extreme |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by bepositive11: 3:31pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
kaymart: Thank you. I appreciate it 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 3:49pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
bepositive11:I am afraid much of your premise is wrong. There are no healthy flawless/redflagless relationships out there. Every relationship has them... they are like risks, they are everywhere we look or turn. Instead what you call healthy relationships are relationships where theses risks are either properly managed or planned for. |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by bepositive11: 3:54pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: I've studied this topic extensively so I know what I'm talking about. Keep dismissing what I'm saying. You may eventually understand what I'm saying someday when you get married |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 5:18pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
bepositive11:1. And you think I haven't lived this topic enough to know where I stand in these things? 2. That you think this is about dismissing you and uour assumed knowledge of these things means you don't know where theory ends, do you? When I get married? ROFLMAO |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Atimjessy(f): 5:36pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
If a man loves his woman, he will never see red flags. Love embraces all. Women are angels, love them. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by bepositive11: 11:28pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: You're toxic men. I'm not conversing with you anymore. Even others on this forum have realised it |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by Kobojunkie: 11:34pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
bepositive11:ROFLMAO |
Re: Why Do People Get Married With Someone They Saw "Red Flags" by bepositive11: 1:44am On Mar 14, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: When you're done laughing, Google the dangers of being in a relationship with someone who has each of the red flags you highlighted earlier |
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