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Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 4:52pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Temmybaba08:Begininng with traumatic experience earlier in life for me, I was anxiety riddled as a child, primarily since I bottled up my emotions, but my kid sister was open about her feelings. As a result she developed a deeper relationship with my parents, and they endedd up having to respect her since they couldn't get her to shut up about how she felt. So what do I think is a better way to raise kids? 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by ogub(m): 4:56pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
dacblogger: You can't be apologising anytime you discipline a child for wrong doing, and he's growing with this mindset, alright be prepared to apologise even when becomes rude. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 4:56pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
bigcasava1:I am afraid your very own words above betray your claims dude! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bigcasava1(m): 4:57pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Originalsly:Everything is there egg, green beans, carrot, meat. My annoyance is that she said indomie is not good for children, but she gave my daughter spaghetti, are they not noddles? With liver too, .Liver of what? Whether na human liver or dog liver I can't tell. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bigcasava1(m): 5:04pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:your type that came from dark world that's how I treat you. Am a radical christian. I go even fight you. Just fuvk off my world! |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 5:05pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
bigcasava1:Which one be dark world again? Radical Christian? What is this one yammering abeg! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Originalsly: 5:12pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
bigcasava1: Hmmm...... egg and green beans?.... and carrot and meat?? [s]I was going to seize it and eat it all myself[/s] ...that's very nutritious! But you never knew what she did with the food? .. and why didn't she replace the indomie with her spaghetti?... since her spaghetti is not noodles? That day was liver..... from somewhere.....what was the day before? ..fingers rebranded sausages? You should get the authorities to find out |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by skytreader(m): 5:19pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
InTheCloudySky: Your premise is wrong, so your conclusion that he did it deliberately is flawed. She hadn't even written his name on it. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bepositive11: 5:23pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Teettyllayho: Your actions speak louder than words. This is how adults end up in abusive relationships - thinking that their partner verbally abusing them like how their parents verbally abused them is normal and an act of love. It is not Please, stop shouting at him and stop setting him up for verbally and emotionally abusive relationships in adulthood |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bepositive11: 5:26pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Karleb: No, it is not disrespect. It is him being assertive about his boundaries. Shouting is verbal and emotional abuse. It's not healthy for children or adults How would you feel is someone frequently shouted at you? Please put yourself in the child's shoes |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bepositive11: 5:26pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Are you a woman? I thought you were a man |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bepositive11: 5:30pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Karleb: Yes, even in anger, shouting is not justified. She can walk away, cool down, then come back and communicate calmly A 7 year old is a human being with their own thoughts and feelings. Parents need to teach them how to communicate those thoughts and feelings clearly and negotiate terms and conditions Sadly though, Africans tend to dismiss the feelings of children and breed psychologically wounded adults |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bepositive11: 5:30pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Very well said. How did you learn all this? Not many Nigerians get this |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bepositive11: 5:31pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Karleb: This your comment should be directed to you |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bepositive11: 5:33pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Beremx: Caning a child does nothing but break them down Sure, they won't assert their thoughts and feelings anymore but they won't assert their thoughts and feelings in other relationships too Physically abusing children is no different from physically abusing an adult. How would you feel if someone should cane you right now? |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 5:37pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
bepositive11:Life experiences. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by bepositive11: 5:39pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Ok |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Awise09(m): 5:46pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Teettyllayho:this depend the kind of mother as a grown up man I still fear my mum till today, because dad doesn't know how to scold, in fact my friend respect my mum more than theirs all because of how she handle so called stubborn children |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Zxcvbnm98: 6:06pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
OP, what kind of school does he go to? Sounds like an affluent school. Not saying that's a bad thing, but the kids around will definitely influence him. My parents were upper class by Nigerian standards, but I never went to schools "commensurate with their salary". I was made to grow up alongside kids from other homes that were struggling- didn't appreciate it at the time but now I do. It definitely shaped my attitude towards money and caring for my belongings, as well as attitude towards my elders. Your son might benefit from a change of school. One where he can receive a dirty slap if he talks to his teachers anyhow. It won't be long before he realizes that his parents deserve even more respect than his teachers. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by iTearHerToto: 6:18pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
She a single mom. That's why she never mentioned the dad |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Karleb(m): 6:19pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
bepositive11: If he wants to be assertive about his boundaries, let him get a job and pay his bills. But if he is under a parent, he has a job and that is to be responsible, else he'll get scolded. You people need to read the OP, read my comment then read the OP again before sliding in my mention. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by 2016easy2017: 6:28pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Remains just small and you'll regret not taking good actions on the just 7yrsbold boy. He's been rude and growing ARROGANT already. This is Africa. We scold our children. These days i have the course to thank my parents for being so strict in me. Those children i kept friendship with in mushin are now hard smokers |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Aaay: 7:03pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Yes |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by DrFunmisticGlow: 7:15pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Teettyllayho:I ask my mother on this matter, she believes that you are spoiling him. She thinks you should get to the bottom of this lunchbox matter, because she believes that he did the old bait and switch. Go to the school and ask questions, visit the principal and the teachers |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by olabodesamdex: 7:17pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Please be friendly with your son, no matter what... There are some kids who acts like adult, but I think whatever it is, he was born with that. It's okay to use the rod sometimes, but make sure you always calm down and let him know why? Do not let him be afraid of you or telling you things, that's the worse because if he makes outsiders his best friend, you have lost him for good, comes 10yrs to come Always listen to him whenever he tells you his mind, not beating always... When he tells you about other peoples children, you can softly make him understand and respond back by saying "Those children are different from him and you can only buy him a new one when the other one is bad. Tell him to always be content with whatever you give him and always remind him that you love him very much" Not everything is beating, sometimes talking to him sinks down from mother to son. Please make your son your best friend, don't make him sad or scare away from you. Children who they beat always mostly turns out to be very notorious when they grow up because they are already used to beatings in the house while they seek companionship outside and you know what that means.. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by olabodesamdex: 7:20pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
As for the lunch box, you should have gone to his teacher yourself, i mean, he is only 7. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by sugarlyn: 7:44pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
The truth is your son is being bullied in school. Ask Him questions about school. Try to find out who is his seatmate or best friend. Ask him what he discusses with his friends in school. So many shit happens in school that our kids aren't telling us. Most all, use the Bible to council your son and tell him Bible stories. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 7:49pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
olabodesamdex:I concur |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by coolflame7: 7:55pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
When your papa Dey flog you, en Dey apologize Stop apologizing when you scold him.. He knows you won’t do much, that’s why he’s misbehaving.. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by anoda(m): 8:12pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:abi? After all nor be millitery grade parents still dey raise courch gobblins whe no fit adjust well to society? |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by brain54(m): 8:19pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Mariangeles:Old woman... I trust you to always deliver. |
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