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Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by phenomental40(m): 12:13pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Candidlady:Amen |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Yollymar: 12:14pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Don't apologize to him whenever you scold him. Whenever he misbehave, don't shout at him but let him be grounded and tell him to reflect on what he did. Let all your kids knows that whenever they misbehave, they will be grounded by depriving them of what they love most. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by mybiz234: 12:15pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Teettyllayho: Are you a single mother? Single parenting is bad. It prevents proper application of discipline and love, which won't help the child's development. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 12:15pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
McEphiks:You were naturally gifted, from your own right up, so it wasn't your dad's beating that caused you to excel. No,it was just your talent that aided you there. I know of loads of kids - neighbors of ours back those years- who was subjected to pretty much similar levels pf punishment. Guess what? None of then did better by it and worse, many of them were instead scarred by the experience. The parents eventually realized and accepted their kids were not geniuses and let them be and only then did the kids begin to find their way. One turned out to be dyslexic, didn't realize this until adulthood - we just thought he was the dumbest, and he got severely beat by his ignorant parents to no avail. Punishment is good, after all, there are consequences for every action in life. However, cruelty is unnecessary. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 12:17pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
mybiz234:Stop yammering abeg! How many of fhe kids raised in two parent homes turned out much better than kids raised in single parent homes for Pete's sake. Nigeria is your typical example of how there isn't much difference between being raised in a two-parent home and being raised in a single-parent home. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by mybiz234: 12:18pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: You are right, but this woman's experience is because there is no father in place to regulate affection and discipline. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 12:23pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
mybiz234:Even husband and wife teams have at some point experienced exactly what this women is here talking of. Nothing of her experience speaks of what you claim. Children are challenging to raise whether by one or even 20 adults. It is never a walk in the park and this has nothing to do with number of adults in the process. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by DeepSight(m): 12:25pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: You are not worthy to have been born - that single statement of yours - that you owe your parents nothing - renders you the most despicable and infantile dreg I have ever come across on this forum. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 12:26pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
DeepSight:Again, grow a brain already! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by DeepSight(m): 12:27pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Oh so you know this and yet you were going on about how you owe your parents nothing? What an asinine piece of shiit. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 12:28pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
DeepSight:Again, Grow a brain already! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by wonderr(m): 12:31pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
One of the demerits of being a single mother, just imagine a 7 year old child telling his mom to stop shouting at him, at this my age self I no fit try am for my dad, if you don't beat the bad manners out of him now he himself will blame you for bad parenting in the future. Beat him now and let him hate you he will definitely love and thank you tommorow |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 12:34pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
INTEGRITYA1:If your kids can't bond emotionally with you, they will either find someone else to bond with on that level, or those emotions will slowly eat away at them from the inside. Yes, those same voices in your own head that scream at you from in your head also scream from within your kids at them. So you have a choice to make as far as training your kids behaviorally and emotionally. Either you frustrate your own child for the sake of your ego and risk turning him or her into yet another Nigerian youth with no real life compass, or you help your child intelligently maneuvere those emotions in appropriate ways so he or she can turn out a much better breed than the crop of kids Nigerians have been churning out for many generations now. You decide! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by McEphiks(m): 12:40pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: You have a good point but there'd have been negligence on my part if not for the beating. I'm not a parent yet, but I raised my siblings myself with the help of my dad. Sometimes, you can know your child's ability, character and attitude so when they're giving less or being intentionally disobedient, they can be cautioned and if need be; disciplined with the rod. That's why spending time talking to your wards is as important as providing other basic needs for them. A 5 minute conversation can tell you a lot about your child than you'll read in a book. I get your point sir and i hope you understand me as well. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 12:45pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
McEphiks:I concur! Parenting is more than simply about using the rod. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by AutoChick4U(f): 12:45pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
uthlaw:If you provide sufficiently for your kids and train them well, they wont ask no one for urgent 2k |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by AutoChick4U(f): 12:47pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:This intelligent fellow again. Who are you |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by McEphiks(m): 12:48pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: God help us |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by trumpcoat(m): 1:04pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
You're trying as a mother,make your rules and stand by it, these children tends to work on your intelligence sometimes you have to stand your ground,make him see reasons why he must stand out and be exceptional not to look like others but be himself |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Truvelisback(m): 1:05pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Teettyllayho:Why won't him behave this way, when u are using Ajebo format on him? |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by elmagnifico411(m): 1:08pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
You're not spoiling him, you're just over bothering yourself. Keep keeping on. Keep talking/shouting, but make sure he stops asking u why are u shouting. We're not in America abeg. Though, he'll outgrow it at some point. I've learnt not to worry about these boys jare.. I think this our generation worry too much. These kids will be fine. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by mybiz234: 1:11pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Kids are supposed to be raised by father and mother, not by single parents. Absence of a parent can affect the child's development |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 1:12pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
elmagnifico411:Let's stop with these useless demarcation particularly since we mostly exists in a world with no boundaries. That child might find himself in America or working with americans someday only to find himself severely emotionally handicapped by the fact that he was denied the training necessary to intelligently hone them as a child.. Just as you are to train your child physically, mentally, behaviorally, you are also to help train them emotionally so they understand how best to deal with the myriads of emotions they experience each day. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Connected1: 1:14pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
The only problem I see here is that you are emotional and that's because you are a woman and I don't blame you. Shey the young man has a father na, My younger ones don't have fear for my mum or dad because they are like You, but once they hear my name everyone behaves because I beat you like we are agemates. I throw away emotional when I am lecturing them because it's for the betterness of their future, my younger bro friend recently got a girl pregnant and my bro was secretly telling his friends that I was the one that made him stay away from that guy and the girlfriend that was allocated to him. Today he has successfully completed learning a tailoring skill, and he's still thankful to me for that because most times I beat him and disgrace him publicly so that he would go to work after closing from school or in holidays. NB: A little conversation is what does it all, be direct and blunt when conversing and don't show emotions, well you can't do it properly because you aren't a man. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Kobojunkie: 1:15pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
mybiz234:That is what your parents told you, right? However, now that you are now grown up, you pugh to have realized by now, this from intelligently accessing the real world around you, that children who are raised in single-parent homes turn out just as well as children who were raised in two-parent homes. Absence can affect but it can also not affect, depending on how well the single-parent was able to wear both shoes. Many of our world leaders today were raised in single-pareng homes. That didn't stop them from themselves going on to intelligently and maturedly handling the world before them. Then we know of many who were raised in two-parent homes and remain a menace to world peace. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by deebrain(m): 1:18pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Your child talking back to you at that age is not a good sign. Be firm with discipline and telling him his wrong. You need to be firm. Your child needs to observe that you are firm on a position concerning his excesses. He apparently observes you a lot! He will adjust with time. Never forget prayers and counseling sessions. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Nnatuu: 1:18pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
* clears throat * This is why I like to born girls. Cos I no wan use hand beat my son to stupor. I no get time for their politics. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by elmagnifico411(m): 1:21pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Sorry, summarize what you've just posted. Mio gbo geesi. Kobojunkie: |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by GloriousGbola: 1:22pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by Dshocker(m): 1:37pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Rubbish...this is petting! Instigate fear in him and at the same time show him love. |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by damselicious1(f): 1:45pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Just relax your mind ... he is still a child,but that doesn't mean you won't correct or spank him when he does anything bad In my own opinion it seems your Child doesn't like being shouted at .... anytime you are angry try to correct him without raising your voice. As funny as it make sound, even as an adult when you shout at me I won't bulge ...but when you correct me with a calm voice it sinks inside my head and I heed to correction immediately |
Re: Am I Spoiling My 7-year Old Son? by babzo(m): 1:45pm On Mar 09, 2022 |
Teettyllayho: Shouting reflects a lack of self control and indiscipline on the parents parent; how do you want to instill in a child what you don't have. Nigerian parents can be extremely violent, I am a living witness. No matter how aggressive or repetitive you are, a child will always be a child. Discipline is very important, but without love; you are only building a violent bully which most Nigerians eventually turn out to be. Don't give up though. 1 Like
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