oilmane:



Why do your family and friends see her as a woman who brought you down? Were you a millionaire b4 she came into your life? What type of car were you driving b4 you met her? Did you tongue lash her over her friends inability to give her the loan? Her you black mailing her emotionally? Won't don't you meet those family and friends to assist you or is it that the only thing they are good at is fault finding? I'll advice you go look for who to give you a bike/keke on hire purchase terms instead of you to sit at home and making your wife depressed, there are lots of organizations and MFBs that does that. It is not the responsibility of your wife to go get you a loan, so stop discussing her issues with your family and friends.

God bless you for this unbiased, candid opinion of yours. Op has gone to tell everyone who cares to listen rubbish about his wife hence they now see her as someone who brought him down financially. How much was he having before marrying the woman?

gistmega:
I will check now. I am sorry. Been busy haven't checked my inbox.

Alright

samwillyco1:


Where is your location?
If you are in Anambra I can help you

kogi state sir

usagee36:
How much do you have now?

2200k sir

boldsleek:
instead of blaming op or his wife. why not we nlanders come together and contribute 100naira each to support him and his family.
we are more than 3,000 people on this forum.

so, let's say.., #100*3,000=300,000. (it will go a long way to take this family out of suffering).

This country is damn too hard everybody, so, whenever we can help, let's not hesitate to help.

If someone can take op's case, investigate it to ascertain if everything he said it's true. then, I'm sure #100 each won't be a big deal for us here.

Let's show a little kindness.

am geniue follow your heart.

Johnsown1:
Which state are you

kogi state

Idaytesj29:


OP should answer this question

220k sir

Just 500 of us can drop #1k each in OPs acct and make him and his wife happy. Of course who wants to do more can do so. If he is comfortable to pist his acct NO. We dont have to wait until we have a ton of cash before we can help him.

OP, I know how you feel. Its not an easy place to be in. Te ll your wife to keep faith hard as it might be. Thos life is up amd down. She should trust fate to bring her peace and focus on being the best she can be for her family. She should also try to live peacefully with your friends and family. She should bear them no grudges and look up to God alone. This life na only God fit raise helper. Having friends, family etc is not assurance o. God uses whoever. Pkele

What exactly Is the challenge here?

Are u more concerned about how she feels or how u will feed the family?

Oga, go back to the drawing board and get another bike with the balance you have.

If you don't do that today, I promise you, you will start spending the little u gathered from the sale of the previous bike.

When hunger wire your madam, she go delete the memory of disappointment.

Learn from this, helpers are few out there. Stop looking at people laughing at you.

Landlord go soon knock, that is if you guys are staying in a rented apartment. These among other challenges are what u should be working to resolve.

Alatise will always know how to fix his problems.You know where it pains most.

Goodluck.

Trogge:
........ You are sick

Please, do explain the evidence of sickness in my post.

delishpot:
Just 500 of us can drop #1k each in OPs acct and make him and his wife happy. Of course who wants to do more can do so. If he is comfortable to pist his acct NO. We dont have to wait until we have a ton of cash before we can help him.

OP, I know how you feel. Its not an easy place to be in. Te ll your wife to keep faith hard as it might be. Thos life is up amd down. She should trust fate to bring her peace and focus on being the best she can be for her family. She should also try to live peacefully with your friends and family. She should bear them no grudges and look up to God alone. This life na only God fit raise helper. Having friends, family etc is not assurance o. God uses whoever. Pkele

you can assist me here 2092244742 uba God bless you

Amza07:
it's very painful and I love her you know we need to respect women especially their feelings.

the only solution is you trying your best to find something doing ASAP

Mrquote:

They had a plan it didn't work out and all you could say was thay they counted their egg before it hatched. Wow really, you are like someone that will blame the dead for dying on the day they did.

I think you have a comprehension problem. You could have just asked for explanation to my comment.
Someone had a bike with the intention of buying a passenger tricycle of say N350,000. He planned to sell the bike for say N150,000 and borrow N200,000 from a friend.
The friend promised lending him the money, instead of him to continue managing the bike pending when the friend will give him the money, he chose to sell off the bike instead... which was his only source of income... while hoping on the friend.
Now the friend disappointed him, and he is left stranded.
That is the meaning of counting your chicks before it hatched.

Suspect1:
family members you said? You are no different from a noise maker, relatives and some family members only! Cares for you when you are dead.

My family members helped me.
That yours didn't help you shouldn't make you an îdíot.

Fourwinds:



That guy you quoted is right...he trashed the problem intelligently.... You don't throw away water in a bucket because it is cloudy and you are expecting rainfall...allow the rain to fall first before emptying the bucket for another water...it is an African proverb

......... Want to ask you, do you think everyone does not plan, if it works out for you doesn't mean it will for me, at least you could see they had a plan.

Amza07:
kogi state

Sorry, had it been that your in Enugu, I would have link you up to where you will make some deposit and get a Keke

Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

you sound like a northerner, always looking for the smallest income to get married, they can collect loan and marry a second wife... Lousy set of people

Op buckle Up, God knows the best. You will rise again

Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

usagee36:
How much do you have now?

sir do you intend to assist me? If so I could add the 220k here now to any help you render and I can get a new one.

Bishop:




I feel your pain and i totally understand your situation, first, i must say that you must be in control of your self and emotions, study your situation and plan out to get out of it.

If your wife is the industrous type find out what she can do to increase your earnings with some of the cash at hand. Like selling food, minerals and snacks, anything that can increase her capital.

When that is sorted, because it will make her mind busy and also in that way she can find her self contributing to your success and ultimately your family's success.

The next is for you to get up dust your cloak and get to work instead of following your wife to live in self pity. Do whatever it is, legally to get on your feet.

It would have been a disaster if your wife didn't love you the way you loved her. As long as you have her support and you encourage yourselves , i tell you sir, you will definitely smile at the end.

Accept my good wishes.

Shalom

thank you sir

Yes. Send me your phone number. I do search before helping bruh.

Amza07:
sir do you intend to assist me? If so I could add the 220k here now to any help you render and I can get a new one.

Trogge:
......... Want to ask you, do you think everyone does not plan, if it works out for you doesn't mean it will for me, at least you could see they had a plan.

Yes .. They had a plan .the money they were expecting was never theirs and they can not lay claim to it..so why will the man sell his only means of feeding the family to wait for a promise in the sky...wisdom matters in decision making

Mrquote:

You could be right but when a plan didn't work out that's when people start saying what you could have done better. That's not what the guy is asking from us he want a way forward. Going back to what he suppose to do is like tell him is wrong for him to ask for help. If he goes ahead and commit suicide you will still come here and say he suppose to ask for help and this person is here doing the same instead of you to help you here quoting African proverb like he made the mistake known that it won't worke out. When people ask for help if you don't have anything to say keep quiet.

Here you go again...he could have asked for suggestion here right from the outset before making this decision that he is trying to savage...

Ok

Ouchbabe:

God bless you for this unbiased, candid opinion of yours. Op has gone to tell everyone who cares to listen rubbish about his wife hence they now see her as someone who brought him down financially. How much was he having before marrying the woman?

do not say what you know nothing about, I generally respect women alot so I love and respect my wife.

Lemme tell you a story. If your wife's plan does not work out, it means you guys are not meant for each other.

[quote author=Amza07 post=111215719] no problem please edit it after you

Amza07:
I was adviced to drop my account number
2092244742 Ibrahim rabiu

UBA

God bless you for your contributions

I am Npower batch A. I fully understand your plight.
I don't need confirmation to know if you are lying or not.
I have sent N4500 to your account. If i have more I would have love to help.
May God help you secure financial stability and take good care of your home

Bluezy13:

My family members helped me.
That yours didn't help you shouldn't make you an îdíot.

And i included "some" in my write up... you are being too noisey and naughty, be warned! i never insulted you, yunno?

Algold:



I am Npower batch A. I fully understand your plight.
I don't need confirmation to know if you are lying or not.
I have sent N4500 to your account. If i have more I would have love to help.
May God help you secure financial stability and take good care of your home

God bless you you're a great person.

Suspect1:
family members you said? You are no different from a noise maker, relatives and some family members only! Cares for you when you are dead.

I don't like this at all. People have their own problems and relatives shouldn't be dragged if they choose not to support or help in any way. Whether dead or alive, I strongly believe that no one owes anyone. I learnt this when I was in uni; paving way for myself by utilizing the only opportunity I had which was education. The more people go around looking for help, the more they get lazy and blame their misfortune on friends, family and even foes. I pray that God surprises the OP with a mind-blowing opportunity to enable him support his lovely family.

Shancca:


I don't like this at all. People have their own problems and relatives shouldn't be dragged if they choose not to support or help in any way. Whether dead or alive, I strongly believe that no one owes anyone. I learnt this when I was in uni; paving way for myself by utilizing the only opportunity I had which was education. The more people go around looking for help, the more they get lazy and blame their misfortune on friends, family and even foes. I pray that God surprises the OP with a mind-blowing opportunity to enable him support his lovely family.

amiin