Hello Nairalanders, there is something bothering me I would like to share here.
There is this lady have been dating since last year.Though,I have known her for long before we started dating and I never knew she had a child. I loved her so much.
I found out last week that she had a child (a girl) who is not staying with her.The child stays with her sister in Canada.I got to know all this when i went to her apartment to see her.She was making a call with the sister but unknown to her,i met the door open so I heard her conversation on the phone asking about her daughter.Then I challenged her but she denied.I later checked on her close friend, though,they are not in good terms at the moment and she reveal to me that she has a daughter after I bribed my way in her.She even showed me a picture of the girl on her phone. I collected the pics and challenged her with it and she was shocked. I thought she was a very decent person because of her good behavior.She started crying, telling me she was afraid I will break up with her.She has been calling me since last week but I refused to pick her calls.She came to see me over the weekend,I told her I don't want to see her.Even a non Nigerian number called,I pick and learnt it was her sister.She apologized but I don't feel interested.
Am confused what should I do

You already said you're not interested...in the apology as well as in the relationship so what's making you confused again?

Be truthful to yourself

Would you have remained with her if she had told you earlier?

She was not sincere and truthful tho

Solofresh2:
Hello Nairalanders, there is something bothering me I would like to share here.
There is this lady have been dating since last year.Though,I have known her for long before we started dating and I never knew she had a child. I loved her so much.
I found out last week that she had a child (a girl) who is not staying with her.The child stays with her sister in Canada.I got to know all this when i went to her apartment to see her.She was making a call with the sister but unknown to her,i met the door open so I heard her conversation on the phone asking about her daughter.Then I challenged her but she denied.I later checked on her close friend, though,they are not in good terms at the moment and she reveal to me that she has a daughter after I bribed my way in her.She even showed me a picture of the girl on her phone. I collected the pics and challenged her with it and she was shocked. I thought she was a very decent person because of her good behavior.She started crying, telling me she was afraid I will break up with her.She has been calling me since last week but I refused to pick her calls.She came to see me over the weekend,I told her I don't want to see her.Even a non Nigerian number called,I pick and learnt it was her sister.She apologized but I don't feel interested.
Am confused what should I do

Decide on forgiveness.

To see ladies without a child to date is not really easy. Anyway, the ball is in ur court.

Do what's on your mind Niqqa

MMWandali:
Be truthful to yourself

Would you have remained with her if she had told you earlier?

If she had told me earlier, I would have possibly consider her because I really loved her

Nothing there , it shows her womb is functioning and she's willing to settle , she most likely have changed and willing to be with a man who's decent , what you should do is find out who the baby daddy is and see if she's going back to him at intervals , if not go ahead if so abandon ship

I don’t see any issues here,she loves you deeply hence the reason she hid it from you.Love supersedes all these and that child could be very beneficial to you in future.Think deep and put yourself in her shoes.

Iyaebe:
I don’t see any issues here,she loves you deeply hence the reason she hid it from you.Love supersedes all these and that child could be very beneficial to you in future.Think deep and put yourself in her shoes.

Women will comfortably support nonsense out of sentiments and bias.

Where is sincerity and openness? Love is not deceptive. The young man would never have known if he did not find out by himself.

She was afraid she would lose you if she told you.A lot of people in your girlfriend's position hide such things.

If you love her and she has been a good girl thus far,you can find a place in your heart to forgive her.

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Iyaebe:
I don’t see any issues here,she loves you deeply hence the reason she hid it from you.Love supersedes all these and that child could be very beneficial to you in future.Think deep and put yourself in her shoes.

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@OP That woman is full of deceit.. I'm sure there are many secrets she is hiding from you.
The moment you confronted her and she still lied shows she has nothing genuine for you. Attimes a guy might want to know what is on ground and how to plan ahead, does not necessarily mean he will leave.. but when you start lying and all, you give the impression that you're a bad person.

A lady dt denys fact like dt can kill,its a big red flag.

Shebi you love her and she tells you she loves you too? Brother, you have to forgive and love her daughter also. These simps won't kill me aswear.

She's a single mother. That is how single mothers behaves. Always acting all nice while looking for a simp to manipulate and hook up to.

OP, dump that girl asap and move on with ur life. Girls full everywhere! Never settle for less. Don't be her second option. Let her go and meet her baby daddy if she's so decent and responsible. Oga dump that girl and move on.

Nonexisting:
Shebi you love her and she tells you she loves you too? Brother, you have to forgive and love her daughter also. These simps won't kill me aswear.

I swear down comrade Simps are worst than cancer! They won't kill somebody!!!

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Iyaebe:
I don’t see any issues here,she loves you deeply hence the reason she hid it from you.Love supersedes all these and that child could be very beneficial to you in future.Think deep and put yourself in her shoes.

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Now that u know and probably she as apologize, what else do you want? You don jam ur naija third hand motor be that.

Don't date or marry someone with a child, you won't enjoy ur life at the long run.

Why are you confused?


She's has shown you that she's a pretty good liar and a manipulator yet you are still confused?


From your short write up, I can already tell that she is capable of paternity fraud.


It is best you start to find someone else. In the meantime use her for recreational purposes only.


Never. I repeat. Never! settle for a single mother.

Oturatetuala:
Now that u know and probably she as apologize, what else do you want? You don jam ur naija third hand motor be that.

Don't date or marry someone with a child, you won't enjoy ur life at the long run.

Every logical man knows this except these simps.

They're always confused even when they are surrounded by red flags.

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Solofresh2:
Hello Nairalanders, there is something bothering me I would like to share here.
There is this lady have been dating since last year.Though,I have known her for long before we started dating and I never knew she had a child. I loved her so much.
I found out last week that she had a child (a girl) who is not staying with her.The child stays with her sister in Canada.I got to know all this when i went to her apartment to see her.She was making a call with the sister but unknown to her,i met the door open so I heard her conversation on the phone asking about her daughter.Then I challenged her but she denied.I later checked on her close friend, though,they are not in good terms at the moment and she reveal to me that she has a daughter after I bribed my way in her.She even showed me a picture of the girl on her phone. I collected the pics and challenged her with it and she was shocked. I thought she was a very decent person because of her good behavior.She started crying, telling me she was afraid I will break up with her.She has been calling me since last week but I refused to pick her calls.She came to see me over the weekend,I told her I don't want to see her.Even a non Nigerian number called,I pick and learnt it was her sister.She apologized but I don't feel interested.
Am confused what should I do

What she did is not good but not unpardonable. If you really love her use this opportunity to sit her down and let her tell you all you need to know about her which she is hiding from you. Never ever use whatever she will disclose to you to speak or act against her, she will respect you for that.

Iyaebe:
I don’t see any issues here,she loves you deeply hence the reason she hid it from you.Love supersedes all these and that child could be very beneficial to you in future.Think deep and put yourself in her shoes.

I wish you can be banned from this forum forever.

AgentGoat:


I wish you can be banned from this forum forever.

Eiya why are you pained? Echoke,choken’t it?

I no see any case here oh, nah pikin your girlfreind born, she no kill person....although she suppose to have told you about it, but she have told you already she is afraid of losing you that's why she didnt tell you, so relax guy if you love her, no go the vex anyhow oh.

Afrobasic:


Every logical man knows this except these simps.

They're always confused even when they are surrounded by red flags.

Simps got no life in this world.

[quote author=Solofresh2 post=111530661]Hello Nairalanders, there is something bothering me I would like to share here.
There is this lady have been dating since last year.Though,I have known her for long before we started dating and I never knew she had a child. I loved her so much.
I found out last week that she had a child (a girl) who is not staying with her.The child stays with her sister in Canada.I got to know all this when i went to her apartment to see her.She was making a call with the sister but unknown to her,i met the door open so I heard her conversation on the phone asking about her daughter.Then I challenged her but she denied.I later checked on her close friend, though,they are not in good terms at the moment and she reveal to me that she has a daughter after I bribed my way in her.She even showed me a picture of the girl on her phone. I collected the pics and challenged her with it and she was shocked. I thought she was a very decent person because of her good behavior.She started crying, telling me she was afraid I will break up with her.She has been calling me since last week but I refused to pick her calls.She came to see me over the weekend,I told her I don't want to see her.Even a non Nigerian number called,I pick and learnt it was her sister.She apologized but I don't feel interested.
Am confused what should I do[color=#006600][/color]She know the kind of person you are thats why she never tell you, the truth I will tell you is that you don't love her, cos if you do you will try to reason with her before you break up

[quote author=Solofresh2 post=111530661]Hello Nairalanders, there is something bothering me I would like to share here.
There is this lady have been dating since last year.Though,I have known her for long before we started dating and I never knew she had a child. I loved her so much.
I found out last week that she had a child (a girl) who is not staying with her.The child stays with her sister in Canada.I got to know all this when i went to her apartment to see her.She was making a call with the sister but unknown to her,i met the door open so I heard her conversation on the phone asking about her daughter.Then I challenged her but she denied.I later checked on her close friend, though,they are not in good terms at the moment and she reveal to me that she has a daughter after I bribed my way in her.She even showed me a picture of the girl on her phone. I collected the pics and challenged her with it and she was shocked. I thought she was a very decent person because of her good behavior.She started crying, telling me she was afraid I will break up with her.She has been calling me since last week but I refused to pick her calls.She came to see me over the weekend,I told her I don't want to see her.Even a non Nigerian number called,I pick and learnt it was her sister.She apologized but I don't feel interested.
Am confused what should I do [color=#006600][/color]She know the kind of person you are thats why she never tell you, the truth I will tell you is that you don't love her, cos if you do you will try to reason with her before you break up

Solofresh2:
Hello Nairalanders, there is something bothering me I would like to share here.
There is this lady have been dating since last year.Though,I have known her for long before we started dating and I never knew she had a child. I loved her so much.
I found out last week that she had a child (a girl) who is not staying with her.The child stays with her sister in Canada.I got to know all this when i went to her apartment to see her.She was making a call with the sister but unknown to her,i met the door open so I heard her conversation on the phone asking about her daughter.Then I challenged her but she denied.I later checked on her close friend, though,they are not in good terms at the moment and she reveal to me that she has a daughter after I bribed my way in her.She even showed me a picture of the girl on her phone. I collected the pics and challenged her with it and she was shocked. I thought she was a very decent person because of her good behavior.She started crying, telling me she was afraid I will break up with her.She has been calling me since last week but I refused to pick her calls.She came to see me over the weekend,I told her I don't want to see her.Even a non Nigerian number called,I pick and learnt it was her sister.She apologized but I don't feel interested.
Am confused what should I do

wetin dey confuse you? U said u are no longer interested

deceitful people left right and center... what are you confused about?