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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by maticar: 7:55am On Apr 04, 2022
johnmba:
https://www.nairaland.com/5494102/rich-brother-does-not-care

Hello house, i opened the above thread some time ago about my elder brother attitude towards us his sibling. am here to give update.

my brother has gradually changed, he can now pick our calls and we have some discussion unlike before. He now calls to check up on us when there are issues in our places of residence. He has even joined our family whatsapp group and he participate actively.

i want to appreciate all who gave meaning advice during that discussion. money is good but everything is not all about money. most times what family members needs is love and care. I love a happy family and its wonderful to see family that live in peace.

i want to thank Madridguy, your post then really gave me hope that families with similar issues can be restored.

my advice to those who feel they can do without their family is remember God blessed you not because you are the smartest but by his grace. we dont have much time to stay here on earth so lets love and cherish one another.


NB nobody was asking him for money for people shouting entitlement this entitlement that. we are all doing well and we wanted our brother back. now that he is back everybody is happy and the family is moving fine.
Thank God for everything and to Madridguy who motivated you

Don't listen to naysayers especially on this nairaland

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Jh0wsef(m): 7:56am On Apr 04, 2022
Ok
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by kyseeta: 7:57am On Apr 04, 2022
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by gigabyte13: 7:58am On Apr 04, 2022
We are in the same shoes here
Ignore him and face your future.
Workhard and worksmart, seek as many help as you can outside him.
Soon e go soon come look for you.

The more you have this entitlement mentality that, he must do something for you guys, the more pain and torture you bring on yourself.
Oga you sef bone am and hustle

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by YeyeGbami: 7:59am On Apr 04, 2022
Do these fools read to understand at all?

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Saviourfresh: 8:00am On Apr 04, 2022
Family is forever!

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Enemyofpeace: 8:01am On Apr 04, 2022
Op I'm not happy to hear that your brother is back. The news pain me o

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Nobody: 8:02am On Apr 04, 2022
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Afonjashapmouth: 8:03am On Apr 04, 2022
But mostly people care about a rich member of their family. Cos if he's broke, he will be tagged arrogant and ignored. Thank God for your family il

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by ALFADOS(m): 8:03am On Apr 04, 2022
johnmba:
https://www.nairaland.com/5494102/rich-brother-does-not-care

Hello house, i opened the above thread some time ago about my elder brother attitude towards us his sibling. am here to give update.

my brother has gradually changed, he can now pick our calls and we have some discussion unlike before. He now calls to check up on us when there are issues in our places of residence. He has even joined our family whatsapp group and he participate actively.

i want to appreciate all who gave meaning advice during that discussion. money is good but everything is not all about money. most times what family members needs is love and care. I love a happy family and its wonderful to see family that live in peace.

i want to thank Madridguy, your post then really gave me hope that families with similar issues can be restored.

my advice to those who feel they can do without their family is remember God blessed you not because you are the smartest but by his grace. we dont have much time to stay here on earth so lets love and cherish one another.


NB nobody was asking him for money for people shouting entitlement this entitlement that. we are all doing well and we wanted our brother back. now that he is back everybody is happy and the family is moving fine.
That's great, congratulations for coming together as one family once again, one love
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Abudu2000(m): 8:05am On Apr 04, 2022
Doesn't matter but your family is disrespectful. An elder brother is more like the Jesus of every family, some family curses hits on the first born and that's why some family will have others doing well and the first born seem wayward. Until something happens that requires a first born to stand only then are they valued. But in a case where the elder is very stubborn everyone keeps their calm and respect themselves it's a pity he's very calm.
I'm the first of my family and even upon how well I'm doing I still take insults and back stabbing then imagine if I had nothing and remain in the family house like some, my eyes for see things.

Just like Donald trump said: every issues being it marital or family is related to money. Ppl who say money is not everything are crooks waiting for u to fall into their traps.

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by abokikhalifa: 8:07am On Apr 04, 2022
Dailyparrot:
It depends on what you want from your brother. I believe we can love from afar.

I don't call my brothers and they don't call me and we're cool with that.

Anytime I ever see their calls coming in, I already knew that something has happened. But we're not enemies. We just want to mind each other's business.

And your call yourself brothers ? What's brotherly about you people?

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by tmoneyu: 8:07am On Apr 04, 2022
johnmba:

Money without family is depressing, u can never have real happiness and peace of mind.

one day your money will disappoint you.
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by kponkedenge(m): 8:09am On Apr 04, 2022
I'm sure your brother is a nairalander.... And he changed when he saw your previous thread.

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Acidosis(m): 8:11am On Apr 04, 2022
johnmba:


one day your money will disappoint you.

You said one (1) day. What about the other days? grin grin

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Amazinggrace71: 8:11am On Apr 04, 2022
Whether my brother calls me or not is non of my freaking business. He calls once in a month and as long as he is doing fine, I'm very cool with that. For you to have mentioned anything about his being very rich in the first place has laced the post with entitlement mentality or envy of some sort.
My brother hates calling and it was even worse when he was a broke guy. Don't always attach people's character to the fact that they have money

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by JohnnA1: 8:13am On Apr 04, 2022
I remember that first thread... if I had access to your big brother, I'll tell him to be wary of you people (his family).
And a man's enemies shall be they of his own household...

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Amazinggrace71: 8:13am On Apr 04, 2022
Iyaebe:
Has he started giving you money?
grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Nobody: 8:15am On Apr 04, 2022
Op you sound idle, why create a thread about your brother, lol.

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Goldbw122(m): 8:15am On Apr 04, 2022
johnmba:
https://www.nairaland.com/5494102/rich-brother-does-not-care

Hello house, i opened the above thread some time ago about my elder brother attitude towards us his sibling. am here to give update.

my brother has gradually changed, he can now pick our calls and we have some discussion unlike before. He now calls to check up on us when there are issues in our places of residence. He has even joined our family whatsapp group and he participate actively.

i want to appreciate all who gave meaning advice during that discussion. money is good but everything is not all about money. most times what family members needs is love and care. I love a happy family and its wonderful to see family that live in peace.

i want to thank Madridguy, your post then really gave me hope that families with similar issues can be restored.

my advice to those who feel they can do without their family is remember God blessed you not because you are the smartest but by his grace. we dont have much time to stay here on earth so lets love and cherish one another.


NB nobody was asking him for money for people shouting entitlement this entitlement that. we are all doing well and we wanted our brother back. now that he is back everybody is happy and the family is moving fine.
Nice one, this same issue happen to me too I have a elder brother that don't care but after I angry call him and told him that is not all about money that communication is good and create connection after we discuss.. in a mature way, he decide to send me money not to me directly but to my family.. so it is cool...
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Skillsnigeria: 8:17am On Apr 04, 2022
That's good
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by JohnnA1: 8:22am On Apr 04, 2022
Calibrator:
I said what I said.


This mentality is always fronted by the less privileged and entitled peeps in every family.


If you are doing well for yourself, life na per head. Nobody should leech on another.



Face your immediate family and let communication amongst siblings be strictly about courtesy not billings as if the elder bro is in charge of the family trust fund


As the first son of the family who is forging ahead without any past or present assistance, just sheer individual willpower, I know first hand how people like OP reason, I also followed the initial thread page to page that year.


Nonsense and entitlement!
I followed that thread too, if I had the elder bros contact, I'd advice him to be cautious...

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Amazinggrace71: 8:22am On Apr 04, 2022
Dailyparrot:


Are you insinuating that my family is not blessed because we don't call each other?

I talk with my sisters everytime. Besides, I am the kind of person that don't like disturbance, reason I don't keep friends.

I'm very comfortable as we love each other from the comfort of our homes. As far as no one is in distress, that's all that matters.

Calling to check up on people is just formality. I don't value it.
Abi o. The only way you can truly love someone is by respecting their wish. If his brother is not the 'gum body' type, then, forcing him to always call is simply selfish of them in my opinion.

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Kobicove(m): 8:23am On Apr 04, 2022
All is well that ends well smiley
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Nobody: 8:24am On Apr 04, 2022
johnmba:


one day your money will disappoint you.
Even life disappoints us all eventually...very wrong of you to bring complaints of your brother here, when he didn't really do nothing bad to you.

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Highman56: 8:29am On Apr 04, 2022
Enemyofpeace:
Op I'm not happy to hear that your brother is back. The news pain me o
mumu u r just like your moniker name
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by dododawa1: 8:30am On Apr 04, 2022
Money involved

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Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by Testimony1988(m): 8:33am On Apr 04, 2022
Good.
Re: Re: About My Elder Brother Who Does Not Care About Us by nikola(m): 8:35am On Apr 04, 2022
Quite interesting read. Johnmba, I am glad your desire for a United family came through. However, what I have failed to understand is, why you refused or ignored two or three positive posts and rather responded to posts that seemed offensive to you. [/b]Some handles asked what you/your siblings did and how it changed the situation[b] Perhaps, this may help others going through a similar ordeal.
Cheers.

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