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My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by odinson1(m): 12:06pm On Apr 06, 2022
Here’s the thing: just because she’s a woman doesn’t mean you should respect her. Of course, you need to respect her privacy and personal space, etc, but you shouldn’t just respect someone because they’re a certain gender.

Don’t get annoyed with me at the comments, but the default is to have some respect for anyone you meet, and then you adjust your ‘respect bar’ accordingly. If he/she is good at what they do, your respect would probably increase. He/she has good personality qualities? You should raise your respect. Are they being nice to you? Respect raised.

And the most important thing: are they respecting you?

See if a woman is laughing and making fun of you, then I’m not assuming you’re going to respect her back. Does that make you a misogynistic pig for not respecting her? No, it just means someone isn’t treating you the way you like to be treated, so you’re obliged to lower your respect for them.

Again, respecting someone personally is slightly different to considering privacy, safety and personal space - which is something everyone to should respect.

So should men respect women?

They Can at the start, but if she turns out to be an idiot, then no one’s telling you to respect her.

#COPIED!

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Boogyman557: 12:11pm On Apr 06, 2022
Holly Gram cool Oga which kind WAHALA b dis!


Na my WEED de HIGH me abi na waiting!


Na only RESPECT RESPECT I just de READ since!


waiting RESPECT do u Na!


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by odinson1(m): 12:14pm On Apr 06, 2022
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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Ussycool: 12:21pm On Apr 06, 2022
I RESPECT THEM FOR MY PERSONAL REASON

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by odinson1(m): 12:24pm On Apr 06, 2022
Ussycool:
I RESPECT THEM FOR MY PERSONAL REASON
Do they respect you?
Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Uzomacharles: 12:27pm On Apr 06, 2022
I respect everyone equally...
But women will always want you to respect them for being Feminine.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Nobody: 12:42pm On Apr 06, 2022
Respect who Respect you, shikena grin grin grin

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by odinson1(m): 12:53pm On Apr 06, 2022
Uzomacharles:
I respect everyone equally...

But women will always want you to respect them for being Feminine.
But they don't respect us for being Masculine

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Nobody: 1:59pm On Apr 06, 2022
It's common knowledge that "Respect is Reciprocal", so therefore, if I want people to respect me, then I should be respectful towards them undecided....

But the thing with lots of women out there shouting "you don't respect me as a woman" is that, they want people/men to treat them with respect irrespective of whether or not they are respectful to that person/man and that's just BS undecided...

If you want to be respected, then treat other people with respect, simple!

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Magnoliaa(f): 2:28pm On Apr 06, 2022
odinson1:
Here’s the thing: just because she’s a woman doesn’t mean you should respect her. Of course, you need to respect her privacy and personal space, etc, but you shouldn’t just respect someone because they’re a certain gender.

Don’t get annoyed with me at the comments, but the default is to have some respect for anyone you meet, and then you adjust your ‘respect bar’ accordingly. If he/she is good at what they do, your respect would probably increase. He/she has good personality qualities? You should raise your respect. Are they being nice to you? Respect raised.

And the most important thing: are they respecting you?

See if a woman is laughing and making fun of you, then I’m not assuming you’re going to respect her back. Does that make you a misogynistic pig for not respecting her? No, it just means someone isn’t treating you the way you like to be treated, so you’re obliged to lower your respect for them.

Again, respecting someone personally is slightly different to considering privacy, safety and personal space - which is something everyone to should respect.

So should men respect women?

They Can at the start, but if she turns out to be an idiot, then no one’s telling you to respect her.

#COPIED!

Of course, but the default state for most men is to disrespect a lady, the same way you and other guys do here. Countless of times. Like you do to me, hence the phrase: "Respect women" came up. There is a context, history, etc., behind it y'all like to play pretend to and acting like...
ABSOLUTELY NOBODY says you should respect someone just because of their gender, what we're saying is having that initial decent respect for whomever you meet.

It is actually YOU MEN who expect to be AUTOMATICALLY respected because you have phalluses. When people say don't disrespect a man or don't talk shit to a man, they are actually alluding to his gender rather than to his person.

It is men that are expected and that people expect to be respected by default, by virtue of them being men actually.

And you, unprovoked, have called me "ashewo" and sl.u.t, slutshamed me and insulted me...when I was just on my own. So saying 'respect women', aptly fits and applies to us, because by default we are disrespected (don't fking come at me with the benevolent sexsm shxt and chivalry stuff). That is the context? Do you understand now? We're not saying you should respect us nor are we feeling entitled to respect out of the blues.

Zonefree/kriss216, mosdii, Ikillbrokehoes (semi-previously), nonexistenting/nonexistent, bloodysperm, womenareapes, rapistonbail ... these and more are but a few examples of guys online and in REAL LIFE who go about devaluing and dehumanising womenfolk. Even when an initial offense (against most of these dudes) cannot be proven. EVEN WHEN. It's just like saying black lives matter. Nobody is saying other lives do not matter or that only black lives matter. It is simply a standing statement of fact. Do you understand now? Or you want to continue playing obtuse?

Oh, if you're wondering why I'm being rude and like this, smiley it is all your initial disrespect to me that has made me adjusted my respect bar for you, far away from any niceness I'd have shown in the beginning.

So I hope you understand why I'll always go on about this and not just let it go? Abi? Nope. I doubt you will as this is even a copied post, no be say na from your head.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by yuping(m): 2:36pm On Apr 06, 2022
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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Kobojunkie: 2:37pm On Apr 06, 2022
Uzomacharles:
I respect everyone equally...

But women will always want you to respect them for being Feminine.
What women, even feminists desire is the portion in bold. That is what they ask and agitate for, not what you instead assume. undecided

The same way you respect your father, you should also respect your mother. The same respect you accord your male friends, you should also accord your female friends. The same respect you give adults, you should also give children. undecided

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Magnoliaa(f): 2:39pm On Apr 06, 2022
It is when it comes to women that y'all remember that these things should be by individual basis and merit, but 99% of the time you are always screaming "a man needs respect," "men are the heads," "men are logical."

How many individual men (do you wait for to) prove themselves worthy and deserving of the above widely held notions?

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Uzomacharles: 2:47pm On Apr 06, 2022
Kobojunkie:
What w the


omen, even feminists desire is the portion in bold. That is what they ask and agitate for, not what you instead assume. undecided

The same way you respect your father, you should also respect your mother. The same respect you according your make friends, you should also accord your female friends. The same respect you give adults, you should also give children. undecided



I'm sure I have warned you to stop quoting me....

I don't want to associate myself with you and i don't know why...

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Kobojunkie: 2:51pm On Apr 06, 2022
Uzomacharles:
I'm sure I have warned you to stop quoting me....
I don't want to associate myself with you and i don't know why...
You think quoting you means I associate with you? undecided

ROFLMAO
grin cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Magnoliaa(f): 2:51pm On Apr 06, 2022
Kobojunkie:
You think quoting you means I associate with you? undecided

ROFLMAO
grin cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy

grin grin grin

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Uzomacharles: 2:54pm On Apr 06, 2022
Kobojunkie:
You think quoting you means I associate with you? undecided

ROFLMAO
grin cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy


Whatever it means to you at least I've warned you and you're aware of it....
Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by odinson1(m): 3:00pm On Apr 06, 2022
Magnoliaa:


Of course, but the default state for most men is to disrespect a lady, the same way you and other guys do here. Countless of times. Like you do to me, hence the phrase: "Respect women" came up. There is a context, history, etc., behind it y'all like to play pretend to and acting like...
ABSOLUTELY NOBODY says you should respect someone just because of their gender, what we're saying is having that initial decent respect for whomever you meet.

It is actually YOU MEN who expect to be AUTOMATICALLY respected because you have phalluses. When people say don't disrespect a man or don't talk shit to a man, they are actually alluding to his gender rather than to his person.

It is men that are expected and that people expect to be respected by default, by virtue of them being men actually.

Zonefree/kriss216, mosdii, Ikillbrokehoes (semi-previously), nonexistenting/nonexistent, bloodysperm, womenareapes, rapistonbail ... these and more are but a few examples of guys online and in REAL LIFE who go about devaluing and dehumanising womenfolk. Even when an initial offense (against most of these dudes) cannot be proven. EVEN WHEN. It's just like saying black lives matter. Nobody is saying other lives do not matter or that only black lives matter. It is simply a standing statement of fact. Do you understand now? Or you want to continue playing obtuse?

Nope. I doubt you will as this is even a copied post, no be say na from your head.

You want to tell me you haven't seen women say "all women are special" and men should therefore respect them? If you haven't,then I don't know how else to continue this.
But I'll indulge you a bit.
For your information,men are NOT respected by default! A man is only respected when he has something of value to present. I am not going to waste my time explaining this common knowledge to you.

And for the record,when guys here call you prostitutes, do you want to tell me you don't know the meaning of A Prostitute?
A prostitute is simply a woman who "gives out" sex in exchange for money, favours or services. Do you want to tell me you don't bill the guys you are having sex with?
A girl i was chatting with to come over lets have some fun,was telling me to give her 5k as transport, whereas her house is just like 500 naira away. She doesn't see herself as a Prostitute (just like you) but she is already asking for payment, calling it transport fare. What is the remaining 4500 for?
Y'all will always put price tags on sex but you don't see yourselves as prostitutes.

And when we call your kind names here,it is some tims in retaliation to how you call us Broke, miserable and frustrated. While other times,it is actually the truth that some of you are Prostitutes,while some of the guys here are broke.

"Respect women" is a bullshit talk because it implies that ALL women around the world should be automatically respected by men, irrespective of who they are or whether they've done anything to earn that respect or not. Women are NOT special, so don't expect automatic respect!

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Kobojunkie: 3:00pm On Apr 06, 2022
Uzomacharles:
Whatever it means to you at least I've warned you and you're aware of it....
Didn't I already advise you to leave nairaland completely in order to get your with granted? undecided

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by odinson1(m): 3:09pm On Apr 06, 2022
Magnoliaa:
It is when it comes to women that y'all remember that these things should be by individual basis and merit, but 99% of the time you are always screaming "a man needs respect," "men are the heads," "men are logical."

How many individual men (do you wait for to) prove themselves worthy and deserving of the above widely held notions?

Women are More emotional
Men are more Logical

Are the 2 statements above true based on individual basis,or by Our different biology?
Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Magnoliaa(f): 4:07pm On Apr 06, 2022
odinson1:
You want to tell me you haven't seen women say "all women are special" and men should therefore respect them? If you haven't,then I don't know how else to continue this.

Why do they say women are "special?" It certainly isn't because they are just women and have vaginas. Bring such posts, let's see them. It is still all the same vein of thoughts!

We say you should respect women because:

1.) The default is to disrespect women
2.) Women do things, so much, raising kids, managing the homefront, bringing money, expelling lots of energies in relationships, experiencing labour, at the end of the day, they experience no. 1.

That statement is driven MOSTLY by the reality of guys disrespecting women. When I say nobody says women should be respected because they are women, I'm not saying you cannot find people saying that, I'm saying more often than not, there are reasons behind it that has nothing to do with being special or thinking women are special.


But I'll indulge you a bit.
For your information,men are NOT respected by default! A man is only respected when he has something of value to present. I am not going to waste my time explaining this common knowledge to you.

Men are respected by default, and that respect drives some of them into wanting to provide. The respect comes before the the responsibility. Really? In the streets, your hometowns, villages, classrooms, family meetings and so on, men aren't respected by virtue of them being men? If you conducted a research and put two unknown man and a woman in a place or amongst people, who are people likely to defer to? I did not say the woman will not get attention, nor be liked, but who is going to automatically be seen as the superior gender and therefore deserving of respect and adulation?

And for the record,just as guys here call you prostitutes, do you want to tell me you don't know the meaning of A Prostitute?
A prostitute is simply a woman "gives out" sex in exchange for money, favours or services. Do you want to tell me you don't bill the guys you are having sex with?

Oh, wow, so you know me down to my relationships and what I do in them? You even know I've been in relationships? Are you a punter and a pìmp/john then if you give money to the women you are in a relationship with and have sex with? Is your room/house a brothel? We also know a prostitute in a woman who sells sex as a work, as a single person. So you know I hawk sex? You don patronise me before? You know I give sex to guys in exchange for favours from them? Or you know the company I went to in search of a job and I tried seducing the interviewer?

when we call your kind names here,it is some tims in retaliation to how you call us Broke, miserable and frustrated. While other times,it is actually the truth that some of you are Prostitutes,while some of the guys here are broke.

And you think women calling men broke and frustrated isn't in retaliation as well? Can you pinpoint the initial erring party? What is MY offense against YOU that you went on a mission of slutshaming me? How many times have you seen me broke-shaming and insulting guys here? And without reason, on the most neutral threads? No, you're not dumb and I know you can try not to be dishonest. Women insult men as much as guys do here? Oya, let's even go and start with the CONVICTED RAPE cases that made front-page. All the DOMESTIC VICTIMS that are women, and the males' comments on such threads vs. when a man is the victim. You cannot even give me equivalent misandristic monickers like all the ones I listed.

So wait, "some of YOU are prostitutes, while some of THE GUYS here are broke?" Why you no fit personalise the brokeness to your own self but you set me up as a paragon of female prostitutes? Now, that is one of your devaluation attempts.


"Respect women" is a bullshit talk because it implies that ALL women around the world should be automatically respected by men, irrespective of who they are or whether they've done anything to earn that respect or not. Women are NOT special, so don't expect automatic respect!

And I have explained the context of that statement to you, so I am very certain you've gotten it or have gotten it.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Magnoliaa(f): 4:10pm On Apr 06, 2022
odinson1:
Women are More emotional
Men are more Logical

Are the 2 statements above true based on individual basis,or by Our different biology?

They are based on a mix of different factors including the two you listed above, so no, no sex is necessarily more emotional/logical than the other simply because of sex.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by AmazonTopaz(f): 4:16pm On Apr 06, 2022
odinson1:


Women are More emotional
Men are more Logical

Are the 2 statements above true based on individual basis,or by Our different biology?

These are the same falsehoods we have been hearing since time immemorial and it is quite old and out of touch.

Close example Vladimir Putin, the so called logical gender has used his emotions to enter into a stupid war he cannot win.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by AmazonTopaz(f): 4:18pm On Apr 06, 2022
Magnoliaa:
It is when it comes to women that y'all remember that these things should be by individual basis and merit, but 99% of the time you are always screaming "a man needs respect," "men are the heads," "men are logical."

How many individual men (do you wait for to) prove themselves worthy and deserving of the above widely held notions?

Don't mind them men want women to respect them because of what dangles between their legs then they come with stories of how they are the heads because they are men blah blah but when it comes to women they should not be respected because they are women.

Radarada

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by AmazonTopaz(f): 4:19pm On Apr 06, 2022
Magnoliaa:


They are based on a mix of different factors including the two you listed above, so no, no sex is necessarily more emotional/logical than the other simply because of sex.

Ignore that one

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Biglittlelois(f): 4:21pm On Apr 06, 2022
odinson1:


Women are More emotional
Men are more Logical


Are the 2 statements above true based on individual basis,or by Our different biology?


Wait what? Are you trying to say the bolded is actually based on biology? If yes pls explain in details the components or parts of the human anatomy that made it so.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Magnoliaa(f): 4:24pm On Apr 06, 2022
A girl i was chatting with to come over lets have some fun,was telling me to give her 5k as transport, whereas her house is just like 500 naira away. She doesn't see herself as a Prostitute (just like you) but she is already asking for payment, calling it transport fare. What is the remaining 4500 for

Ohhhhh, I see where the personal pain is coming from now. Classic projection. But it is only a church rat like you that'll be feeling the way you do at women billing, something men of your kind and mates would gladly do, since they believe they are the superior gender...

So you can't get a coochie in real life and you resort to calling women online prostitutes in hope that they'll try to prove you wrong and then give it up to you ba?

Must be a sad existence you live, odinson1.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Biglittlelois(f): 4:29pm On Apr 06, 2022
AmazonTopaz:


These are the same falsehoods we have been hearing since time immemorial and it is quite old and out of touch.

Close example Vladimir Putin, the so called logical gender has used his emotions to enter into a stupid war he cannot win.


You beat me to this fact I wanted to point out.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by odinson1(m): 4:29pm On Apr 06, 2022
Magnoliaa:


Ohhhhh, I see where the personal pain is coming from now. Classic projection. But it is only a church rat like you that'll be feeling the way you do at women billing, something men of your kind and mates would gladly do, since they believe they are the superior gender...

So you can't get a coochie in real life and you resort to calling women online prostitutes in hope that they'll try to prove you wrong and then give it up to you ba?

Must be a sad existence you live, odinson1.



We've gone past this broke shaming nonsense. If you Refuse to understand the point i was trying to make,then i cannot Continue this Argument any further.
Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Magnoliaa(f): 4:31pm On Apr 06, 2022
AmazonTopaz:
Ignore that one

I actually have his time this afternoon. He should come and explain to me the escort service I run or when he tried booking me for a hangout and I was asking him for #5,000 tfare.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Magnoliaa(f): 4:34pm On Apr 06, 2022
odinson1:
We've gone past this broke shaming nonsense. If you Refuse to understand the point i was trying to make,then i cannot Continue this Argument any further.

But we've not gone past the point of me prostituting myself in relationships and for hookups, have we? It's nonsense to call you broke, but it ain't nonsense for you to keep repeating that I'm a prostitute.

It's fine sha, you simply do not see yourself a church rat too and denial is your way of coping with that.

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Re: My Thoughts On Men Respecting Women by Magnoliaa(f): 4:35pm On Apr 06, 2022
AmazonTopaz:
Don't mind them men want women to respect them because of what dangles between their legs then they come with stories of how they are the heads because they are men blah blah but when it comes to women they should not be respected because they are women.

Radarada

Premium radarada and ment.

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