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Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by forkadict(m): 3:01pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
islamrules: Dis boy, you need to grow up. Na me talk say make you no dey fork your girl well well? So tey na 50 yr old man dey fork her well for you. You can come NL dey shout for my head. See me see trouble o. Fellow Nairalanders, make una come oooooo. E gbami oooooooo. Mentally stable, i very much am. But experienced? Helll noooooo! No one, repeat no one forks my girl on my behalf cos i do a very good job. So you frustrated with life cos a 50 yr old man forked your girl? Take it out on your deak and not on me! |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by ShyOne(f): 3:07pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
@ Rich ok |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by Nobody: 3:47pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
Shy-One: @The Shy-One, I don't mean to pry,but did you and your ex have these kind of problems?Not popping the marriage question after many years of courtship? You don't need to answer if you don't want to. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by ShyOne(f): 4:13pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
@ Rich It's ok - I am not embarrassed to answer your question. ummmm - ok - this is the problem He asked me to marry him and I said yes, but i think i got afraid as the date kept getting closer and closer, i became afraid, i ummm, well he moves too fast for me. i love him, but i need to slow it down. we just met only 14-15 months ago (a little over a year ago) and so much we have done together right away and i just didn't follow through and he put everything into me, into us and i backed out. my husband died nov. 2009, i met my guy march 2010, we had arranged our marriage november 2010 - he made all of the arrangements, ALL OF THEM, he even picked the date, location for wedding, honeymoon, guest list (everything), we were to be married in Lagos, he also was paying for everything - and the closer it got to that date - i started hyperventilating and getting afraid, everything just mentally hit me and i kept rescheduling and he got upset and devastated and he started pulling away from me, pulling back from me emotionally detaching from me-----because of my indecisiveness. so really I AM THE PROBLEM --- i just didn't realize that this would hit me like it did. my love for him knows no bounds, i know that he is the one for me. i just needed to heal first from the loss before moving on. men - alot of times i notice will put pressure and rush things and such - it seems to be in their nature. i just need love right now from him to heal first versus being his wife right away and i need him to understand and give me his patience - because in this area i am weak and he has the strength here. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by ShyOne(f): 4:22pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
so he has agreed - we have talked and he is giving me time to heal - but he is also looking at the fact (in his mind) that i will never heal and he is rethinking now if "he should wait for me or not" there is another woman in the States who is chasing him and it is killing me - very painful - i know she is chasing him because i see her throwing herself at him on his FB page Shy-One was devastated to see this, though he has sworn to me that nothing will ever occur with her because he has no interest in her at all. But I was crushed to my soul to see this. It was my understanding that we would wait some more months before we married. But he has lost faith in me and I don't want to lose him because I love him so much. I don't want to lose him. There is no-one like him - he is unique and special and I adore him. But I just needed some time to mend, it doesn't change how deeply I love this man. I am his rib and I know that with every fiber in my being. I just still need to make sure that there is some time - that I take to focus on me for a while. I have never been selfish, but it is necessary for my future happiness and our future happiness together that I take this time for a while. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by Nobody: 4:31pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
Shy-One: Well this is a new Shy-One to me. Although I don't believe in love for personal reasons,I've got no beef with people that do. I think you need to sit down with your man and talk things over with him,okay? Let him know how you feel and let him understand your point of view. I don't think it is fair derailing this thread,so I suggest you open your own thread about this problem and get other peoples opinion on the matter. However my personal opinion is that you try and talk to him soon,cos there is a lot of competition out there. Goodluck. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by Ivynwa(f): 4:35pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
@Shy-one Nne sorry to hear about the death of your first husband. It must be hurting bad. Accept my sympathy. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by HighChief4(m): 4:38pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
@Shy One I am happy for your strength and I read your comments with perfect understanding. You are doing the right thing and I pray your man will come to understand that he will even enjoy you more after your healing process. God is with you. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by ShyOne(f): 4:42pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
@ Rich - you are right i don't want to derail - not fair to OP - i've been trying to be more aware as i am guilty of that quite a bit i just wanted to give you an honest answer to your question i don't want to open a thread about this because - i am praying deeply on this and i am communicating frequently with him, who i love soo deeply -i fear that if i listen to too many voices - i won't hear God's voice or the voice of who is already a huge part of my life - that is my man, his voice. i completely owe it to him to be true to him and to be supportive of us - when you start listening to too many people on something this serious before you marry - you will during the marriage constantly listen to others as well which bodes ill for a harmonious home. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by ShyOne(f): 4:49pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
@ Ivynwa - ok - i will - later today - is that alright? If you are in Lagos - you are 5 hours difference from me @ Chief - thank you - i really hope you are right |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by Ivynwa(f): 4:52pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
Shy-One: Aight |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by ShyOne(f): 5:13pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
Ivynwa: thank you - ok I sent you mail |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by Cuddlemii: 5:42pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
This is the 1st story on Nland to make me all sober and teary Vengeance won't get you anything in life. You using his daughter would not heal your wounds, it would only make you become something else. This would further expose you to so much damage and consume you. Its not worth it. You are a better man than he is, don't stoop low to that level. Once there is life, you are breathing, you have no deformity, no accident, no financial problems. Haba this is not even worth it all. You should even thank God that it happened before your marriage. You would just use this as a lesson and move on. Yes, it would hurt because you witnessed everything first hand but before you know it would fade. Take it as one of the phase people go through in life for better things to come. Who knows the new blessing God is going to replace this with. Why not leave everything to God and Let him take control of everything. At 25, I really commend your commitment and seriousness. God would definitely be your refuge and fortress. For some reason this story really touched me because I understand. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by Nobody: 9:22pm On Jul 06, 2011 |
Shy-One: Understood,clearly. Hope you find the happiness you seek with your man. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by sevule(m): 12:15am On Jul 07, 2011 |
Shy-One:Ehmmm sorry to say this but this piece of advice is completely DUMB!!! Poster take this advice to your own detriment. Normally Shyone is on point but me thinks she was a wee bit intoxicated when she wrote this. @poster Forget the HOE you call a girlfriend and move on. She can wash all your family members' clothes but stand firm on this. You never make a hoe a housewife cos she would still remain a hoe. Yes I know it is painful but cut off ALL contact with her and move on. And please do not entertain thoughts of revenge. Let your babe's aristo's daughter be. She had no part to play in this and it would be sheer wickedness on your part to sleep with her to get back at her father |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by ShyOne(f): 1:32am On Jul 07, 2011 |
sevule: ahahahahahahah - lololololololol - i can't breathe I don't drink anymore - I had to stop drinking I was going around telling people what I think about them and their BS - ahahahahaha i stopped drinking that liquid courage - i got into too much trouble , i promise i did, that's not fair ok fine - so I missed the mark - i told the poster i had to let it marinate a bit - i have been waiting a few days before i posted because this one had me over a barrel. i still think i'm close, really i do. |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by dudubody: 3:19am On Jul 07, 2011 |
pls bro dont take it out on the poor girl, she is innocent, u can f her but dont imprego, now her father; forgive him cos he is just a regular naija guy, nairalanders, how many of u will see free food and will not eat, na only me, my friends call me a laya ma la le, didinrin inu wa (lol), as for ur girlfriend, put her pics all over the internet and what she did, arrange boys to f her since she doesnt know how to say no, u can even arrange ur dog to f her, who cares |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by islamrules(m): 9:42am On Jul 07, 2011 |
Thank you all |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by boobfan: 10:10am On Jul 07, 2011 |
@OP if only you are the true person facing this problem cos I find it difficult reconciling ur username and some parts of the story.How can u claim that islam rules and still go to church,are u sarcastic? |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by islamrules(m): 10:15am On Jul 07, 2011 |
Thank you all for your comments. You all surprised me with your contributions. I even thought I will be getting junks from you people. Thank you nairalanders! Abeg haba |
Re: This Is Serious: For Matured Mind Only by romunu(m): 4:30am On Sep 19, 2022 |
Forget about your girlfriend, she’s not yours anymore she belongs to the street now, if you marry her, you won’t find peace in your home, cos, she will still be fucking that man. For the man’s daughter, you can Bleep her, but no give her belle ooo, and don’t hurt her. islamrules: |
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