superCleanworks:


now this is a good start, you have identified your problem.
what advice can i possibly give to a 33 year old guy who keeps falling for the same trick he is already aware of for 11 years ?
on the bright side, you have an angle from where you can tackle your problem and you need to do so quickly before you give this same excuse for something more vile and sinister called rape. This is the same excuse we have heard from many. They started with brothels till they found themselves in a place where there was no money or even a brothel around. some go home and rape their neighbour, sister, wife, daughter or even mother because their mind have already been configured this way for a long time since they were single like you are right now.
you have identified where the remote control is operating you from. whatever controls you can kill you.

it is never too late to take a step in the right direction. start now bro. good luck.

Well said....

Nothing wrong with visiting brothels, everyone gets one kind of addiction or another so forget all this religious advicers.

Speaklove:



First of all repent ,give your life to christ and ask him into your life .
Search for testimonies of how people got delivered from such things and follow suit .

Download gospel messages and song and start listening to them 24 hours if you can .

Delete all secular songs on your phone .
Schedule time for prayer 3 times a day .
Do away with friends that do the same .

Get a small size pocket bible and read often .
Carry it always with you .
Ask god to forgive you and forgive yourself also .

Say to yourself always "I am the righteous of god in Christ Jesus " no matter what you find your self doing always confess that to your spirit .

Stay away from social media for a while .

Excellent!!

You no go make heaven sha

DanseMacabre:
Just switch to mastvrbation instead bro. Make you rest small.


**Modified: It's disheartening that majority of Nigerians claim to understand English, but sarcasm which is a critical component of the language always flies over their heads.

Las Las diz world na cruise...
Wait oo abi na d country be d cruise?

kenzysmith:
bro I started d brothel ist, then two years later I started masturbating I have been able to quit masturbating but not brothel

Your matter don pass me oo my man be like na pastor go fit save youv

i swear when i saw the thread on front Page kenzysmith came to mind.
surprisingly he was the thread. owner.

kenzysmith:
Disvirgin in a brothel tried my best to stop for the past 11yrs I have been a sex slave to brothels women fast pray but is like there is a demon controlling me to always go there 33yrs no job, no wife, no ambition, looking wretched.

A graudate of UNIBEN with 2.1. Still on menial job.

Parents wealthy and Ist son, dad has techinically disown me. My younger brothers don't even respect me even though i am older than them with almost 10yrs.

My childhood friends start avoiding me only my mum regard me as a human being Please pray for me .

Nice one.for you to habe realized all u talked about above from your father disregarding you down to non of ur younger siblings according you Respect.that means you already are aware how u have bleeped up and you are really ready to be a changed man.
Now try and ensure u do alot of ur things indoors. Reduce ur friend circles especially if they are influencing u negatively.
Try as much as possible u interact with your mum.she will always stand by you.
I remembered my elder bros got same issue.his was gambling .he was using his resources from his factory business to play bet9ja so the point he was begging ppl around and lost alot of respect.
Wn i got to know about it.i was heart broken.
Even heard something that pain me to my marrow that one of his friends/ colleague was saying he is jus waiting for when he will sell his machine he bought around 1.5million to treat water.that was wn i took action.i had to call him and vex for him despite bn my elder brother.
To cut the long story short, he is back on his feet now.i took a risk to secure a good loan for his to augment hi business .he is doing fine from my little assessment now.his wife too Confirmed it.
God will definitely hear ur cry my bro.
Dont worry ,very soon u will come tell us a good testimony

Pls can you call me, I have a valid solution for you that will solve the problem totally.

There is hope bro. don't give up. It's a complex problem that only requires a simple approach

09030363419

Pls, pls, pls, call me.

You will be free.

You will testify in the next one year of a changed life, level and finance I promise you by the grace of God.

Don't mind the ignorant and senseless solutions some psychophants on this platform are giving to you.

They do not understand what you mean. I have been there before and understand perfectly well what you mean. It's triggered by alcohol or even mere watching erotic movies, etc.

Pls call I beg you in Jesus name and you shall be free.

I only want to share my success story with you and how I approached the issue

YeyeGbami:
Na free you dey knack there?

Nothing is free, even in Free Town

Only Christ can set you free. Surrender your life to Him and go to a church nearby for counseling. Am sure you will be free.

KingVIC001:
This early morning

Holly Gram lolz..


my Gee! NaSo ooo



WTF MAN!

ComeToJesus:


Don't worry bro, one step at a time. I'll always remember you in my prayers for God to give you the grace and a major breakthrough in life.

Holly Gram okay boss..


I go try my best..


WTF MAN!

Ten Commandments To Your Healing

1. I want you to know that you are not alone
2. You need to visit a pysochologist/psychiatrist. You never can tell if it's the result of an undiagnosed mental health disorder from childhood (anxiety, depression, ADD, OCD e.t.c). Mental health disorders fuels indecision.
3. If you eventually get a diagnosis, do not take therapy sessions for granted. Just like there's power in the blood of Jesus, so is therapy. You may even be placed on some medication.
4. Make up your mind and surrender all to Jesus Christ.
5. Make the bible your best friend, especially the book of Proverbs, Psalms and Ecclesiastes.
6. Prayer should also become your interest.
7. Figure out one thing you are good at, not just what you love and pursue it with all of your oxygen
8. Practice it every day and figure out how to make a living out of it.
9. Get a vision for your life and back it up with plans to make it reality.
10. Take anything called romantic relationship out of the picture for now until you have truly mastered self control and ready for a family. Don't mind the age.

Nothing is impossible to achieve. You will fulfil purpose and not live a wasted life in Jesus name. Remeber, time is ticking but can never show on your watch.

We all have challenges life has designed as traps to delay our destiny, say no to any of those. PEACE.

Ojikutumomiage:


Oga Max, i hail!

Only one person can recognize me here. Are you who I am thinking?

Do you have any connection with number 168 some years back in Lagos?

chatinent:
As a first son too, it's impossible I become foolish. The responsibilities keep me in check.

Responsibilities na your mate?

taught I was the only one that felt this way.....

Pack your bags, pick your ATM and head to MFM Prayer City for a personal retreat.
Pray and fast everyday, breaking by 6pm, for 40 days.
Drop your android phone behind.
Go with only Java phone.
You will thank God later.
What you people don't know is that Brothel Girls do jazz to keep their customers always coming back for more.
It is their business strategy for steady income.
Once you have sex with them an invisible chain binds and bonds you to them.
And a demon is activated and assigned to always stir in you a strong overpowering urge to visit the Brothel Girls again and again and again.
Thos girls secretly laugh at you and pity you because they know you're their sex slave and money bag.
It is a shameful thing to be enslaved by sins, whether sexual sins or gambling or masturbation or pornography.
Sin diminishes your self-esteem.
It demoralizes and depresses you.
The greatest love anyone can show you is to free you from the power of sin.
ONLY JESUS can do that for you.
Run to Him now.
There is a fountain filled with blood
Drawn from Immanuel's veins.
And sinners plunge beneath its flood.
Wash all their sins away.
Shalom

kenzysmith:
Disvirgin in a brothel tried my best to stop for the past 11yrs I have been a sex slave to brothels women fast pray but is like there is a demon controlling me to always go there 33yrs no job, no wife, no ambition, looking wretched.

A graudate of UNIBEN with 2.1. Still on menial job.

Parents wealthy and Ist son, dad has techinically disown me. My younger brothers don't even respect me even though i am older than them with almost 10yrs.

My childhood friends start avoiding me only my mum regard me as a human being Please pray for me .

Go get a land for farming, you will do well with your level of education, and addiction to brothel will fly away.

Daniel7543:
Quite unfortunate that many people are battling with brothel addiction. I was once like you op. I never had a girlfriend back then, I was always visiting a brothel.

But since when I met my girlfriend, everything changed. She was like a divine therapist assigned to me by God. It wasn't easy but I fought my way out of my addiction.

Fighting such an addiction is not a day job, you need someone to guide you through. Do you have a girlfriend? If No, then look for a decent girl who truly loves you.

She will do all her best to get you out of the addiction. You can't do it alone, you need someone to guide you.

I pray I find one too�
I seriously battling with porn and masturbation going to fifteen years! It's draining my spirit. I never had a girlfriend! I can't just bring myself to stop, I have tried so many ways. The highest I went without porn and masturbation was three months, then I relapsed again. God help me please I want to be free and healed

Cardealer2021:
Omo I dey fvck well well,
I dey carry hookups always
But you that thing call brothel ehhn I dey fear am. Shame no go allow me enter ashawo house no matter how konji hold me I no fit enter brothel

You de carry go your house? Abi na Hotel?
Because Hook up no cheap oh

u need to go for deliverance, MULTIPLE deliverance thats what u will need...
fasting and prayer for a very long period of time

First of all you need to make up your mind that you are ready to change your way of living and that obviously means you need to stop going to brothels and focus more on yourself.

Indaboski007:



Same age

Struggled with masturbation 10years

No gf no money yet

Olosho twice this year and masturbation twice

I started putting my life together late last year learning web development. Keep pushing my man.


The thing is we all need constant income stream and a change of mind. Try Jordan Peterson self authoring program. Its a great way to put your life back on track

Where will one see the Jordan Peterson program?

Indaboski007:



Same age

Struggled with masturbation 10years

No gf no money yet

Olosho twice this year and masturbation twice

I started putting my life together late last year learning web development. Keep pushing my man.


The thing is we all need constant income stream and a change of mind. Try Jordan Peterson self authoring program. Its a great way to put your life back on track

How did you quit masturbation bro? I am still battling with mine almost fifteen years now

kenzysmith:
Disvirgin in a brothel tried my best to stop for the past 11yrs I have been a sex slave to brothels women fast pray but is like there is a demon controlling me to always go there 33yrs no job, no wife, no ambition, looking wretched.

A graudate of UNIBEN with 2.1. Still on menial job.

Parents wealthy and Ist son, dad has techinically disown me. My younger brothers don't even respect me even though i am older than them with almost 10yrs.

My childhood friends start avoiding me only my mum regard me as a human being Please pray for me .

It's a spiritual battle for your soul n destiny. Your will power will fail you. In the words of Paul before Christ delivered him, " The good that I know and desire to do, I do not, but find myself doing the bad, I desire to stop. Oh, who shall deliver me from this bondage! Thank God for Jesus Christ who delivered me." Romans 7:19-25.

Go to God in prayer. Ask Him to help you in Jesus name. He loves n cares for you. He longs to give your a bright future. Jeremiah 29:11.

Giving up is not an option. Ask God to help you and you'll be free!.

Kobojunkie:
If you are serious about getting help then I suggest you consider paying a mental health professional with that money you spend women to get you treatment you need instead. The choice is yours..

Can a mental health professional help someone who is addicted to masturbation?

Daniel7543:
Quite unfortunate that many people are battling with brothel addiction. I was once like you op. I never had a girlfriend back then, I was always visiting a brothel.

But since when I met my girlfriend, everything changed. She was like a divine therapist assigned to me by God. It wasn't easy but I fought my way out of my addiction.

Fighting such an addiction is not a day job, you need someone to guide you through. Do you have a girlfriend? If No, then look for a decent girl who truly loves you.

She will do all her best to get you out of the addiction. You can't do it alone, you need someone to guide you.

Replacing fornication with another type of fornication Nigerians never seize to amaze me. Please next time, don't mention God in your worldly affairs.

kenzysmith:
Disvirgin in a brothel tried my best to stop for the past 11yrs I have been a sex slave to brothels women fast pray but is like there is a demon controlling me to always go there 33yrs no job, no wife, no ambition, looking wretched.

A graudate of UNIBEN with 2.1. Still on menial job.

Parents wealthy and Ist son, dad has techinically disown me. My younger brothers don't even respect me even though i am older than them with almost 10yrs.

My childhood friends start avoiding me only my mum regard me as a human being Please pray for me .

First and foremost - You are not alone - Many of us walking and smiling are dealing with various vices.
My fear is when you start to talk about depression and suicide means you have/are giving up hope.
This topic has been addressed before if you search the forum you should find some stuff.

Now a couple of tips
1. It is going to be tough - It is going to be tough - You're the little flag in the middle of a tug of war. Both competing for your soul. You're being swayed left and right. none wants to give you up without a fight.
2. Get the book - " everyman's battle and read " Arterburn & stoecker " It reaffirms - You are not alone.
3. You need a major shift in what you allow to enter your body. - No Sexual Cruel jokes or talks, You can't watch any Adult themed movies ( remember when our parents would close our eyes when they felt something of a sexual nature was about to happen on TV ? )
No night parties.
--- You need to rebuild your mind to know what is good and what is bad.
4. You need to block porn sites from your phone and computers - Have a friend set a password.
5. You need to have an accountable partner - Someone to whom you can talk to and not feel ashamed. Someone you can call and say - I am feeling like visiting the brothel and you can come and stay with you or talk to you on the phone. 100% a male.
6. Stress is a huge factor - So do Not engage in anything that will make you stress out and want to " lash out " you used to lash out with porn but you graduated to brothel. Reduce your stress pressure points.
7. Find your pressure points - Sit down and and analyze what leads you to feel drawn to go there - and postulate counter measures
8. Pattern - Work - Home - Activity ( Find something you like to do - play video games, play soccer, join a bible study - you want to be busy that you'd be tired to go. If you can move to a place for 30 days with no distractions, it will help stem the tide.
9. Believe in a higher being ( power) - Praying & Fasting is huge but the pastor is not a therapist to analyze what the Issue is. What is going on in your body is like Opium , a drug - You are fine some days and gbam ! you are down the rabbit whole again.
10. You might not come out of this fully whole - ( this will take a miracle ) but you will be functional enough that it does not control you. So from 3 times a week, it will wain to once every 3 months. Then you can hopefully find some peace get married and have sex within the confirms of your home with someone you love.
11. It takes commitment - THERE IS NO SILVER BULLET. Daddy GO could pray over you but if you don't reset your life - you will return back to it and it will be worse than when you started off.

Forgive your family. It's hard on them seeing their loved one going through this. Most importantly, they do not know what to do or how to help. They think - Just snap out of it !
Good Luck and don't give up

DanseMacabre:
Just switch to mastvrbation instead bro. Make you rest small.


**Modified: It's disheartening that majority of Nigerians claim to understand English, but sarcasm which is a critical component of the language always flies over their heads.

Oga your comment was insensitive, and silly. Simple.

DanseMacabre:
Just switch to mastvrbation instead bro. Make you rest small.


**Modified: It's disheartening that majority of Nigerians claim to understand English, but sarcasm which is a critical component of the language always flies over their heads.

Its worst

Naijatask:


Replacing fornication with another type of fornication Nigerians never seize to amaze me. Please next time, don't mention God in your worldly affairs.

Rubbish talk.

Because you sin differently doesn't make you Saint okay! Even Righteousness2 isn't Righteous

kriss27:
Can a mental health professional help someone who is addicted to masturbation?

Addiction(of every kind) is a symptom of mental problem and what a mental health professional can help patients in treating..