What do involve sometimes ( for Africans in particular) some frustrations or issues in household

Love Nayah

Issues will definitely arise in the long run relating the the in balance in the academic or social strata. Be it intentional or non-intentional friction

nayah
are u married

yes but Dalby why do this frustrations more common amoung guys than the reverse?

mmm why this question?

Nayah:

yes but Dalby why do this frustrations more common amoung guys than the reverse?

From time, it has been the mans responsibility to provide / take care of the family (even his fiance) even in the bible. As a fall out of this, your social or academic status is also proportionate to a financial status, so if the man has the a higher qualification or status it will be in line with the status quo. However the revers will lead to friction

I don't see why there should be a problem but people mostly women don't know how to handle their ego

Maybe you're right Mynd

Over-flogged issue but quite a simple answer.

Men are supposed to be the head (African mentality) so usually when this can't be the case, pride/anger usually become the order of the day.

becos some1 what 2 marry u.

it is the African man's way of thinking,of which i do not blame them for,
because cases where the woman is intellectually and academically higher than the man,disagreement,
arguement,and envy is bound to happen on daily basis.Iti s  rare to come across men getting married to such women.
''speaking from the African man's poit of view''

and it's quite sade Goldieluck because in love there's no diploma and men should be proud to have an intellectual woman, now it will depend on woman's reaction

Sijo that's what I think also but we women ( some) might be less arrogant especially in public

Sijo hell no I do think like you but let's be realistic some sisters like showing off their academic level or when they earn more than their husband
Anyway our brothers should understand that diplomas don't count in the intimate life

^^^^ i know some will definately show deirselves but wat am saying is dat dey will bear d shame of showing-up 4 marrying a guy below her klass.

definetely sister. But really brothers should not take it as a threat but as a gift having an ambitious wife is quite good isn't it?

This is not really common these days. This is a jet age, the world is becoming very vast.

You see couples who both have Phd and master's degrees.  The rate at which Nigerians are going abroad to pursue postgraduate studies especially UK, you will see 20 years olds already pursuing their Phd. Most times married couples meet while undergoing these degree.

But if, at all the woman has a higher qualification, that's not a big deal as long as there is love, understanding and they are both happy & successful in what they are doing.

Cuddlemii yes world is changing but some behaviours are still remaining especially concerning "roles" in a household

You really cannot put all the blame on the people. Blame the system in Nigeria. In fact, not only Nigeria, it is still a global issue to some degree.

Men are not brought up to be the helper in the household. And women are brought up with the belief that the man ought to be the main provider.

Of course there will be issues when this is not the situation.

Nayah:

Cuddlemii yes world is changing but some behaviours are still remaining especially concerning "roles" in a household

Hmm I think most people fall in love with the idea of marrying rather than the right partner for you. We all know our weakness and strengths so the best way is for you to be with who understands and can tolerate them.

Everything is attributed to the kind of spouse you married and not the causes of their ego or bad attitude. If you take your time to pick the right partner that you can manage, then education can't change the love and respect you both share.

It also depends on the hand the man used to handle the wife right from the dating level. If you are a principled and disciplined man then she can't boss you around cos she is higher than you academically. You are supposed to lay down that respect rule from the inception, take charge. Its a must!

kokoye "blaming" wouldn't be the good term but reconsidering would be better
Sister what do you mean by "respect rule" please

Lolz. What I mean by 'respect rule' are dos and donts. Basically instilling respect in your partner, not by forcing it but earning it. You should know when & where to draw the line and know your limits

ok now I got it

It is a pride thing. I know of a a couple who broke up just because the wife got a higher paying job than her husband infact about double and she allowed it get into her head.

But Mynd if I were a boy I would be very proud to have an smart and ambitious woman

Unless the mighty hand of God upon that woman head

explain Eridha

Nothing to explain hia my friend,we all know that most women with higher payed job automatically becomes rebel because they knew quite well that they can DO and UNDO WITH or WITHOUT their fiances/husbands .

That is the power of ARABA