Biglittlelois:



David, if your source of joy comes from God, you will not constantly degrade his creation for your satisfaction and to be accepted by your ilks here, you are not smarter than God that knows the importance and significance of the female gender, you would not have been born without the female gender, whatever terrible experience you had or have, that makes you see females as your constant nightmare, is bordering on a mental disorder, it is not normal, you should check yourself into a psychiatric hospital, I'll always pray for you for eternal peace, you really need divine peace in your life, very obvious.

Take care.

Subtle words that break hearts.
Stop picking on him. That's his opinion and it doesn't mean he's being misogynistic. That woman no dey try, birthday's are special days and all media of celebration should be employed. This too is sth that seems little yet it matters.


Nnor!

JovialJune:
This forum ehn, you will just see some characters and wonder how these people are offline, I don't like biased people, I'm for justice and fairness, asslickers are dangerous people, they will asslick someone that can kill, then keep laughing as the person is killing you, smh.....

And who made you the judge? Tbh if you have a life off nairaland you won't know who's who to the point of remembering all Thier sobriquets and dedicating your time to defend the defenseless miss freedom fighter, go and get a life too, because your hypocrisy is amusing.

Op, use style ask your wife so that you will hear her if this is actually sth serious to you.

I see no reason why this should be on Nairaland when you too have not communicated. Abi there isn't healthy communication in the marriage too?

Tokskob2008:

Someone said up there that the op has entitlement mentality and I'm wondering what that means in this context. You also talking about her protecting the marriage and I'm wondering what that means too

She is protecting the marriage but not protecting her brothers and sisters right? From everything up there she doesn't look like someone who is a private person not to talk of protecting anything, she is most likely living a different life online.

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I don't like displaying my husband or children's pictures up on social media. I'm a private person. I don't want random people into my private life, to know whether my husband is handsome or not, tall or short, rich or poor or if my children are good looking or not, male or female, graduated or undergraduate. I love my own privacy knowing that you can't come at me or my family when you dont know much about me. Never ever will I put my husband's picture up on my dp. Never. And I won't discuss him with friends either. My husband and my children are my life. I'm freer discussing my siblings, my parents etc.
and putting their pictures up freely. The world will hardly come at you through your extended family.
So, I don't see what the problem is with you, guy. Trouble dey siddon jeje, you wan go wake am?

Go and conduct a DNA test first for your children to determine their paternity. Then we can talk more on your issue..cos DP may be nothing to compare.

You said you are very handsome. She protecting your from husband snatchers.

Children rather than matured men are husbands running homes these days. Did your grandma and mother put the pics of their husbands on their WhatsApp, FB, twitter, etc. Go and chill, OP.

Threesha:
From DM

Have you asked her before bringing your private matters to a public online forum? If not then you are the problem in your own marriage.

Biglittlelois:



You have females in your family right? Or your mom? None of them has been a source of joy and inspiration at any point in time in your life?

Source of joy? ... GOD is the only giver of joy... No mortal man or woman or human being can give you joy... Take it or leave it...

silvoclaira:

Entitlement mentality


The condition of entitlement is your own problem

He's entitled?

Oga Are, I really do not know who your wife is nor you but I do not see any problem with this not posting your picture on her DP.

I have been married for 9 yrs, I have never posted my wife's picture on any social media platform for one day and we are both fine and enjoying each other.I did not marry her for the social media, I married her for myself and she married me for herself.

If you said she seems not to be proud of you, is there any funny way she behaves when you both are in the public or she does not even like going out with you? If your answer is NO, what are you worried about?.

Big Man, you married her for yourelf and she does for herself and not for social media.

Becareful, don't let social media marriage counseling cancel your marriage.

dauntless15:
How do you know he's broken, or you're just assuming like her? You're part of the problem too.

I don't even know the guy , I don't know what she noticed to come to the conclusion , and I'm advising her not him , if she wants to make a suggestion especially with just the opinions he posts here , psychiatry is too extreme and I felt that one statement she made about psychiatry made her advice look like an insult , someone she has never seen , abi does she plan on going around NL gathering people and taking them to a psychiatrist

This issue has been thrashed severally here,

Don't understand why some people are so social media crazy, never posted my husband and kids, even wedding pictures sef especially on FB. I don't add people from work on my FB upon say I don't even post on FB.

WhatsApp status only once and I have even filtered those who can view my status, they are my personal people

What's with the she's not proud of you statement going up and down, is it by watsap dp or status. People looking for validation up and down.

My boss was curious so tey he asked he wanted to see my husband's picture, I showed him on my phone, I am sure he must have wondered and wondered Na him Sabi, I don't talk about my family at work. What you need to know is I have a family. Simple.

Una go just dey disturb una selves on irrelevant stuffs she posted me he didn't post me Nawa.

Amotolongbo:
@OP

You wife is trying to protect you from the public prey.
Seems she is trying to keep away her family life away from the social media. Showing you and the children off on the social media isn’t love.

In as much as she performs her matrimonial responsibilities perfectly with you and the children and no history or perception of infidelity from the woman, social media love stunt is a trivial issue.

You make a point

wisemum:
I don't like displaying my husband or children's pictures up on social media. I'm a private person. I don't want random people into my private life, to know whether my husband is handsome or not, tall or short, rich or poor or if my children are good looking or not, male or female, graduated or undergraduate. I love my own privacy knowing that you can't come at me or my family when you dont know much about me. Never ever will I put my husband's picture up on my dp. Never. And I won't discuss him with friends either. My husband and my children are my life. I'm freer discussing my siblings, my parents etc.
and putting their pictures up freely. The world will hardly come at you through your extended family.
So, I don't see what the problem is with you, guy. Trouble dey siddon jeje, you wan go wake am?

Leave the mumu man.
His problem is insecurity, and unfortunately there's no cure for it.
I just hope he won't use it to ruin his good marriage.
People are having serious marriage, see what he's complain of.
Probably he wants to have another woman and he just needs to cook up some trouble to justify his act, that's the only sense I can make of this non issue.

descarado:

You told your wife, not warn her.

No wonder some marriage don't last.

Maybe, you have forgotten that's your mate.
Reverse the situation, she will not warn but tell you and with reasons too.

Proper communication is what sustains marriage and flexibility

Point of correction I warned her and I don't understand what you are insulate here because of your Grammer

Entitlement for husband to his wife?
Some people Sha

silvoclaira:

Entitlement mentality


The condition of entitlement is your own problem

OgogoroFreak:
She's for the street

Na truly street she be..........

immortalcrown:
Stop posting her own. Her reaction will reveal what is hidden.

Op this is applicable.....

ibinaboonline:
The wisdom of this world is truly laughable but it’s not a laughing matter. You actually thought that comment was smart. Your wife is is your closest relation by blood . In fact, she’s the only one you’re swapping your blood (spirit) with. What does the Bible say? A man will leave his father and mother and become one flesh with his wife. Get God, get sense.

Yeah, you're very correct, and we're on the same page, except that only a deep mind can decipher what I wrote. It can be understood either way depending on the level of understanding.
What I wrote is just the beginning of what I meant here, that is why I said, it is deep.

Although, out of all your relations, only your wife isn't your 'biological/natural' blood relation, but eventually in this process of marriage which began like an artificial union, she'd be closer to you than all other blood relations.
Infact, she's not expected to be your blood relation, she's expected to become more than that. She'd be 'one' with you, that is, your own self.
This is because while your relations are naturally related to you by blood, your wife is expected to share your body, soul, spirit and blood and surpass just being a blood relation to become one body as you.

This is the real concept of marriage people don't know. And this is why the Bible doesn't support divorce or separation.
Can you replace your father or mother? Not possible, much more, can you divorce yourself? Impossible. If so, should you divorce you wife who's one body and soul with you?

Well, all these are balderdash to the shallow minds of the children of the world, who think they're wise but they are real fools.

Threesha:
From DM

My friend go and rest. Old man behaving like a child

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


I don't even know the guy , I don't know what she noticed to come to the conclusion , and I'm advising her not him , if she wants to make a suggestion especially with just the opinions he posts here , psychiatry is too extreme and I felt that one statement she made about psychiatry made her advice look like an insult , someone she has never seen , abi does she plan on going around NL gathering people and taking them to a psychiatrist

She might be the one needing the psychiatrist in real life, she might not be fit to even advice anyone in real life but it's nairaland where anyone can claim to be what they are not.

Oga, abeg go and sit down.
you don't have a problem in your marriage.
Do you know how some women guard their family life off social media?
So it is until she post you and the kids you will know she loves you?
That is a woman who probably knows that the world gets to know about people by what they post on social media.

Wake up and smell the coffee when i say you don't have issues in your marriage.

Oh! you want her to post you with your well built body and tag you so that leeching females' will flood your inbox and a once happy marriage will become a problematic one abi?

Didn't marriages survive without social media dp? when you took the vow with her 10years ago, did you say the marriage will only survive well when she post you and the kids on social media? you clearly have wife but you clearly are seeking faults where there is none.

I am 99% sure she is into runs. She doesn't wanna complicate issues with her better paying clients. She must have let out that she is either single or that u are a useless man and she is just living with you under duress. Go to any good prophet and he will tell you same.

Kriss216:
Stop carrying bags of cement for someone that can't carry a loaf of bread for you. Stop crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you. Out of all your family members, it's only your wife that is not your relation. Be wise.

This your statement is very strong.

dauntless15:
She might be the one needing the psychiatrist in real life, she might not be fit to even advice anyone in real life but it's nairaland where anyone can claim to be what they are not.

it's mad people that know mad people
She just exposed herself

Threesha:
From DM

1. Does she use her pictures as DP
2. Does she post her pictures on FB and Whatsapp Status
3. Most important question what reason did she give for not using your pics or that of her kids?

Threesha:
From DM

make Dem come poach you leave her abi

Your wife love you and the children
She's protecting her family abeg
Where quarrel no dey oga no bring am at all
Abi the Devil when use this destroy your beautiful family
Apart from this has she given you any reason of doubt ?
Keep your family out of social media
I don't see where posting pictures here and there defines true love
Thank God you married a wise woman saving your family
And stop this rubbish attitude of yours
If you're idle find something nice doing abeg.