himir42175:
I'll try to summarize. I recently came across good fortune, after lots of hardwork. The type that upscales your standard of living by a huge percentage. Good right? But the problem now is my spouse. For reasons known best to her, she doesnt want her family to have any idea of this. I understand times are wicked and you gotta be careful. I understand this. but the approach is what mesmerizes me. When they ask after us, she sometimes tell them we've not eaten for days.
That we had to go beg for food etc. That somebody lent us piecemeal amounts etc to eat.
That i'm sick and we cant pay the hospital bill. She even goes as far as asking siblings to send her recharge vouchers like 100, 200, etc. And sometimes sends her account number to them and beg for 1k, 2k etc.
Now this puts me off because, in so doing she has dragged my respect to the mud. Probably they all now see me as a church-rat, no do-good. If you want to hide your finances, must you tell them that we havent eaten for days, and beg them to send you 1k to eat. It hurts my reputation alot.
Not only her siblings, her friends and all. Did she think about the image of me she is portraying by doing such? I'm really cnfused and it hurts me alot because you would think she's trying to be smart to save money. But the reverse is the case; cos she doesnt blows through money like hot knife through butter. The problem now is why she had to rubbish me inthe mud for this? I didnt ask for any of this.

himir42175:
I'll try to summarize. I recently came across good fortune, after lots of hardwork. The type that upscales your standard of living by a huge percentage. Good right? But the problem now is my spouse. For reasons known best to her, she doesnt want her family to have any idea of this. I understand times are wicked and you gotta be careful. I understand this. but the approach is what mesmerizes me. When they ask after us, she sometimes tell them we've not eaten for days.
That we had to go beg for food etc. That somebody lent us piecemeal amounts etc to eat.
That i'm sick and we cant pay the hospital bill. She even goes as far as asking siblings to send her recharge vouchers like 100, 200, etc. And sometimes sends her account number to them and beg for 1k, 2k etc.
Now this puts me off because, in so doing she has dragged my respect to the mud. Probably they all now see me as a church-rat, no do-good. If you want to hide your finances, must you tell them that we havent eaten for days, and beg them to send you 1k to eat. It hurts my reputation alot.
Not only her siblings, her friends and all. Did she think about the image of me she is portraying by doing such? I'm really cnfused and it hurts me alot because you would think she's trying to be smart to save money. But the reverse is the case; cos she doesnt blows through money like hot knife through butter. The problem now is why she had to rubbish me inthe mud for this? I didnt ask for any of this.

oilmane:



There's power in our tongue, stop her b4 she uses her tongue to call poverty into your home, remember the spiritual controls the physical.

Bluntguy:
Oga you don't know her people more than her. Let her be. When they grant their people access to you you cry about how they are exposing you to their people. They try to protect you from them you complain of how they are not allowing their people come near you. You don't know what her family has been demanding from you behind you which she may not want to reveal to you.

Wait until that your little success begin wane na that time you go kota sign.

Candidlady:
Going bout begging is something icant do. As a lady it can never happen.

But idoubt this your story. You can't be that made or seeing enough mula and your so called wife will still go bout begging for 100 naira top ups .

Anything to paint women bad.

himir42175:


The story is legit; i assure you.
That is why it's very perplexing for me. I was thinking of calling the family
and redeeming my image. What;s the worse that could happen? They'll start demanding. And if i say no?
They'll go spiritual? Which wont work as far as i am because I didn't steal or defraud to be here.

DontBullshitMe:
Maybe she thinks you are wasteful.

Chasegb:
If only you know how lucky you are to have such a wife. “Oga dem dey hide dey grow”.

himir42175:
I'll try to summarize. I recently came across good fortune, after lots of hardwork. The type that upscales your standard of living by a huge percentage. Good right? But the problem now is my spouse. For reasons known best to her, she doesnt want her family to have any idea of this. I understand times are wicked and you gotta be careful. I understand this. but the approach is what mesmerizes me. When they ask after us, she sometimes tell them we've not eaten for days.
That we had to go beg for food etc. That somebody lent us piecemeal amounts etc to eat.
That i'm sick and we cant pay the hospital bill. She even goes as far as asking siblings to send her recharge vouchers like 100, 200, etc. And sometimes sends her account number to them and beg for 1k, 2k etc.
Now this puts me off because, in so doing she has dragged my respect to the mud. Probably they all now see me as a church-rat, no do-good. If you want to hide your finances, must you tell them that we havent eaten for days, and beg them to send you 1k to eat. It hurts my reputation alot.
Not only her siblings, her friends and all. Did she think about the image of me she is portraying by doing such? I'm really cnfused and it hurts me alot because you would think she's trying to be smart to save money. But the reverse is the case; cos she doesnt blows through money like hot knife through butter. The problem now is why she had to rubbish me inthe mud for this? I didnt ask for any of this.

himir42175:

I dont think this is luck. At this rate; nobody would want to do anything with me in the furture; because they will think i'm too poor to the extent that i'll elope with their money.
they wil think i'm living on borrowed money and stuffs. that's the impression she is creating which i dont really fancy

himir42175:

I dont think this is luck. At this rate; nobody would want to do anything with me in the furture; because they will think i'm too poor to the extent that i'll elope with their money.
they wil think i'm living on borrowed money and stuffs. that's the impression she is creating which i dont really fancy

himir42175:
I'll try to summarize. I recently came across good fortune, after lots of hardwork. The type that upscales your standard of living by a huge percentage. Good right? But the problem now is my spouse. For reasons known best to her, she doesnt want her family to have any idea of this. I understand times are wicked and you gotta be careful. I understand this. but the approach is what mesmerizes me. When they ask after us, she sometimes tell them we've not eaten for days.
That we had to go beg for food etc. That somebody lent us piecemeal amounts etc to eat.
That i'm sick and we cant pay the hospital bill. She even goes as far as asking siblings to send her recharge vouchers like 100, 200, etc. And sometimes sends her account number to them and beg for 1k, 2k etc.
Now this puts me off because, in so doing she has dragged my respect to the mud. Probably they all now see me as a church-rat, no do-good. If you want to hide your finances, must you tell them that we havent eaten for days, and beg them to send you 1k to eat. It hurts my reputation alot.
Not only her siblings, her friends and all. Did she think about the image of me she is portraying by doing such? I'm really cnfused and it hurts me alot because you would think she's trying to be smart to save money. But the reverse is the case; cos she doesnt blows through money like hot knife through butter. The problem now is why she had to rubbish me inthe mud for this? I didnt ask for any of this.

Mariangeles:


Since you claim she's creating a false impression that you don't like, what is keeping you from creating the one you like?

Could it be that you're truly stingy and she's helping you out by making it easier for you, so that you don't have to give because you don't like giving in the first place? And now, you turn around to put the blame on her?

Bluntguy:
Oga you don't know her people more than her. Let her be. When they grant their people access to you you cry about how they are exposing you to their people. They try to protect you from them you complain of how they are not allowing their people come near you. You don't know what her family has been demanding from you behind you which she may not want to reveal to you.

Wait until that your little success begin wane na that time you go kota sign.

himir42175:


Without going into too much details, I am not stingy. You don't have to believe me though; but I'm not
If I were, I wouldnt have created this thread in the first place.

himir42175:
I'll try to summarize. I recently came across good fortune, after lots of hardwork. The type that upscales your standard of living by a huge percentage. Good right? But the problem now is my spouse. For reasons known best to her, she doesnt want her family to have any idea of this. I understand times are wicked and you gotta be careful. I understand this. but the approach is what mesmerizes me. When they ask after us, she sometimes tell them we've not eaten for days.
That we had to go beg for food etc. That somebody lent us piecemeal amounts etc to eat.
That i'm sick and we cant pay the hospital bill. She even goes as far as asking siblings to send her recharge vouchers like 100, 200, etc. And sometimes sends her account number to them and beg for 1k, 2k etc.
Now this puts me off because, in so doing she has dragged my respect to the mud. Probably they all now see me as a church-rat, no do-good. If you want to hide your finances, must you tell them that we havent eaten for days, and beg them to send you 1k to eat. It hurts my reputation alot.
Not only her siblings, her friends and all. Did she think about the image of me she is portraying by doing such? I'm really cnfused and it hurts me alot because you would think she's trying to be smart to save money. But the reverse is the case; cos she doesnt blows through money like hot knife through butter. The problem now is why she had to rubbish me inthe mud for this? I didnt ask for any of this.