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Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by teejay29(m): 10:57am On May 17, 2022 |
Her business not mine. |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by imagrg(m): 10:57am On May 17, 2022 |
I want you to have a child for me out of wedlock. I will take care of the child. About your mental health, please let's discuss. Find out more about me here: https://www.nairaland.com/7116074/need-god-fearing-wife-aged-34 |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Ashimiuamuda: 10:58am On May 17, 2022 |
. Try to see a therapist to fight your mental health and note that lonliness do kills once in a while |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by wonlasewonimi: 10:59am On May 17, 2022 |
You're the architect of your own way of life...You determine the direction! |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by ChuksHills(m): 10:59am On May 17, 2022 |
Poswahala: My dear don't conclude yet on your matter trust in Jesus Christ for there is nothing too hard for him to do. In life every man and woman have an appointed wife and husband that God has ordained for them, I will advise you to seek God and render service to him by joining any department of your choice in your church if you don't have look for a better church and serve God whole heartedly you will see him turn around your condition for good. Exodus 23:25 (KJV) And ye shall serve the LORD your God, and he shall bless thy bread, and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee. Thank me later |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by somehow: 11:00am On May 17, 2022 |
Gentlerespect76: Without knowing the state of her mental issues, you already judged her decision? Humans. |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Angelfrost(m): 11:01am On May 17, 2022 |
Carcholce: Not just Nigerian women... Most Nigerians have mental health issues which no one talks about... And why won't they?!!! Living in this country is not mentally and emotionally uplifting. |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Jkelly192: 11:02am On May 17, 2022 |
Thank God you threw the matter on the floor for more advice. As a woman you were born by a woman and you are expected to do so for yourself to avoid had i know at last weather you married or not just look for a child or children that would take of you when you’re in old age. Thanks!!! |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by tarantino1: 11:05am On May 17, 2022 |
Have you been diagnosed by a Psychiatrist? |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by frozen70(f): 11:05am On May 17, 2022 |
Poswahala: Your case is complex in the sense that you know the problem you have with mental issues You have not started what you ha e done to put yourself back to normal Does it mean that you want to be alone in this world, loneliness kills faster than sickness Am glad you use to be into relationships, taken in, ha e the child, hand the child to any family member that will help you nurse the child With time your mental health will go away, if you realy work on it and by then you will appreciate the child If you have the money to relocate abroad and live yourself then settle in the old people's home, that means you have lost your roots and no one will see you again talk more of your corpse First of all, go to Psychiatric hospital and treat yourself properly then let's see if you can reason like a normal woman |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by franklingud(m): 11:06am On May 17, 2022 |
Judybash93:One question Where did you take life from? Man or woman? |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by SunTzu123(m): 11:06am On May 17, 2022 |
You are open about your mental health challenges. Please take care of that first. Do not make long term decision while you are at it. You will be surprised by how you will see things differently once you are in better mental health. May you receive healing. |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by LastProphet: 11:07am On May 17, 2022 |
nenyewrites: At what age did she do so and after what achievements? |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by UncleKoboko: 11:07am On May 17, 2022 |
Poswahala:This what uncountable BODYCOUNT and have some free money, due to having special privileges AND UNTOP OF BAD PARENTAL UPBRINGING... When life hits you in another dimension and poverty strikes your bratty spoilt brains YOU WILL HAVE SENSE.
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Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by hardon1(m): 11:09am On May 17, 2022 |
Just get pregnant... Pregnancy changes the mindset of lots of women |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Madmazel99(m): 11:10am On May 17, 2022 |
Poswahala:there is nothing wrong with your decision. You can adopt a child, if you so much desire to have a child. 1 Like |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Nobody: 11:13am On May 17, 2022 |
Poswahala: The truth is Giving birth to children is a zero sum game. Over 70% of parents regret using their youth for child birth and raising children. As a person. You should have a life. Life. Experience life. Before thinking of children. When it comes to marriage. It's all about what you want. For me. I belive everyone deserves companionship. Infact we crave it. That's why people do all sort of things just to have a companion. We hide it. We praize breakup stories even gave it a name. Breakfast just to make up for our lack of campanionship. If u find a partner, whom u both sincerely care for each other. And want to see each other happy at all times. Getting married won't be bad. Be very open and communicate in details. I mean u both should be committed. That u can even know each others phone passwords without issue kind of committed. Our world is dynamic and changing. The way marriage was done 1000 years ago won't work today. So by all means do u. And always remember to protect your peace of mind at all times. 1 Like |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by OBTOREPA(m): 11:13am On May 17, 2022 |
Poswahala:I think you have spiritual husband and needs deliverance, that's how it does at time. Secondly move closer to God,Jesus will help you. Mathew 11:28 come unto me all ye that labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Also John 15:4-6. Turn to Lord Jesus today and you shall be free. For if the son of man shall make you free,you shall be free indeed. And when you shall turn to the Lord,the veil shall be taken away. Sister Jesus loves you. For this purpose the son of man was manifested to destroy the works of the devil. And finally beloved Jesus came for this same purpose that you may have life and have it more abundantly. |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by koning: 11:13am On May 17, 2022 |
Newton2024: Marriage and having children are just overrated. Not the sweetest at all. Having children is the biggest risk one can take because you are stuck with it for the rest of your life. There are no guarantees as to how the kids will turn out. Not nowadays anyway. 1 Like |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Giorgia: 11:15am On May 17, 2022 |
Poswahala: Dear Poswahala, I really commend your efforts behind trying to take care of your mental health! It's not easy especially in this our dear country,people always seem to forget that our mental health is a huge part of our holistic nature, once it's not in check,the physical follows along. They aren't a lot of people like you out there, people who can own up to what they are passing through and take the right measures accordingly. This measures differ from person to person depending on the person. If you feel that marriage and kids aren't for you, then don't partake in it! For the love of yourself and for the love of the people who will have to suffer it with you! Some people are not mentally prepared for that and if you feel it's the right choice for yourself PLEASE DO IT! Please pay no heed to all this ignorant nlanders who think life is all about marriage and kids, life is ultimately about your happiness and you must do anything in your power to maintain it. Forget customs and traditions because at the end of the day you eventually do get married and have kids you may end up heavily regretting it and causing serious emotional damage to your family. At this point in your life please seek professional assistance and please talk to any trusted loved one and release some of your burdens, if you are a believer pray to God for guidance and keep trying! Nigerians believe that when a person says he is depressed the person is sad or broke but its more than that! Depression is not something that can be solved with a snap of a finger but it takes time and support from family and friends. I really hope you bounce back because it's not an easy battle! All the best! 1 Like |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by SugarGirl44(f): 11:18am On May 17, 2022 |
Try and seek help first before making a final decision. Having kids would drive a normal person crazy, much less someone who is depressed. And you're on the right track, since you can identify the problem, that's the first step of getting healed. Life is not easy for anybody. Hugs. |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by judedwriter(m): 11:20am On May 17, 2022 |
Newton2024: Yes married life is the sweetest. But if you missed your God ordained life partner, I think it's better to be single than to marry the wrong person. However, no matter who you marry, with patience and tolerance it can succeed. But many people lack patience, tolerance and forgiveness, hence the high divorce rate. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by ultraviolet27(f): 11:20am On May 17, 2022 |
franchasofficia:. Well Said!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by JoyousFurnitire(m): 11:22am On May 17, 2022 |
kingyakos: You know maybe dem get job for you? |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by phazotron(m): 11:23am On May 17, 2022 |
tensazangetsu20: You're talking to one right now |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by sholly28(m): 11:24am On May 17, 2022 |
My advice is for you to your kids now same time trying to see doctor for your mental health. Time no dey wait for person oo, especially women |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by JoyousFurnitire(m): 11:26am On May 17, 2022 |
Holluwhakemmy:Kemo are you sure? Osinachi thought two is better. Recently heard that one husband told his wife that he'll kill her and run out of town |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Sukkyy2010: 11:27am On May 17, 2022 |
You're your problem: reason being that you you're too skeptical about your problem will be resoluted one day. H Change your thinking start believing that you're going to be heal that all this shall pass away anytime soon. Begin to seeing yourself in peace, love harmony, joy and tranquility. Start refilling your subconscious mind with positive thought. Stay positive and think positively. From today onward I want you to start affirming good thing about yourself, start affirming this as follow: "marriage is good it established by God for me to enjoy, my mental state is sane, sound, incredible and fabulous, my life is deepen in love, joy, peace, harmony and tranquility, I'm a blessing I'm blessed with a loving family husband and loving children my life is rich of love." By the time you begin to fill the tank of your subconscious mind with this affirming word then all these this you affirming will begin to be your experience through the power of your subconscious mind. But if you continue to negative your thinking you'll experience negativity because what ever theory, thought or condition we subject ourselves to believe we shall experience. Shallom |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Nobody: 11:27am On May 17, 2022 |
LastProphet: Bottom line is she is married. |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by jrusky(m): 11:29am On May 17, 2022 |
Gentlerespect76: That is it. Any other suggestion or advice given to her will make her life more hellidh. How could you make such rashed decidion and think depression will not rent duplex apartment in your brain? |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by Roseey0(f): 11:29am On May 17, 2022 |
Once you meet a good man, all this will change |
Re: As A Woman I Have Decided I'm Never Getting Married Or Having Kids by DOnlooker(m): 11:30am On May 17, 2022 |
Have you considered the fact that having a child might just be the game changer in your depressive state? A baby might just give you a bright new purpose to be happy and conquer your depression because you want to be there for him or her. The bond shared might overcome your fears. From your post, it seems lack of money is not a cardinal issue for you so you could afford a live in nanny. Just know, you will feel terrible in retirement home when you watch your fellow housemates receiving visits and love from their children and grandchildren. Love and care from family is different from the one you will get from the caregivers in the best retirement facility. Finally, you are not alone in this depression issue, most people are just strutting along. Cheers |
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