So, my wife and I share similar career path. Though am ahead of her. My office got some new openings which she is qualified. Interestingly, I may be playing a major role on who gets the offers.

So comes my worry:
Can I facilitate my wife who is keen on her career? Do I have to worry about any regrets in future?

2). My wife manages our family bizness(and is doing very well on it, bringing in all the back up money) and children, what will happen to our bizness?

3). This good offer will require her to relocate, by extension, my whole family relocating. DOES it worth it?

4). Will I be accused of nepotism by HR auditors of recommending my qualified wife for the role(though she will be bearing her maiden name, I worry that the secret may not be for long before rumors start flying)

The job is quite rewarding, pay is excellent and entails free foreign travels.

To be clearer, my biggest worry is her loyalty as a wife if she gets very powerful and no more 'fake' office flirting.

Married Career people, HR executives pls advice me

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If you think your wife is matured enough to work under pressure and you can trust her to handle both the new role at your place of work and that of family responsibilities, then its owk if you recommend her.

As for people getting to know later that she's your wife is not important. The most important thing is that she is eminently qualified for that position.

Giving your wife such an opportunity to build her career in her study area would add value to her and to your family. However if the pay won't really add much to your family's finance, then its not really necessary.
Let her focus on the family business

Family first

I think if she is competent as you mentioned then competency should come first. Give her the chance and be as professional as possible in your dealings.


It all starts and ends with you, your wife is not the problem.


You can hire me as your wing man in HR to make sure you dont fück up.

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kwaso2:
So, my wife and I share similar career path. Though am ahead of her. My office got some new openings which she is qualified. Interestingly, I may be playing a major role on who gets the offers.

So comes my worry:
Can I facilitate my wife who is keen on her career? Do I have to worry about any regrets in future?

Regret shouldn't come to your mind because this is your wife you should know and understand her better

2). My wife manages our family bizness(and is doing very well on it, bringing in all the back up money) and children, what will happen to our bizness?

This shows she is a committed person and can joggle her work and family together successfully.

3). This good offer will require her to relocate, by extension, my whole family relocating. DOES it worth it?

It worth it. If it is relocating abroad then over worth it dey worry am.

4). Will I be accused of nepotism by HR auditors of recommending my qualified wife for the role(though she will be bearing her maiden name, I worry that the secret may not be for long before rumors start flying)

No body will accuse of nepotism since she is very qualified for the job. And she is ready to put in her best since it is her field and career. Anyone who accuses you of nepotism is jealous of you and your wife. Because it is kind of rare to find to career driven minded couple.

The job is quite rewarding, pay is excellent and entails free foreign travels.

Just give her this opportunity and see how she'll do and importantly cherish you for the rest of her life. Because if she here pere that you were in the position to give her her dream job and you didn't because of some flimsy reason then be rest assured the won't be any peace in your home again.

To be clearer, my biggest worry is her loyalty as a wife if she gets very powerful and no more 'fake' office flirting.

Haba now, like i said earlier you should know her better now. Have you had any reason whatsoever to suspect her since you got married? If no, please give her the benefit of doubt.

Married Career people, HR executives pls advice me

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Let me add that, there is nothing wrong in couples working in the same office as long as there is professionalism in your doings. Leave family matters outside office. Infact, i remember doing my IT in one organisation where the husband was a director in the department i was doing my IT and the wife was a staff in another department. Could you believe i didn't know his wife was in that organisation until i was told one day by driver when he drove me to run some office errand. Still i couldn't believe it because for once i haven't seen her come to his office. And they don't even come to office with the same car. Everyone uses their car. Forget it they were all top people in the organisation.

Hi OP. I think it should boil down to ur company's HR policy.

But from my little experience, most organizations frown at such but some are beginning to relax in that but with the caveat that ur job function doesn't relate to each other at all wch ain't the case with urs.

Professionally it is very wrong since ur line of work are related and she would most likely be reporting to u. From Internal Control angle that poses lots of risk to the org majorly Familiarity risk (u will always subconsciously want to favor her when making decisions and both of u can even collude to swindle the coy - Imagining a sitn where both of u are signatories).

Speak with ur Coys HR to know what the biz policy says about having relatives working in ur coy

never i repeat be involve in office romance either your wife or jus girlfriend should not work in same organization. writing from experience

kwaso2:
So, my wife and I share similar career path. Though am ahead of her. My office got some new openings which she is qualified. Interestingly, I may be playing a major role on who gets the offers.

So comes my worry:
Can I facilitate my wife who is keen on her career? Do I have to worry about any regrets in future?

2). My wife manages our family bizness(and is doing very well on it, bringing in all the back up money) and children, what will happen to our bizness?

3). This good offer will require her to relocate, by extension, my whole family relocating. DOES it worth it?

4). Will I be accused of nepotism by HR auditors of recommending my qualified wife for the role(though she will be bearing her maiden name, I worry that the secret may not be for long before rumors start flying)

The job is quite rewarding, pay is excellent and entails free foreign travels.

To be clearer, my biggest worry is her loyalty as a wife if she gets very powerful and no more 'fake' office flirting.

Married Career people, HR executives pls advice me

Mods, please push to the front for wider opinions

If she is qualified for the job, key her apply when she gets it you resign and face the one she was doing

As for loyalty, if she wants to be loyal to you she will remain
Then most important thing now is how yo increase the inflow of cash into the family

If she is mature enough not mix business with pleasure, if both of you dint get to see much in the office I mean you guys work in different environments.

Richy4:
<<<Firstly.. Stay away from nepotism... It's a bad business...

<<Secondly... It's a bad idea working together with your wife in the same team...Reason being that if there's a problem in the family, it might affect the productivity as well as the team's efforts to finish a project... Because both of u will not bring in your best...

<< Thirdly...If there's a conflicts at your place of work and your wife was involved, and u discovered that she was at fault,.. if u decide to take a decision in favour of the other person, as the boss, be100% certain that that decision you took will escort you back home...

<< Finally.. jealousy... If she was promoted more than you. Or suddenly u found out that she was 'doing over well'. u might start questioning her faithfulness... Or if a lady is your boss.. and u were being promoted and she was left out... U don't need to know how that will make her feel... That's where office rumours will start flying... Again the idea that she's too playful, familiar etc with a co-worker might make u hate someone unjustly... Hence probably hindering the career advancement of the worker or dismissing whatever good intentions/ suggestions he has for the team.. which might affect productivity..

<< Look for an opening for her in another department... Or u can bring her in and work for her transfer to another section or department... But nepotism has never worked for any country...

OP this the advice you should follow.
Do otherwise and you'll regret it.
Take my word for it.

OP, you have a family business which is the inheritance of your children and not a business that belongs to someone who you will retire from. Let her continue to manage the family business, so when your children are of age, they won't be looking for job.

Also, if anything happens to this company, it means both of you will go down financially.

See the family business as an investment in your future.

Over familiarity is not good.it Will generate love bombing .you won't have freedom.when I mean freedom I don't mean it in a negative way.for example if you are hosting with a female colleague who's unmarried possibly in your office your wife may begin to feel uncomfortable and negative energy Will Start which will affect your marriage.it will limit your interactions and relationships with other co workers because she will always have her eyes on you

Many offices have policies that forbid couples from working together in the same unit to prevent collusion and maintain professionalism. Ideally, you should notify HR of a potential conflict of interest in you partaking in the recruitment as your wife is a candidate and ask to recluse yourself.