Throughout our experience working with long distance relationship couples, we had discovered that there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. Below are some of the advices that we have compiled over the years. Although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship. Consider some of the below do and don’t list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.

Do’s

1) Establish an effective communication channel
The very first thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Most people will think that telephone is the most convenient mode of communication but apart from the telephone services, there are some other alternative you can use. Instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.

2) Plan to meet each other
There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other again at an interval of time throughout the period of your long distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement, hope and as well as eliminating the lonely feeling in your LDR.

3) Build hobby that you can both share
By building and keeping a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach ability but never leave out conventional hobby as well because you do not need to have your partner’s physical present to share a hobby.

4) Surprise your partner
Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your partner may be.

5) Capture and share that interesting moment
Throughout the period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance.

Don’ts

1) Settle for a temporary replacement
One of the mistakes that a distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around. By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be done intentionally but this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.

2) Take the relationship lightly
The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that, your partner has their own right to participate in any decision making toward the well being of your relationship regardless where there are. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has their own right to be treated fairly.

3) Wait and see attitude
Most of the failures in distance relationship that we observed are contributed by the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In a LDR, both partners must be committed and proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.

4) Suspicion
There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. Although it is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.

5) Succumb to negative comment on LDR
Couples in distance relationship always make a mistake by believing that LDR do not work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I had successfully conquered my own distance relationship due to the reason that I am not influence by any of the bad comments I received.

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@Kate angel
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I really enjoyed your very interesting piece! wow!!!, WHAT PLANET DO YOU LIVE IN? ,
You should get in touch with PLANET EARTH where I LIVE, As far as i know, LDR's are notin but LDR's (Lonely,depressing relationships).
We know the world we live in so why do we decieve ourselves like this, If you LOVE someone who's far away from you for long periods, then fine, go ahead and toture yourself, If you feel that person's worth it, If not, wake up AND MOVE ON, I HAVE LOST COUNT OF THE NUMBER OF FEMALES IN LDR's that ive been with, and my God you should see them on the phone when they 'communicate' with the 'far of prince', and as soon as the conversation is over, she's all mine again (they deserve oscar awards).I wonder why people decieve themselves, more than half the people in LDR's can't stand it yet they continue till 1 or both paties get really hurt.
My advice to you is if you are in an LDR, know that the most constant thing in life is change, 1,2 or three yrs down the line would your parthner be comfortable with whom you have evolved into, the kind of things that interest you, the company you keep, by the time it dawns on you, you'll be shocked how many years have wasted, THINK BEFORE YOU NUTURE AN LDR!

u are right, long distance relationship is not worth it;dont waste ur time.

knight007:

u are right, long distance relationship is not worth it;don't waste your time.

Agree! LDR works for the "spititual" and the "ever so holy". Those with lots of faith and promise in the "word"! Please what is that?

LDRs are nt easy at all. It needs a lot of commitment and trust. I'm in one rite nw, and it hasn't been easy. Only God's grace and loyalty 4rm da partners can really save a long distance relatnshp. I wudn't advise anybdy 2 go into it, bt most times it jst cums up, and one person jst has to travel.

My advice to you is if you are in an LDR, know that the most constant thing in life is change, 1,2 or three yrs down the line would your parthner be comfortable with whom you have evolved into, the kind of things that interest you, the company you keep, by the time it dawns on you, you'll be shocked how many years have wasted, THINK BEFORE YOU NUTURE AN LDR! [/quote] true talk.

LDR can really be boring esp when the dark-hours approaches yet with the No.1, half probs is solved. Everything starts with No. 1 plus 4 and 5 works also..the key is, trust your partner.

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by the time it dawns on you, you'll be shocked how many years have wasted, THINK BEFORE YOU NUTURE AN LDR!

Precisely. I wasted almost 3years of my beautiful life waiting for somebody I tot was worth the stress. It works for very few people and provided you guyz aren't away for too long.

LDRs work just like a normal relations but it is hard work

Long distance relationship checking in! So far its been 6 months! Not easy. trust is very important as with having your own life. There is a limit on the amount of time and communication is key. All you can do is be yourself and pray that when you are reunited both parties are still willing to make things work.