boyfwend:



She only came for holidays, not as she stays over here with me.
Moreover, this is not the first time of her coming to my place. My parents are aware of her.

Which yeye holidays? So the ASUU strike is not holiday enough for her? She no get parents?

Show gratitude boy
There are millions of people who will gladly trade place with you... What will you say if your dad goes back to his old ways?...

Guy just be calm with the old man, ur father was a good man, just that once money was not coming as expected anymore A gallam house father become irresponsible man in front of families, OP suicide is not the best option pls, life is all about patients and perseverance pls

Doubleoh7:


You still don't get the point do you? In this condition you are lamenting you found yourself in, the least thing you need is the distraction and extra burden that comes with having a relationship, and even reach for her to be coming with you to the house on holidays. Wait till that 'little' school fees assistance from your dad disappears and see how challenging it will be on you to meet up. You should be fighting to break off this vicious cycle your dad started with you and your siblings and not trying to increase your pace running the rat race. You really need to set your priorities right

Most niger delta youths are like that they can't bear to live without a girlfriend by their side no matter the extreme condition they find themselves in the ones who don't have are mocked by their friends it's like a cultural thing over here.

Mrexcell:



Most niger delta youths are like that they can't bear to live without a girlfriend by their side no matter the extreme condition they find themselves in the ones who don't have are mocked by their friends it's like a cultural thing over here.

Bros, you see woman and Sapele water? Most Niger Delta guys just can't do without the two. No be juju be dat?

AmgMakanaki:


You know your condition, you still the bring girl come house... be like girl never laugh you before when una go get small quarrel. Baba I hail o... Talking from experience

Exactly o

Make babe see me and my family finish for that situation, chai the guy dey try o

Your papa is a stay at home dad and still reason you school fees. My papa no dey reason me shishi

I wish I had your father to provide school fees and accommodation for me then I will be so grateful to handle the rest.

Samakus:


As a 300L, broke, depressed student?

My point is.. at 300L you have a GF of 2 years whom you have been bringing home for a while now and your parents are allowing that? Coupled with your brokeness and boiling depression and the state of your house, bringing a girl home should not be in your books. If you impregnated that girl, na suffering pro max. You're accusing your father of being a failure and you're towing his path? No be juju be that? You think there wasn't a time your father hustled like you? Na by hustling?

Little things matter. A student, poor and depressed for that matter, having the audacity to bring a girl home is the big turn off for me. Like, you wan marry the girl like this? In this your condition? You no like yourself obviously.


Whatever that sails your boat. I'm gone

When I was in school, I no fit answer girlfriend call for my papa front...,how much more bringing her into d house. Wait o, ur papa indulge all diz shit from u and.... Geez!
Dats being unruly!
For me to bring gal into our house just for a mere visit was more of a smuggling biz... Certainly my parents wouldn't b at home. But u have d guts to bring in women to live with u guys in d name of holiday...? I don comot hand.

boyfwend:
Sorry to bother y'all.

So let me brief you all a little bit about myself, I'm the first son of a family of five. Also a 300-level student, all my life I have been depressing and saddened by the kind of family I found myself in.

First of all, I must commend my dad for pulling me from secondary level to University.
The only thing I know my dad does for me is to pay my school fees and he leaves me with no other choice again.
Let me clear y'all a lot about him.

Second of all, he does nothing, he's one of the Niger Delta amnesty beneficiaries which occurred some years ago. Ever since then, he depend on all that money to train five children.
He's a stay-at-home dad, lol!
My dad left me with depression and hunger for me to deal with here in school.

Now, what got me annoyed to bring this issue here is, that I came back home for some weeks now to sustain myself because I have been going through a lot over there.
The little work that I use to do here in the village, was to get small money for myself and the girl that I brought home. This man has been relying on me all this while to be bringing money for feeding and any household stuff.

I have been here for two months now, working from Monday to Sunday and coming back late at night without any single savings on me.
I cry every night, laying curses on myself and that angel that made me become a first child.

I give this man every money, ranging from the one he will use and smoke, eat, soap, etc.
All he does is stay in the house from morning to night.

I'm tired!

School is depressing me, I have many courses that I am having issues with and no money to fix all these courses, and I have just a year to leave this school.
Home is also making me choose suicide as the only option left.

Whenever I tell him I don't have money, he blows up and starts threatening me about how he's going to withdraw from assisting me academically.

I'm tired!!

Brother from all indications you'll become a great person in the nearest future, hang on don't let anything your dad does distract you be focus, sucide is never an option it's for weak people, there's so much in life to live for, you never can tell if you'll become a gorvemorone day or a Dangote and obi cubana one day, anything can happen in life, when there's life there's hope, use the experience you have about your dad and prepare a better future for your unborn kids and the girl you want to settle with, pls never settle with a lazy girl,

pretydiva:
With what you are going through, you still brought a girl home as per say you be her papa or brother. You are your own problem op

You better send her back to her father and focus more on yourself. As for your father, why give him all the money you worked for? You better start saving up

Dats if he's giving d old man anything. He pays his school fees and possibly rent.(certainly d dad is as broke as he makes him look).
I think d young man is being depressed cos of d uncalled responsibility he brought upon himself...(d gal on holiday). Being broke can make a man gnash teeth.... Wen he's unable to vent for d gal and his own personal needs, he transfers d aggression on d father.

Till I finished school I neva openly brought a gal home. Anbrosco go just shoot me on d head, my dad doesn't take nonsense.

Like father like son

Take heart bro. Keep pushing, but try make you no come depend on that amnesty money o

Op just endure
Time makes it absolutely impossible for any situation to be permanent �

VirileNelly2420:

When I was in school, I no fit answer girlfriend call for my papa front...,how much more bringing her into d house. Wait o, ur papa indulge all diz shit from u and.... Geez!
Dats being unruly!
For me to bring gal into our house just for a mere visit was more of a smuggling biz... Certainly my parents wouldn't b at home. But u have d guts to bring in women to live with u guys in d name of holiday...? I don comot hand.

Parenting in the mud..

And this is obviously not the first time. Why won't he have the temerity to be referring to his father the way he is if they didn't indulge him earlier?

Revolution2022:
A full time students won't have that time.How him won take concentrate for class?Na so-so sleep he go dey sleep during lectures.A part time student only attends classes on weekends.Leave that talk.I no believe you no matter how you explain.

Dem say who no go, no know. I say, who no go, no go fit believe! Na person wey never see snake dey call am rope.

One thing in life is that when one is faced with an issue where one doesn't have any other option than to brave the odds, one normally channel his inner Jet Li.

Where there's a will, way go always show


Cheers

Ulunne777:
I'm sorry ,Did you say you brought a girl back home?
Like you still added another load to the one you are carrying.

Do The parents of these girls not worry about where/whom their daughters are with or why they are away from home.

Family values have really fallen in our society.
Tueh!

Family values are now history in many homes. Our cultural values which shaped our lives positively are now seen as old school.

IF YOUR DAD WAS A RICH MAN THINGS WOULD HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT

Try to focus on school so that you can start something and move out. You don't have any business bringing a girl home now. You are just complicating your life unnecessarily.

boyfwend:
Sorry to bother y'all.

So let me brief you all a little bit about myself, I'm the first son of a family of five. Also a 300-level student, all my life I have been depressing and saddened by the kind of family I found myself in.

First of all, I must commend my dad for pulling me from secondary level to University.
The only thing I know my dad does for me is to pay my school fees and he leaves me with no other choice again.
Let me clear y'all a lot about him.

Second of all, he does nothing, he's one of the Niger Delta amnesty beneficiaries which occurred some years ago. Ever since then, he depend on all that money to train five children.
He's a stay-at-home dad, lol!
My dad left me with depression and hunger for me to deal with here in school.

Now, what got me annoyed to bring this issue here is, that I came back home for some weeks now to sustain myself because I have been going through a lot over there.
The little work that I use to do here in the village, was to get small money for myself and the girl that I brought home. This man has been relying on me all this while to be bringing money for feeding and any household stuff.

I have been here for two months now, working from Monday to Sunday and coming back late at night without any single savings on me.
I cry every night, laying curses on myself and that angel that made me become a first child.

I give this man every money, ranging from the one he will use and smoke, eat, soap, etc.
All he does is stay in the house from morning to night.

I'm tired!

School is depressing me, I have many courses that I am having issues with and no money to fix all these courses, and I have just a year to leave this school.
Home is also making me choose suicide as the only option left.

Whenever I tell him I don't have money, he blows up and starts threatening me about how he's going to withdraw from assisting me academically.

I'm tired!!

You said that you brought a girl home??
Explain better.
Which girl is that??
At least,, let us know if a huge sum of your money goes away on her head too..

boyfwend:
Sorry to bother y'all.

So let me brief you all a little bit about myself, I'm the first son of a family of five. Also a 300-level student, all my life I have been depressing and saddened by the kind of family I found myself in.

First of all, I must commend my dad for pulling me from secondary level to University.
The only thing I know my dad does for me is to pay my school fees and he leaves me with no other choice again.
Let me clear y'all a lot about him.

Second of all, he does nothing, he's one of the Niger Delta amnesty beneficiaries which occurred some years ago. Ever since then, he depend on all that money to train five children.
He's a stay-at-home dad, lol!
My dad left me with depression and hunger for me to deal with here in school.

Now, what got me annoyed to bring this issue here is, that I came back home for some weeks now to sustain myself because I have been going through a lot over there.
The little work that I use to do here in the village, was to get small money for myself and the girl that I brought home. This man has been relying on me all this while to be bringing money for feeding and any household stuff.

I have been here for two months now, working from Monday to Sunday and coming back late at night without any single savings on me.
I cry every night, laying curses on myself and that angel that made me become a first child.

I give this man every money, ranging from the one he will use and smoke, eat, soap, etc.
All he does is stay in the house from morning to night.

I'm tired!

School is depressing me, I have many courses that I am having issues with and no money to fix all these courses, and I have just a year to leave this school.
Home is also making me choose suicide as the only option left.

Whenever I tell him I don't have money, he blows up and starts threatening me about how he's going to withdraw from assisting me academically.

I'm tired!!

The one I have in my head will not allow me to say anything about it.

Really

Slynation:
Anyways...I don't know the ship you both are into, but a hustling guy in this kinda situation doesn't need a GF...!!

Broke man no go fok?

@OP, your dad was an ex-militant. Go for intense prayers because, normally, e no suppose better for am and his offspring. go break those series of curses.

boyfwend:



She only came for holidays, not as she stays over here with me.
Moreover, this is not the first time of her coming to my place. My parents are aware of her.

Bros your head is not correct!

boyfwend:
Sorry to bother y'all.

So let me brief you all a little bit about myself, I'm the first son of a family of five. Also a 300-level student, all my life I have been depressing and saddened by the kind of family I found myself in.

First of all, I must commend my dad for pulling me from secondary level to University.
The only thing I know my dad does for me is to pay my school fees and he leaves me with no other choice again.
Let me clear y'all a lot about him.

Second of all, he does nothing, he's one of the Niger Delta amnesty beneficiaries which occurred some years ago. Ever since then, he depend on all that money to train five children.
He's a stay-at-home dad, lol!
My dad left me with depression and hunger for me to deal with here in school.

Now, what got me annoyed to bring this issue here is, that I came back home for some weeks now to sustain myself because I have been going through a lot over there.
The little work that I use to do here in the village, was to get small money for myself and the girl that I brought home. This man has been relying on me all this while to be bringing money for feeding and any household stuff.

I have been here for two months now, working from Monday to Sunday and coming back late at night without any single savings on me.
I cry every night, laying curses on myself and that angel that made me become a first child.

I give this man every money, ranging from the one he will use and smoke, eat, soap, etc.
All he does is stay in the house from morning to night.

I'm tired!

School is depressing me, I have many courses that I am having issues with and no money to fix all these courses, and I have just a year to leave this school.
Home is also making me choose suicide as the only option left.

Whenever I tell him I don't have money, he blows up and starts threatening me about how he's going to withdraw from assisting me academically.

I'm tired!!

Guy not just only your father, all Niger Deltan both old and young are lazy people including you

Be steadfast
Be courageous

Your father had fought his fight, he is, resting enjoying his pension.

Don't kill yourself, be calm

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honour7:


So with all this problems you are facing, instead of you to focus on your education, you still get power take carry woman dey feed am, bros you no get problem.

Wassup na
Some of you don't understand that some people balance their lives by filling all aspects of their lives.
Financial
Educational
Emotional.

Remove one of those things and they'll break down completely.
Our coping mechanisms are pretty different
His is by multitasking several aspects of his life, making them run concurrently to create the balance he needs.

Remove that lady now and he might completely break down.
We judge too much abeg.
Psychological stress is real
That guy can have mental issues due to all these.
Let's stop castigating and respond in love and thoughtfulness instead.

McLizbae:


Bros your head is not correct!

Rest abeg
Can't we show more love ni

Jamesayo:
Mine is a family of four and seems we share similar story in just dad paying school fees. See my beloved, you need to keep working on yourself. Let's start from there.

From what I read, you ain't helping your situation, not even your dad is the problem. Your words are hurting your future. You need a change of mindset. It worked for me. Say positive words to yourself, sweet things in difficult situations. The more negative, the worse things will become. The family you are born has effect on you, and needs to break out from there.

After real work on that, then focus on relocation. What I did was to find a small apartment outside school and plan real life with myself and God. Going back home was no option, so dad hitch is no more my concern. Lazy or not, I grind myself harder where I was. I learnt video editing, trained in Project Management Professional, got certified globally, learnt baking, coding, graphics, working on fiverr, bulk messaging, etc. Those days are never funny as I learnt the art of saving and investing. I kept my mouth shut while grinding, I've got the plan.

I'm not there yet, but I can tell you poverty is out of my way, blessed with 2 babies, and can keep telling the goodness of God all round. It all started in my Part 2 days in the University.

Sit down, ask yourself what skill can you learn. Shift your mindset from working to training or business. Speak positively today for a brighter future; "I am unique", "my background has no hold over me", "I am a blessing to my family", "I am great", "I move in the wisdom of the Almighty", "I pay my dues and do the needful", "Heaven favors me, men favor me",...
There are free online courses you can take with google, learn, earn and repeat. Always keep learning, forever learning...

Peace!!!

Lovely
Bringing the affirmations into it made it remarkable

If your father is that lazy, then consider making him the president of the Lazy Youths Association of Nigeria.