OlawaleBammie:
na wetin hin mama tell her be that

Octobertwentysix:






It's ok, am not absolving his father from any blames we are all humans and we have our own flaws, but that boy is an ungrateful son, his mum's money is small meaning it's his dad that had been talking care of his education but what did he get in return, ingratitude and an evil plan in his mind, I am married with three children and marriage is not a bed of roses sometimes we had issues but I never speak ill of my husband to my children, no matter what. Until women shield their issues with their husband from their children fathers will continue to suffer after all their labours, we have bad father's no doubt but we also have bad or even worse mothers. I just wish God will open the eyes of his father to see the evil plan his son has for him, I pity the future of his father.

revolt:


Ofcos... the dummy is taking sides not knowing sh@t

Failure44:
I'm in pains and so annoyed.
I can't even boast of 10k in my account,
I'm crippled with debts on loan apps
This ASUU strike has only made my life worse.
The useless man I call a father that earns half a million monthly, spends It on drinking. I vow to make that man suffer at old age and to bury him in a shallow grave.
What did I do in my past life to be born into a broken home?
Where both parents are like cat and dog.
While my mates were learning yahoo, I was reading like a fool preparing for school.
Now I have secured the so called medicine but am suffering in silence while they're buying cars.

Do you know how painful it is to see the same people you were with now buying cars and using the latest phone?
How painful it is to see them spraying money in the club while you're borrowing money from loan apps?
How painful it is too them those you helped now snub your messages?

Now I understand why people commit suicide

MoneyMustBMade:

I like your talk that is what his mum supposed to be telling the idiot boy

May God bless all ur children's. Amen

Octobertwentysix:





Amen, thank you, na yeye pikin with a yeye mama.

Bad advice... Africans are damaged thanks to this mentality...

You mustn't suffer to be responsible... Compare yourselves to your mates in the West...

Your independence was borne out of a need to survive... Your father messed you up... Cause his father treated him bad, he did the same to you? And you think that's normal?

Children should grow in a home with supportive parents who help them transition into adulthood... Not abandon them...

And the op mustn't reconcile with his father... If someone doesn't love you enough, then you let them go...

A father who watches his children suffer is irresponsible... There's no excuse or reason for his selfish actions...

Failure44:
I'm in pains and so annoyed.
I can't even boast of 10k in my account,
I'm crippled with debts on loan apps
This ASUU strike has only made my life worse.
The useless man I call a father that earns half a million monthly, spends It on drinking. I vow to make that man suffer at old age and to bury him in a shallow grave.
What did I do in my past life to be born into a broken home?
Where both parents are like cat and dog.
While my mates were learning yahoo, I was reading like a fool preparing for school.
Now I have secured the so called medicine but am suffering in silence while they're buying cars.

Do you know how painful it is to see the same people you were with now buying cars and using the latest phone?
How painful it is to see them spraying money in the club while you're borrowing money from loan apps?
How painful it is too them those you helped now snub your messages?

Now I understand why people commit suicide

Failure44:
I'm in pains and so annoyed.
I can't even boast of 10k in my account,
I'm crippled with debts on loan apps
This ASUU strike has only made my life worse.
The useless man I call a father that earns half a million monthly, spends It on drinking. I vow to make that man suffer at old age and to bury him in a shallow grave.
What did I do in my past life to be born into a broken home?
Where both parents are like cat and dog.
While my mates were learning yahoo, I was reading like a fool preparing for school.
Now I have secured the so called medicine but am suffering in silence while they're buying cars.

Do you know how painful it is to see the same people you were with now buying cars and using the latest phone?
How painful it is to see them spraying money in the club while you're borrowing money from loan apps?
How painful it is too them those you helped now snub your messages?

Now I understand why people commit suicide

CHoccolaTE:
So many future dead beat dads in the comment section. See them defending Op's fathers behavior.

There is no justification for abandoning your 19yr old child to fend for himself when you earn half a million. I don't know how some Nigerian men reason. That's just wickedness, especially when you know he is studying a course like medicine that hardly gives time for side hustle.

If you know you can't cater for kids then don't give birth. Simple.

But Nigerian men will always defend each other even in evil doing. One person is already looking for how to shift the blame to his mother sef.

dominique:


If she was earning what the father is earning, he wouldn't be in this situation. You guys must always look for an angle to shift the blame of your failure in parenting on the mother, it's not going to fly this time so REST!

MoneyMustBMade:


I swear, serious yeye mama
Just imagine the product
Tomorrow now u will see him with gun rubbing people in the name of having bad father

LINTUNE:
oga shut up....the dude is still very young to rely on his dad...na poverty do u while growing up,na why u commot for ur papa house @13..all this stupid motivational talks about hustling , as if success is about suffer head this day's....why not just accept that his father is irresponsible rather than blame a 19 year old boy for relying on his father for the basics.....me self at the age of 16 I don de hustle for my own money but Las Las, na cos say we no too get money for house...u as a father,would u encourage your child to leave home and hustle at just 19?....u think say suffer na good thing?

Acidosis:



What did you do with loans? To pay school fees, feed, or club like your criminal friends?

Romanoff:
From some of the comments on this post, I pity women wey go marry una and I feel sorry for children wey una go born.

@Op, channel your energy towards paying your debt and being somebody your father would want to associate with in future. Then, you'd be able to decide and be justified if you want such a horrible person in your life.

Just humble yourself. If it's site work, go and do, if it's to be offloading goods from trucks in warehouses, do it.

Focus on your goal and do everything legit to achieve it.

Be very close to your mum, tell her what you're going through. Don't exclude her from sharing in your burden, be open to her, she's all you've got.

Thespagchef:


Excuse me, whose money should he be entitled to, your father's...

You people are the reason why there is an upsurge in crime and ritual killings among 17-29 year olds.

19 year old should go and hustle, God abeg.

Failure44:

Textbook and airtime

Didnt you read where I said I spend all my time studying while my friends were doing fraud?

Octobertwentysix:


Not everybody will get a job or capital to do business....

I bet u some graduates or OND person's are looking for this pump attendant jobs but no one to link them to it.....

We should try not to compare ourselves with others 'making it's.

U guys think 19 years is an adult...smh

One person may use his holidays to work while the other person needs that holiday to read/study and catch up, different people with their coping abilities in school/ course of study.

Seems Nigerians have dulled their conscience about people's plight especially when they overcome similar situations.

May life not happen to us.....Or may affliction not come again to us.






Don't say that he said he's owing a total of 30k which he borrowed and ASUU is on strike he just wants to pay back his loan, if you take your time to understand his post you will find out that his anger is based on the following:
1. While he was busy studying to gain admission his friends were doing yahoo.
2. Now he has gained admission and is on two hundred level ASUU is on strike he's broke and has nothing while his friends are balling, using the latest phone and spraying money.
3. His father who he expects to at least find him something is busy spending all his money.
4. He's owing loan apps the total sum of 30k. The issue of his father beating his mother was the least he talked about. Right now he's at home why not use this moment to do something, my neighbor's 19 year old son who is studying medicine has been working as a pump attendant in Rain oil filling station since the ASUU strike what stops him from doing thesame, his father didn't deny him food or shelter.

Spherica17:
it is better He aborted him than making him go through all these misery. You sounded like giving birth to someone is a huge favour to the child. If you don't know mad men/women on the street can give birth to a child. Responsibility is the key factor

More reason why abortion needs to be legalise in this developing nation

VeryWickedMan:


Leave story & answer the question
You have such a great mom & you are still borrowing from loan apps but only your Dad is the problem.

Failure44:


I'll understand the reason why he did it?
How do you understand your father beating your mother countless times in front of you?
Or trying to kill you and your brothers?
Or breaking house properties
Or threatening not to pay my school fees?
Or embarrassing the family name?

See, I'll work hard to better myself and become a great father for my kids( that's if I get married)
But i swear on my life, that man will see hell from my hand.

If you think mikel did his father badly, that man hasn't seen anything.
A shallow grave is where he'll land

akaahs:

Hmmmmmmmmmm, at 19 very very indeed!
What of if the parents were dead at 19

sharone21:


Did u study Medicine? Cos I know even Nursing is very difficult with no time left for any hustling.

Do u know if he borrowed money for his handouts, hostel fee, some medications/ multivitamins which help him stay alive while he burnt the night oil to pass to yr 2(200l)?

Una go just dey yarn nonsense for public forum, no motherly love in your words even if some callous men in the group are saying nonsense. Your type only loves their OWN children . Abi u wish your child hustling unnecessarily without some support and comforting words from the dad?

Tufiakwa!

Fashdeejay:


No matter what your father does, you are a product of his sperm upgraded. Focus the energy you are using to hate to become better than he is.... I do not support any father no being a good father but you'll realize more when you are old enough, you'll understand the reason why he is like this.... My dad once said to me and I quote him 'my father didnt do it for me, so why should I do it for you?' .... I became independent from my early teens, working and hustling, my mom tried her best and supported me with prayers.... But one thing I did was take care of them both.... Irrespective of the pain my dad put me through, I spent on him well before he died and he was appreciative of it. Don't be like your father.... Let the hate dissipate and love him irrespective and instead of burning all that energy hating, channel it into making your own greatness ..... The true victory in such battles is when you show him you are better by having him learn from you... Sometimes na bad situation dey jingah growth....

Octobertwentysix:








Thank you and I don't know why people are not seeing this boy for who he really is, God forbid his father dies then he would know what suffering really is, his mum is a teacher whose salary is small so he doesn't collect from her which means it's his father that saw him from primary school to this 200level at the University yet no form of appreciation, ungrateful imp of a son, sometimes we women are the reason why our children hates their fathers, if he's irresponsible and beats her to the extent that blood would splatter on the walls why is she still in that marriage all these years, his problem is that his friends are into yahoo and are balling while he's at home broke and in debt and his father who works hard for his money refused to give him money to live like a big boy.

Failure44:


I'll understand the reason why he did it?
How do you understand your father beating your mother countless times in front of you?
Or trying to kill you and your brothers?
Or breaking house properties
Or threatening not to pay my school fees?
Or embarrassing the family name?

See, I'll work hard to better myself and become a great father for my kids( that's if I get married)
But i swear on my life, that man will see hell from my hand.

If you think mikel did his father badly, that man hasn't seen anything.
A shallow grave is where he'll land

ExudeLoveToAll:




@ first bolded it is really a big problem.

@ second bolded that is the only reason he has gone ballistic. Life is but a stage, he wants to out grow that stage without going through the right hurdles. It's very bad.

Ungratefulness at its peak.