eyinjuege:


Pls don't blame the mother of the child at all. She has been single handedly caring for this child with no financial or physical support from this man for years. She likely can't work because she has to look after the child 24/7, can't have a relationship with anyone else because there's no time or chance and can't get a life at all.
Her life has been put on hold for their child for years. He didn't even make things easier by providing food for the child and the man has just moved on without a care in the world.
Even denying the existence of his disabled child.
The mum of the child too needs to build a life, and it's time for the father to step up too.
If anything at all, the father's home was meant to be a more stable home for that child, but unfortunately he messed it up by not telling his wife about this before marrying her.
He will have to raise that child himself now and know how the mother felt all these years.
He can't work, unless he locks her up alone from morning till night, which is inhumane.
Only few women would want a relationship with a man with such a huge responsibility upon him and no money.
He needs to learn to be a father .
The best solution is to have a meeting with the mother and agree on how much he will be dropping monthly for the child's care, because he owes her big time. He also needs to be checking on the child regularly so the mother doesn't feel alone in this struggle and he should keep the child on some weekends of the month.
She's made her point.
He needs to get up and look for ways of getting out of that 15K job he's doing ( ridiculous)
Nigeria is all messed up

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

sooperrescue:
There's a saying that if you have not gone through life, you should not mock a blind person. What if God wants to use you to heal the child and prevent further calamity in your husband lineage of which you are the keeper. Take care of the child as if she is your own and see what the Lord will do through you.

Blessedmercy8:


In my mind now, I have said something.

I am a Mumu.

Blessedmercy8:


Yes @ bold by God's grace. Anyone can be if they embrace God's grace.

All I'm simply against is her leaving her marriage just under two months. She can't even endure a little and weather the storm with the man for a while.
Her insensitivity is what is making sound like that.

sooperrescue:
There's a saying that if you have not gone through life, you should not mock a blind person. What if God wants to use you to heal the child and prevent further calamity in your husband lineage of which you are the keeper. Take care of the child as if she is your own and see what the Lord will do through you.

H0711:


Yes to be honest with you he can't afford it.

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

sooperrescue:
There's a saying that if you have not gone through life, you should not mock a blind person. What if God wants to use you to heal the child and prevent further calamity in your husband lineage of which you are the keeper. Take care of the child as if she is your own and see what the Lord will do through you.

tonididdy:
That's her father's house also.
The ex-babymama did no wrong dropping her child at her father's.
The wrong is in your court for not doing a thorough finding of such a heavy magnitude!

Well another options if your husbands parents.

portplus:
work with him to get help for the child.
You need your space...besides he did not tell you before now.

jimcaddy:
Why not take the child to a hospice close by for them to take care of. It's not the child's fault she has a disability.

tmoneyu:

Is the innocent child is your sister will u dump her because of her natural ailment, you want to quit ur marriage and go back to the village,? Women sef

tmoneyu:

Is the innocent child is your sister will u dump her because of her natural ailment, you want to quit ur marriage and go back to the village,? Women sef

wjxavier:
Please LEAVE and let him have peace.

Too bad he never knew you were like this. A fair weather wife.

LEAVE!

If I know him I will encourage him to NOT stop you.

You’re the worst kind of woman a man can have. Onky there for comfort.

LEAVE ABEG. Make we hear word.

Roseey0:
I will only say put yourself in the baby's shoe.
Remember you have one growing in you.


Hubby can look for a cheaper facility even if it means taking the child out of the state.

I don't know your location. Stating your location will help people advise on cheaper care facilities for children with disability

sunnymighty:
So disheartening how we despise PWD in this country, so unfortunate.

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
you stink