A close friend of mine invited me to a birthday party he threw for his girlfriend a couple of days ago. I initially declined the invitation but reluctantly agreed when the girl called me personally and pleaded with me to show up.

When it was time to get ready for the party, a peep into my wardrobe reminded me that I had no outing cloths. I hadn't gotten a new cloth for over 4 years. My sapa induced introverted nature somehow masked my need for new stuffs because I hardly go out. A sad reality hit me hard in the face... My two jeans and three tee shirts were badly worn out, no shoes either.

I shaa dressed up and left for the party. I immediately regretted my decision of honouring that invitation immediately I stepped into the venue. I looked so out of place... Guys were all dressed up in nice cloths and latest gadgets, I normally don't let those kinda stuffs bother me but I felt terrible that night.

I sat at a corner observing things till my friend's girlfriend came and yanked me off my seat to take pictures with some of her friends. A friend of hers used an iPhone with three cameras at the back to take the pictures, didn't know the model since both 12 and 13 looks similar.

I went and sat back at my corner till the photo guy came and offered to transfer some of the pictures to me... I hesitated because I knew I didn't want to see the pictures but the guy was persuasive so I gave in. If only I knew the embarrassment that was lying in wait for me.

We proceeded to connect to xender, that was when my antiquated camon CX air that I've been using since 2017 decided to show himself. My phone kept rebooting on its own endlessly till the guy got fed up and left. I was super embarrassed.

My friend still came today to transfer the same pictures to me but I objected vehemently because I looked miserable in all the pictures.
I codedly observed guys in my compound dressed up for church and Sunday outings and came to the conclusion that sapa has been my best friend for a really long while.

HAPPY SUNDAY

I can relate. It's not only SAPA that does these things to people Sha, sometimes it's a product of high isolation.
Most times, we need to move out and mix up with people....

Lmao..
my guy u for no just go..

Keep ur head up .. better days ahead .

Better days ahead bro. One thing I’ll say is don’t feel inferior because of clothes and gadgets.

I buried myself in a cave for most of my life due to Sapa, I didn’t go out, no one invited me to events and I wouldn’t have honored any because I felt I wasn’t good enough.

There are people with a lot less than what you have currently but they give out so much positive energy and are genuinely happy. I envy these guys, you’ll see the way they laugh and crack jokes and think they have everything good in the world.

You even get android, I almost don’t have any picture from the past 9 years, since it was the small “palasa” phones I kept managing.

I won’t lie nice clothes and gadgets are useful and are nice to have but don’t disconnect from everyone because you feel inferior. Even when money comes, the damage you’ll do to your mental health now might not be easy to fix.

Stay positive while you grind bro. Better days ahead.

Lol...

Thanks for making me laugh so hard this afternoon....

Na wa o

Your post reeks of inferiority complex. If you already see yourself as a loser then that energy influences your life. Get your shit together and stop feeling sorry for yourself. The life you want for yourself is within your reach if only you'd dig deep and push yourself. Best of luck

Sekoni003:
Your post reeks of inferiority complex. If you already see yourself as a loser then that energy influences your life. Get your shit together and stop feeling sorry for yourself. The life you want for yourself is within your reach if only you'd dig deep and push yourself. Best of luck

Lamao... I don't have any inferiority complex, I never noticed all those till I went for the party. On a norms those stuffs don't really bother me

When I pull up with my car, i dont care if i'm wearing a pyjamas, i will always steal the show. Men wey get doings

Op is an Introvert..
Sapa make some people Introverts shaa....

Live the life...
Me I dont like big gatherings and all that.. I just like my space and small circle of friends.. Thats all..


Better days ahead bro...
Once again, Live the life!

Sapa make me an introvert too

Nyascobar1414:
Op is an Introvert..

Sapa make some people Introverts shaa....


Live the life...

Me I dont like big gatherings and all that..
I just like my space and small circle of friends..
Thats all..



Better days ahead bro...

Once again, Live the life!

No one can even invite you anywhere before you disgrace them. Homo.

miserable people (like the OP) will never find happiness because they value their life upon what others have. if you truly believe that having a latest phone and fancy gear is what makes you a great person, then you sir need to wake up quick!

here is a simple clue: even if you had an Iphone 13 and wore the fanciest attire, you would still be a miserable person looking down on yourself when you now see dude arriving in Bentley and Rolls Royce....and even when you have a Rolls Royce, you would still be miserable looking down on yourself because some dude would arrive in private jets!

better work on your self esteem and insecurity, as you can never win by blaming others for your insecurities!

For those not versed new lingo, what is sapa?

Perfect Explanation for " if skin no full, comot body"

OP don't worry there are better days ahead
Try to work on your self esteem, remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent

Somebody close to op should give him a hug please

Ficient:
Somebody close to op should give him a hug please

I swr. and me too.

Na person wey wear shoe no where e dey pain am... I can relate with all op wrote 100% but my guy no let am get to you too much, just chin up and stay positive. As long as there's life there's hope and even all those people you see with the best clothes and gadgets still have one or two demons they are fighting.

Supreme145:
A close friend of mine invited me to a birthday party he threw for his girlfriend a couple of days ago. I initially declined the invitation but reluctantly agreed when the girl called me personally and pleaded with me to show up.

When it was time to get ready for the party, a peep into my wardrobe reminded me that I had no outing cloths. I hadn't gotten a new cloth for over 4 years. My sapa induced introverted nature somehow masked my need for new stuffs because I hardly go out. A sad reality hit me hard in the face... My two jeans and three tee shirts were badly worn out, no shoes either.

I shaa dressed up and left for the party. I immediately regretted my decision of honouring that invitation immediately I stepped into the venue. I looked so out of place... Guys were all dressed up in nice cloths and latest gadgets, I normally don't let those kinda stuffs bother me but I felt terrible that night.

I sat at a corner observing things till my friend's girlfriend came and yanked me off my seat to take pictures with some of her friends. A friend of hers used an iPhone with three cameras at the back to take the pictures, didn't know the model since both 12 and 13 looks similar.

I went and sat back at my corner till the photo guy came and offered to transfer some of the pictures to me... I hesitated because I knew I didn't want to see the pictures but the guy was persuasive so I gave in. If only I knew the embarrassment that was lying in wait for me.

We proceeded to connect to xender, that was when my antiquated camon CX air that I've been using since 2017 decided to show himself. My phone kept rebooting on its own endlessly till the guy got fed up and left. I was super embarrassed.

My friend still came today to transfer the same pictures to me but I objected vehemently because I looked miserable in all the pictures.
I codedly observed guys in my compound dressed up for church and Sunday outings and came to the conclusion that sapa has been my best friend for a really long while.

HAPPY SUNDAY

May God bless you and elevate you. May He cause you to be celebrated. I pray you experience an about turn in your circumstances. Jabez prayed and God answered, and so I pray today, unprecedented success shall be yours. God will wipe your shame and clothe you with honour in Jesus name. Amen.

Ficient:
Somebody close to op should give him a hug please

His story moved me.

Sekoni003:
Your post reeks of inferiority complex

Have small empathy abeg.
You have no idea what man is going through.

This is sad and funny at the same time.
Despise not thy days of little beginnings. E go soft one of these days baba. No think am too much maka high .blood pressure. You're not late, it's not just your turn yet.....

MrBrownJay1:
miserable people (like the OP) will never find happiness because they value their life upon what others have. if you truly believe that having a latest phone and fancy gear is what makes you a great person, then you sir need to wake up quick!

here is a simple clue: even if you had an Iphone 13 and wore the fanciest attire, you would still be a miserable person looking down on yourself when you now see dude arriving in Bentley and Rolls Royce....and even when you have a Rolls Royce, you would still be miserable looking down on yourself because some dude would arrive in private jets!

better work on your self esteem and insecurity, as you can never win by blaming others for your insecurities!

Y'all should stfu!
Firstly, there's no single sign of empathy in your long epistle, and that's a huge red flag.

Secondly, there's absolutely no way you'll always be 100% confident or happy when things aren't going your way. There'll always be moments when you question and doubt yourself, and today is one of those days for the OP.

Many of you don't have good sense of judgement, just quick to talk and reply. All the guy needs are real words of encouragement, and not all these text book motivation.

Just be contented dude..
Even the people you envy so much have their own issues....
You're fighting with something much more than clothes, shoes and gadgets. Because when you finally have them and you dress up, you'll still feel like it doesn't fit and you don't belong...
Just let go of your inferiority complex..

I can relate 100%.. Life no just balance and it's just unfair to some of us.. We've ghat no option than to keep pushing and hoping for the best.. Na person wey give up Bleep up.

anochuko01:
Y'all should stfu!
Firstly, there's no single sign of empathy in your long epistle, and that's a huge red flag.

i am not here to have empathy, i am here to give you my HONEST OPINION..you can take it or you can take it. choice is yours as it wont change my opinion on the issue.

Secondly, there's absolutely no way you'll always be 100% confident or happy when things aren't going your way. There'll always be moments when you question and doubt yourself, and today is one of those days for the OP.

it doesnt matter whether someone doubt themselves or not in life....when your whole focus in life is what others possess, then you will never truly be free. why would anyone give a flying fukc what other people have? live your life to the best of your abilities and be done with the misery. how can you ever be happy in life when you focus on people having more than you?!?!

Many of you don't have good sense of judgement, just quick to talk and reply. All the guy needs are real words of encouragement, and not all these text book motivation.

i cant encourage anyone that is focussing on other people....but what i can do is make them understand what is wrong with their stand on life. the minute they stop focussing on other people and their possessions, thats when they will live a better life.
thats MY opinion, and again, you can take it or you can take it.

What is sapa please?

Keep grinding

Supreme145:
A close friend of mine invited me to a birthday party he threw for his girlfriend a couple of days ago. I initially declined the invitation but reluctantly agreed when the girl called me personally and pleaded with me to show up.

When it was time to get ready for the party, a peep into my wardrobe reminded me that I had no outing cloths. I hadn't gotten a new cloth for over 4 years. My sapa induced introverted nature somehow masked my need for new stuffs because I hardly go out. A sad reality hit me hard in the face... My two jeans and three tee shirts were badly worn out, no shoes either.

I shaa dressed up and left for the party. I immediately regretted my decision of honouring that invitation immediately I stepped into the venue. I looked so out of place... Guys were all dressed up in nice cloths and latest gadgets, I normally don't let those kinda stuffs bother me but I felt terrible that night.

I sat at a corner observing things till my friend's girlfriend came and yanked me off my seat to take pictures with some of her friends. A friend of hers used an iPhone with three cameras at the back to take the pictures, didn't know the model since both 12 and 13 looks similar.

I went and sat back at my corner till the photo guy came and offered to transfer some of the pictures to me... I hesitated because I knew I didn't want to see the pictures but the guy was persuasive so I gave in. If only I knew the embarrassment that was lying in wait for me.

We proceeded to connect to xender, that was when my antiquated camon CX air that I've been using since 2017 decided to show himself. My phone kept rebooting on its own endlessly till the guy got fed up and left. I was super embarrassed.

My friend still came today to transfer the same pictures to me but I objected vehemently because I looked miserable in all the pictures.
I codedly observed guys in my compound dressed up for church and Sunday outings and came to the conclusion that sapa has been my best friend for a really long while.

HAPPY SUNDAY

The big question is; what are you doing Right now? Are you making any moves to level up?

chival:

May God bless you and elevate you. May He cause you to be celebrated. I pray you experience an about turn in your circumstances. Jabez prayed and God answered, and so I pray today, unprecedented success shall be yours. God will wipe your shame and clothe you with honour in Jesus name. Amen.

Amen