Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 2,990,393 members, 7,281,610 topics. Date: Sunday, 29 January 2023 at 12:38 PM

Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! - Jobs/Vacancies (4) - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Jobs/Vacancies / Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! (18182 Views)

(2) (3) (4)

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (Reply) (Go Down)

Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by Tonytonex(m): 11:38am On Aug 25, 2022
spice123:
Let me give you a candid advice as a married man:
1. Maintain your teaching job. You are a mother with two lovely kids. Don't let those children suffer for your careless mistake.

2. Talk to him to move to Abuja with you. You are already settled with a job and stable so he too needs to support you by joining you to start looking for job opportunities at Abuja.

3. If he insists in staying in his comfort zone (Zaria) without making effort to get a job, please leave him and go back to Abuja and continue your job.

4. A man cannot be talking of marriage when he does not have a stable income. I was a teacher earning 30k in the east when I met my wife in Lagos. My wife was earning twice my salary. I had move down to Lagos because we wanted to get married. We postponed our wedding by 3 months until I got another job that was paying 45k. That was 8 years ago. No matter how little the salary is, let your man have something doing.

My one piece advice.
OP, this is the best advice. You don't need to read any other again.
And mind you you, he might be obsessed with your plumpy body.

4 Likes

Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by spice123(m): 11:39am On Aug 25, 2022
ismhab:


This is the best advice, but don't you think for the husband to be, to move to Abuja na one wahala? because living in Abuja no be easy, life very expensive, from shelter, food, utilities e.t.c
Lagos is also expensive. It all depends on the location. Same applies to Abuja.
Not taking a risk is a risk on its own.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by Tayorshd2(m): 11:39am On Aug 25, 2022
spice123:
Let me give you a candid advice as a married man:
1. Maintain your teaching job. You are a mother with two lovely kids. Don't let those children suffer for your careless mistake.

2. Talk to him to move to Abuja with you. You are already settled with a job and stable so he too needs to support you by joining you to start looking for job opportunities at Abuja.

3. If he insists in staying in his comfort zone (Zaria) without making effort to get a job, please leave him and go back to Abuja and continue your job.

4. A man cannot be talking of marriage when he does not have a stable income. I was a teacher earning 30k in the east when I met my wife in Lagos. My wife was earning twice my salary. I had move down to Lagos because we wanted to get married. We postponed our wedding by 3 months until I got another job that was paying 45k. That was 8 years ago. No matter how little the salary is, let your man have something doing.

My one piece advice.


May the God of the universe bless you for this advise

2 Likes

Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by tishbite42: 11:40am On Aug 25, 2022
aylive02:
grin



Don't listen to any comments again. Just follow what the poster above me said. Peace be unto u
Lol
What of if pesin tell her to paste aza, wetin she go do?

1 Like

Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by RepoMan007: 11:41am On Aug 25, 2022
XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise smiley
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ? cry

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double cry
What you will get here is intellectual advice. Go for a reputable man of God and get spiritual one. He may change.

1 Like

Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by jmichael259(m): 11:42am On Aug 25, 2022
XullySwt:
Wow
Thanks alot for your time and contribution.
This comment will do alot in my future decisions. Good continue blessing your family.


As a gentleman and on behalf of those children, all i have to say make tonder faya yu if u do dis kyn mumu thing.
On a serious note, come and dash those children to people that truly love kids before you embark on your journey of tribulation.
1) you secure AND RESUME a well paying job in his city before relocating.

2)He secures AND RESUMES a well paying job or self employment (e.g trading or transport business) in your city.

As for all you ladies/women, "i will be helping him out in his business" is not a job!!! You're just jobless entity encroaching his personal space and constituting an unpleasant liability. No surprises when such business always loses focus and crumbles causing the relationship to become war zone.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by tishbite42: 11:44am On Aug 25, 2022
iHart:
He has a business and you said he is jobless, what do you mean?
I tire
Maybe na small or petty biz
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by tishbite42: 11:45am On Aug 25, 2022
RepoMan007:
What you will get here is intellectual advice. Go for a reputable man of god and get spiritual one. He may change.
Classic
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by FriendsAndFans: 11:47am On Aug 25, 2022
teeshet:
the one i have is lazy but good in bed. If you are ready
what's her email of WhatsApp
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by AbuAeesha: 11:49am On Aug 25, 2022
spice123:
Let me give you a candid advice as a married man:
1. Maintain your teaching job. You are a mother with two lovely kids. Don't let those children suffer for your careless mistake.

2. Talk to him to move to Abuja with you. You are already settled with a job and stable so he too needs to support you by joining you to start looking for job opportunities at Abuja.

3. If he insists in staying in his comfort zone (Zaria) without making effort to get a job, please leave him and go back to Abuja and continue your job.

4. A man cannot be talking of marriage when he does not have a stable income. I was a teacher earning 30k in the east when I met my wife in Lagos. My wife was earning twice my salary. I had move down to Lagos because we wanted to get married. We postponed our wedding by 3 months until I got another job that was paying 45k. That was 8 years ago. No matter how little the salary is, let your man have something doing.

My one piece advice.
@OP i think, this man has said it all.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by shoprite: 11:52am On Aug 25, 2022
spice123:
Let me give you a candid advice as a married man:
1. Maintain your teaching job. You are a mother with two lovely kids. Don't let those children suffer for your careless mistake.

2. Talk to him to move to Abuja with you. You are already settled with a job and stable so he too needs to support you by joining you to start looking for job opportunities at Abuja.

3. If he insists in staying in his comfort zone (Zaria) without making effort to get a job, please leave him and go back to Abuja and continue your job.

4. A man cannot be talking of marriage when he does not have a stable income. I was a teacher earning 30k in the east when I met my wife in Lagos. My wife was earning twice my salary. I had move down to Lagos because we wanted to get married. We postponed our wedding by 3 months until I got another job that was paying 45k. That was 8 years ago. No matter how little the salary is, let your man have something doing.

My one piece advice.

Madam, take this advise . . .laminate it and keep it because you are going to need it ! cool
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by AutoChick4U(f): 11:53am On Aug 25, 2022
XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise smiley
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ? cry

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double cry
Lolz. Leaving your job will be the biggest mistake of your life. Jobless person want make employed person leave him job to join am for joblessness. Let him get a job first besides I don't trust the affections of jobless men.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by tosygno(m): 11:54am On Aug 25, 2022
spice123:
Let me give you a candid advice as a married man:
1. Maintain your teaching job. You are a mother with two lovely kids. Don't let those children suffer for your careless mistake.

2. Talk to him to move to Abuja with you. You are already settled with a job and stable so he too needs to support you by joining you to start looking for job opportunities at Abuja.

3. If he insists in staying in his comfort zone (Zaria) without making effort to get a job, please leave him and go back to Abuja and continue your job.

4. A man cannot be talking of marriage when he does not have a stable income. I was a teacher earning 30k in the east when I met my wife in Lagos. My wife was earning twice my salary. I had move down to Lagos because we wanted to get married. We postponed our wedding by 3 months until I got another job that was paying 45k. That was 8 years ago. No matter how little the salary is, let your man have something doing.

My one piece advice.


This is the most honest, candid, real and sincere advice you can get and follow.

Like he has rightly said, stay in Abuja till things get better for him to be able to have a stable income and provide for you guys. Don't allow love blindfold you o. Nigeria is now "a bird at hand is better than 9 in the air" if you get what I mean. Don't loose your sure income for uncertain é go better in Zaria o

1 Like

Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by iHart(m): 11:58am On Aug 25, 2022
XullySwt:
His managing a little business.
What i mean but jobless like no monthly salary to keep the business going normal.
Sorry for not expanciating. Thanks for ur comment smiley
when he is doing business, he has a job. If the business is not paying him enough, that's another thing.

For you to abandone a 50k job to move in with him means he earns enough to cater for both of you.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by oneMalik: 12:03pm On Aug 25, 2022
if you love him don't quit your job .

from experience you'll have to keep your job cos you get bills to pay .

if he's willing to start small then you'll bck him up and when it's time everything will surely fall in place.

the most important thing is that I see you loved him and with this you'll have to keep giving him hope . God can never leave you in a situation where there will be nothing for you to do but just that some people wanna be born and start walking immediately .

tell him to stop looking at his Mates and start where he is.

XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise smiley
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ? cry

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double cry
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by ifihearam: 12:07pm On Aug 25, 2022
Your story is incoherent..he has no job yet he has a business? you have two kids and dated a jobless guy for two years? he paid your dowry and planning wedding for november on what budget? Please clarify.

No mater what you do, do not leave your job..your kids come first..beside that will still cause issues in nearest future because you wont want to fall pregnant anytime soon and when you eventually do,he will not treat the three kids as equal trust me.

P>S...From the stories I read recently on nairaland,I cant say for a fact who is more desperate to get maried between Nigerian men and woman lately.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by iamL(f): 12:08pm On Aug 25, 2022
This na format na! Just be straight about it.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by alaska4life: 12:09pm On Aug 25, 2022
There's this saying a bird at hand is far better than the ten thousand birds in the forest! You said the guy sincerely love you. And you sure is love or lust? My candid advice is for you to maintain your job. Let him relocate to Abuja to search for jobs. Because it might gotten a financial support to marry you through is relative, but how far will it last. My dear you need to think wisely before you too decision that you will remain to regret in the rest of your life.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by LordIsaac(m): 12:11pm On Aug 25, 2022
From experience, most women ask for advice but will never implement the quality ones. Let me add to the voices of reason, no job, no marriage!
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by Nobody: 12:16pm On Aug 25, 2022
XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise smiley
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ? cry

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double cry


You had better wait. Your children keeps you company. What other companionship are you looking for? It's like you want to start feeding three mouths if you've not started. A man in mid 30s still struggling, what does that say about him? Don't be fooled by the gentleness and sweetness he is portraying. It's because he has no money.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by ednut1(m): 12:24pm On Aug 25, 2022
Makes no sense
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by Nobody: 12:42pm On Aug 25, 2022
Comments here are melting my heart. Life itself is not fair at all, i would have been very rude with my comment but you are a lady but i will just make it simple for you. Ask the guy one question "If you move with him to Zaria what will you be doing? Or what does he intend to set up for you. i can see here the both of you are from the North reason why he is just quick to talk marriage to you. And for the sake of your kids, my dear if you are ok in Abuja there, let him move and search or start a job or his business in Abuja, but First help him do a feasibility of his business in your current environment
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by sorepco(m): 12:45pm On Aug 25, 2022
Keep your job and let him move alone first. When he is settled you can then move to meet him with the kids.
Also, you could stay put and Job hunt in his town first before you relocate....




XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise smiley
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ? cry

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double cry
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by Nobody: 12:56pm On Aug 25, 2022
You should be thankfully that you have caught a simp who wants to settle down with a woman with two kids already. And the simp does not even have a job yet (God gives him one) and by the time he comes to his senses it will be already late.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by idu1(m): 1:17pm On Aug 25, 2022
spice123:
Let me give you a candid advice as a married man:
1. Maintain your teaching job. You are a mother with two lovely kids. Don't let those children suffer for your careless mistake.

2. Talk to him to move to Abuja with you. You are already settled with a job and stable so he too needs to support you by joining you to start looking for job opportunities at Abuja.

3. If he insists in staying in his comfort zone (Zaria) without making effort to get a job, please leave him and go back to Abuja and continue your job.

4. A man cannot be talking of marriage when he does not have a stable income. I was a teacher earning 30k in the east when I met my wife in Lagos. My wife was earning twice my salary. I had move down to Lagos because we wanted to get married. We postponed our wedding by 3 months until I got another job that was paying 45k. That was 8 years ago. No matter how little the salary is, let your man have something doing.

My one piece advice.


Baba you for no tell her the truth. As she off her brain because of prick grin grin
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by frozen70(f): 1:18pm On Aug 25, 2022
XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise smiley
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ? cry

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double cry

Congratulations on your new life with a new guy

You are lucky to have a man that loves you and accepts your children with love

If he is the one that paid uoir bride price from his own money then he means taking you to another good level

Though you guys don't have much now, you are a struggling woman and am sure he is so there is hope for you guys

The main issue now is, if you guys can't afford the type amd kind of big wedding you want to

Why not invite few family members, go to your church and get God blessing, that is the same thing people do get from the alta
Then go to your parlour and entertain them

You are not doing the wedding to impress anyone but to get wedded and have your witnesses

You guys have alot to do with money
Especially you that have much responsibilities on uoir children and your new home

By the time you guys have made your fortune, you can celebrate your wedding anniversary as glamorous as you want
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by Taiwo20(m): 1:19pm On Aug 25, 2022
YOU ARE PLAYING WITH "SHEGE"
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by IamMobisola(f): 1:25pm On Aug 25, 2022
XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise smiley
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ? cry

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double cry

So you want your two children to suffer because of a man?
How does any right thinking man prepare to get married when he has no job? And the fact that you are thinking of leaving your own source of income to move to his state where two of you will become jobless, with your kids?

Eeeei God angry
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by mukthar2000(m): 1:36pm On Aug 25, 2022
XullySwt:
Exactly his plan, coming down to Abuja, but the way time is running so fast his still yet to settle.
I will shine my eye and be wise dear.
Thank you smiley smiley
is better u shine it sisterpls and pls don't be too despite of having partner, Allah no best plans for everyone of us, loving u for 2 or 10 years doesn't mean the be ur real partner, just be very carefully and be prayerful for Allah to choose the best for u inshAllah
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by saintneo(m): 1:45pm On Aug 25, 2022
XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise smiley
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ? cry

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double cry

It is very difficult reside far away from your spouse. I understand that your love sweet, but it will be better to maintain different locations until your finances are good enough.

I have friend that doesn't reside in the same city as his wife, by God's grace the union is standing for eight years now. My friend is a lecturer; consequently, during his vacation he moves to his wife's place. Covid lockdown was very beneficial to the family.

Furthermore, another friend and his wife were together for only 14 months until a better job offer took him to a far away city. It wasn't easy travelling every month or two. By God's grace they never drifted, and there was no side-dish. Now my friend's finances have improved, his wife has relocated and they are enjoying their family.

My suggestion is to have a heart-to-heart talk with your boo, delay your relocation until his finances are up or you secure another teaching employment in his location.

Your kids' happiness is key as well.
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by XullySwt(f): 1:46pm On Aug 25, 2022
Oh dear, am happy this comment is coming from a female like me.
My dear we aren't planning for any big wedding, i do much appreciate ur advice i like it. Thanks for ur compliments.
frozen70:


Congratulations on your new life with a new guy

You are lucky to have a man that loves you and accepts your children with love

If he is the one that paid uoir bride price from his own money then he means taking you to another good level

Though you guys don't have much now, you are a struggling woman and am sure he is so there is hope for you guys

The main issue now is, if you guys can't afford the type amd kind of big wedding you want to

Why not invite few family members, go to your church and get God blessing, that is the same thing people do get from the alta
Then go to your parlour and entertain them

You are not doing the wedding to impress anyone but to get wedded and have your witnesses

You guys have alot to do with money
Especially you that have much responsibilities on uoir children and your new home

By the time you guys have made your fortune, you can celebrate your wedding anniversary as glamorous as you want
Re: Wedding Preparations Without A Job!! by XullySwt(f): 1:48pm On Aug 25, 2022
I smile reading this because i see light at the end.
Yes we also tot of this plan but you know how Abuja to Kaduna road is now, moving up and down is not a nice one for now. Thanks alot i really appreciate ur comment. smiley
saintneo:


It is very difficult reside far away from your spouse. I understand that your love sweet, but it will be better to maintain different locations until your finances are good enough.

I have friend that doesn't reside in the same city as his wife, by God's grace the union is standing for eight years now. My friend is a lecturer; consequently, during his vacation he moves to his wife's place. Covid lockdown was very beneficial to the family.

Furthermore, another friend and his wife were together for only 14 months until a better job offer took him to a far away city. It wasn't easy travelling every month or two. By God's grace they never drifted, and there was no side-dish. Now my friend's finances have improved, his wife has relocated and they are enjoying their family.

My suggestion is to have a heart-to-heart talk with your boo, delay your relocation until his finances are up or you secure another teaching employment in his location.

Your kids' happiness is key as well.

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (Reply)

Peace Corps Of Nigeria What Is Your View About Them / My Experience Today At A GNLD Coy / 7 Impressive Questions To Ask In A Job Interview And Why

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2023 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 365
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.