mariahAngel:


Chai!

Please, make sure your daughter leaves her place.

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.


I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

Romanoff:
Take your daughter from her. Your daughter is her cash cow.

LalastiklaIa:
Why is no one talking about the second one year old baby the op has with the sister too abi that one is not a baby

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

Chidiesta:


She is aware that I don't have papers and i am not financial buoyant, I don't have anyone in the family who I can trust with my daughter my friend is the only person I have in mind

mariahAngel:


The baby is with the op.

Chidiesta:


I am not a fan of boarding school I want her to attend a day school and with my friend so I can video/ call her anytime I want so she won't feel left out

sisisioge:
Your child is 8years old, you could take her to a good boarding school but you would pay way more as school fees there. Pele.

Chidiesta:


She is a female and I am also a female, she is my childhood friend my sister knows her well and I trust her too and I strongly believe that she will take care of her better than my own sister.

Dbrawllm0098:
I will advise you put your child in the boarding school. You can talk to the school authority to appoint you a house mistress to look after her during short holidays. The house mistress must reside in the school domitory. Meanwhile, she stays with your friend during long vacations. Check a reputable boarding school on Google. Ask your friend to help you follow up. Let it come as a surprise to your sister. In all, make sure your friend is someone you can trust.

kurlz:



Tell your sister you don't have money to send for the next 1year, just find one reason to tell her, like maybe you are running a course and you want to pay some loans or something, and tell her your friend has volunteered to cater for your child and pay her school fees for now. Even if she says your child can stay don't answer her. Let your friend take the child.

dejol88:

My sister, to be honest send her to catholic boarding school. At least you are sure during school time your daughter is getting minimal comfort and better education.only during holiday your daughter will manage in your sister house.

Going to your friend house might not turn out best.

dejol88:

Bros no too blame the sister, she is trying to survive and working hard to sort out her immigration. She probably had a new child to enable her get child benefit in the country. I assume it is from the child benefit, she sends part to Nigeria to help the older daughter.

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

07kjb:
Talk to her that it is not all rosy as she thinks

Never cut a good relationship with your blood

neoG:
This your story really moved me to type.
Mehnnnnnnn I am speechless.
People get mind oooo
U mean your BLOOD Sis abi ADOPTED Sis?

If it is me, you see this last money she collected and used to pay her children school fee, i will make sure she returns it back. I will not need the money but people wey need d money will arrange her.

For those saying is your blood and shit. This your Sis can kill and not look back.
In this age of video calls that is when your Sister has not allowed you to speak and see your daughter and you are here still typing? Are you sure ur daughter is even going to school?

You are a woman hustling without papers abroad just to make ends means and not a man and your Sister no pity you. Please stop asking questions and take your daughter out of that place immediately.

If your daughter is at the age of going to secondary school, use your friend and take her to a Catholic boarding or any other Christian boarding school.
Most friends are better than siblings.
Instead of having just a friend looking after her, see if there's another friend here you trust.
It will help to foster transparency than just having one friend.

Ensure that this your friend is not from frying pan to fire situation you are about to enter.
Wish the best and pray that God grant you grace and speed so you be stable to bring your daughter over quickly. Cos no one can take good care of her than you.

Clinghton:
If the friend is trustworthy you can let your daughter be with her or what about your Mon, your sister is insensitive and selfish.

07kjb:
Talk to her that it is not all rosy as she thinks

Never cut a good relationship with your blood

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.