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Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Kinehap: 5:11pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
You really need to talk to your sister and her husband first. Make them see reasons with you, because this is your family. On the idea of taking your daughter to your friend, please don't even think of it. It would be better to spend on your sister than someone molesting your daughter. Remember, he is not your blood. Feelings is something you can't predict. Talk to your sister and her husband. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 5:12pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Ofokajeremy: I have an elder brother who is married with kids but I don't trust his wife with my child someone who doesn't liked me will never like my daughter 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by adebayo3449(m): 5:12pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Ma'am, there is nothing wrong in taking you child to a boarding school, some of us are Products of boarding school too. The bad things you are thinking of also happen in day schools. I'll advise that you relocate your child to your friend as stated, but the child should go to a boarding school once she gets to jss1, she can always spend the holidays with your friend. Ladies are not always 100% nice to children that is not theirs. I hope you are able to get her to you before she finishes secondary school. I pray God almighty will give you wisdom to approach this. It will be very tricky to get your child without causing problem. You can also change her school to boarding while she stays with your sister, tho not the best option but at least better. Infact, firstly you should ask you friend to go and pick your daughter for outing, use the opportunity to talk to her. Goodluck 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by dejol88: 5:12pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta:My sister, to be honest send her to catholic boarding school. At least you are sure during school time your daughter is getting minimal comfort and better education.only during holiday your daughter will manage in your sister house. Going to your friend house might not turn out best. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Edoziesmart(m): 5:15pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
LalastiklaIa:The one year old daughter is with the OP at Germany. She gave birth to the daughter at Germany and not in Nigeria. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 5:15pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Kinehap: I a woman and my friend is also a woman. My sister is aware of my situations I have told her everything she knows that I don't have papers and having not papers I am limited because I can't work or have my own place to call home but she doesn't care all she care about is money. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by ogolad(m): 5:15pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
This issue is very serious, I would advise you pray before taking any step and make sure you don't inform your sister about what you want to do, make sure all plans are concluded if not she may harm those children knowing fully well that you want to withdraw them from her will upset her, and transfer issues on the innocent children. We have people that can help you in this kind of situation but pray sister, may God teach you on what to do. Amen |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Rafiquie: 5:17pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA: Jumping from post to post trying to troll me because I called out the depth of your senselessness your stupidity will never stop amazing me little brat 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by CedarHoldings: 5:17pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta:they are ok then, but tell me the truth, are the one that volunteer to pay her child school fees? She never asked you from onset |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by otabuko(m): 5:18pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
07kjb:Blood is not what makes people family. From what he's written. That sister is a very greedy one. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Edoziesmart(m): 5:19pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
jamesbridget13:Then rest alaye. Move to the next thread |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by onlyhope: 5:19pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
onlyhope:Although, I've written this before, but let me propose a solution. I have a friend who's a teacher. He actually told me sometime ago that parents based abroad do pay the school fees of their children directly to the school account. So, get the contact of your daughter's school, including the phone no of proprietor & head teacher. Be paying her school fees directly into the school account henceforth. Also, don't pay your sister's children school fees again. Rather, send your sis some money monthly for your daughter's upkeep if she still stays with your sis. With this, your sis and her husband have no excuse not to take care of your daughter or push their financial responsibility to you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Ustec: 5:20pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Talk to your sister that it's not easy as she thinks, Never ever try to take away your daughter to a friend. BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER, no relationship is stronger than that of the family. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Ulunne777(f): 5:22pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Hugs.But where's her father and why are you having a one ur old when you haven't figured out life for yourself and the elder one. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Olayetan(m): 5:23pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Whats holding you back from taking custody of your daughter, maybe you work your daughter visa, that way, she won't have that entitlement to your money anymore... |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Yankee101: 5:23pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Pay your child’s school fees directly to the school Do only what you can If it gets too much move your child to your parents or the child’s mother 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Olayetan(m): 5:24pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Romanoff: I think her husband doesn't know she had a kid in 9ja and reason why she hasn't taken her daughter |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Starships4u(m): 5:24pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Once yhu can trust yhur friend, take her from yhur sis... Some siblings just want to be parasitic just because *"yhu are related by blood"*. How sure are yhu that yhur daughter isn't even passing through some trauma and emotional abuse? Don't also forget that once yhu pull her from yhur sis, yhu'd have created this silent enemity, and yhu'd still also be sending tips to her atleast.... Keep yhur own sanity sacrosanct. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by jamesbridget13(f): 5:27pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Edoziesmart:you must be frustrated. I can see how confused you are. Sorry oga I am not be reason for your woes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Zulu2022: 5:28pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
How about ur mother, collect ur daughter from that Jezebel u call sister,how about your mum,enroll ur kid in a missionary school,when the are out of secondary school ,atleast the will be more mature and responsible to take care and how to manage money on there own,am sorry to tell you this,as long as ur kids are with ur sis,u will be sending more money plus how u even sure she is not maltreating ur kids, na advise,first take away ur daughter from her,if her husband is lazy to pay bill of there kids,is not ur bizness,and de foolish man will be seen wat his wife is doing and keep dam...at all at all,de work visa fr ur kids |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by tianshie(m): 5:30pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Eagle360: You're a dick-sniffing guttersnipe. Your advice isn't worth a half-penny. foh 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by SPAMBOX7: 5:31pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Only God knows what your daughter is passing through in the hands of that witch you call sister. Tueh |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Bobbybrwon(m): 5:31pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Please take your daughter I have a similar case of a friend that was paying all her siblings fees for the fact that they were staying abroad, it was when she got married that everything stopped. Her siblings were now sending money when they got to know that she's married. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Edoziesmart(m): 5:34pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
jamesbridget13:I'm just trolling and nothing much . No hard feelings. Meanwhile, do you live in Bayelsa State before? Yenagoa to be precise? Cus I know a friend with such name back then as of 2013/2014. Oops! this forum is even a faceless forum unlike Facebook you can check someone's profile without asking the person any further questions. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Olayetan(m): 5:34pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Take your daughter from her, that's the best you can do... 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by SPAMBOX7: 5:38pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta:Just imagine, and you didn't even suspect. You sef sound like person wey no smart. Carry your cross |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by SamOchuko: 5:40pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Where is the mother of this daughter of yours? Why not send your daughter to her instead of moving her about? If her mum is no more, what about the mums relatives, lake a sister? it would be better she lives with a relative instead of a total stranger, try the mothers angle since your sister has decided to turn you to her money making machine. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by deebrownneymar: 5:40pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
What people can do because of money ehn! |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by okunola123(m): 5:41pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
You exposed ur financial ability to her in the first place of ur short term in Germany and that's why she's using that to drain you. What you need now is to play along, act Asif things were not moving fine like b4 and if possible to change the school of u daughter to a minimal one. Just act first and heard her reaction. Also, don't take ur child to where is not safe. If possible to leave her there and pending the time you'll be okay financially or better still consult the family and seek for other people's help. But don't pay her children school fees ooo because she might be using the money for business or building house. Whereas, she also have ability to per her children school fees. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 5:51pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Olayetan: I don't have papers |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 5:53pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Ulunne777: Her father denied the pregnancy he hasn't met her. My one year old child is a blessing if things are a bit stable for me is because I gave birth to her, when I was alone things were really difficult for me but having a child has open so many doors for me. I hope people who are abroad can understand me better 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Klass99(f): 5:53pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
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