Blessed father of our faith. We thank you for this opportunity to learn your will and judgment about divorce. We ask for the will to accept your truth and the strength to obey your word. Amen.

The word “divorce” comes from the Latin word “divortium” which means separation. It is also equivalent to the word “divort” or “divortere.” “Di” means apart and “vertere” means to turn in different ways. Divertere also means to divert, turn aside, separate or leave one’s husband.

Today, divorce means the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body. Divorce in its verbal form means to legally dissolve one's marriage with (someone), or separate or dissociate (something) from something else, typically with an undesirable effect.

Divorce is quite a logical solution for marriages where there’s no love anymore and it’s one of humans’ most thoughtful and deliberated laws. There are many reasons that can lead to divorce but all of these reasons can be covered as a lack or deficiency of love and respect in a marriage. Common reasons why couples divorce include: lack of commitment, infidelity, conflict and argument, marrying too young, financial problems, substance abuse, domestic violence, etc.

No one can really tell when the practice of divorce started but we can find traces of this concept in ancient civilizations. The oldest codified law in the history of divorce was traced to 1760 B.C. During that period, a man could divorce his wife by simply saying, “You are not my wife,” which was followed by payment of a fine and returning the wife’s dowry. However, if it was the wife who wanted a divorce, she was required to file a complaint to obtain a divorce. In today’s modern society, divorce is only recognized if legal and supported by law.

However, our focus will be on the biblical account of divorce, and our excerpt will be taken from biblical situations. The concept of divorce was introduced by Moses, this might imply that divorce was practiced in Egypt before this time, but was alien to the tribesmen. The concept was introduced because people (mainly men) usually ignore their partners to marry others.It was introduced to give the neglected partner a sense of closure of their situation, so that they’re not confused about the behavior of their partners, and to make them aware of their freedom to engage other people as suitable partners.

Therefore, by default, divorce is an alien practice to God’s people. It’s a practice introduced to accommodate people’s uncontrollable desires and unfaithfulness. For by law, a man cannot put away his wife for any reason, and any woman who commits fornication or adultery shall be put to death. Divorce was created because men continued to put away their wives in disobedience to the law, Moses had to improvise to create a safe place for people to put away their wives and give closure to the woman.

Note: a wife in the Hebrew tribe is not only a woman whose marriage has been celebrated and consummated. Any woman betrothed to a man is his wife by law, even when they might not have been openly celebrated. In this case, the woman lives with her parent until she’s old enough for her husband to take her in an open celebration, after which the marriage can be consummated. A marriage cannot be consummated unless it has been celebrated openly for witnessing.

The Hebrew men did not put away a woman of consummated marriage, they usually put away their betrothed wife to marry another woman in her stead. Any woman treated this way is left unmarried past the common marriageable age while thinking that her husband by law will one day come to take her away. Moses created divorce so that men who’re not interested in the marriage can give a woman divorce to release her from the law to marry another person. Women whose marriages have been consummated are simply left untouched (e.g. Nitzevet, Leah), and sometimes separated but they remained married to their husbands.

What does God say about divorce?
In order to fully understand God’s perspective on divorce, we need to first understand God’s perspective on the concept of marriage, and to fully understand marriage, we have to look at the origin of marriage from the scriptures to have a holistic understanding of the concept.

Origin of marriage
As oddly as it sounds, marriage as a concept obtainable from the scriptures was created by man and not God. The concept was established by Adam in the presence and authority of God. For Adam was as the son of God (Luke 3:38), and whatever words he uttered were established (as law), and whatever name he gave to anything became the name thereof.

When God brought another enitity to Adam as a help meet, Adam said: This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. By these words, Adam established a union of the man and the woman as one.

Here lies wisdom: Adam knew that he was already one with God but on seeing Eve, he became consumed by desire to establish a type of oneness outside God, declaring that a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh.

Marriage is a natural law because it was established by man’s will and so, must be followed by man’s will. For this reason, marriage is an observable natural law, yet a person may choose not to marry and it will have no bearing whatsoever on them spiritually (1 Corinthians). However, the spiritual laws are absolute and must be obeyed by all living Humans (Romans 7:14), and whoever disobeys any part of this shall die.

God did not establish marriage as a concept of life, Adam established marriage in the presence of God, and this makes God a witness in marriage. Marriage was also established by the power of God, and this likewise makes God a constituted authority for marriage. Therefore, for every marriage, God is both a witness and the legal authority (government) that joins a man to a woman.

For example, the court (the government) is both a witness and the legal authority that joins a man and a woman, and it awards a certificate of marriage thereafter but is in no way responsible for the marriage. The court does not tell a man to marry nor who to marry, however, when a man and a woman agree to get married by their own will, the court joins them and becomes the highest witness to the marriage, and places a seal of agreement on them. Such is God’s position in every marriage.

God’s thoughts on divorce
It’s almost impossible to know the mind of God on the concept of divorce because like marriage, it was established by a man who wielded the power of God, and thus, also makes God the highest witness and constituted authority for divorce. This means God is not responsible for any divorce, but if a man and a woman agree to part ways, God shall be a witness to this.

The position that God holds in a marriage makes it very difficult to understand his thought on divorce. However, people have proceeded to divorce in fulfillment of their own will without trying to understanding God’s mind on the concept.
Knowing God’s thoughts through Christ

Divorce is one of the important issues that Jesus delivered God’s justice on, and revealed the mind of God to mankind. When the Pharisees tempted him on the subject, he replied thus:

• 8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
• 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
• 10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
• 11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

This is God’s judgment on divorce: a man cannot put away his wife for any reason whatsoever. However, a man can put away his wife for fornication.

Note: fornication is an act that can only be perpetrated by an unmarried woman. A married woman does not commit fornication, she commits adultery instead. Therefore, the woman that can be divorced is the woman who is betrothed to a man, and the only reason for this to happen is fornication.

An example of a divorceable situation in the scripture is that between Joseph and Mary, the parent of our lord Jesus Christ. Mary was referred to as Joseph’s wife even though she was only betrothed to him at that time. In fact, Joseph was not in any way confused about Mary’s pregnancy because they had not consummated their marriage at that time, which is also because they had not celebrated the marriage openly.

A man and woman who have openly celebrated their marriage and have consummated it cannot divorce under any condition; whether physical or spiritual. A man or a woman cannot divorce the other even because of adultery, the adulterous partner should be forgiven with necessary chastisement.

A man who has betrothed a woman cannot divorce her except if she fornicates. A man cannot say to a woman “I will marry you” and then not marry her after they had reached an agreement. A woman who accepts to marry a man cannot turn away from this agreement under any circumstances. If this happens in any case, and the person married another, it will be adultery before God.

Why can’t people divorce?
Recall, that God is the highest authority and witness in marriage, therefore, if God has witnessed a marriage, God cannot witness divorce because God cannot bear witness to the same thing differently. God’s witness is true, meaning that it’s single, and the same at all times. If God witnesses a marriage, that will be his witness forever, come rain or shine.

A man cannot agree to marry a woman and not marry, and vice versa. This is because God is the God of agreement. He bears witness to every agreement. Except for unfaithfulness, such an agreement cannot be annulled by anyone, living or dead. Divorce is possible for a husband and wife whose marriage is not consummated because the seal of marriage is still intact, but a marriage that is consummated and the seal is broken for evidence cannot be annulled by any existing force or power.

Implication of divorce
Although divorce is a very logical solution from the human perspective, God does not allow for divorce. It is very dangerous to divorce, it’s very dangerous to agree to marry a person and then turn around on such an agreement. A consummated cannot be divorced, divorcing from a consummated marriage is a direct attack on God, it’s a direct attack on the word of God and it can lead to death (spiritual).

Divorcing from a partner with whom there’s an agreement to marry results in evil befalling a person because they have breached a covenant. Such a person might not even know why their life is in disarray, yet their covenant to marry a particular person still stands before God, and going off to marry another person is adultery before God and they shall receive the punishment of an adulterer.

An example of a people who did not understand why God was against them and why evil befell them repeatedly is the Israelites but God revealed to them through Malachi that evil befell them because they have behaved treacherously with their wife though he was a witness to the covenant they had. (Malachi 2:14-17).

Divorce and salvation
This is the most important part of divorce Christians need to understand because the marriage to a woman is a similitude to salvation in Christ, and the Church is to the last Adam as Eve was to the first Adam. For by the establishment marriage all fell, and by the same marriage shall all be saved.

The first marriage was born out of man's desires, but the last marriage was ordained before the beginning. The first marriage was established to pull a man away from God but the last marriage connects a man to God. The first marriage was established by the will of Man but the last marriage is by the will of God. All men were born through the will of the first man and by the lust of the flesh, but all men shall be saved through birth by the word of God (John 1:12-13).

Therefore, divorce as logically presented is against the concept of salvation in Christ Jesus. Inasmuch as both the carnal marriage and the spiritual marriage to Christ are overseen by God, God does not bear witness to both marriages differently. What is applicable to one marriage is applicable to the other. A man must love his wife as Christ loves the church and a woman must submit to her husband as the church is subject unto Christ (Ephesians 5:22-30).

However, it’s also important for us to know that we’re only betrothed to Christ for now, and our marriage to Christ is not celebrated yet, so we all stand a chance of being divorced for spiritual fornication (Mathew 19:9). Every Christian is like a virgin growing and waiting to be mature enough to be taken away by her husband, and for this, we must all preserve ourselves as we journey to our marital ceremony (2 Corinthians 11:2).

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Learn from here pls.

knowingChrist:
Blessed father of our faith. We thank you for this opportunity to learn your will and judgment about divorce. We ask for the will to accept your truth and the strength to obey your word. Amen.

shall a man leave his father and his mother, andThe word “divorce” comes from the Latin word “divortium” which means separation. It is also equivalent to the word “divort” or “divortere.” “Di” means apart and “vertere” means to turn in different ways. Divertere also means to divert, turn aside, separate or leave one’s husband.

Today, divorce means the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body. Divorce in its verbal form means to legally dissolve one's marriage with (someone), or separate or dissociate (something) from something else, typically with an undesirable effect.

Divorce is quite a logical solution for marriages where there’s no love anymore and it’s one of humans’ most thoughtful and deliberated laws.....,..,.............

Every Christian is like a virgin growing and waiting to be mature enough to be taken away by her husband, and for this, we must all preserve ourselves as we journey to our marital ceremony (2 Corinthians 11:2).

Thank you for reading…

Nice article but I disagree with you that divorce is not allowed by God. Where in the bible did God explicitly say no to divorce?

Do you not believe the words of Jesus are the word of God? Didn't Jesus say a man cannot put away his wife safe for fornication?
Didn't you also check Malachi 2:14-17?

Wallade:


Nice article but I disagree with you that divorce is not allowed by God. Where in the bible did God explicitly say no to divorce?

knowingChrist:
Do you not believe the words of Jesus are the word of God? Didn't Jesus say a man cannot put away his wife safe for fornication?
Didn't you also check Malachi 2:14-17?

"Has not the one God made you?(E) You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring.[a](F) So be on your guard,(G) and do not be unfaithful(H) to the wife of your youth.

16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,(I)” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,”[b](J) says the Lord Almighty.

So be on your guard,(K) and do not be unfaithful."

This does not explicitly indicate that God or the lord commanded that no man or woman must divorce his or her spouse.

When a relationship or marriage has broken down irreparably, it is in the interest of both spouse, kids, society and God to allow separation, however painful, hated, disliked, regrettable and sad.

Read the bible pls. I quoted the words of Jesus to you in the article and even showed you where it's explicitly written that God hates putting away.

Divorce as already stated in the article is logical, however, human logic will lead us to death. So decide if you want to follow your own thinking or obey what the bible says pld

Wallade:


"Has not the one God made you?(E) You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring.[a](F) So be on your guard,(G) and do not be unfaithful(H) to the wife of your youth.

16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,(I)” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,”[b](J) says the Lord Almighty.

So be on your guard,(K) and do not be unfaithful."

This does not explicitly indicate that God or the lord commanded that no man or woman must divorce his or her spouse.

When a relationship or marriage has broken down irreparably, it is in the interest of both spouse, kids, society and God to allow separation, however painful, hated, disliked, regrettable and sad.

knowingChrist:
Read the bible pls. I quoted the words of Jesus to you in the article and even showed you where it's explicitly written that God hates putting away.

Divorce as already stated in the article is logical, however, human logic will lead us to death. So decide if you want to follow your own thinking or obey what the bible says pld

Can you define "explicit". Define hate as well.

However, you can give me another bible verse that categorically indicates that God does not recognize divorce. The one you quoted only stated that God commands against divorce.

Mathew 19:9 is the definition of explicit

Wallade:


Can you define "explicit". Define hate as well.

However, you can give me another bible verse that categorically indicates that God does not recognize divorce. The one you quoted only stated that God commands against divorce.

knowingChrist:
Mathew 19:9 is the definition of explicit

"And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

This verse leaves an exception to divorce.

It also indicates that the man or woman commits adultery when he gets married to someone else.

It means, if he stays unmarried after divorce, there is no sin.

Do you have another bible verse that supports your position. You have not been able to convince me.

With due respect sir, a man cannot divorce his wife except for fornication. A man cannot even divorce his wife for adultery. There's room for separation but man cannot divorce his wife even as Christ cannot divorce the church except for fornication. If you have a different opinion then it's fine sir. God bless you.

Wallade:


"And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

This verse leaves an exception to divorce.

It also indicates that the man or woman commits adultery when he gets married to someone else.

It means, if he stays unmarried after divorce, there is no sin.

Do you have another bible verse that supports your position. You have not been able to convince me.

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knowingChrist:
With due respect sir, a man cannot divorce his wife except for fornication. A man cannot even divorce his wife for adultery. There's room for separation but man cannot divorce his wife even as Christ cannot divorce the church except for fornication. If you have a different opinion then it's fine sir. God bless you.

I think you have to weigh all things against the spirit of the letter.
What happens when a women or man who is unequally yoked. They married as unbeliever. One got saved and the other didn’t. After a few years one becomes emotionally and physically abusive to the other. Would you recommend that one stay in such a marriage ?

An example that popular Christian singer who has killed by her husband. And there are many women who are undergoing such abuse. Would you look by as your sister or blood relative stay under such cloud ?

Separation does not provide the person with the legal ramifications to move on. God’s Grace

knowingChrist:
With due respect sir, a man cannot divorce his wife except for fornication. A man cannot even divorce his wife for adultery. There's room for separation but man cannot divorce his wife even as Christ cannot divorce the church except for fornication. If you have a different opinion then it's fine sir. God bless you.

I think you have to weigh all things against the spirit of the letter.
What happens when a women or man who is unequally yoked. They married as unbeliever. One got saved and the other didn’t. After a few years one becomes emotionally and physically abusive to the other. Would you recommend that one stay in such a marriage ?

An example that popular Christian singer who has killed by her husband. And there are many women who are undergoing such abuse. Would you look by as your sister or blood relative stay under such cloud ?

Separation does not provide the person with the legal ramifications to move on. God’s Grace

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