There are many different reasons. Sometimes it's because the man only cares about his own pleasure. He doesn't care about his wife's pleasure, so the wife feels used and loses interest.

odinson1:
The simple reason is, she doesn't love you bro. She married you only because she had no other option at the time. Know this that a woman will break all rules, raise hell if she has to, to have sex with a man she likes. If she's constantly giving you excuses for an extended period of time, or making demands before she allows you in, it means you're sexually unattractive to her bro, she settled for you.

Women will come on this thread now and give nonsense excuses about her being tired, depressed etc but for how long can one be consistently tired that she only has sex with her husband once in 3 months?

Why are you men just so blind to reality? Damn! You'll jus rush into marriage because of love without making sure the person you're marrying isn't settling for you. You'll give her a comfortable live in the marriage, she'll deny you sex and you'll come to Nairaland to ask for advice.

Women will tell you to continue treating her right, talk things out with her etc. But it never works, trust me. If your wife settled for you, she'll deny you sex and use it to control you. When she needs a new handbag that is very expensive, she'll deny you sex and wait for you to buy it for her first before she allows you in.

Then she repeats the process for another demand and so on and so forth. Is that how you want to live the rest of your life as a man? Begging and paying your WIFE for sex. I'm tired of you men really, y'all lack balls and that is why women use Sex to control you.

odinson1:
The simple reason is, she doesn't love you bro. She married you only because she had no other option at the time. Know this that a woman will break all rules, raise hell if she has to, to have sex with a man she likes. If she's constantly giving you excuses for an extended period of time, or making demands before she allows you in, it means you're sexually unattractive to her bro, she settled for you.

Women will come on this thread now and give nonsense excuses about her being tired, depressed etc but for how long can one be consistently tired that she only has sex with her husband once in 3 months?

Why are you men just so blind to reality? Damn! You'll jus rush into marriage because of love without making sure the person you're marrying isn't settling for you. You'll give her a comfortable live in the marriage, she'll deny you sex and you'll come to Nairaland to ask for advice.

Women will tell you to continue treating her right, talk things out with her etc. But it never works, trust me. If your wife settled for you, she'll deny you sex and use it to control you. When she needs a new handbag that is very expensive, she'll deny you sex and wait for you to buy it for her first before she allows you in.

Then she repeats the process for another demand and so on and so forth. Is that how you want to live the rest of your life as a man? Begging and paying your WIFE for sex. I'm tired of you men really, y'all lack balls and that is why women use Sex to control you.

I can bet you that this was written by a single man...

Na broke man dey beg wife for sex.

Helpout12345:


It's not an excuse. I agree a woman can teach a man she loves how and where to touch her if the man is not the "I holy pass you" type that will later use it against her. But the woman cannot turn a 2 minutes man into a 30 minutes man. She cannot also solve the problem of an impotent man.

And God helps the man that the wife had been with men good in the room in her past life as ex's. That's more trouble for the man.

Even if the woman don't deny the man consistently, she will not be enjoying it and she will see it as a chore.

My point is that good sex can make a woman not into you initially to love or like you more. And bad sex can reduce the attraction your woman has for you.

From bad sex to impotency, at impotency level, no matter how your woman is attracted to you, she will end up hating you around her in bed.

So because he is a 2mins man,he cannot cum in peace

Women are generally insatiable, even the broke man that cums or lasts 3hrs in bed will still be cheated on with a 2mins rich dude

This is why Africa is underdeveloped.
African men are too obsessed with sex, look at the anger and hatred in their posts just because of the idea of wives denying them sex.
Saying all sorts of emotional outbursts ;
Oh, if she denies me sex two times I will send her packing, If she denies me sex I must start sleeping around, if she denies me sex I will ignore her and marry second wife, nyen nyen nyen nyen nyen.
Noise makers.

Continue making noise, your wives will continue denying you sex, do your worst naa.

Hmmm...

tiswell:
So because he is a 2mins man,he cannot cum in peace

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Jephyard:


Bro at the bold sentence, you have been lied to and also you dont understand how women body work. No woman that have had sex can stay without sex in a month. I repeat no woman can stay without sex within a month except the dick is not readily available highest Nah masturbation. I am stating fact. Before or after their period they are highest at their mood and looking for mate to sleep with. They won't come out tell you this cause they dont want to be seen as being loose or something. Another info women have more sex than men and enjoy sex than men. What men has is initial gra gra.

Funny guy, there are many reasons women could go not only a month without sex but MONTHS!

1. Recovering from infection
2. Pregnancy
3. Married to an active military husband who's on duty
4. Job that requires a month or more of traveling
5. Hormonal imbalance

Make we stop generalizing important topics like this, it only brings about confusion!

MrBrownJay1:
here is some simple clued why a woman could refuse to have sex with a man she loves clue:
- she is on her period
- she is not feeling well
- she isnt in the mood
- she has some worries/stress etc in her life at that moment
- you aint approaching her right (sexually)
- you stink/smell etc

...but most importantly, why would a man force his loving wife to have sex is she isnt in the mood?!?!? shouldnt you 1st figure out whats going by communicating with your partner?!

Gbamsulotely, end of thread

odinson1:
The simple reason is, she doesn't love you bro. She married you only because she had no other option at the time. Know this that a woman will break all rules, raise hell if she has to, to have sex with a man she likes. If she's constantly giving you excuses for an extended period of time, or making demands before she allows you in, it means you're sexually unattractive to her bro, she settled for you.

Women will come on this thread now and give nonsense excuses about her being tired, depressed etc but for how long can one be consistently tired that she only has sex with her husband once in 3 months?

Why are you men just so blind to reality? Damn! You'll jus rush into marriage because of love without making sure the person you're marrying isn't settling for you. You'll give her a comfortable live in the marriage, she'll deny you sex and you'll come to Nairaland to ask for advice.

Women will tell you to continue treating her right, talk things out with her etc. But it never works, trust me. If your wife settled for you, she'll deny you sex and use it to control you. When she needs a new handbag that is very expensive, she'll deny you sex and wait for you to buy it for her first before she allows you in.

Then she repeats the process for another demand and so on and so forth. Is that how you want to live the rest of your life as a man? Begging and paying your WIFE for sex. I'm tired of you men really, y'all lack balls and that is why women use Sex to control you.

What's the Solution?

O.p is right, they key word is " consistently". If your wife does not have an atom of feeling for you, your emotional stability will never be in her plans, she won't prioritize you. Yes!! Stress can make a woman resent sex but that is on a short term, consistently denying your husband sex for months and not making any plans to solve the issue is just pointing towards one thing, she is not in love with you.

Most Nigerian guys have never experienced true love from a woman because of the bad habit of always buying love due to the poor economic condition of the country. If a lady loves you, if she lost her mom today, she will still rush to your place that same day to check on you even if her dad is in jail, she will still visit you before going to give her dad food in Prison, a woman's love is like a raging volcano, nothing stands on its way.

MrBrownJay1:


bro, there is something called COMMUNICATION, and if a wife doesnt want to get close to her husband during 3 months, then she should have a VALID REASON for it. the husband should simply ask her for an explanation, and if she aint got one then get rid of her.

what if she always asks for something Material (buy me this, buy me that...etc) before every entry into Jerusalem.
How long can You continue with his kind of communication Response?
You no go tire??

Chosimba:


I can bet you that this was written by a single man...

That doesn't entirely make it untrue.

2Radii:
This is night bro, and I pray u will face what the OP said.
Exactly the way he said it is the way u will face it in ur marriage.
Ur wife will always find excuses to give u sex once in 3months
By the power of universe that is how it will be.
But u will also have the fortitude to persuade her all the tym.




Let see if u will stick to Ur words

AAAAAAMEEEEN!!!!
you will have sense by force!

cc: MrBrownJay1:

From my own observation it is natural for female folks both Huma and animals to reject sex. Hypothetical example are chicken male chicken will run and run so also goat even rabbits and lizard are not left out

OvertheTop:
what if she always asks for something Material (buy me this, buy me that...etc) before every entry into Jerusalem.
How long can You continue with his kind of communication Response?
You no go tire??

lol thats not a wife, thats a prostitute using her toto to defraud her customer husband... if she doesnt want to understand that having sex with her husband is her marital duty that they "both" enjoy (and not an avenue to get gifts), then divorce her asap!

Blessedmercy8:
Not true. A woman can love you and not be in the mood. The problem with you men is that you are so highly insensitive and all you care about is you yourself and you especially when it comes to sex. It's like a woman should not have a say over her own body just to please you.

If a woman is not in the mood and you keep complaining and forcing yourself on her, she'll begin to dislike you. Me I will just hate you. Let me not even mince words here.

Men should learn to exert their energy in more productive things than always whining about sex all the time.

Love has nothing to do with mood. You can love and not be in the mood. Besides, the woman's body is flesh, not iron that you'll be pounding all the time and she won't get tired. Abeg, make una carry that una iron bender body park well. Biko!

Everytime sex sex.

I dont understand, is it only the men that enjoys this. Something wey some geez they run away from due to harder harder suffocation from women. wahala b like sex sex sex oooo

OvertheTop:
AAAAAAMEEEEN!!!!
you will have sense by force!

cc: MrBrownJay1:

remember, the issue is not a wife always having an excuse, its how you (as her husband) deal with it... how difficult it is to sit your wife down and COMMUNICATE WITH HER?!

as i stated earlier:

MrBrownJay1:
bro, there is something called COMMUNICATION, and if a wife doesnt want to get close to her husband during 3 months, then she should have a VALID REASON for it. the husband should simply ask her for an explanation, and if she aint got one then get rid of her.

Hmmmmm some are just frigid

BATified2023:
see ehn

Na guys wey no get sense dey get issue with woman as regard sex matter

Once I demand sex from u n u give me stories I will not argue with u,I will even play with u buy u whatever u want n still form love for u then na to just low key go satisfy myself outside then we come back together happy again

I no dey drag anything with anybody,if u like tell me u are tired for 100 years I will not argue na to just go satisfy myself n avoid irrelevant stories then we are happy together again

If u meet a man like me na u go tire cos na u go even dey ask for sex,since u feel u fit use me do shakara na to just lock up dey smile but I go dey enjoy myself steady

Na mumu dey fight woman cos of sex

If she come Catch u nko, and then Goes Violent on u for the Act.....
like attack u with mortal and pestle

odinson1:


This is another excuse,if a woman likes you, she'll always want to have sex with you. If you aren't good in the game, she'll teach you.
Women break rules for men they like,and Make rules for men they don't like.
Don't let the lies women say get in your head bro

Absolutely correct. If she wouldnt do this. Dump the bitch

Helpout12345:


This is also true. Example if you are a source of the stress or worries, like you serially cheat and she catches you. She can deny you sex for months even though she still loves you.

A Good Man does he Cheat

UNDERSTAND before YOU TYPE!

dmg1:
I've seen the cries of some men about their wives denying them their conjugal right, I just laughed and marveled at the same time.. how can a man being the head of the family belittle himself by begging his own wife for sex ... This can never happen in my house, the moment I notice your defective behavior towards me, I'll immediately activate my 'I don't mode'. And at this point whatever you wear/do cannot attract attention...

I'll now be seeing you as a friend (just friends without feelings attached), if kids are involved I'll give you money to prepare meals and other things that will make life comfortable for my kids, and you'll not enter my room stay on your own while I stay on my own,,

And as for sex, I'm not really a fan of much sex but if I need sex, being a man always with plan b, there are so many young beautiful damsels available to do justice to that....

If I notice you're cheating, that's the day you return back to your parents house (no forgiveness), remember I didn't deny you sex, you have to finish what you ignited...
Brothers/men never be at the mercy of your spouse, else you're finished....

i clapped hard for this ...

dmg1:
I've seen the cries of some men about their wives denying them their conjugal right, I just laughed and marveled at the same time.. how can a man being the head of the family belittle himself by begging his own wife for sex ... This can never happen in my house, the moment I notice your defective behavior towards me, I'll immediately activate my 'I don't mode'. And at this point whatever you wear/do cannot attract attention...

I'll now be seeing you as a friend (just friends without feelings attached), if kids are involved I'll give you money to prepare meals and other things that will make life comfortable for my kids, and you'll not enter my room stay on your own while I stay on my own,,

And as for sex, I'm not really a fan of much sex but if I need sex, being a man always with plan b, there are so many young beautiful damsels available to do justice to that....

If I notice you're cheating, that's the day you return back to your parents house (no forgiveness), remember I didn't deny you sex, you have to finish what you ignited...
Brothers/men never be at the mercy of your spouse, else you're finished....

One bottle of Don pregnon and barbecue for you

Hmm , on what basis did you develop this theory?
Why Shud men weep on naira land because wives deny them sex, when there are so many lonely women around.
It's the height of foolishness for a man to spend 30years making love to one woman.
That's why such woman misbehaves, sometimes you have to try elsewhere nothing wrong with that , gives the man more prestige.

Lol

When you grow older, you will realize that marriage is not all about sex. You will realize that there will come a time when your wife's unclothedness will almost mean nothing to you or when your unclothedness will not mean anything to her. You will, in that moment, realize that there is a TIME FOR EVERYTHING.......

odinson1:
The simple reason is, she doesn't love you bro. She married you only because she had no other option at the time. Know this that a woman will break all rules, raise hell if she has to, to have sex with a man she likes. If she's constantly giving you excuses for an extended period of time, or making demands before she allows you in, it means you're sexually unattractive to her bro, she settled for you.

Women will come on this thread now and give nonsense excuses about her being tired, depressed etc but for how long can one be consistently tired that she only has sex with her husband once in 3 months?

Why are you men just so blind to reality? Damn! You'll jus rush into marriage because of love without making sure the person you're marrying isn't settling for you. You'll give her a comfortable live in the marriage, she'll deny you sex and you'll come to Nairaland to ask for advice.

Women will tell you to continue treating her right, talk things out with her etc. But it never works, trust me. If your wife settled for you, she'll deny you sex and use it to control you. When she needs a new handbag that is very expensive, she'll deny you sex and wait for you to buy it for her first before she allows you in.

Then she repeats the process for another demand and so on and so forth. Is that how you want to live the rest of your life as a man? Begging and paying your WIFE for sex. I'm tired of you men really, y'all lack balls and that is why women use Sex to control you.

What's this one saying?

MonsieurX:
While there are elements of truth in what the OP wrote, I disagree with the idea that lack of sex in a marriage means that your wife doesn't love you.

A man must understand his woman well enough, such that sex isn't forced, it just happens. If you pay attention to your wife's emotional needs, talk to her & establish mutual understanding, romance wouldn't be lacking in the home. You have to know how to turn each other on.

Some men believe that working and getting home to tell their wives "honey, spread your legs" is what marriage is about, no! A woman will go the extra mile to please her husband if both of them have a good emotional bond, after all, sexual urge isn't limited to men alone.

Let's stop passing our limited views to others please. It's too much on social media nowadays.

What a perfect SIMPle gentle man
Everything must be done to please a woman group

OvertheTop:


If she come Catch u nko, and then Goes Violent on u for the Act.....
like attack u with mortal and pestle

she catch me na her problem be that

U can’t deny someone food n still tell him not to eat elsewhere

As regards d violent part,she no go wan craze

I never beat woman all my life n I don’t plan to do so but I no b gentle man,once u go physical with me u go collect

AstraDroid:


Are You Married ?

what is the point of this question?

On Nairaland Alone, You need to see the Number of posts on : Lamentations of Married Men that are Sex Starved in their Marriages...
It's a Pandemic!

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