“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up.

I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason.

My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions.

He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock.

My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a
multinational company and things started to turn around for me.

I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me.

My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No”

My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also.

His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

What is your advice for this young mother of three?
Mynd44

Come up with a better suspense filled and thrilling story line next time....

Beckham14:
Come up with a better suspense filled and thrilling story line next time....

you don't know what people goes through in the southern part of the country, so keep quite aboki if you don't have anything to contribute

Amb1045:
“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up.

I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason.

My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions.

He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock.

My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a
multinational company and things started to turn around for me.

I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me.

My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No”

My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also.

His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

What is your advice for this young mother of three?

I v heard this story several times this month on various platforms.
She should forgive and do the court wedding with her husband.
Last Bullet
Some boys on this site deserve this treatment. They think doing court wedding is tying them to a marriage.
You can't eat your cake and have it.
Sow good in a marriage and reap good. Sow bad and reap bad. Treat a woman well and see if you won't live long.
Do anyhow with a woman with a reserved heart and see if you won't live to regret your decisions.

Amb1045:
you don't know what people goes through in the southern part of the country, so keep quite aboki if you don't have anything to contribute

This is exactly what a daft unintelligent fellow will type...

So everyone who isn't buying your truckload of bullshit cut and join story is an Aboki right?


Shame.

This same story from another person again.

Beckham14:
This is exactly what a daft unintelligent fellow will type...

So everyone who isn't buying your truckload of bullshit cut and join story is an Aboki right?


Shame.

aboki simply mean my friend. So any other meaning you wish to tag it, is none of my business. Still yet keep quite

Omo...This is interesting whether fiction or non fiction
I'm with the wife on this one, nobody is expected to reap where he or she didn't planned on sowing, now he wants to Japa to Texas...

I like the girls father, my special kind of men...!!

Amb1045:
aboki simply mean my friend. So any other meaning you wish to tag it, is none of my business. Still yet keep quite

Lol, no sensible member will buy this your copy and paste bullshit story, Try again next time.

Beckham14:



Lol, no sensible member will buy this your copy and paste bullshit story, Try again next time.

thank you attention seeker, you can simply delete your comments, stay aside and watch how reasonable people will contribute to the topic because they know things that do happen here in the south. Lol

Amb1045:
thank you attention seeker, you can simply delete your comments, stay aside and watch how reasonable people will contribute to the topic because they know things that do happen here in the south. Lol

Lol, Mr. Copy and paste, things are not done that way.... As you can see from the comments above, you're repeating same cut and join story.

Amb1045:
“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up.

I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason.

My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions.

He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock.

My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a
multinational company and things started to turn around for me.

I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me.

My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No”

My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also.

His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

What is your advice for this young mother of three?

You have no fault in this!
So how do you resolve the transfer issue
It means husband will stay in Nigeria!
QED

Slynation:
Omo...This is interesting whether fiction or non fiction
I'm with the wife on this one, nobody is expected to reap where he or she didn't planned on sowing, now he wants to Japa to Texas...

I like the girls father, my special kind of men...!!

Yes
Fiction or nonfiction

Sweetplum:

I v heard this story several times this month on various platforms.
She should do the court wedding with her husband

Why must she perform court wedding when the man has said he will not do court,church wedding ever before now?
This is in the presence of pastors,counsellors,parents,friends?

I swear if am the woman, that court matter dies since that 9yrs ago. what you sow is what u shall reap. now he will think back.and if it is me i will not look at what people will say to me or my family.let her just relocate with the children and leave that arrogant man to die.if he want to marry another wife let him go on.fu!ck that man ass hole and his family.

Beckham14:
Lol, Mr. Copy and paste, things are not done that way.... As you can see from the comments above, you're repeating same cut and join story.

urchin you can clearly see people dropping their view about the topic, now you go back home and take your drugs. There are some mental case that has no cure however I still suggest you take your drugs, DRUGGY

baralatie:

Why must she perform court wedding when the man has said he will not do court,church wedding ever before now?
This is in the presence of pastors,counsellors,parents,friends?

Cos court wedding is the most legalized world wide.

Interesting
We need more of this story

Sweetplum:

Cos court wedding is the most legalized world wide.

But the man has said he does not want court wedding from the beginning

There's no two way about it.

He was insecure enough to not tie the marriage legaly, now, when he has something to gain, he wants to do what he should have done.

Sometimes, this smartess we claim is just pure foolishness.

If he had not married at all it is better than to do it in the way he did.

We shouldn't allow the supposed general things to dictate how we act in our private matters. Study your own situation and act accordingly and not generalize.
Every situation is peculiar.

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