Hello Nairalanders,

I was going through some of my books and came up with some write-ups that I wrote some few years back and thought I should share it. You know information costs money these days but because y'all my families, I thought it good giving this information and others that i'll be posting on this Great site for FREE!!!

Okay, we're going to delve on something more realistic and I believe this will serve as a yard-stick to many especially our earthly "eves".

We all believe that marriage and commitment is about love, but it's also about compatibility. Two people can be deeply in love with one another, but their marriage will still fail miserably. The sad truth is that sometimes love is not enough. There comes a time when you ask yourself the ultimate question: Is he the one?

Why it's important to ask yourself this question?

The dismal statistics state that over 33% of marriages end up in divorce and there is a 50% infidelity rate among couples. Why is this happening? All these couples used to be in love, otherwise they wouldn't have gotten married. That's why you have to ask yourself this question. If you don't want to get married only to wake up years later and realize that you married the wrong man, you have to know that he's the right one for you. Otherwise, you may have a few years of love and happiness, but you're likely to see those years end in a bitter and expensive divorce.

Why are so many couples drifting apart?

The main thing that couples fail to do is ask each other the right questions before rushing into a commitment. I'm not talking about superficial questions such as how many brothers and sisters your man has or where was he born, but deep and penetrating questions. Most women wait until they are married to find out what their man thinks about the important issue in life such as:


Religion
The way to bring up children
Whether or not he even wants children
Does he believe in marriage
How he handles money
What are his long term goals
And many more important issues. It is the difference of opinion in these issues which causes couples to break up.

You wondering how to know if he is the one for you? Ask the right questions on the important issues and you'll find out.

It is estimated that 83% of divorces wouldn't have occurred had the couples asked each other the right questions. Don't allow yourself to become part of the many couples which end up in divorce and breakups. You have an obligation to yourself to ask your man the right questions.

Michael B,  Peace out!!!

I don't think its so much in the asking rather its what you don't hear and more of what you see. Guys nowadays are cluing up to the important questons women are asking. I think its beta to watch out for signs and reactions to specific situations. Its easier to make your mind up that way.

If there is a discussion surrounding the important questions; it would be good to listen but not swallow everything like its sugar.

I think this is a great start to getting to know your spouse.

With anything you have to step carefully and have lots of discussions about lifestyle and values and morals to make sure it is a good fit.

I think the problem is that alot of us women look for finaical stablity and once we see that we try to make it fit. Kinda like making a round peg fit in a square hole. And we ignore that it really does not fit and keep pressing forward. Then we sit and wonder what went wrong and why he broke our hearts when really we should have never been with that guy from the start.

that's is a difficult question you know

its very difficult to tell