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Toktee:
It's been ten years now that I got married to my ulomi babe though am from the middle belt.. Let me tell you pint blank that any woman that has the guts to cheat in marriage will cheat again and again.
As for me I cannot accept any cheating woman, no second chance reason been that she may claim to change, yet that change might be change in strategies on how to do it without your knowledge.
Send any woman that cheat away without the knowledge of her parents or your parents, this is because they will discourage you from doing so.

The bible is clear about adultery and is the only condition for divorce.

Most of you behaves as if you have covenant with Toto.
How sure are you that the two kids are even yours?
The lady said she have been dating the guy before she marry you, yet you are arguing with her that it was last year.
Allow the olosho to sleep, remove her sim card or use razor blade to damage the sim through the lines in the sim card... or just drop some water in the phone and watch what happens next.


But to be honest, you just carry dick you are not a man.

Me,accept and still Bleep a who're under my roof.

Adultery was never the reason for divorce. It is fornication. Matt 5.32 and 19.9. We have been led astray thinking that a cheating wife must be sent away. When you sleep with your wife before you married her, you have cancelled all ground for divorce

sooperrescue:


Adultery was never the reason for divorce. It is fornication. Matt 5.32 and 19.9. We have been led astray thinking that a cheating wife must be sent away. When you sleep with your wife before you married her, you have cancelled all ground for divorce

In the first, Matthew quotes Jesus as saying: “It was also said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, except on the grounds of porneia (sexual immorality), makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:31-32).

sooperrescue:


Adultery was never the reason for divorce. It is fornication. Matt 5.32 and 19.9. We have been led astray thinking that a cheating wife must be sent away. When you sleep with your wife before you married her, you have cancelled all ground for divorce

The first biblical ground for divorce is adultery. When Jesus was asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?”. Jesus reiterated the idea of one man and one woman in a personal, purposeful, and permanent relationship.
Therefore if a woman decide to break the biblical culture of one man one wife, and 1+1=1, to 2+1= 2,then she's on her own.



Do not accept a proud cheating wife....

Toktee:
In the first, Matthew quotes Jesus as saying: “It was also said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, except on the grounds of porneia (sexual immorality), makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:31-32).

Please read KJV bible. What is sexual immorality? It is used to deceive people. The only ground for divorce is fornication. Can a married woman commit fornication? The Op problem would have never come up if he had married a virgin. Virgins don't know what is ex, but because he slept with his wife while they were dating, and knew she was not a virgin and still married her, no excuse for divorce. The Bible even gave us a lifeline that whoever sleeps with a virgin must marry her. Mary, the mother of Jesus went through the problem when she was still a virgin and found to be pregnant. It took an angel to come and pacify Joseph.

sooperrescue:


Please read KJV bible. What is sexual immorality? It is used to deceive people. The only ground for divorce is fornication. Can a married woman commit fornication? The Op problem would have never come up if he had married a virgin. Virgins don't know what is ex, but because he slept with his wife while they were dating, and knew she was not a virgin and still married her, no excuse for divorce. The Bible even gave us a lifeline that whoever sleeps with a virgin must marry her. Mary, the mother of Jesus went through the problem when she was still a virgin and found to be pregnant. It took an angel to come and pacify Joseph.

oga stop all this blind argument, sex before marriage is called fornication while sex in marriage is call adultery... and the Bible is clear about it except you want to change the Bible.
And there's no where in the Bible where it's stated that one must marry a virgin.


How can a married woman commit fornication in marriage?
Pls stop already.

Toktee:


The first biblical ground for divorce is adultery. When Jesus was asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?”. Jesus reiterated the idea of one man and one woman in a personal, purposeful, and permanent relationship.
Therefore if a woman decide to break the biblical culture of one man one wife, and 1+1=1, to 2+1= 2,then she's on her own.



Do not accept a proud cheating wife....

You are right but read KJV version of Matt 5.32 and Matt 19.9 and he said that whoever marries a woman that is put away commits adultery against the husband. So how can a woman put away for adultery according to you, still commit adultery against her husband if she remarried. The Bible says that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive and if while being alive, she marries another man, she shall be called an adulteress. The Bible says that any woman who is not a virgin on the day of marriage should be stoned to death in front of her father's house for playing the harlot while living there

The guy is the father of one or two of your kids.

sooperrescue:


You are right but read KJV version of Matt 5.32 and Matt 19.9 and he said that whoever marries a woman that is put away commits adultery against the husband. So how can a woman put away for adultery according to you, still commit adultery against her husband if she remarried. The Bible says that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive and if while being alive, she marries another man, she shall be called an adulteress. The Bible says that any woman who is not a virgin on the day of marriage should be stoned to death in front of her father's house for playing the harlot while living there

you are confusing your self bro, all this stone here, stone there... Jesus came and put away all this laws by amending them with grace. If not for grace you would have been dead by now.
Now you said the op slept with his wife before marriage and even knew that she was not a verging yet married her?
If at all he knew as u are claimed and absconded after sleeping with her, what will u make of him?
I can see, when you are ready to. Marry you will go on testing sprees?
And according to you all non virgins should not be married?
Then while should you even get married?

Toktee:
oga stop all this blind argument, sex before marriage is called fornication while sex in marriage is call adultery... and the Bible is clear about it except you want to change the Bible.
And there's no where in the Bible where it's stated that one must marry a virgin.


How can a married woman commit fornication in marriage?
Pls stop already.

Please read KJV version of Matt 5.32 for us and also read where it was stated that Joseph, because he was a good man, planned to put away Mary privily until the angel pacified him and the Bible recorded that he did not sleep with her until she gave birth. Then go to Deut where the bible talks about the token of virginity which used to be a part of our wedding festivities where the blood stained bedsheets are shown to people and they will all shower praises on the girl and the family. Use Google and you will understand the Bible

sooperrescue:


You are right but read KJV version of Matt 5.32 and Matt 19.9 and he said that whoever marries a woman that is put away commits adultery against the husband. So how can a woman put away for adultery according to you, still commit adultery against her husband if she remarried. The Bible says that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive and if while being alive, she marries another man, she shall be called an adulteress. The Bible says that any woman who is not a virgin on the day of marriage should be stoned to death in front of her father's house for playing the harlot while living there

the Bible says if the woman is send away by a man for any other reason aside adultery he made her adulteress.
The Bible even says if she's send away she shd remain unmarried.

Toktee:
you are confusing your self bro, all this stone here, stone there... Jesus came and put away all this laws by amending them with grace. If not for grace you would have been dead by now.
Now you said the op slept with his wife before marriage and even knew that she was not a verging yet married her?
If at all he knew as u are claimed and absconded after sleeping with her, what will u make of him?
I can see, when you are ready to. Marry you will go on testing sprees?
And according to you all non virgins should not be married?
Then while should you even get married?

The grace given to women is that instead of stoning them, they will remain unmarried because whoever marries them will be commiting adultery against the ex husband. David, when he returned from Absalom wahala, put away his wives that Absalom slept with in a compound and he never slept with them afterwards. Read your Bible to show your self equipped

Toktee:
the Bible says if the woman is send away by a man for any other reason aside adultery he made her adulteress.
The Bible even says if she's send away she shd remain unmarried.

Thou shalt not put away your wife except for fornication and whosoever that marries the woman that is put away commits adultery against her husband. Is not difficult to understand?

sooperrescue:


Adultery was never the reason for divorce. It is fornication. Matt 5.32 and 19.9. We have been led astray thinking that a cheating wife must be sent away. When you sleep with your wife before you married her, you have cancelled all ground for divorce

And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.Mathew 19.9

sooperrescue:

Thou shalt not put away your wife except for fornication and whosoever that marries the woman that is put away commits adultery against her husband. Is not difficult to understand?

pls I need a quote from the Bible where it's stated clearly that "fornication" and not adultery should be the ground for divorce?
Bible quote pls?

There are two ways to correcting such a woman, most of them don't stop but instead of you losing your spiritual self and honor as a man it's better you apply any of this solutions:

1. Send her packing and use her as a scape goat for her daughters to learn and decist from such in the future .

2. Lace her up with magun so you can teach her and the lover a life time lesson that will correct it forever and make she and her lover hit front page of all National Dailys. That secret lover will be exposed and made to continue his randy life with the devil.

Cheating wives are disrespectful and I can feel your pain. You don't deserve her and she is not a wife, don't let your daughters grow up to emulate such dirty lifestyle. God will give you your wife. But if you choose to continue with the marriage, just make sure you buy your casket before you continue with her.

Thank me later.

Toktee:

And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.Mathew 19.9

I just read the KJV version to you.
That's not KJV version.
Any version that tells you that it's sexual immorality, burn the version. A woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive and if she remarried while her husband is dead, she shall not be called an adulteress but if he is alive, she is an adulteress. So which immorality is your version talking about?

sooperrescue:

Thou shalt not put away your wife except for fornication and whosoever that marries the woman that is put away commits adultery against her husband. Is not difficult to understand?

You just limit you argument on kjv, give me specific Bible quote where it's written that " Fornication" and not adultery should be reason for divorce?

Failure to do that do not quote me again?

What's fornication?
What's adultery?

Define them separately pls.

sooperrescue:
I just read the KJV version to you.
That's not KJV version.
Any version that tells you that it's sexual immorality, burn the version. A woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive and if she remarried while her husband is dead, she shall not be called an adulteress but if he is alive, she is an adulteress. So which immorality is your version talking about?

Leviticus 20:10 - And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.

This is also kjv.

mosaicafrique:
There are two ways to correcting such a woman, most of them don't stop but instead of you losing your spiritual self and honor as a man it's better you apply any of this solutions:

1. Send her packing and use her as a scape goat for her daughters to learn and decist from such in the future .

2. Lace her up with magun so you can teach her and the lover a life time lesson that will correct it forever and make she and her lover hit front page of all National Dailys. That secret lover will be exposed and made to continue his randy life with the devil.

Cheating wives are disrespectful and I can feel your pain. You don't deserve her and she is not a wife, don't let your daughters grow up to emulate such dirty lifestyle. God will give you your wife. But if you choose to continue with the marriage, just make sure you buy your casket before you continue with her.

Thank me later.

Very good position but Jesus told the woman caught in the act of adultery to go and sin no more. But he didn't forgive the fornicators. The Bible warned us to flee from fornication and also reminded us to not allow fornication to be once named among us and that the will of God is to flee from fornication. The Op is like everyone of us paying for the sins of fornication. A woman already condemned to death will never give a man peace. We have all believed a lie that it has now become the truth. He can't put her away all the days of his life. Na his cross

I won't tell you to leave your marriage especially as there are kids involved.
However, the fact that you had to tell your wife to cut all communications with him (especially after what transpired) shows either of 2 things:
1) She doesn't respect you and your marriage enough to do what is necessary.
2) She's very naive to think that saying "I won't do it again" is enough to make things right in her marriage.

Eitherway, If I were in your shoes, my response to her would be..."if you value your friendship with this person enough to lose our marriage over, then you probably should be married to him".

I wouldn't bring it up again & if I don't see a change (genuine one at that) in a few days...I'll check out. First emotionally, then as things progress, physically.

"We accept the love we think we deserve..."

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Toktee:
You just limit you argument on kjv, give me specific Bible quote where it's written that " Fornication" and not adultery should be reason for divorce?

Failure to do that do not quote me again?

What's fornication?
What's adultery?

Define them separately pls.

Matt 5.32 KJV, but I say to you that whosoever shall put away his wife saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committed adultery.

The answer to your questions is in that verse. Deut 22.13 KJV will interpret the Matt verse about a married woman commiting fornication. Make I go work. Happy new year

sooperrescue:


Matt 5.32 KJV, but I say to you that whosoever shall put away his wife saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committed adultery.

The answer to your questions is in that verse. Deut 22.13 KJV will interpret the Matt verse about a married woman commiting fornication. Make I go work. Happy new year

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Kingpin1000:
Too many weak men these days.. someone is having an affair with your wife and all you can do is to tell her to block her joy giver and yet she told you no, with a flimsy excuse of knowing the bastard before you..
Oga that guy is more important than you and you shouldn't be surprised if He lay claim to your daughters because he was banging your wife before you knew and got married to her and is still banging your wife.
Ones a woman taste another prick and she cum, my brother just forget it.
Leave that wife ASAP so that we will not see obituary of a nairalander.
Ì know you won't listen because, your type na SIMP.

He won't listen. That's why he's here in the first place.

OP continue enduring her abeg..

Afodot0022:
Good day naira landers and happy holiday. I am writing this base on the challenge am having in my marriage. Some of you might have known little about the issue i had previously cos i brought it to the forum.

It happened that my wife was having emotional affairs with another man which i knew through her chat.

Though family and pastor were involved and have tried everything to resolve the issue between us. I have decided to forgive and forget and also give her a second chance even though it was a difficult situation for me, I decided to let go cos of my two daughters and don't want them to share from a broken home.

Now the issue am still having is that my wife has promise to change and be a better person and also promise to cut any emotional tile with the man. But I wasn't confident with that, so i told her to block this guy on all social media and also delete his number so there wont be any communication between them cos i sense if they both keep in touch, they might go back to what they were doing before. She got angry when i told her this and she said she can't block the guy cos they have been friends for many years even before she got married to me.

She started dating the guy last year under my roof and her reason was that i pushed her to do such act cos i wasn't giving her enough attention and love which is totally a lie.

So house, pls just let me know if i did wrong by telling her to block the guy or i over did it. I just felt blocking him will be best for us cos i noticed my wife is not fully detached from this guy emotionally.

Pls if you are in my shoes, what will you do house. If you want to get more insight about what transpired, you can go to my details nairaland.

Pls mod, help me by doing the needful.

You did nothing wrong.
And be extremely careful before she poison u and marry that fornicator.

Socratiz:
It seems to me that those who intervened do not have the requisite skill to handle matters like this.

The first step would be to fully explore the reasons your wife started this affair. It's most likely that some unresolved childhood trauma was the cause. Unless the whole spectrum is explored and resolved, the incidence of infidelity would always be present in your relationship.

Considering the fact that you like to preserve your marriage, I advise you see a professional marriage counselor.

The task of a counsellor is to help you take a wiser decision, not necessarily to preserve your marriage at all costs.

You may choose to contact me for guidance on this.

Chairman, you are wrong with your advise.
You can't tell someone to carry another person's problem because of infidelity... When she knows she had trauma when she was young or when there is trauma when she was younger why didn't she exibit the same attitude when they were dating so it can be corrected, why did she exibit those character during the two years of marriage but she was exhibiting it after 2 children and you want the husband to become a character CIA or FBI all because he was married to her? The husband already had alot he is taking care and marriage if like two people working as one not for him to become a husband and a councillor of characters.... No one need to contact anyone on such issue... The best bet is divorce because things will never be ok and scar dont heal... It's simple...
The woman is not mature for marriage but decided to play the man into marrying her... She played it like after all I have children and I am married if he wants to leave let him leave me alone... That's the attitude here... Marriage come with respect and I am sure the wife didn't respect the husband and if the table were turned everyone will call the husband different names and the wife won't tolerate it...
You said he can contact you on how to go through with it but even you can't see the dark side of the future between them... Damn

Afodot0022:
Good day naira landers and happy holiday. I am writing this base on the challenge am having in my marriage. Some of you might have known little about the issue i had previously cos i brought it to the forum.

It happened that my wife was having emotional affairs with another man which i knew through her chat.

Though family and pastor were involved and have tried everything to resolve the issue between us. I have decided to forgive and forget and also give her a second chance even though it was a difficult situation for me, I decided to let go cos of my two daughters and don't want them to share from a broken home.

Now the issue am still having is that my wife has promise to change and be a better person and also promise to cut any emotional tile with the man. But I wasn't confident with that, so i told her to block this guy on all social media and also delete his number so there wont be any communication between them cos i sense if they both keep in touch, they might go back to what they were doing before. She got angry when i told her this and she said she can't block the guy cos they have been friends for many years even before she got married to me.

She started dating the guy last year under my roof and her reason was that i pushed her to do such act cos i wasn't giving her enough attention and love which is totally a lie.

So house, pls just let me know if i did wrong by telling her to block the guy or i over did it. I just felt blocking him will be best for us cos i noticed my wife is not fully detached from this guy emotionally.

Pls if you are in my shoes, what will you do house. If you want to get more insight about what transpired, you can go to my details nairaland.

Pls mod, help me by doing the needful.

. You are a confirmed fool if you don't know. You are asking if you did wrong. Don't be firm and instill order and discipline in your home. WEAK MEN SUCK.

Afodot0022:
Good day naira landers and happy holiday. I am writing this base on the challenge am having in my marriage. Some of you might have known little about the issue i had previously cos i brought it to the forum.

It happened that my wife was having emotional affairs with another man which i knew through her chat.

Though family and pastor were involved and have tried everything to resolve the issue between us. I have decided to forgive and forget and also give her a second chance even though it was a difficult situation for me, I decided to let go cos of my two daughters and don't want them to share from a broken home.

Now the issue am still having is that my wife has promise to change and be a better person and also promise to cut any emotional tile with the man. But I wasn't confident with that, so i told her to block this guy on all social media and also delete his number so there wont be any communication between them cos i sense if they both keep in touch, they might go back to what they were doing before. She got angry when i told her this and she said she can't block the guy cos they have been friends for many years even before she got married to me.

She started dating the guy last year under my roof and her reason was that i pushed her to do such act cos i wasn't giving her enough attention and love which is totally a lie.

So house, pls just let me know if i did wrong by telling her to block the guy or i over did it. I just felt blocking him will be best for us cos i noticed my wife is not fully detached from this guy emotionally.

Pls if you are in my shoes, what will you do house. If you want to get more insight about what transpired, you can go to my details nairaland.

Pls mod, help me by doing the needful.

divorce straight no looking back

Toktee:
you are confusing your self bro, all this stone here, stone there... Jesus came and put away all this laws by amending them with grace. If not for grace you would have been dead by now.
Now you said the op slept with his wife before marriage and even knew that she was not a verging yet married her?
If at all he knew as u are claimed and absconded after sleeping with her, what will u make of him?
I can see, when you are ready to. Marry you will go on testing sprees?
And according to you all non virgins should not be married?
Then while should you even get married?

Matthew 5:17 v“Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfil. 18 For assuredly, I say to you, till heaven and earth pass away, one jot or one tittle will by no means pass from the law till all is fulfilled.

Reinamaria:
Why do some men stop giving their wives attention after they marry them?
One foolish one once typed "Do politicians still campaign after winning elections?"
That foolish comment got over 2k likes as at when I saw it.

Dear men (husbands), you need to do better.
Women (your wives) love attention and you owe them that attention.
You need to give them as much attention as they need, so that no other man would matter to them.
Not everything is achieved with force and order.
You all need to do better.

This rubbish is the most senseless and disgusting thing I'll read today. Honestly, you lack wisdom and common sense.
Attention kee you there.
What has attention got to do with responsibility and keeping marital vows? So if your husband is not giving you attention, the next thing is to allow men outside to start making you commit adultery?

femo86:
Chai....dem dey panelbeat your wife with 12 inches gbola

I feel your pain mehn....sorry

How did you reach this conclusion?