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Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by CaveAdullam: 10:31am On Nov 19, 2022
CaveAdullam:


Can we call this a coincidence? Hahaha haha.

MODIFIED

Dear OP, this post is what you need and you must act asap.

My daddy has said everything but since he said I should come and "chook my mouth and do small tafia":

1. Children are women's greatest investment in a relationship. It takes pain to carry a pregnancy for 9 months + years (0-30years +) in nurturing their kids simultaneously with her husband.

2. It is because of this reason women don't like seeing their children engage in risky adventures which aligns with the fact that women are conflict avoidant. The higher the number of children the greater the risk, that's, if she's not able to protect them till strong adulthood. Hope you have seen mother hen and her entourage of chicks? She is harsh, tough, and overprotective because it took pains to bring them to life.

One or two kids pose more of a threat especially when she approaches infertility.

3. First child or male children have a strong place in the heart of women. If you are the (first child) + a male + (only child), forget it, the mother will never let you go. He is a reflection of her husband. She captures the husband in the son and wants to protect him for herself. However, this form of protection does the son no good at all, because it weakens his masculinity.

4. Men attached to an outburst of feminity can't wage warfare in the outside world. Because women don't teach how to become a warrior but an avoider. Counterintuitive, they want you to be strong enough to protect them and provide for them. Then begs the question: how can a man protect and provide without facing warfare?

5. This is why a masculine figure is important in the lives of young males and females. The mother teaches the children how to use silence and trickery to escape when necessary while the father teaches the children how to win by using strength. This is the importance of a father and mother in the life of a child.

6. Not only that, the father becomes a figure the son looks up to for guidance and how to become a better man; the daughter looks up to him to know the right kind of man she can enter a sexual union with and that can protect her and her kids.

7. The son observes the mother in order to know how to identify a good woman base on how she treats her children and respects her husband while the daughter observes her mother so that she can also become a good mother and wife to her children and husband respectively.

8. Life is not straightforward. It is twisted, mixed, complex, complicated, intertwined, and dark. You must look for wisdom to find your way around this maze called life.

9. You can't escape compromise in this life. You must challenge your fears. You must choose a better future over your loved ones.

Your loved ones will slow you down not because they hate you or are envious of your ambitions but because they love you so much that they don't want you to take the risk that leads to the apex.

This is the love that weakens, a romantic kind of love, unlike the love of God - He stands with you as you walk through the valley of the shadow of death. This is the kind of love that strengthens you, the love of fire on raw gold as it massages its inner core extricating every impurity to refine the gold making it beautiful and immaculate.

10. This is you versus the future. You must put yourself first doing what's right and not foregoing truth, wisdom, and integrity. You must make sacrifices even if it involves ostracizing yourself from the love of your family.

11. It is a risky adventure for the male child because he has no escape route, unlike the female child that can leverage men with her beauty and sexuality. As a man you can't escape this warfare, you must fight to the end to seek victory, power, and freedom.

12. There is no guarantee that you will win. Failure is the default. But you must not be weakened by it. Better try and die in the process than not try at all. You will always regret and hate yourself if you don't try because you'll see others that tried, fought, and won. Then and there you become your worst nightmare. Your inner demons will torment you as you grow old towards your grave - a wasted life indeed.

13. Dear friend, don't be afraid. Mother will be proud of you if you come back with a medal. Even if you don't come back with a medal at least you have garnered experiences for life. Use these experiences to learn again. Try to win.

14. Project suggestions to your mother, tell her your ambitions, and bend her to help you pursue your dream. Manipulate her to the extent that she will become the one propelling you to your destination. Women are cheerleaders, they are always happy once they think they are the ones in charge.

If this proves abortive, you must stay aloof and find your way to the zenith.

15. Look for good males on the same journey as you. Find a good mentor. Learn a skill - preferably computer skills. Or, learn a trade. Learn sales and marketing.

Stay away from fraud! A good name is better than riches. Be the poor wise old man people neglect than the fraudulent rich man people clamor for.

16. If you are not going to school to study STEM courses or accounting, please, forget a university certificate and start fighting the battle now. Don't go waste your time in a university with a useless certificate at the end.

Stay well, my friend. See you at the last lap.

Have a nice day.

Cc. Pansophist. Hedgefunds. Calibrator. Tonnyray.

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Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by SimpleGuy001: 2:06pm On Nov 19, 2022
CaveAdullam

Kindly expatriate on 16, why accounting...
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by ahnie: 2:47pm On Nov 19, 2022
Ofu nwa.
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by YourFantasies11(f): 2:57pm On Nov 19, 2022
I like your determination
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by YourFantasies11(f): 2:58pm On Nov 19, 2022
I like your determination.
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Regex: 3:02pm On Nov 19, 2022
pansophist:
This is the one time when you have to ignore your mother and do what is right for you. Humans by nature project their wiring on others. So for men, he will push you to go out there and work while teaching you how to observe safety precautions but women will try to make you safer and more secure since it's what they want.

So for example, if there is a snake in the garden, your father will give you a cutlass and teach you how to cut its head off, obliterating the threat, but your mother will lock you inside, to prevent you from facing the threat. Both methods are good, but one is greater and makes you strong. The mother's method is good when a child is young, but as an adult, your father's method is better.

In any case, one person will not be happy. If you listen to your mother, you will be sad. If you go out there, she will be sad. So why not go out there and save yourself? Go out there, young man. If you make your mother happy, you may retain your body, but you will lose your soul.

Most importantly, you can't make other people happy. You can make them excited, not happy, Happiness is an inside job. You do not burden someone with the obligation to make you happy, and you must not accept it if your mother is doing it to you. Having the right to be happy is like having the right not to be offended, where do you draw the line of what constitutes offense then? Where do we also draw the line of happiness for her?

You are a man, your biological needs are different from women. Women need security, safety, and provision, and even better for them, it is someone else that will provide it in form of a husband. As a man, it is not the same for you. You must go out there and get bruised, forge your way out of the difficulties and bring home to bacon. You don't do this by sitting at home every day with your mum, to make her happy. YOU WILL LOSE YOUR SOUL.

Also, you should know that you are paying a dangerous price staying at home. You are wasting time, a fleeting wealth you have. You won't be stronger, healthier, and free in your 20's, don't bankrupt it. When men always mock women in their 30s who are unmarried, little did they look at themselves in the mirror to see that they are not better either.

Men peak in their 30's, but not most men, just a few. Most men will be invisible from birth to death, and it's because most waste their youths. The clock is ticking, and as you are wasting time contemplating if you should go out there and be a man or make your mother happy, the clock is ticking, and it will have a taste for you, and it will consume you.

Assuming you are 25, in ten years' time if you stay with your mother, you will be older, and your mother will be older too, she may become sick and want drugs but you can't help since you have allowed yourself to be tamed, and all you will hate each other. SHe will see you as a weak goat, and you blame her for your circumstances.

You won't even have the balls to ask women out because your insecurities and weakness will smell from miles away. A lot of you young people think society treats you sweetly as you are in your 20', it is wrong. I am in my early 30's, the difference is like day and night. Five years ago, questions I get are, ''what are you studying? '' or 'what do you want to be? Now it, ''what are you doing''? Where do you work"?

Every parent wants their child to bury them, it would be a tragedy if you allowed your mother to handicap your ability to be able to bury her gracefully because she shielded you from life. Don't allow yourself to be tamed, you owe it to yourself to be free and strong, and to be a man. Be one.

The divine blessing associated with the masculine is the ability to rescue himself and the feminine. Women do not rescue men, but men rescue women. This is the relationship between strength and weakness. If you destroy your life by allowing yourself to be tamed, redemption will never come from anywhere. A woman can be a prostitute and have a series of abortions and uneducated, but if she marries a good man, she is resurrected from her past and a sweet future awaits her.

A man that damages his life is disposable, it's final. I have to make this really dark for you, so you man up and find your strength, because you may think all is fine because the dragon hasn't come looking for you. It will come, at least a decade from now, and that day is not a good day. I always get emails from people everywhere who read what I write here, and many of these men are those who wasted their life and looking for redemption.

Life is not kind to men that messed up, I wonder why lots of fathers are not guiding their sons to the truth because the life of a man is by default, difficult. Very difficult. Let me stop here. I believe I have advised you enough.

cc. Dobnina , CaveAdullam

You did more than enough. Let he who have eyes read and understand and be able to put to practice what you have written.
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Nobody: 7:42pm On Nov 19, 2022
pansophist:
This is the one time when you have to ignore your mother and do what is right for you. Humans by nature project their wiring on others. So for men, he will push you to go out there and work while teaching you how to observe safety precautions but women will try to make you safer and more secure since it's what they want.

So for example, if there is a snake in the garden, your father will give you a cutlass and teach you how to cut its head off, obliterating the threat, but your mother will lock you inside, to prevent you from facing the threat. Both methods are good, but one is greater and makes you strong. The mother's method is good when a child is young, but as an adult, your father's method is better.

In any case, one person will not be happy. If you listen to your mother, you will be sad. If you go out there, she will be sad. So why not go out there and save yourself? Go out there, young man. If you make your mother happy, you may retain your body, but you will lose your soul.

Most importantly, you can't make other people happy. You can make them excited, not happy, Happiness is an inside job. You do not burden someone with the obligation to make you happy, and you must not accept it if your mother is doing it to you. Having the right to be happy is like having the right not to be offended, where do you draw the line of what constitutes offense then? Where do we also draw the line of happiness for her?

You are a man, your biological needs are different from women. Women need security, safety, and provision, and even better for them, it is someone else that will provide it in form of a husband. As a man, it is not the same for you. You must go out there and get bruised, forge your way out of the difficulties and bring home to bacon. You don't do this by sitting at home every day with your mum, to make her happy. YOU WILL LOSE YOUR SOUL.

Also, you should know that you are paying a dangerous price staying at home. You are wasting time, a fleeting wealth you have. You won't be stronger, healthier, and free in your 20's, don't bankrupt it. When men always mock women in their 30s who are unmarried, little did they look at themselves in the mirror to see that they are not better either.

Men peak in their 30's, but not most men, just a few. Most men will be invisible from birth to death, and it's because most waste their youths. The clock is ticking, and as you are wasting time contemplating if you should go out there and be a man or make your mother happy, the clock is ticking, and it will have a taste for you, and it will consume you.

Assuming you are 25, in ten years' time if you stay with your mother, you will be older, and your mother will be older too, she may become sick and want drugs but you can't help since you have allowed yourself to be tamed, and all you will hate each other. SHe will see you as a weak goat, and you blame her for your circumstances.

You won't even have the balls to ask women out because your insecurities and weakness will smell from miles away. A lot of you young people think society treats you sweetly as you are in your 20', it is wrong. I am in my early 30's, the difference is like day and night. Five years ago, questions I get are, ''what are you studying? '' or 'what do you want to be? Now it, ''what are you doing''? Where do you work"?

Every parent wants their child to bury them, it would be a tragedy if you allowed your mother to handicap your ability to be able to bury her gracefully because she shielded you from life. Don't allow yourself to be tamed, you owe it to yourself to be free and strong, and to be a man. Be one.

The divine blessing associated with the masculine is the ability to rescue himself and the feminine. Women do not rescue men, but men rescue women. This is the relationship between strength and weakness. If you destroy your life by allowing yourself to be tamed, redemption will never come from anywhere. A woman can be a prostitute and have a series of abortions and uneducated, but if she marries a good man, she is resurrected from her past and a sweet future awaits her.

A man that damages his life is disposable, it's final. I have to make this really dark for you, so you man up and find your strength, because you may think all is fine because the dragon hasn't come looking for you. It will come, at least a decade from now, and that day is not a good day. I always get emails from people everywhere who read what I write here, and many of these men are those who wasted their life and looking for redemption.

Life is not kind to men that messed up, I wonder why lots of fathers are not guiding their sons to the truth because the life of a man is by default, difficult. Very difficult. Let me stop here. I believe I have advised you enough.

cc. Dobnina , CaveAdullam






man i must follow, u spill facts
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Hedgefunds: 8:37pm On Nov 19, 2022
CaveAdullam:



Wisdom , Knowledge and Understanding .Thank you Cave.

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Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by CaveAdullam: 8:49pm On Nov 19, 2022
Hedgefunds:


Wisdom, Knowledge ,and Understanding.Thank you, Cave.

Thank you, boss. I do appreciate your kind and beautiful cheers. You are good.

Stay blessed.
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by BigBashiru: 7:11am On Nov 20, 2022
pansophist:
This is the one time when you have to ignore your mother and do what is right for you. Humans by nature project their wiring on others. So for men, he will push you to go out there and work while teaching you how to observe safety precautions but women will try to make you safer and more secure since it's what they want.

So for example, if there is a snake in the garden, your father will give you a cutlass and teach you how to cut its head off, obliterating the threat, but your mother will lock you inside, to prevent you from facing the threat. Both methods are good, but one is greater and makes you strong. The mother's method is good when a child is young, but as an adult, your father's method is better.

In any case, one person will not be happy. If you listen to your mother, you will be sad. If you go out there, she will be sad. So why not go out there and save yourself? Go out there, young man. If you make your mother happy, you may retain your body, but you will lose your soul.

Most importantly, you can't make other people happy. You can make them excited, not happy, Happiness is an inside job. You do not burden someone with the obligation to make you happy, and you must not accept it if your mother is doing it to you. Having the right to be happy is like having the right not to be offended, where do you draw the line of what constitutes offense then? Where do we also draw the line of happiness for her?

You are a man, your biological needs are different from women. Women need security, safety, and provision, and even better for them, it is someone else that will provide it in form of a husband. As a man, it is not the same for you. You must go out there and get bruised, forge your way out of the difficulties and bring home to bacon. You don't do this by sitting at home every day with your mum, to make her happy. YOU WILL LOSE YOUR SOUL.

Also, you should know that you are paying a dangerous price staying at home. You are wasting time, a fleeting wealth you have. You won't be stronger, healthier, and free in your 20's, don't bankrupt it. When men always mock women in their 30s who are unmarried, little did they look at themselves in the mirror to see that they are not better either.

Men peak in their 30's, but not most men, just a few. Most men will be invisible from birth to death, and it's because most waste their youths. The clock is ticking, and as you are wasting time contemplating if you should go out there and be a man or make your mother happy, the clock is ticking, and it will have a taste for you, and it will consume you.

Assuming you are 25, in ten years' time if you stay with your mother, you will be older, and your mother will be older too, she may become sick and want drugs but you can't help since you have allowed yourself to be tamed, and all you will hate each other. SHe will see you as a weak goat, and you blame her for your circumstances.

You won't even have the balls to ask women out because your insecurities and weakness will smell from miles away. A lot of you young people think society treats you sweetly as you are in your 20', it is wrong. I am in my early 30's, the difference is like day and night. Five years ago, questions I get are, ''what are you studying? '' or 'what do you want to be? Now it, ''what are you doing''? Where do you work"?

Every parent wants their child to bury them, it would be a tragedy if you allowed your mother to handicap your ability to be able to bury her gracefully because she shielded you from life. Don't allow yourself to be tamed, you owe it to yourself to be free and strong, and to be a man. Be one.

The divine blessing associated with the masculine is the ability to rescue himself and the feminine. Women do not rescue men, but men rescue women. This is the relationship between strength and weakness. If you destroy your life by allowing yourself to be tamed, redemption will never come from anywhere. A woman can be a prostitute and have a series of abortions and uneducated, but if she marries a good man, she is resurrected from her past and a sweet future awaits her.

A man that damages his life is disposable, it's final. I have to make this really dark for you, so you man up and find your strength, because you may think all is fine because the dragon hasn't come looking for you. It will come, at least a decade from now, and that day is not a good day. I always get emails from people everywhere who read what I write here, and many of these men are those who wasted their life and looking for redemption.

Life is not kind to men that messed up, I wonder why lots of fathers are not guiding their sons to the truth because the life of a man is by default, difficult. Very difficult. Let me stop here. I believe I have advised you enough.

cc. Dobnina , CaveAdullam


not written anywhere nor is it set in stone that a man must provide for the woman. That's just plain exploitation. A woman should be capable of providing for herself because she went to school and can work; but if a man wants to perish, he can continue doing the provider nonsense.

Men mock females in their 30s because they were power drunk in the peak of their youth and thought it will last forever...so the ones in their 30s and single deserve to be mocked.....

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Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Meandmycrew(f): 9:49am On Nov 20, 2022
Forget this write up here and there, @Op nobody will advise you morethan yourself, follow your heart and do what works for you.
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by KingClown(m): 11:43am On Nov 20, 2022
pansophist:
This is the one time when you have to ignore your mother and do what is right for you. Humans by nature project their wiring on others. So for men, he will push you to go out there and work while teaching you how to observe safety precautions but women will try to make you safer and more secure since it's what they want.

So for example, if there is a snake in the garden, your father will give you a cutlass and teach you how to cut its head off, obliterating the threat, but your mother will lock you inside, to prevent you from facing the threat. Both methods are good, but one is greater and makes you strong. The mother's method is good when a child is young, but as an adult, your father's method is better.

In any case, one person will not be happy. If you listen to your mother, you will be sad. If you go out there, she will be sad. So why not go out there and save yourself? Go out there, young man. If you make your mother happy, you may retain your body, but you will lose your soul.

Most importantly, you can't make other people happy. You can make them excited, not happy, Happiness is an inside job. You do not burden someone with the obligation to make you happy, and you must not accept it if your mother is doing it to you. Having the right to be happy is like having the right not to be offended, where do you draw the line of what constitutes offense then? Where do we also draw the line of happiness for her?

You are a man, your biological needs are different from women. Women need security, safety, and provision, and even better for them, it is someone else that will provide it in form of a husband. As a man, it is not the same for you. You must go out there and get bruised, forge your way out of the difficulties and bring home to bacon. You don't do this by sitting at home every day with your mum, to make her happy. YOU WILL LOSE YOUR SOUL.

Also, you should know that you are paying a dangerous price staying at home. You are wasting time, a fleeting wealth you have. You won't be stronger, healthier, and free in your 20's, don't bankrupt it. When men always mock women in their 30s who are unmarried, little did they look at themselves in the mirror to see that they are not better either.

Men peak in their 30's, but not most men, just a few. Most men will be invisible from birth to death, and it's because most waste their youths. The clock is ticking, and as you are wasting time contemplating if you should go out there and be a man or make your mother happy, the clock is ticking, and it will have a taste for you, and it will consume you.

Assuming you are 25, in ten years' time if you stay with your mother, you will be older, and your mother will be older too, she may become sick and want drugs but you can't help since you have allowed yourself to be tamed, and all you will hate each other. SHe will see you as a weak goat, and you blame her for your circumstances.

You won't even have the balls to ask women out because your insecurities and weakness will smell from miles away. A lot of you young people think society treats you sweetly as you are in your 20', it is wrong. I am in my early 30's, the difference is like day and night. Five years ago, questions I get are, ''what are you studying? '' or 'what do you want to be? Now it, ''what are you doing''? Where do you work"?

Every parent wants their child to bury them, it would be a tragedy if you allowed your mother to handicap your ability to be able to bury her gracefully because she shielded you from life. Don't allow yourself to be tamed, you owe it to yourself to be free and strong, and to be a man. Be one.

The divine blessing associated with the masculine is the ability to rescue himself and the feminine. Women do not rescue men, but men rescue women. This is the relationship between strength and weakness. If you destroy your life by allowing yourself to be tamed, redemption will never come from anywhere. A woman can be a prostitute and have a series of abortions and uneducated, but if she marries a good man, she is resurrected from her past and a sweet future awaits her.

A man that damages his life is disposable, it's final. I have to make this really dark for you, so you man up and find your strength, because you may think all is fine because the dragon hasn't come looking for you. It will come, at least a decade from now, and that day is not a good day. I always get emails from people everywhere who read what I write here, and many of these men are those who wasted their life and looking for redemption.

Life is not kind to men that messed up, I wonder why lots of fathers are not guiding their sons to the truth because the life of a man is by default, difficult. Very difficult. Let me stop here. I believe I have advised you enough.

cc. Dobnina , CaveAdullam








abeg boss this question no dy related to the topic but all these business guys wey dey go China, wetin dem dey go do ?

is it importation business?
why type goods are they importing.

I'm sure there are other things besides importation, if you know more about this I'll be happy to hear from you.
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by pansophist(m): 11:54am On Nov 20, 2022
KingClown:



abeg boss this question no dy related to the topic but all these business guys wey dey go China, wetin dem dey go do ?

is it importation business?
why type goods are they importing.

I'm sure there are other things besides importation, if you know more about this I'll be happy to hear from you.

Go to Ladipo or Alaba market. They offload containers coming from China there everyday, that's how you know what they import.

Nigeria is a consumer society, we only produce oil, so anything the people want will sell. Especially women products. So hair, cream, shoes, wears, bags, etc will sell.

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Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by pansophist(m): 11:58am On Nov 20, 2022
BigBashiru:


not written anywhere nor is it set in stone that a man must provide for the woman. That's just plain exploitation. A woman should be capable of providing for herself because she went to school and can work; but if a man wants to perish, he can continue doing the provider nonsense.

Men mock females in their 30s because they were power drunk in the peak of their youth and thought it will last forever...so the ones in their 30s and single deserve to be mocked.....

If you're married to a woman, then you should provide for her. I respect your decision to think that a woman should provide for herself, but as for me, I'll provide for my own wife, who is an extension of me.

The question here would be, will such women be worth my sacrifice? Not if I'll provide or not. It would be a shame for a wife to still worry about her livelihood during times like pregnancy, child nursing etc. What's the man's usefulness then?

Where is your self respect? Your honour? Your strength? Please explain to me in clear terms how you'll be useful to your wife if you can't provide for her.

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Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by BigBashiru: 7:11pm On Nov 20, 2022
pansophist:


If you're married to a woman, then you should provide for her. I respect your decision to think that a woman should provide for herself, but as for me, I'll provide for my own wife, who is an extension of me.

The question here would be, will such women be worth my sacrifice? Not if I'll provide or not. It would be a shame for a wife to still worry about her livelihood during times like pregnancy, child nursing etc. What's the man's usefulness then?

Where is your self respect? Your honour? Your strength? Please explain to me in clear terms how you'll be useful to your wife if you can't provide for her.

You have an outdated patriarchal mentality. See bah it's simple...provide for ur wife and die doing so okay? The litmus test and true test of love is if the roles were to be reversed, will the wife also provide for you? There are two options: follow the crowd as ur currently doing or 2. Think differently. Nuff said.

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Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Anonime1105(m): 8:00pm On Nov 20, 2022
CaveAdullam:


Can we call this a coincidence? Hahaha haha.

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Dear OP, this post is what you need and you must act asap.

My daddy has said everything but since he said I should come and "chook my mouth and do small tafia":

1. Children are women's greatest investment in a relationship. It takes pain to carry a pregnancy for 9 months + years (0-30years +) in nurturing their kids simultaneously with her husband.

2. It is because of this reason women don't like seeing their children engage in risky adventures which aligns with the fact that women are conflict avoidant. The higher the number of children the greater the risk, that's, if she's not able to protect them till strong adulthood. Hope you have seen mother hen and her entourage of chicks? She is harsh, tough, and overprotective because it took pains to bring them to life.

One or two kids pose more of a threat especially when she approaches menopause.

3. First child or male children have a strong place in the heart of women. If you are the (first child) + a male + (only child), forget it, the mother will never let you go. He is a reflection of her husband. She captures the husband in the son and wants to protect him for herself. However, this form of protection does the son no good at all, because it weakens his masculinity.

4. Men attached to an outburst of feminity can't wage warfare in the outside world. Because women don't teach how to become a warrior but an avoider. Counterintuitive, they want you to be strong enough to protect them and provide for them. Then begs the question: how can a man protect and provide without facing warfare?

5. This is why a masculine figure is important in the lives of young males and females. The mother teaches the children how to use silence and trickery to escape when necessary while the father teaches the children how to win by using strength. This is the importance of a father and mother in the life of a child.

6. Not only that, the father becomes a figure the son looks up to for guidance and how to become a better man; the daughter looks up to him to know the right kind of man she can enter a sexual union with and that can protect her and her kids.

7. The son observes the mother in order to know how to identify a good woman base on how she treats her children and respects her husband while the daughter observes her mother so that she can also become a good mother and wife to her children and husband respectively.

8. Life is not straightforward. It is twisted, mixed, complex, complicated, intertwined, and dark. You must look for wisdom to find your way around this maze called life.

9. You can't escape compromise in this life. You must challenge your fears. You must choose a better future over your loved ones.

Your loved ones will slow you down not because they hate you or are envious of your ambitions but because they love you so much that they don't want you to take the risk that leads to the apex.

This is the love that weakens, a romantic kind of love, unlike the love of God - He stands with you as you walk through the valley of the shadow of death. This is the kind of love that strengthens you, the love of fire on raw gold as it massages its inner core extricating every impurity to refine the gold making it beautiful and immaculate.

10. This is you versus the future. You must put yourself first doing what's right and not foregoing truth, wisdom, and integrity. You must make sacrifices even if it involves ostracizing yourself from the love of your family.

11. It is a risky adventure for the male child because he has no escape route, unlike the female child that can leverage men with her beauty and sexuality. As a man you can't escape this warfare, you must fight to the end to seek victory, power, and freedom.

12. There is no guarantee that you will win. Failure is the default. But you must not be weakened by it. Better try and die in the process than not try at all. You will always regret and hate yourself if you don't try because you'll see others that tried, fought, and won. Then and there you become your worst nightmare. Your inner demons will torment you as you grow old towards your grave - a wasted life indeed.

13. Dear friend, don't be afraid. Mother will be proud of you if you come back with a medal. Even if you don't come back with a medal at least you have garnered experiences for life. Use these experiences to learn again. Try to win.

14. Project suggestions to your mother, tell her your ambitions, and bend her to help you pursue your dream. Manipulate her to the extent that she will become the one propelling you to your destination. Women are cheerleaders, they are always happy once they think they are the ones in charge.

If this proves abortive, you must stay aloof and find your way to the zenith.

15. Look for good males on the same journey as you. Find a good mentor. Learn a skill - preferably computer skills. Or, learn a trade. Learn sales and marketing.

Stay away from fraud! A good name is better than riches. Be the poor wise old man people neglect than the fraudulent rich man people clamor for.

16. If you are not going to school to study STEM courses or accounting, please, forget a university certificate and start fighting the battle now. Don't go waste your time in a university with a useless certificate at the end.

Stay well, my friend. See you at the last lap.

Have a nice day.


words on marble

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Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by pansophist(m): 8:49pm On Nov 20, 2022
BigBashiru:


You have an outdated patriarchal mentality. See bah it's simple...provide for ur wife and die doing so okay? [b]The litmus test and true test of love is I'd the roles were to be reversed, will the wife also provide for you? [/b]There are two options: follow the crowd as ur currently doing or 2. Think differently. Nuff said.

grin grin

@bolded, Reverse psychology lol, beating women in their game. Unto equality things, we do it 50/50.

But where I am different is that feminists can all go to hell. I see that patriarchal nonsense as what it is, nonsense. Yes, I am patriarchial.

Hence I said its about a providing for a worthy woman. A worthy women will assist her husband, is not lazy, and useful beyond sex.
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by TheSourcerer: 3:11pm On Nov 21, 2022
pansophist:


Go to Ladipo or Alaba market. They offload containers coming from China there everyday, that's how you know what they import.

Nigeria is a consumer society, we only produce oil, so anything the people want will sell. Especially women products. So hair, cream, shoes, wears, bags, etc will sell.

hi this is a random text to remind you to smile , unclench your fist , relax your jaws and smile , trust me it helps , no matter what it always gets better , no matter what , just keep holding on do have a wonderful day smiley

Plus went through your comments, you’re awesome smiley
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Couragejay: 7:00am On Nov 24, 2022
Lionize:
That's one of her wishes and fears. How old are you now?
Am 26
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Couragejay: 7:06am On Nov 24, 2022
[quote author=CaveAdullam post=118513384][/quote]God bless u sir
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Lionize: 7:06am On Nov 24, 2022
Couragejay:
Am 26
A grandson will give her some relief
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Couragejay: 7:07am On Nov 24, 2022
ahnie:
Ofu nwa.
my wife will bear me plenty children i swear
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Couragejay: 7:10am On Nov 24, 2022
Abba114:
man i must follow, u spill facts
perfectly said
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Couragejay: 7:12am On Nov 24, 2022
pansophist:


Go to Ladipo or Alaba market. They offload containers coming from China there everyday, that's how you know what they import.

Nigeria is a consumer society, we only produce oil, so anything the people want will sell. Especially women products. So hair, cream, shoes, wears, bags, etc will sell.
i knw but am nt financially stable i need a guardian
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Couragejay: 7:16am On Nov 24, 2022
Lionize:

A grandson will give her some relief
lol which lady is ready to stick with a poor guy like me i have been mocked and rejected by ladies even some of my closed friends i love and couldnt do without, i hate this life
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Couragejay: 7:20am On Nov 24, 2022
Nekky5:
Mothers are very clingy to their first son. Deep in her heart ,she wants you to stand as a man and succeed but the fear of the unknown makes her emotional each time you come up with leaving the house. Oga, listen to me if you love your family, leave them now and pursue your dreams. As long as you continue to look at your mum's face, you may not see those dreams become real. You will be insulted for not being the man you are meant to be.The responsibility of that family lies on you. Go and make them proud and be happy you did.
thanks this mean alot to me
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Lionize: 10:35am On Nov 24, 2022
Couragejay:
lol which lady is ready to stick with a poor guy like me i have been mocked and rejected by ladies even some of my closed friends i love and couldnt do without, i hate this life

You never can tell. Change your purpose from 'hit and run' to marriage.
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Couragejay: 12:27pm On Nov 24, 2022
Lionize:


You never can tell. Change your purpose from 'hit and run' to marriage.
i have never been a hit and run fan i hate that because of my unborn female children
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Lionize: 1:01pm On Nov 25, 2022
Couragejay:
i have never been a hit and run fan i hate that because of my unborn female children
But has your mother ever bothered you about getting married?
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by pansophist(m): 9:42am On Nov 27, 2022
Couragejay:
i knw but am nt financially stable i need a guardian

How bad do you want to be successful? If you can read and write, in good shape and not filled with useless pride, you can always hustle the money.

Go to your nearest park, and you can be a conductor straight up. Or to market and carry stuff for people, then save up to climb the social ladder.

If you can save 100k in three months, then look a spot at a busy junction and start selling fast moving foods. Fry Akara, yam, or an indomie joint.

Or if you have family that can give you 100k, then skip the second paragraph. As you're selling maybe the noodle joint, try to see what you can do to climb up again, maybe a proper restaurant after a year of saving up.

Then try make it two restaurants. And maybe save for a car and start Uber. These are just examples, but if you're willing to put in the work, you'll be successful. I'm a living witness.

If you have a laptop, then see if you can be flashing and downloading stuff in your area or computer village. Just start small with anything, and grow. Food may not be your thing, it's fine. Start, just start something.

The circle of life is birth, then growth. The idea that you cannot do anything because you're broke is a convenient excuse. It's like saying you can't go for jogging because it's raining. Meanwhile people are working inside the rain.

But please, pick a degree program at the open university, so you can attend in the weekend while your business grows. Kill two birds with one stone. Don't join the gang of weaklings who go to uni to flex and fork, then "graduate" dumb, broke, and a baggage to society.

See I was born in the trenches. I'm not from money at all. But I did things like this before I left Naija and life was hard at first, but became beautiful later. People laughed at me but who cares?

When I wrote my first scholarship exam to leave Naija, I got lots of look down and people telling me that I can't make it. But I passed. I proved to myself and to them the stuff I'm made of.

I studied for straight six months before I go write the exam. At 18, I've been studying for SAT, IELTS, and past questions. And I was amongst the less than 40 students chosen in the midst of thousands that applied.

I believe that the universe works with the rythym of cause and effect. If you want something and are willing to pay the price, it will give it to you.

So the question now is, can you make yourself lightweight to reach salvation? Can you become more hardworking, patience, courageous, kill off your ego, and believe in yourself?

Are you teachable and to be a servant then a master later? Can you prove to yourself that you are capable of being your own saviour? Your destiny is in your hands man.

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Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Couragejay: 8:10am On Nov 28, 2022
Lionize:

But has your mother ever bothered you about getting married?
yes but is not my idea i want to make money first i dnt want to suffer someones daughter
Re: My Moms Tears Weaks Me Each Time I Try To Find My Way Out by Lionize: 3:29pm On Nov 28, 2022
Couragejay:
yes but is not my idea i want to make money first i dnt want to suffer someones daughter
Ofcourse, I was just pointing out why she qcts that way. But, you need to also seek divine direction, the power to make weath "naturally" is in His hands.
If God help you, getting married may be q blessing to you.

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