pendo89:

mmh blackmail.
why the heck did she have this other relationship.
whatever the case.you dont solve evil with evil so go ahead spill it out cz I can guarantee you that this dude will keep playing this game till the marriage eventually collapses.

ebonyvibe:

I have a friend who has being keeping a lover outside; she has now decided to call it a day and he has threathened to tell her husband if she doesnt pay hime £5000.

Should she:

1)pay him and hope he doesnt come back?
2)to tell herband?
3)ignore him no proof anyway?

or will he keep coming back?

ebonyvibe<<<been caught cheating with Mr Cork

ebonyvibe:

I have a friend who has being keeping a lover outside; she has now decided to call it a day and he has threathened to tell her husband if she doesnt pay hime £5000.

Should she:

1)pay him and hope he doesnt come back?
2)to tell husband?
3)ignore him no proof anyway?

or will he keep coming back?

coogar:

--she must never ever tell her husband. the trust he has in his wife disappears instantly and the marriage will eventually die a natural death.
--since there's no proof, no audio/video evidence, she should ignore completely. change her numbers and keep her fingers crossed.

MRbrownJAY:

what MARRIAGE will die if she confess?! you mean that marriage that has been dead a LONG TIME AGO?! the minute she cheated, that marriage was over and simply hanging on an ILLUSION.

as for changing her number and disappearing, thats only good if gigolo didn't know her name, address, place of work and they have no friends in common.

coogar:

marriage is still alive and kicking as long as the husband is not aware of the affair.

no man can truly forgive infidelity in marriage. any woman who feels her husband will understand is extremely idiotic. the man will even the scores either now or 10 years later. plenty of time to think it through. besides, the man can even send her packing after her confession.

gigolo can feck off where the sun don't shine. . . . .name? address? place of work?

is there any proof they were screwing each other? it's her word against his.

MRbrownJAY:

lol really?! the wife is bleeping around like a rat and you are claiming the marriage is alive and kicking?

as i said earlier, only THE ILLUSION of marriage is alive and kicking because the minute this gal opened her leg to the gigolo, she VOID the vows she made and therefore renders that marriage done with.

if YOU think being happily married can be achieve in such manners then you have a lot to learn. if a husband/wife dont ACT married then what they have isnt worth shiit.

and whats wrong with that?! wouldnt you dump your partner if they did the same to you?!
at least WE all know what you want your spouse to do when/if they cheat on you. . . . . . . . . no wonder many will NEVER find happiness in their r/ships.

the minute this will get to the ears of hubby then suspicion will set in, a simple check of her phone records will reveal that she DID call/sms him many times. if the guy asks for money then we can be certain that he got something incriminating against this gal.

coogar:

very much alive and kicking. . . . .what you dunno wouldn't kill you.

you could be living with hiv for the past 10 yrs, you are not aware of it and you might never die of it.

what idiotic vows. . . .do you know what the husband is doing?
there's no void as long as both parties keep their dirty affairs under wraps. . . .

how do you know what you get paid every month is what you truly deserve. the tax man works out whatever math and they tell you your monthly pay is $5,432.56. what makes you think it shouldn't be more than that? you don't know and you will never care until someone exposes the fraud.

happy marriage? you are asking for a lot, son.
men keep secrets, women keep more. the day husband and wife truly confess their atrocities in marriage in totality, you will realize there's no "happy" marriage as you put it. someway somehow, there's a judas in every marriage. the degree of judasism only varies from person to person.

the more reason i will not tell my partner if i cheated on her.
cannot let 5 mins of casual s[i]e[/i]x ruin a relationship i have fostered for years or decades.

it's easier to keep the secret than ruin the marriage or go through the process of nonsense divorce. i am an expert at risk management.

you are so naive!
you really think this woman hasn't done her homework to eliminate any trace evidence, every digital footprint, every email, every text message, etc from her phone? if you catch a woman cheating - it's either she wanted to be caught so she can officially leave you or you work for the fbi.
debarring those 2 options, you don't catch women cheating. it rarely happens. they are better at it than men!