I have being in a relationship with this girl for the past two weeks but can't easily forgive my self for the amount of airtime I have been spending on daily bases. Each call we make usually lasts between 15-30mins daily and she wants to be talking to me repeatedly after every each call. She doesn't wants our conversations to end as she always inform me she loves me and wish she keeps on hearing my voice all the times. Frankly speaking, I so much love her as well but the problem is this attitude is ruining me financially, coupled with the fact that I'm still an undergraduate who doesn't even work. The other issue is that despite being a high school graduate, my girlfriend is the type that usually stays indoors due to some parental restrictions and is always unhappy when ever she called or flashed without me receiving or returning the call. This attitude is really causing me pains and wish I can address it in the shortest possible time. Fellow nairalanders, come and help a brother, I don't know how to reveal to her the relationship is sinking me financially since savings are difficult for me at the moment.

Wetin do whatsap?

Undergraduate and dating a Nigerian girl?
I'm not understanding.

Now remove "under" from the the sentence above.

In just one day, she will stop talking to you if she doesn't find what she is looking for.

Last last,e go soon cast..get your igbo n shayo on standby.

Don't forget this rule... never inconvenience yourself because of a girl you ain't married to, no matter how much you love her and vice versa! It will shock you that one day this same girl you sacrificed your time, money (in form of recharge card, etc as a struggling undergraduate) will dump your arse for someone else. Only give to a girl what you know you can conveniently lose without regrets. The time that she's asking for, you can utilize it to make money, to generate ideas that would propel you higher in life, to develop a closer relationship with God, to read your books, etc. At this stage in your life, your time should be very precious to you because that will determine your future. Now think about this, if you fail your exams or ruin your future because of the time and energy you gave her, do you think she'd still want to associate with you as a failure? Please apply wisdom in everything that you do. Invest your time in only things that you know will be productive to you, not just now but in future.

An undergraduate wey still dey eat "Mummy thank you" dey date a liability wey still dey do "Daddy thank you" .....
NAIRALANDERS SHOULD WE TELL HIM?? ?

Na 16,17 years old you dey befriend.Oga go sleep.

Hmmmm

zhirkovrado:
I have being in a relationship with this girl for the past two weeks but can't easily forgive my self for the amount of airtime I have been spending on daily bases. Each call we make usually lasts between 15-30mins daily and she wants to be talking to me repeatedly after every each call. She doesn't wants our conversations to end as she always inform me she loves me and wish she keeps on hearing my voice all the times. Frankly speaking, I so much love her as well but the problem is this attitude is ruining me financially, coupled with the fact that I'm still an undergraduate who doesn't even work. The other issue is that despite being a high school graduate, my girlfriend is the type that usually stays indoors due to some parental restrictions and is always unhappy when ever she called or flashed without me receiving or returning the call. This attitude is really causing me pains and wish I can address it in the shortest possible time. Fellow nairalanders, come and help a brother, I don't know how to reveal to her the relationship is sinking me financially since savings are difficult for me at the moment.

Straight things up with her...Tell her you don’t have the money to call her all the times even though you want to but you just can’t afford it and you will only be able to talk to her maybe for just 5minutes at night as you are busy with your studies and the callings will be occasionally. So, she should not expect you to always return her calls.


And lastly.....there is no such thing as love......Money is not the only tangible material to lure a girl. The girl you talked about only cares about you because you are giving her something she is dying in need of....which is; “Attention”!!! stop giving her this and see if she will still love you...I am saying this because you have got to understand love is a mutual thing or parasitic. In one way or another you are giving out something, you have got to know what it is you are giving away.

Tell her to send you airtime. Watch how she will scream how broke you are. You want to give room for a useless Nigerian girl to give you HBP.

Una don nack am? I don't think so , Try nack am well her body go calm down

Besides trust me , all the show na for limited time ,

She will still soon serve you breakfast.

She doesn't wants our conversations to end as she always inform me she loves me and wish she keeps on hearing my voice all the times

Learn to tell her you don't have airtime and see if she'll still loves to keep hearing your voice with her airtime.

the men we are breeding these yearsare too weak , imagine coming online to seek advice are not a man?my friend draw the line ,if she doesn't like it make una break up

Undergraduate dating underage..
Hmmm

Na the restriction dey affect, you can't even conclude she loves you now because she had not seen the other side of life

You better wise up

Although you are young, don't let girl injure your finances with their pettiness

Be strong

Ballzproblem2:
the men we are breeding these yearsare too weak , imagine coming online to seek advice are not a man?my friend draw the line ,if she doesn't like it make una break up

He has been capitivated

Love nwantiti.

I've been there. If u have browsing phones, I suggest you switch to WhatsApp, if not, register for a Close user group (CUG) subscription with your network, supposing you use the same line. You can just call the customer care to ask how. It usually has a first time registration for the two numbers after which you can pay 500h or 1k monthly for free calls.

Better still, encourage her to find something worthwhile to learn or do with her time, so she won't have chance to be calling you all hours. Sometimes, it could simply be a problem of boredom.

Kogbakogba:
Na 16,17 years old you dey befriend.Oga go sleep.

he's 18

Simp in the making.

Listen, young man. Nigerian girls don’t worth all these stress.

Can’t you see or don’t you hear what is going on all around Nigeria about the breed of girls we have nowadays.

You better sharply compensate and console yourself by banging her as much as possible before she eventually serve your simple self breakfast.

Elders behaving as if they were never kids.

You're wise. The most important thing is investing on oneself before reasoning these daughters of eve.

chymeze:
Don't forget this rule... never inconvenience yourself because of a girl you ain't married to, no matter how much you love her and vice versa! It will shock you that one day this same girl you sacrificed your time, money (in form of recharge card, etc as a struggling undergraduate) will dump your arse for someone else. Only give to a girl what you know you can conveniently lose without regrets. The time that she's asking for, you can utilize it to make money, to generate ideas that would propel you higher in life, to develop a closer relationship with God, to read your books, etc. At this stage in your life, your time should be very precious to you because that will determine your future. Now think about this, if you fail your exams or ruin your future because of the time and energy you gave her, do you think she'd still want to associate with you as a failure? Please apply wisdom in everything that you do. Invest your time in only things that you know will be productive to you, not just now but in future.

zhirkovrado:
I have being in a relationship with this girl for the past two weeks but can't easily forgive my self for the amount of airtime I have been spending on daily bases. Each call we make usually lasts between 15-30mins daily and she wants to be talking to me repeatedly after every each call. She doesn't wants our conversations to end as she always inform me she loves me and wish she keeps on hearing my voice all the times. Frankly speaking, I so much love her as well but the problem is this attitude is ruining me financially, coupled with the fact that I'm still an undergraduate who doesn't even work. The other issue is that despite being a high school graduate, my girlfriend is the type that usually stays indoors due to some parental restrictions and is always unhappy when ever she called or flashed without me receiving or returning the call. This attitude is really causing me pains and wish I can address it in the shortest possible time. Fellow nairalanders, come and help a brother, I don't know how to reveal to her the relationship is sinking me financially since savings are difficult for me at the moment.

Some relationship require time and attention.
So you must give it or you lose it.
It's part of the sacrifice you v to pay at the early stages of relationships.

Medianna:
Undergraduate dating underage.. Hmmm

shut the fvck up

TheGoodAmerican:

When the Journey starts, na so eeee dey be
Even for marriage too.
Later you go realize you brought a tiger home

Has the OP ever wondered why people divorce few weeks or months after marriage or relationship? Na matters like this..
Matters arising from friction of two opposing forces. That's all.

zhirkovrado:
I have being in a relationship with this girl for the past two weeks but can't easily forgive my self for the amount of airtime I have been spending on daily bases. Each call we make usually lasts between 15-30mins daily and she wants to be talking to me repeatedly after every each call. She doesn't wants our conversations to end as she always inform me she loves me and wish she keeps on hearing my voice all the times. Frankly speaking, I so much love her as well but the problem is this attitude is ruining me financially, coupled with the fact that I'm still an undergraduate who doesn't even work. The other issue is that despite being a high school graduate, my girlfriend is the type that usually stays indoors due to some parental restrictions and is always unhappy when ever she called or flashed without me receiving or returning the call. This attitude is really causing me pains and wish I can address it in the shortest possible time. Fellow nairalanders, come and help a brother, I don't know how to reveal to her the relationship is sinking me financially since savings are difficult for me at the moment.

Nigga, that girl is using you. I assume you met her online most probably.

She's bored and that's it. You will understand by the time she happens to find her way into the university, to even pick your calls will be a problem for her.

ADVICE: use WhatsApp to call her if she has a WhatsApp enabled phone or ignore her flashing for some hours and days if possible. When you finally call back, tell her that you didn't have airtime and that's why you hadn't called.

One thing is certain, whatever you have with that girl cannot last because the relationship is not sustainable at this time.

Even me that works always try to manage how long I talk over the phone on a normal call. Most of my calls with close buddies are mostly on WhatsApp, it's a poor undergraduate like you that wants to be spending heavily on airtime.

Be wise!

.

Dailyparrot:


Nigga, that girl is using you. I assume you met her online most probably.

She's bored and that's it. You will understand by the time she happens to find her way into the university, to even pick your calls will be a problem for her.

ADVICE: use WhatsApp to call her if she has a WhatsApp enabled phone or ignore her flashing for some hours and days if possible. When you finally call back, tell her that you didn't have airtime and that's why you hadn't called.

One thing is certain, whatever you have with that girl cannot last because the relationship is not sustainable at this time.

Even me that works always try to manage how long I talk over the phone on a normal call. Most of my calls with close buddies are mostly on WhatsApp, it's a poor undergraduate like you that wants to be spending heavily on airtime.

Be wise!

Thanks bro, I really appreciate �

faceLAGOS:
Simp in the making.

Listen, young man. Nigerian girls don’t worth all these stress.

Can’t you see or don’t you hear what is going on all around Nigeria about the breed of girls we have nowadays.

You better sharply compensate and console yourself by banging her as much as possible before she eventually serve your simple self breakfast.

This message is deep!