pedrilo:
My elder broder for raping my gf in 2007 and now that I'm married to anoda woman, he visits my home frequently when I'm out of town leaving my wife and 2 year old baby alone at home.
I called him to always call b4 coming and stop visiting my home when I'm not in town. I have to protect my family cos once beaten twice shy.
Did I take a wrong step?

Not just that call, take him to the village elders to tell him to stop coming to your house when you are not around. Because he will sure do it again, and nothing will happen. Are you even sure he doesn’t have that in his mind already?

Rubbiish:

How old is he?

31 years.

normaljenny:


INCLUDING YOUR MUM

And your mum too

I have no friend

Carcholce:
Have you ever cut of a very close friend completely? If yes, give your reasons why you did.

I had a blossom friend from secondary school. Kept telling other friends that shes my best friend all because we started and finished from same secondary school together. Even when i was not in Nigeria i kept her as my favorite until i found out she has been snitching on me. Omo, e no hard me to drop our friendship like poop. I hate snitches.

Carcholce:
Have you ever cut of a very close friend completely? If yes, give your reasons why you did.

Yes! I cut off with a friend who by God's grace (All glory belong to God) was used to play the US Visa lottery that made him a US citizen for over 20yrs now. He believes so much in substance, riches and status (because he's so rich now) but, I think friendship is above all. Naturally, I value friendship and I give everything I have to it but, most time I get disappointed.....Human will always be human.

Carcholce:


Oya come and tell us how you dammed those nighas

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Carcholce:


Oya come and tell us how you dammed those nighas

Yes but a cousin.
I went to stay with her at Ibadan with most of my luggage. I returned to Lagos last December for Christmas just to spend a week and return but plan changed so I stayed back in Lagos.
I had to start buying new clothes pending when I go to pack my stuffs back to Lagos.

2 months ago, a friend went to Ibadan, and I pleaded with him to help me bring my stuffs, I called my cousin to help me put all my stuff I was using before I left into my bag that someone is coming to carry them for me.
I warned her not to remove anything from my bag, which she said “why will I take your stuff “?.

When I got my bags, I discovered that this girl removed my valuables even down to my towel and night wear. Hmmm I was mad, I called her immediately, she knew what I was calling her for and feigned busy but I didn’t give her the chance to escape the conversation.

She sent me useless voice notes on WhatsApp telling me that she respects me and I should give her her own respect, why would I accuse her of taking my things? that I should never in my life call her and shout at her, that everywhere is scattered so probably my things are somewhere and I was like you know all those things you took were in my bags before I left and I’m not a disorganized person. My people if you listen to the voice notes that stupid girl sent to me, you will cry for me.
I and people who take note notice she’s in a competition with me, we are just one year apart.
I’ve cut her off totally and blocked her line.
I hate nonsense.

Yes too much backstabbing

DAVE5:


And your mum too

Come on now nigga , you shouldn't have honoured that nincompoop with your reply to his nonsense...

Everytime time
People dey quick tire me

Munzy14:

Lol..Nawa o.

I understand it a situation with no explanation.

Currently if you are my guy, it is just you, I avoid any familiarity with anyother family member.

Of course, there's an explanation.

You know that "Bro code": A brO's bro is a bro?
Well, it applies to a brO's sis too. Hehehe

Karleb:


Bro, it's because you don't have a sis. No guy will want his friend to date his sister.

No guy will approve that. Unless you guys are not close or he doesn't love his sister.

I can't even explain why that is.

You can try to explain, but you just don't want to.

mariahAngel:


You can try to explain, but you just don't want to.

Ok now.

It's disrespectful! That's why.

It can be more disrespectful when she becomes his ex.

mariahAngel:


Of course, there's an explanation.

You know that "Bro code": A brO's bro is a bro?
Well, it applies to a brO's sis too. Hehehe

Birthday girl..

Okwaya...No mata how gentle a bro is, the moment you familiarised with his sis, his face will change.

I am friend with my Ex bro..And I am becoming uncomfortable with it..

A time we were gisting he called me guy man..It deepens my continued keeping him close..

Av initiated my cold self for complete cut off...A cho hum any reminder ma o wu mmadu into cha shi m..

Munzy14:

Birthday girl..

Okwaya...No mata how gentle a bro is, the moment you familiarised with his sis, his face will change.

I am friend with my Ex bro..And I am becoming uncomfortable with it..

A time we were gisting he called me guy man..It deepens my continued keeping him close..

Av initiated my cold self for complete cut off...A cho hum any reminder ma o wu mmadu into cha shi m..

Did you become friends within the course of your relationship with your ex or after?

mariahAngel:





Did you become friends within the course of your relationship with your ex or after?

Within.

Munzy14:

Within.

OK.

You can still be cordial with him, while you avoid discussing personal stuff.
Unless you can't deal with the reminder part.

mariahAngel:


OK.

You can still be cordial with him, while you avoid discussing personal stuff.
Unless you can't deal with the reminder part.

No..

Gradually cutting off anything related to them..for life.

So that I can genuinely care for the next.

There is this scotch bonnet pepper in the market, just one in meal..My God

I asked momsy ya si m Yes, that it is used half sef.

busomma:
Yes I did cut off a very close childhood friend cos he lied to me. He immigrated from Nigeria to the United States with his only child & I accommodated them for 7 months not knowing he has been planning to go to Canada to seek for asylum. What pained me so much was that he lied to me that he'll be visiting a family friend in upstate New York ( he was staying with me in Maryland) & will be back in about a week. I dropped him off at the train station but didn't hear from him for 3 days. It was when he mistakenly sent me a whatsapp messages meant for his wife in Nigeria to me ,instructing her not to let me know he had crossed over to Canada, was when I found out.
He later apologized but I can't trust such a person anymore. We've known each other since 1980. I wish him well though.

I wonder why he did that.
What was he hiding?
Or trying to hide?

Munzy14:

No..

Gradually cutting off anything related to them..for life.
So that I can genuinely care for the next.


There is this scotch bonnet pepper in the market, just one in meal..My God

I asked momsy ya si m Yes, that it is used half sef.

Ngwanu.
I understand.


Is it a new specie?
O wu red k'o wu yellow?

mariahAngel:


Ngwanu.
I understand.


Is it a new specie?
O wu red k'o wu yellow?

Red..They sell just 4 for 100naira in the nearby market here...very spicy

YoungLionken:


Come on now nigga , you shouldn't have honoured that nincompoop with your reply to his nonsense...

Sometime I tell myself it’s ok to go into the dirt with a pig and play it’s game
Craze cures craze sometimes

Munzy14:

Red..They sell just 4 for 100naira in the nearby market here...very spicy

O ga a di mma n'ofe.
I hope they're able to keep up its availability.

mariahAngel:


O ga a di mma n'ofe.
I hope they're able to keep up its availability.

As in eeh..

It reminds me of the popular ose Nsukka that is extinct..

Yoshiyuki:
Not all stories like massages have a happy ending....My friends circle is so small, it's now a dot. Had this friend that was a serial complainer and ultra sensitive like toothpaste. Whenever I pressed him (not literally, perv), he'll get all wound up and stop talking to me. I reached out to him and apologised a couple of times but after the last one, blanked the n*** He sent me a message almost 1 year after but ignored his sensitive ass

" Whenever you press him" please explain.

PaAdu02:
I completely cut off a close frd that acts like mr know-it-all. and very selfish completely without leaving any % to doubt.I ve had to deal with his ways for years and we have both done favors for each other,but he can’t ever help u but like to oppress one,at some points he started making good contacts unknowingly to him,I started to make good money at that time ,him thinking I’m still that broke nigga,distanced himself from me completely for 2years,I changed country and finally decided to exit him for life from my life.and so shall it be .

Lol. That was so smooth. I'm sure he didn't see that coming.

genkins:
I cut out one of my good friends of 12 years coz dude was a bad influence. Envious and use me as yardstick to his success.

Apart from the fact that he drinks and smokes too much which I don't see how an adult male in his productive age should spend most times drinking and smoking.
If I buy lexus, my guy must buy the higher version of it otherwise he is a failure.
If I dress well, my guy must dress better.
If I have a girlfriend,my guy is constantly calculating how the girl should be his.
He always want to be the star in our gathering especially when babe de involved.
If I decide to buy Suv, my guy sef must change to Suv. If I build Bungalow, my guy must build something that has staircase.. Lol
I noticed all these characteristics but I felt he was just being childish
Then I noticed that if I put in for an international exams, he will do everything to rubbish the exams so I don't write it, then turns around to go attempt it. When we were around marriageable age, he tried to discourage me from serious dating but went behind to propose to his girl so he will marry first.. I can go on and on...

One day, I decided that these character cannot be my friend again. I just blocked and blanked him... Now for 2yrs.And I have been a better person since in terms of foresight and achievement.

I feel you stayed for too long sir.

Those characteristics you mentioned up there are so so bad and unhealthy. Such person can kill you.

busomma:
Yes I did cut off a very close childhood friend cos he lied to me. He immigrated from Nigeria to the United States with his only child & I accommodated them for 7 months not knowing he has been planning to go to Canada to seek for asylum. What pained me so much was that he lied to me that he'll be visiting a family friend in upstate New York ( he was staying with me in Maryland) & will be back in about a week. I dropped him off at the train station but didn't hear from him for 3 days. It was when he mistakenly sent me a whatsapp messages meant for his wife in Nigeria to me ,instructing her not to let me know he had crossed over to Canada, was when I found out.
He later apologized but I can't trust such a person anymore. We've known each other since 1980. I wish him well though.

Too bad that he was trying to save face but got caught in the web.

Munzy14:

As in eeh..

It reminds me of the popular ose Nsukka that is extinct..

Ihe na a gwo'm ike na ihe ndi a wu na mgbe I ga cho ya, I gahu a huzi ya.

In Nigeria, we lack that sustainability/availability/stability culture.
That is why we lose some things (through extinction)

I ga e weretu mkpuru ya kuo?

One time, I had some oranges that were really very sweet, juicy and flavourful, I didn't want to throw the seeds away afterwards.
I kept them for a while, but I painfully had to throw them away eventually.
(I wished I could plant them n'ulo, maka na oroma ebe ulo je a gba nti.
I'm yet to taste a sweet orange ebe ulo. )

mariahAngel:


Ihe na a gwo'm ike na ihe ndi a wu na mgbe I ga cho ya, I gahu a huzi ya.

In Nigeria, we lack that sustainability/availability/stability culture.
That is why we lose some things (through extinction)

I ga e weretu mkpuru ya kuo?

One time, I had some oranges that were really very sweet, juicy and flavourful, I didn't want to throw the seeds away afterwards.
I kept them for a while, but I painfully had to throw them away eventually.
(I wished I could plant them n'ulo, maka na oroma ebe ulo je a gba nti.
I'm yet to taste a sweet orange ebe ulo. )

Consistency is the problem with most of us..

Some have initiated Ideas that could have made them talked about in the near future, but they don't.

In 09' I, My Dad and our last born started gardening.. A man introduced us an thought my dad how to grow Amaranth(green leaves)( shoko ) We tried it in the dry season, and it was awesome..With the high demands.

We've maintained that tradition till now every dry season..towards end of every production season, we preserve seeds for the next year season...

Although everyone has pulled out, except me..So if stop, that ides will die off..The customers waiting for supply, the consumers will be left on OYO.

We are yet to pick start supply this season, mana those marketing women are seriously pestering momsy..Madam ole ihe ji green o wu

Consistency is key..Few years later you will be shocked at your achievements. No cap! I can boast of a niche in this locality when it comes to Agro..Just a heritage stuff.

I pray one of my kids or some will pick interest when it is time.

Trust, I will plant the pepper..will give momsy money to buy more of it and re-plant.

As for a sweet orange, My Dad planted one near his Dad grave, oh My! Very sweet.. But due to onwe hu so onye nu na village house, those things died.

I asked him the secret, ya si m, in his youthful age, ones he plants any fruit, he pour sugar around it

His orange was the sweetest.

His pear is the hottest and most wanted in my entire village...That pear you easily get malaria with it according to my uncle..Because you will go on to take more and more of it not knowing you are accumulating oil in your system.

You could av planted the orange in a container..When next you have such, just plant in a container..some how you will find ways to send it home.

My Dad's only sis planted alot in our village..Even in her husband's house, she don use fruits finish there

Spiritually, some humans have green hand..anything they plant grows well than others.

All my siblings have it except my immediate..My parents have it as well.