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Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Ohraykon: 6:56pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Strangle:go sleep as if say you no dey mess |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Autobot05: 6:56pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Lies Greed Manipulation |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by 77star: 7:08pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
boldking:The one me I no fit forgive is someone who attends a town hall meeting without remembering to say "bala blu blu, balaba" |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Weederness: 7:39pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
HudaIna: Public mess with remorse or shame |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Narldon: 7:54pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
boldking: What if the Townhall is different from Balablu? 1 Like |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by ukzenlumbs(m): 8:02pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
When someone takes me to a police station unneccessary.
I can't forgive that..... 2 Likes |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by shegsman58(m): 8:27pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Show offs
Insulting jokes (am too sensitive abeg)
one-sided friendship 1 Like |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Bobbiee: 8:34pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Bad manners |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Mrtaye: 8:40pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
HudaIna:The frightening eye lashes is that you |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Iphran6: 8:52pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
HudaIna:It means polluting the air or in broken English to mess without regard for people around you 1 Like |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by 77star: 9:18pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Sermwell:So you witness the time of : Yuzedo Idowuogbo a.k.a badoskky Rokiat Jarus Tatashe Mrcock E.t.c That was when nairaland was sane No one likes mumubbqgrills or vulturegriller, or nlpolicewoman during that time, nairaland of nowadays, Don spoil am 1 Like |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Probz(m): 9:59pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Conscious and persistent gaslighting: yeah, no. Dr Ramani has a whole series and a half (and workshop) on forgiveness and why narcissists/malignant folk don’t always deserve it and I absolutely agree with her. Not everyone who gaslights a lot is a narcissist but all narcissists do it and having that kind of personality and getting into an interpersonal space with a better person is unforgivable. So yeah. But that ain’t limited to romantic relationships and to tell you the truth I’ve seen and experienced more of it outside that framework. The principe’s the same. To say I don’t think highly of them at all would be an understatement. |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Sermwell(m): 9:59pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
77star:I remember all of them above. Including sexkillz, Ogugua88 Them plenty 2 Likes |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Probz(m): 10:03pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
HudaIna: Why just that if you don’t mind me asking? |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Nobody: 10:07pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Probz: It’s not just that but that was my last experience and it messed me up so I won’t ever tolerate that again. You can be upset and still not insult people, especially someone who we claim to love. 3 Likes |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by 77star: 10:07pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Sermwell:Yes and yes. Abeg u know [b][/b] that time? |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Probz(m): 10:10pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Another thing that I won’t tolerate or forgive is privacy-breeches. Many people (some more than others) get a bit vibrant-tongued when they’re with their mandem/gyal-dem and disclose things about other people that perhaps they shouldn’t (especially where booze is involved) and I do kinda get that but if I disclose something to you in confidence (which isn’t very likely with me being as reserved as I am) and you intentionally blab, there’d better be a good reason for it. And if there isn’t, you’d better hope I don’t find out because once I decide to close the door on someone I don’t absolutely love (partners and casual friends aren’t the same as true blood in the form of your family and your truest friends, who you’re going to be more inclined to forgive if need-be virtually no matter what), hell’s going to freeze over and ice-block Buhari (I mean, please God, still) before I open it back up. It’s only family and your truest blood outside that (lifelong friends who might as well be family) who are allowed to test the limits of your forgiveness and none of my blud are toxic like that so with me it is very much about other people. |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Probz(m): 10:15pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
HudaIna: Ah. I see. Sha, it’s good you’ve got clearer boundaries now and limits regarding what you will and won’t tolerate. To me insults either way are just part of the territory (especially with Nigerians being as hot-tongued as they can be) but half of the time when someone’s speaking out of pure heat-of-the-moment vex it doesn’t mean anything. You don’t have to forgive someone like that if you get into a relationship with them and they start flying their mouth off at you for no reason (of course not) but generally it’s a good idea not to take it too personally to avoid hurt that may not even be necessary if you consider what they’re saying contextually and remember that they’re just angry. Hm? 1 Like |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Nobody: 10:17pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Probz: Nah! I hold my tongue and expect others to hold theirs. I don’t accept verbal abuse! 1 Like |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Probz(m): 10:24pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
I guess different people have different limits, wants and expectations. Stuff like that doesn’t really bother me but deliberate and continual gaslighting is nowt less than abuse and if I had it my way people like that would be rotting in prison so I’d definitely think carefully before forgiving someone who does that to you. Some people go all funny when you mention the word gaslighting (it sounds more ominous than it is) and in fairness it is something that accidentally happens with good intentions all the time so it’s not something to automatically hold against someone at all but there’s a difference between that and persistent, deliberate gaslighting (which is when gaslighting really becomes gaslighting). Someone who loves you ain’t going to be doing that to you unless they’re just trying to hide something and deflect (which is another discussion but it’s not something I can’t understand). What you’re not going to do out on these streets is let no ugly bucket-hat narcissist invalidate your confidence in your own capabilities. |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Sermwell(m): 11:19pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
77star:Not at all. The guy came recently during covid 19 na 1 Like |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Royceey(m): 5:46am On Jan 18, 2023 |
Otunbakayce:Are you Playing? Dey Play! |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Semaj77(m): 8:17am On Jan 18, 2023 |
Banilla: I can tolerate anything if you're willing change except say you kill person |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by MasterShifu010(m): 11:10am On Jan 18, 2023 |
If I Dey follow you with good intentions , and you Dey follow me with maga intentions , I will love-vendor you to my friend and catch you in the act , then I’ll use that as an excuse to break up with you , and you’ll live with the regret that it’s all your fault for the rest of your life . |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Karlifate: 8:50pm On Jan 18, 2023 |
77star: You forgot 190 (the clown) |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by 77star: 9:09pm On Jan 18, 2023 |
Karlifate:I liked the guy mehn It was all fun |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Karlifate: 9:10pm On Jan 18, 2023 |
77star: |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by 77star: 9:14pm On Jan 18, 2023 |
Karlifate:For you to know him It means that u sef don tey for nairaland be day o |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Karlifate: 9:16pm On Jan 18, 2023 |
77star: Yeah |
Re: What Bad Behaviour Can You Never Forgive? by Injera(f): 1:05am On Jan 19, 2023 |
Accusing someone of theft without evidence when he is really innocent. |
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