Aklee4994:
you never want to think of how difficult the dilemma might be for him

JASONjnr:
I had a girl I was madly in love with and we dated for a while and I opened up my salary to her ...


The next month ending...I got billings from her...

Infact, it was very difficult to tell her I don't have money...

She knew everything about my finances and my worth.


It wasn't long I ended the relationship and took another girl in...This time around, she tried to know certain things but I kept them secret and the relationship lasted, she never complained about anything as I provided but she always wondered how I did it.

So OP, you can't open up to a woman, she will never understand the purpose of being sincere to her.


And the example you give...The man will lose both wives and his kids of he dares.....

Your last paragraph said something about understanding. No woman's will understand that you have another woman you visit. She will poison you or she will begin to cheat on you l.

Eyinju112:
Oga whether na rubbish or not please leave my mention alone if you gonna be sounding bitter. I never dated king Solomon or a traditional king, I’m dating and marrying a normal man like Enoch, Noah and the rest... when you count the cheats in the Bible please remember to count the loyal ones too

BigBashiru:


There's nothing like "cheats"....you just want it to be only you chopping his money.....you don't want his exclusivity for just him alone....you want his exclusivity so other women won't get their hands in his pocket...

everythinggirly:
What if they use it against you someday?😏

Eyinju112:
Call it selfishness yeah that’s it... I’m selfish when it comes to my man and he is selfish when it comes to me.. That’s it, and about the money, if his money was important to me I won’t be able to take that bold step of disengagement after infidelity

BigBashiru:


If you disengage who cares? You go dey on ur own and he will be with his new gf na.... simple replacement therapy...the more girls the merrier....

REALretep:
Relationship is different from marriage.
In great, enjoyable and happy marriages, the couple comfortably share their secrets with each other.
You can never enjoy a deep emotional relationship with your spouse if there are secrets between you two. That is why one must choose one's spouse carefully with the unwavering help of God

JASONjnr:
I had a girl I was madly in love with and we dated for a while and I opened up my salary to her ...

The next month ending...I got billings from her...

Infact, it was very difficult to tell her I don't have money...

She knew everything about my finances and my worth.

It wasn't long I ended the relationship and took another girl in...This time around, she tried to know certain things but I kept them secret and the relationship lasted, she never complained about anything as I provided but she always wondered how I did it.

So OP, you can't open up to a woman, she will never understand the purpose of being sincere to her.

And the example you give...The man will lose both wives and his kids of he dares.....

Your last paragraph said something about understanding. No woman's will understand that you have another woman you visit. She will poison you or she will begin to cheat on you l.

Wittyglam:
Good morning to you. (2 minutes read)

Is it possible to be in love and yet hide so many things from the one you claim to love?

A lot of us are hiding so many things in our marriage/relationship. We have kept so many secrets from our partners and it’s eating us up but instead of opening us to them we choose to tell others.

Someone shared the story of a man who had a family in another state in Nigeria 🇳🇬 and is married with family in another state and the wives don’t know about. Whenever he is traveling to see the other family he tells this one I’m going for work and does same with the other one.

He has never given the women any reason to doubt him but it’s eating him up and instead of come straight with this women he choose to open up to someone else.

Why will you choose to put someone you claim to love in total darkness? Why live in lies? We have lost our human sense.

Marriage is beautiful when you marry someone that understands you and you understand them.

naturefellow:
there are things we keep from our partners out of discretion, like earnings as you mentioned.

Beyond these, others including infidelity, 2nd homes, illicit activities, is just sheer wickedness.

thesicilian:

That is what most people don't seem to understand.
There is no true love that is unconditional.
[May God forgive me if I'm blaspheming] Even the love that God has for us will one day end if we reject salvation.

Romanoff:
No one who loves you lies to you.

They are only manipulating you and that's not love.

ecolime:
Let DNA test be free, that's when you gonna know women keep secrets the most.

GOFRONT:
Hmm.......Crazy things are really happening.

One of my tribal man who is a family friend happens to work with a reputable construction company and posted to a nearby state for work. He secretely invited their matured househelp over to his place, got her pregnant. Scared of the embarrassment that he would face, he then rent an Apartment for her in the town close to where he works.

That was how housmaid got an apartment of her own and that was also how househelp turn to Madam's CO wife in bearing children. The matter shock all of us by then, but nobody come holy pass.......She should be on her second or third kid by now

everythinggirly:
What if they use it against you someday?😏

Moeman:
Some people like high BP shaa

Reminds me of something someone said
"If they increase salary they'll add girlfriend" lol

wizzprince:
That is why there is a word called secret, there are things wey dem no dey tell person

Sometimes it is for the better good, most people can't handle what they think they can handle

You wont understand until e reach you

If we tell people everything the word secret becomes useless and won't exist

Righteousness2:
What we claim to be secret is an open sepulcher before GOD.
If your eyes saw what you did, then the creator of your eyes has seen you.

Kukuma respect yourself, confess and make peace with GOD.

achimendy:




I prefer saying the truth, cos the truth will set you free.


I dont care how you feel, but I most say my mind. It's better that way.

ModCaller:


You're reasoning with your emotions.

There is no relationship between loving someone and telling them the truth. In fact, love makes you to lie to the people you love. That's basic common sense. What they don't know won't hurt them

TyroneP:
To the man in question, he thinks he is trying to protect them(women and kids) from getting hurt and perhaps lose everything but truth needs to be told even without asking.

Wittyglam:
this is wrong, love makes you open to your partner. People just keep secrets for their selfish interests.

Wittyglam:
this the perfect way. You tell it to your partner so they don’t hear it elsewhere.

JASONjnr:
I had a girl I was madly in love with and we dated for a while and I opened up my salary to her ...


The next month ending...I got billings from her...

Infact, it was very difficult to tell her I don't have money...

She knew everything about my finances and my worth.


It wasn't long I ended the relationship and took another girl in...This time around, she tried to know certain things but I kept them secret and the relationship lasted, she never complained about anything as I provided but she always wondered how I did it.

So OP, you can't open up to a woman, she will never understand the purpose of being sincere to her.


And the example you give...The man will lose both wives and his kids of he dares.....

Your last paragraph said something about understanding. No woman's will understand that you have another woman you visit. She will poison you or she will begin to cheat on you l.