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Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by ibechris(m): 8:53pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Autobot05: There is nothing like shortage of men,rather u have shortage of reasonable men and women. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 8:54pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:1. What you just asked makes no sense. A majority of the time, marrying someone of lower economic status almost always means one partner would have to shoulder more of the financial burdens in the household than the other. Also, the majority of the time, you lot embrace hypogamy in order that you might sit as gods over your spouses, despite the fact that almost 83% of the time that never works out the way you picture it in your head. Open your eyes to see others who are suffering from exactly that terrible choice they made and learn to apply commonsense instead. 2. We have all seen what and how your "love" is revealed and it is almost always ugly to behold! 3. Na that Savior complex na him dey make una they think say una fit skip over commonsense and still end up happy at the other end. Again, 83% of the times it never works out the way you picture it in your head. So will you continue to repeat the mistakes of those before you or will you make wiser choices in your own time and life? 4. When Osinachi was making her money and putting it towards the general upkeep of her family, was it not her money? Again, visit commonsense abeg! Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. The only way you can get a woman who will use her money for her family is if you in fact marry a woman who will do that. You cannot blindly go after a woman who does not want to contribute financially to the upkeep of her own household and then come back to complain that women don't contribute. Na your foolishness alone fit carry you enter such a union to begin with. 3 Likes |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 9:36pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:There a certain things i would have said,but you are too inexperienced to understand it…You think marriage is theory and long grammer?come back after your marriage course,for now,nothing you will say makes any sense because you have no experience and engaging you is a total waste of my time..have a nice day |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 9:44pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:1. So, in your head, telling you to stay away from women you will more than likely regret marrying is "theory" speak abi? 2. People who believe that experience is the ONLY teacher in life are some of the biggest fools out there? If you refuse to learn from the mistakes of others around you, what you do is guarantee yourself a life full of regret. 2 Likes |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 9:55pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:do people make mistakes equally? Are you having thesame problem with the person you are learning from his mistakes? When it comes to marriage,your own experience is the only thing that you can learn from..not even the marriage course will save you,it will only serve as a guide. With this your little mindest,you better stay away from marriage. From your choice of words,its obvious you are just an emotionally unstable kid with access to internet….not worth my time. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by BlackyOne: 9:58pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Dear men use your head Don't marry a woman who is lazy and doesn't have a job or own a business Don't marry a woman who has entitlement mentality and feels she has to be taken care of without being humble. Dear men, if they cannot be subject to you then allow them grow old and single, go to the next and the next, until you get the respectful and hardworking type, stay away from leeches |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 10:09pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:1. I learn first from the mistakes of others so I at least don't repeat the same mistakes in what is my own life. Works like magic too! 2. You don't need to first have the same problems before you learn from the mistakes of another. The reason you learn from the mistakes of others is so you don't make that particular mistake in your own life. 3. I am afraid that is a lie. We are individuals who are unique in the way we experience reality and life. However, when it comes to our interactions with others — relationships — the level of uniqueness becomes greatly diminished, even more so in a heavily templated situation like a marriage where in the minds of most Africans, the man is the head of the family whereas the woman is the one who takes care of the home. What that means is that most of the problems you experience in such settings can be easily resolved by following many of the already discovered problem-solving steps/templates out there, and yes, there, there are many of those out there today. So many of the problems people experience in marriage can be resolved by following problem-solving templates that are available everywhere you look today. Even child-rearing now has templates that you can follow or even tailor to the personality of the child you are raising. Why do you think the area of professional marriage counseling is now a big deal? It is because these templated approaches to problem resolution have been shown to be of great value even in marriage. 4. Insulting me won't change any of the facts I have stated which is that when common sense is overlooked, regret dey full basket. 1 Like |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 10:25pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:I didn’t insult you,i only called out your choice of words. What experience,mistakes or common sense are you speaking from? The thing is i care less of who or what you decide to learn from,my experiences are working for me,yours is your call and your reality. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 10:27pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:Na so many Nigerian dey like claim, yet every day na so so complain over problems brought on by their own foolish decisions in life. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 10:32pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:You don’t have any experience,yet you think you know better? In what capacity are you speaking? As some girls’s boyfriend or what? |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 10:37pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:Common sense is nobody's personal property. It is easily learned by paying attention to even one's surroundings. You would think that with the population of the world at over 8 billion that it would be quite common in the sense that everyone would have a commonsense sense at this point. Sadly, the reverse is the case as more and more people continue to foolishly ply life and repeat the mistakes of many of those before them for reasons unknown to even themselves. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 10:41pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Same common sense could have told you you can’t entirely depend on common sense when it comes to marriage issues..Come back after your marriage course,you are theoretically speaking without experience. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 10:42pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:1. So, you can't depend entirely on wisdom aka commonsense when it comes to marriage issues? |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 10:48pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Wisdom is not common sense.. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 10:51pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath: com·mon sense wis·dom |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 10:53pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Even wisdom was defined with experience..but here you are trying to separate them,lol
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Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 10:56pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:So, It never occurred to you even up till this point in the conversation that by learning from the experiences and mistakes of others you in fact acquire experience as far as resolving their particular problem, the only kind of experience that holds great value in any situation? 1 Like |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 10:59pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:We are built to survive on our own, yet simultaneously could not stay sane if isolated indefinitely…..we both need and don't need other people.good night |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 11:02pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:You can’t learn driving with another person’s experience.. You can’t get a job with another person’s experience.. So therefore your experience is for you and you ALONE. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 11:02pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:Think! Think!! Think!!! If Akin wrote on his resume that he had experienced an emergency situation that resulted in a failure, do you think Akin would be considered by potential investors as having acquired anything of value from that experience which he failed to resolve? Now, if another candidate, Bola had witnessed the very same emergency Akin had described in his resume, and Bola had instead explained in his own resume how he was able to use what he learned from Akin's experience — Akin's failure — to avert a failure in his own life and maybe a potential emergency, don't you think investors would consider Bola the wiser of the two? 1 Like |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 11:05pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:1. People do exactly that every single day when they ask others to teach them to drive or learn not to run at high speed over potholes after seeing what happened to another driver who did just that. 2. People do that every day. They work to obtain skills that they are aware others who got the same job also had on their resume. 3. Abeg, please start using your brain more. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 11:09pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:People do all these,do they learn from their own experience or from that of their teachers? |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 11:13pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:You learn from knowledge passed onto you by people with experience..you can also acquire more knowledge through your experience… Depend on yourself and your experience for we are all built differently |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 11:17pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:People who learn from teachers obviously learn from the experiences of others. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by talk2hb1(m): 11:17pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:You Can Be a Liability on your husband all in the name of self confidence. I am an African Child, that’s all I know. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 11:18pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:1. That knowledge is collated from the experiences of others. It does not materialize from thin air. 2. LOL... na so your forefathers do sotay the whole world passed them by, and continues to even to this day. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 11:20pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
talk2hb1:What has being an African child to do with anything abeg! So long as you never complain that you married a liability, we are all good actually since the suffering is all yours and yours alone. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Thewrath(m): 11:22pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:How do you learn driving from another person’s experience? There are things you can’t learn without your own experience…. driving and marriage are few of them,these a practical issues and not some mumbo jumbo theory stuff. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 11:31pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Thewrath:Continue deceiving yourself thinking you deceive me. 1 Like |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by leisuretym: 11:36pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Op! You are a fool, don’t ask my why, I pay school fee, I pay house rent I give monthly and weekly allowance for family upkeep I use my energy to nack you to your satisfaction You now want me to use the time I need to use to find money for the family to go and be cooking Abi? If she can do all I’ve been doing, no issue, we can switch responsibilities |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Kobojunkie: 1:28am On Feb 05, 2023 |
peepydelano:So, are we to take it that your plan then is to enter into a hypogamous union in order that your wife may handle all the domestic work to the fullest? Well, guess what, 83% of the time, that almost never works out the way you plan it in your head. Visit the home of your married friends — those of them who married down — and see with your eyes how even though they, your friends, supposedly carry all the burden they claim they do in marriage, somehow their homes are left unkempt by the wives, full grown adults who were recruited in marriage as dependents. It is very hard to keep a fully functioning human being as a maid in marriage. And with a culture where even the poor have maids, I recommend you work hard so you can afford a maid as well. |
Re: Women,don't Marry A Man Who Feels The Domestic Work Is For Women Alone. by Autobot05: 4:06am On Feb 05, 2023 |
ibechris:You see that I'm somehow correct... not every man is a man and not every man can make a good husband And I think there are more women than men of recent times |
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