Most of you vvomen find yourselves single, yet you've slept with a dozen men.

And because of the movies and novel indoctrination that's made you allergic to accountability you blame all these men for your failed relationships

Forgetting you're the common denominator in all this surely ( no insults ... just hear me out )

all those men can't be bad & you good, at some point you need to be honest with yourself.

Dear vvomen , relationships ain't no soap operas or fairytales where everything is lovey dovey everyday.

When it gets tough AF, resolve it. Instead of looking for the next available guy.

You date this one guy, then you have sex with him. After sometime you have an argument & instead of solving it,

you start flirting with that other guy on your WhatsApp who has been disturbing you, to "ease" your pain.

He makes you smile & you start planning to get into a relationship with him.

He plays his cards right & ya'll fvck. The very same guy eventually pisses you off too, instead of working it out, you're already jumping to another guy you friendzoned to "ease" your pain.

He also puts a smile on your face & y'all Bleep.

The cycle continues because you are primitive to think a long lasting relationship is based on ever feeling good as you watch on movies or read on novels

To the young and sensible ladies who follow me ..listen lemme tell you this:

Every relationship will get "boring" at some point.

TD jakes said “Love isn't a feeling, it's a commitment. .. to keep loving even when it feels like and when it doesn’t feel like “

My late mum would Say .. “love is a verb not just To love emotionally .. but physically doing too”

.. it’s difficult, it's not always laughs, smiles & fun as seen in Disney movies....

Y'all tend to quit when it stops being fun & go look for someone else, because "The Spark is Gone". No, that's not how it works.

You want somebody to never give up on you then do the same. Be the change. This isn't Hollywood, this isn't the movies. ,, fvck the romance novel you read ..That shit isn't real....

Love someone when you don't want to, when they aren't the easiest to deal with. When they're hard to love. That's the realist shit there is.

And remember that a man is the prize!

Rainer's diary