OgaMadam:
Wonders shall never cease.

I need help to decode especially from the masculine side why a man who is married and comfortably cheating on his wife would then almost die when finding out that his mistress also tied the knot.

A mistress who has created options for herself, rightfully moving on with life and getting out of the way so that the married man and his real wife can resume a healthy normal family life - now the married married man wants to die.

Do men really think they can comfortably own both wife and mistress? It cant work oh. Mistress must go and solve her issues and allow the man to continue with his life.

pocohantas:

Only a new born baby believes that men cheat without emotions or catching feelings.

Tallesty1:
Happens a lot.

Jovialjune1:
Some senseless ones here will say that men can cheat without catching feelings, so many cases of married men constantly licking the floor their side chicks steps on, they can kill for her cos they don't want her to leave, yet be deceiving themselves of being the logical gender, they will mumuishly be jealous if she so much as say hi to another man, some will even be crying that their side chick is cheating on them, like I don't understand the reasoning, the case of Op now, does the mumu man expect her to stay with him forever

Klass99:


There was a skit or is it meme they call it (I don't know the difference) a male coworker showed me a few years ago, which made us laugh so hard. I can't accurately recall it but it was something like this......

There is a kind of heartbreak or painful text your side chic serves you, that in the heat of the moment you are so pained, you want to tell your wife about it. But your brain quickly does a reset to warn you, that your wife is not the best person to cry out to.

At the bolded, how many times have the men on this street (i.e. nairaland) told us they are polygamous in nature and cannot eat only egusi soup for life? How then do you expect such people to let go and face front 100%? There was a thread I can never forget, where a male user said husbands cheat on their wives, because after giving birth their bodies are no longer the same.

As in, boobs fall or become flat, the tummy is bigger or flabby and the vjay is no longer tight, from having to push out their child fa. So, they don't find their wives physically or sexually attractive anymore and would rather go for younger women with firmer bodies, tighter vjays and firmer boobs.

What intrigued me was the 371 likes his comment had at the time I saw his post, meaning, a lot of men supported, approved and applauded what he said. No way in hell was it women liking his comment, I am sure it was guys because his post resonated with them. I just thought to myself...........this is so demoralizing but interesting to know.

pocohantas:


Very true. That is why their wives are going from one church to the other. I bet Churchill said the same before leaving Tonto for Rose.

franchasofficia:



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OgaMadam:
Wonders shall never cease.

I need help to decode especially from the masculine side why a man who is married and comfortably cheating on his wife would then almost die when finding out that his mistress also tied the knot.

A mistress who has created options for herself, rightfully moving on with life and getting out of the way so that the married man and his real wife can resume a healthy normal family life - now the married married man wants to die.

Do men really think they can comfortably own both wife and mistress? It cant work oh. Mistress must go and solve her issues and allow the man to continue with his life.

OgaMadam:
Wonders shall never cease.

I need help to decode especially from the masculine side why a man who is married and comfortably cheating on his wife would then almost die when finding out that his mistress also tied the knot.

A mistress who has created options for herself, rightfully moving on with life and getting out of the way so that the married man and his real wife can resume a healthy normal family life - now the married married man wants to die.

Do men really think they can comfortably own both wife and mistress? It cant work oh. Mistress must go and solve her issues and allow the man to continue with his life.

Tallesty1:
Churchil had a relationship with Rose but one doesn't necessarily need a relationship to cheat. I am sure you know that.

OgaMadam:
Wonders shall never cease.

I need help to decode especially from the masculine side why a man who is married and comfortably cheating on his wife would then almost die when finding out that his mistress also tied the knot.

A mistress who has created options for herself, rightfully moving on with life and getting out of the way so that the married man and his real wife can resume a healthy normal family life - now the married married man wants to die.

Do men really think they can comfortably own both wife and mistress? It cant work oh. Mistress must go and solve her issues and allow the man to continue with his life.

Klass99:
Lol, I have a few suspicions why this happens but like you OP I am curious to read the candid thoughts of the opposite sex, for the ones who engage respectfully, fostering a respectful exchange of thoughts and ideas. My thoughts;

1. He became emotionally attached and possibly fell in love with the mistress. The narrative that men are logical and not emotional is a false and inaccurate one, as far as I know, all humans are emotional beings irrespective of gender.

2. The mistress married a man who is far better than him, in looks, class, charisma, decorum and wealth. A group of Nigerian men were surveyed and one of the top things that really hurts them and they dislike or hate, is for an ex to end up with a man who is wealthier and better looking than them - e dey pain . This survey was on that new reality TV show Bisola hosts.

3. The sex was fantastic and mind blowing, he is possibly moaning the loss of it and the loss of what he felt was a good arrangement for his benefit. I think most men would prefer to call the shots even in an extra-marital affair, where they get to decide when an affair ends, they want to be the ones moving on from it first, perhaps to another mistress or back to fidelity and honouring their vows.

4. Some don't think highly of their mistresses or wish them well. They just want her available for their sexual needs, so it kind of rocks their world (like divorce does) when a woman is able to move on to something better in life, like an international Masters Degree, a prestigious job or marriage.

OgaMadam:
Wonders shall never cease.

I need help to decode especially from the masculine side why a man who is married and comfortably cheating on his wife would then almost die when finding out that his mistress also tied the knot.

A mistress who has created options for herself, rightfully moving on with life and getting out of the way so that the married man and his real wife can resume a healthy normal family life - now the married married man wants to die.

Do men really think they can comfortably own both wife and mistress? It cant work oh. Mistress must go and solve her issues and allow the man to continue with his life.

pocohantas:


MOST married men that cheat have relationships _Long term relationships with their side-chicks.

OgaMadam:
Wonders shall never cease.

I need help to decode especially from the masculine side why a man who is married and comfortably cheating on his wife would then almost die when finding out that his mistress also tied the knot.

A mistress who has created options for herself, rightfully moving on with life and getting out of the way so that the married man and his real wife can resume a healthy normal family life - now the married married man wants to die.

Do men really think they can comfortably own both wife and mistress? It cant work oh. Mistress must go and solve her issues and allow the man to continue with his life.

Klass99:


Lol, I am glad you saw it too and I have a witness. Make e no come be like sey, na only me waka come and na only me dey see things for this NL.

Please did you see the thread where a married man was besides himself with grief and sorrow because his side chic was getting married? I think that one made front page mid or late 2020 or some time in 2021.

It is extremely demoralizing what they think of us and how they feel about us, after we've had their kids.

LilMissFavvy:
So you believe the words of Nigerian men when they say that a woman losing shape after childbirth is what would make her husband lose interest in her and cheat on her? The answer is NO.

If you look at the lives of most "bachelor's" , you will see that some of these guys keep several girlfriends and are not faithful. These girlfriends have firm bodies and have never given birth, Yet these men refuse to stick to one girlfriend. He gradually gets used to $leeping with several women, it becomes a habit which he takes into marriage. Then they begin to give excuses that their wife's appearance caused it. I am very sure we do read stories on this site, about men who cheat when they are newly married with non pregnant wives, or those who cheat on their wedding nights. Decency and faithfulness is learnt, unfortunately the Nigerian society/religion encourages the unfaithfulness of the male gender.

True love cherishes even a flabby body. I read comments from some foreign couples sometime ago, and majority of them who had been in Marriage for many years, said they valued the companionship they shared in marriage more than "sex". That's how it's supposed to be. Both men and women experience body changes as they age together in marriage, both should still love and respect each other. [/b]

Tallesty1:

What sort narrow focus is this? So because this one got hooked means every other cheating men out is like him?
People who say that when cheat without catching feeling are not senseless, believing otherwise is what is actually senseless.

One of the mistakes we make today is thinking we have the other gender figured out.

If you have worked with contractors and site engineers, you will understand better.

My boss back then sleeps with different women every night, sometimes two and he doesn't sleep with one woman twice.
Once while we were working in Imo state, he had a guy that arranged babe for him every evening. He'd sleep with them and pay them off without collecting numbers or even asking them their names.

One doesn't necessarily need a relationship to cheat these days, so yea, people cheat without catching feeling.

Unless sleeping with a prostitutes and potential prostitutes no longer count as cheating

Jovialjune1:


Who be this one? I'm sure you don't expect me to spoon-feed you on comprehension, I no get that strength

Go read my previous comment again, I said "so many cases of men" I didn't say "all men", it is your gender that usually say all men cheat without emotions so face your fellows

At the bolded, hope all is well with you, cos na gibberish you type

And at your story, I'm trying to understand the purpose or significance hence my 2nd paragraph.

Jovialjune1:
Some senseless ones here will say that men can cheat without catching feelings

Tallesty1:
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Klass99:
Lol, I have a few suspicions why this happens but like you OP I am curious to read the candid thoughts of the opposite sex, for the ones who engage respectfully, fostering a respectful exchange of thoughts and ideas. My thoughts;

1. He became emotionally attached and possibly fell in love with the mistress. The narrative that men are logical and not emotional is a false and inaccurate one, as far as I know, all humans are emotional beings irrespective of gender.

2. The mistress married a man who is far better than him, in looks, class, charisma, decorum and wealth. A group of Nigerian men were surveyed and one of the top things that really hurts them and they dislike or hate, is for an ex to end up with a man who is wealthier and better looking than them - e dey pain . This survey was on that new reality TV show Bisola hosts.

3. The sex was fantastic and mind blowing, he is possibly moaning the loss of it and the loss of what he felt was a good arrangement for his benefit. I think most men would prefer to call the shots even in an extra-marital affair, where they get to decide when an affair ends, they want to be the ones moving on from it first, perhaps to another mistress or back to fidelity and honouring their vows.

4. Some don't think highly of their mistresses or wish them well. They just want her available for their sexual needs, so it kind of rocks their world (like divorce does) when a woman is able to move on to something better in life, like an international Masters Degree, a prestigious job or marriage.

MrColdsweat:
I feel sorry for the man who married the whoree mistress.

OgaMadam:
Wonders shall never cease.

I need help to decode especially from the masculine side why a man who is married and comfortably cheating on his wife would then almost die when finding out that his mistress also tied the knot.

A mistress who has created options for herself, rightfully moving on with life and getting out of the way so that the married man and his real wife can resume a healthy normal family life - now the married married man wants to die.

Do men really think they can comfortably own both wife and mistress? It cant work oh. Mistress must go and solve her issues and allow the man to continue with his life.

OgaMadam:
Wonders shall never cease.

I need help to decode especially from the masculine side why a man who is married and comfortably cheating on his wife would then almost die when finding out that his mistress also tied the knot.

A mistress who has created options for herself, rightfully moving on with life and getting out of the way so that the married man and his real wife can resume a healthy normal family life - now the married married man wants to die.

Do men really think they can comfortably own both wife and mistress? It cant work oh. Mistress must go and solve her issues and allow the man to continue with his life.