It's actually worrisome to see our ladies forfeiting their future dreams for ordinary marriage. As long you are married, some professions which our ladies can do better have been forbidden.

Don't be a slave all in the name of marriage, get back your dreams

Some people and Mumu na five and six can nigeria groom ur career oh no Nigerian is a zoo for survival instead of u to advise this female species to get marry early before dem turn to evening news paper u Dey there dey talk rubbish

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This thread must have definitely been started by a female because most of my gender is in perpetual denial.

Ask all the so called career women that abandoned marriage for career if they are truly happy, you will be shocked at the answers.

Offcourse don’t abandoned your dreams or career all together but your home comes first as a woman I don’t care if you are a CEO of a corporate company or a cleaner, your home comes first. Your husband and children comes first before any job.
If you don’t understand this just stay as a career woman and not get married at all.

helinues:
It's actually worrisome to see our ladies forfeiting their future dreams for ordinary marriage. As long you are married, some professions which our ladies can do better have been forbidden.

Don't be a slave all in the name of marriage, get back your dreams

Something we can finally agree on👍

Rokiat:
This thread must have definitely been started by a female because most of my gender is in perpetual denial.

Asked all the so called career women that abandoned marriage for career if they are truly happy, you will be shocked at the answers.

Offcourse don’t abandoned your dreams or career all together but your home comes first as a woman I don’t care if you are a CEO of a corporate company or a cleaner, your home comes first. Your husband and children comes first before any job.
If you don’t understand this just stay as a career woman and not get married at all.

Your first paragraph indicated this is a self denial comments.

I am a guy who is concerned about our ladies abandoning their future dreams because of ordinary marriage.

Cos you are married as a lady, then you can't hang out with your friends at night.. say wetin happen?

Sacrificing so much to get what exactly?

helinues:


Your first paragraph indicated this is a self denial comments.

I am a guy who is concerned about our ladies abandoning their future dreams because of ordinary marriage.

Cos you are married as a lady, then you can't hang out with your friends at night.. say wetin happen?

Sacrificing so much to get what exactly?

When you marry,you can support your wife hang out as you wish at night and even encourage sleep overs .
Sound like one weak man weh dey anticipate on earning potential of his woman.

SeaTrade:
When you marry,you can support your wife hang out as you wish at night and even encourage sleep overs .
Sound like one weak man weh dey anticipate on earning potential of his woman.

Lol

Reason why I don't hang out with weak ladies who can't make their own personal decisions themselves.

Marriage is not a prison or bondage.

helinues:


Lol

Reason why I don't hang out with weak ladies who can't make their own personal decisions themselves.

Marriage is not a prison or bondage.

Every woman can be vulnerable,
The big question is;
Are you that man she can be vulnerable to?
Do you have what it takes to command her vulnerability by virtue of your quality?
It might simply be that you don't have what it takes for the women you've been hanging out with to be weak and vulnerable to you because they don't see you man enough,
Lol.
People weh go dey jump up and down dey make semo and seafood Okro at 9pm for men dey form independent woman to you and you think it's a flex,
What a joke.

SeaTrade:
Every woman can be vulnerable,
The big question is;
Are you that man she can be vulnerable to?
Do you have what it takes to command her vulnerability by virtue of your quality?
It might simply be that you don't have what it takes for the women you've been hanging out with to be weak and vulnerable to you because they don't see you man enough,
Lol.
People weh go dey jump up and down dey make semo and seafood Okro at 9pm for men dey form independent woman to you and you think it's a flex,
What a joke.

Ain't looking for robot as a wife.

She has her life, she should be in control of majority of her decisions

helinues:


Ain't looking for robot as a wife.

She has her life, she should be in control of majority of her decisions

No one said you should have a robot as a wife,
However,there are some Do's and don'ts in the institution called marriage.
I hope your wife sleeping with other men during one of her random late hangouts with "friends" will be considered by you as her living her life and making her decisions by your books.
Like I said ,you just sound weak and tolerant because of the things you think you'll gain from these so called independent ladies.
Work on yourself more,so that the so called independence women bring can appeal to you less,since you have your keep in excess.
Hahaha

foolish thread

helinues:


Your first paragraph indicated this is a self denial comments.

I am a guy who is concerned about our ladies abandoning their future dreams because of ordinary marriage.

Cos you are married as a lady, then you can't hang out with your friends at night.. say wetin happen?

Sacrificing so much to get what exactly?

Who said that a married woman can not hang out with her friends sometimes? Just because you have seen some bad marriages doesn’t mean you should come online and project.

Also as a married woman you can hang with your friends sometimes heck you can even go out alone yourself and have your you time. You are your own Individual and you can’t clings on your husband 24/7 like who does that?

But the problem usually arise when married women want to be hanging out with their single friends going clubbing almost too frequently to quote you on your last sentence, what would a married woman be getting exactly by doing that?

helinues:
It's actually worrisome to see our ladies forfeiting their future dreams for ordinary marriage. As long you are married, some professions which our ladies can do better have been forbidden.

Don't be a slave all in the name of marriage, get back your dreams

Your utility function is different from he utility function of others. Some value marriage and family more than career while for others the reverse is the case. People derive happiness from different things. As for you, your career is more relevant than a marriage and family and your career will remain a source of happiness even as you age but for someone else a career is only relevant up to a certain age beyond which family and marriage becomes the mot desired objective. Hence I will not recommend anyone adheres to your admonition just because it sounds right.

helinues:
It's
Don't be a slave all in the name of marriage, get back your dreams

You want them to do what will make you happy or what will make them happy?

helinues:
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And I been dey rate you before thinking say Yiu get sense....
Kaiii

SenecaTheYonger:


You want them to do what will make you happy or what will make them happy?

Happiness in relationships should be mutual.

A good solid relationship but have boundaries

- some women's sole dream in life is to get married to a good man
- some women out there dont care about a career so long as someone is willing to take care of them
- many educated people out there are lazy, and dont want to work nor have a 9 to 5

at the end of the day, let each and every woman do whats best for "them"

Rokiat:
This thread must have definitely been started by a female because most of my gender is in perpetual denial.

In your bid to talk down on women, you went and commit a faux pas. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Na heli, the jagaban army and tribalist striker, a proponent of perverted process, you dey call woman?

Smh.

Rokiat:


Who said that a married woman can not hang out with her friends sometimes? Just because you have seen some bad marriages doesn’t mean you should come online and project.

Also as a married woman you can hang with your friends sometimes heck you can even go out alone yourself and have your you time. You are your own Individual and you can’t clings on your husband 24/7 like who does that?

But the problem usually arise when married women want to be hanging out with their single friends going clubbing almost too frequently to quote you on your last sentence, what would a married woman be getting exactly by doing that?

You are not being sincere here you know.

I am a guy who is just irritated with how some of our ladies have turned themselves to slaves all in the name of marriage.

I made a post sometimes last year about privacy, a lady still in her early 20's but married said she never had her own privacy before the marriage and still nothing closer to that in her marriage.

Abandoning ones future career for ordinary marriage don't just worth it

It's possible to have both, if an individual wants both. It's either the woman establishes herself on one first (e.g. career) before the other (marriage); or create a balance between the two, if establishing both at the same time. With the latter, having an understanding partner is the biggest factor. You don't want to marry a man who will be threatened by your success and growth.

🤔

SeaTrade:
No one said you should have a robot as a wife,
However,there are some Do's and don'ts in the institution called marriage.
I hope your wife sleeping with other men during one of her random late hangouts with "friends" will be considered by you as her living her life and making her decisions by your books.
Like I said ,you just sound weak and tolerant because of the things you think you'll gain from these so called independent ladies.
Work on yourself more,so that the so called independence women bring can appeal to you less,since you have your keep in excess.
Hahaha

Wahala nor dey finish for this world sha.


Different matter everyday lol.

E ma yan ju e sha.

💯

Exodus15v11:
It's possible to have both, if an individual wants both. It's either the woman establishes herself on one first (e.g. career) before the other (marriage); or create a balance between the two, if establishing both at the same time. With the latter, having an understanding partner is the biggest factor. You don't want to marry a man who will be threatened by your success and growth.

If a woman said this thing. She'll be called a feminist evening newspaper.

stxrlight:


In your bid to talk down on women, you went and commit a faux pas. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Na heli, the jagaban army and tribalist striker, a proponent of perverted process, you dey call woman?

Smh.

Talk down on women heck no but I am just a woman that’s have no issue holding my gender accountable heck even myself if needs be.

Rokiat:
Talk down on women heck know but I am just a woman that’s have no issue holding my gender accountable heck even myself if needs be.

K

stxrlight:


In your bid to talk down on women, you went and commit a faux pas. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Na heli, the jagaban army and tribalist striker, a proponent of perverted process, you dey call woman?

Smh.

Talk down on women?? How did she talk down on women.....u women like playing victim even against your own fellow women folk... always crying about being bullied once someone has a different view from yours

Rokiat:
This thread must have definitely been started by a female because most of my gender is in perpetual denial.

Ask all the so called career women that abandoned marriage for career if they are truly happy, you will be shocked at the answers.

Offcourse don’t abandoned your dreams or career all together but your home comes first as a woman I don’t care if you are a CEO of a corporate company or a cleaner, your home comes first. Your husband and children comes first before any job.
If you don’t understand this just stay as a career woman and not get married at all.

Hmmm...

One source of income doesn't make sense these days dey no go tell the husband b4 he finds his wife something that will bring extra income for the family

stxrlight:


K

How are you doing my girl