1. When a man tells a lady that it will really pain him if eventually he doesn't get to marry you, or misses out marrying you. In this case, he is not ready, start packing your bags.

2. If a guy tells you that he would not forgive himself if he ends up wasting your time for no reason. - Lady, he is gonna waste your time big time.

3. If after 2 to 3 dates, he is not sure of what to tell you as his ultimate end-purpose of dating you. Why this is important is that it will enable you to decide if you should close doors to other possible 'dating invitations', or leave your options wide open.

4. If a guy keeps on raising up the disappointments of his past or recent relationships, and how he is afraid of jumping into the talk of marriage or a committed relationship anytime soon. Lady, such a guy that would not let go of the past is not ready to embrace the future with you. And perhaps, it is just your person he is not fully bought into. Move on.

5. If a guy after 3 months of knowing and taking you out on dates, is still not willing to talk about, or introduce you to his circle of trusted friends and some of his immediate family members, then something is fishy. If a guy truly loves you and wants your hand in marriage, he would not let you rest with the gist of the important people in his life. He would be looking for means to show you off to them.

6. If after going out with a guy for more than 6 months and there is no sign of him inviting you to his church, or fellowship, or any gathering involving people that know him very, VERY, very (note the emphasis) well, then he is definitely NOT on the same page with you. When a man wants you in his life, he takes you to the places where his heart finds peace, joy and pleasure.

7. If he is always telling you not to take things too fast with your relationship with him, and is already demanding regular sex with you, then you are probably going down soon as the biggest loser. Mind you, you can't use sex, or easy access to your body to hold down a man that is not going to marry you as his wife. He will use you for his release, and probably enjoy it too, nothing more. You are just a body count.

8. When a man is not confident and relaxed enough to be seen with you in public, or his locality especially, then forget it, you are not the one he will be willing to flaunt around in the long run. And probably, he has done ‘gudugudu meje and yaya mefa’ to ladies in that locale, that he fears they might snitch on him to warn you off.

9. If a man really loves a lady and wants to marry her, he would move all mountains to protect and defend her personhood when talking about her with his family or friends. But the one that will not marry such a lady will listen and absorb all the thrash his people will dump on her even though they have never met or been with her. This is where the defence of your background comes in. A man either protects you, or let it on.

10. A man that is happy to demand for sex from you, but is still telling you that your ethnic, religious, social or academic background will be an issue with his family or friends is not fit for purpose. If the mentioned backgrounds will be issues to others close to him, then having sex with you should be the biggest issue to him, and it should be totally off the menu.

11. If a man cannot stop talking about his ex, or won't stop comparing you with his ex, better take the ‘EXpress’ way out. Why? All he wants is the metamorphosis of who you are into his ex! Trust me, you can never measure up to that Ex in the eyes of someone who is still holding on to the past.

12. A man who after dating you for 3 to 5 years, is still telling you that the talk of marriage is too early. If he is not giving you any genuine reason, or hope for the soonest future, then sorry my sister, you are the one wasting your own time.

13. A man meets you today, takes you out on few lunch dates, and within a week or two, is already expecting you to roll over for sex. That man is not one you can trust in the long run.

This is why I tell ladies being taken out on dates to always split the bills with the man.

When you do that, he won't think you owe him sex and that you must repay. Don't eat a man's free foods on dates. (I will strongly advise that). Hollywood or Nollywood may show you otherwise, it is not real.

You can only eat free foods of a man that wants to be committed to a relationship that has an end point with you without demanding for a bodily repay from you.

Split the bill and draw the line. Ask him his plans for you, and if he is not forthright with one, let him know categorically that he should not take it as an offence if he sees you on dates with other men.

14. When a man uses every dating opportunity to turn you into a student who must answer all his probing questions, or respond to his forensic investigative journalism every time with you, then run.

Sometimes, it is fair to get to know each other better by talking about yourselves in turns in a caring and jovial manner. When it becomes a one-way information traffic request, stop it and draw a line.

Why? He will find a fault with you which he will hold as a judgement baton to hammer you out of his life when he is ready to move on. I am not saying you should not get to know each other, but in a situation where there is no give and take in the information you share, then close your mouth, shut up, and move on.

15. If a man cannot look into you when communicating with you, if a man cannot focus his attention on you when you speak to him, if a man cannot radiate a warm smiling glow on his face when he is with you, if a man does not share the same spiritual values and beliefs systems with you...he is NOT your husband material. You should not let him have that crown.

These are just a few signs to go by.
Watch his body language,
Study his facial expressions,
Take note of his attitudes and behavioural patterns…

You will be amazed that the creature called man, the descendant of Adam, a secret admirer of Solomon’s feats who wants to be built strong like Samson is actually the easiest creature to study without stress.

All you just have to do is open up your eyes….wide.

Cheers
AmostiasisOnMonday

Na Nigeria 🇳🇬 girls that’s been beclouded with materialistic stuff and money 💰 you take your life energy to write ✍️ all this for...don’t be offended if there start asking you to summarize it for them...between Men and women who doesn’t see the red flag 🚩 mostly pls?