Good afternoon dear romancelanders,
My lover girl I met on Facebook just 4 months relationship of knowing each other sent me a shocking message to me on Facebook last night .
She is a single mother of two who lost her husband 3 years ago and when I met her I let her know that won't be a barrier that I will marry her with the 2 children and she agreed. Tho it was a long distance relationship and since we dated have travelled to meet her 9 times while she visited once and when she came she had to drop the children with her elder sister.
Three days ago we had little misunderstanding she cut phone on me I called her back never to try such on me and after that call she never call me for 2 days unlike before she calls regularly and I never call her too and she sent this to me last night what should I do ?

Though have not replied her or call her since that yesterday night.

Please someone with wisdom should advise me what to reply her ..tho I love her and I don't want to loose her ..but she offended me by dropping phone on me and she never say sorry before sending me this screenshot message

I bought easy buy solar for her which we are paying small small and also her phone get screen problems and I collect it to repair for her and I gave her my second phone Samsung to be using and is still with her that was what she meant that I should come and collect all what I did for her in that screenshot mesaage


This is someone that told me she has been going to the mountain to pray for husband that will stay in her life for the past 3 years ooooo

Op if it's you, take up your slippers, dust your slippers, wish her well and tear race far away.

She is a depressed woman and she sees you can't help her situation.

Ps Op she has given you the chance to dodge a very straight bullet. RUN!

What question did you ask her to answer ?

If she says she doesn't want, free her nah.
Is it by force?
If the quarrel is based on disrespect, it will not end today if you decide to continue.

harqinhola:
What question did you ask her to answer ?

She sent me a message to pay for d solar power for that week and she did not greet to say Good morin .so I ask her why she did not greet me ..that was when she sent the message

Even 3 days before then ..she ask me to send 10k I told her am broke and I manage to send her 3k ..she never say thank u or acknowledge the money till now

saweide:


She sent me a message to pay for d solar power for that week and she did not greet to say Good morin .so I ask her why she did not greet me ..that was when she sent the message

Even 3 days before then ..she ask me to send 10k I told her am broke and I manage to send her 3k ..she never say thank u or acknowledge the money till now

She doesn’t like you . #wemove

Leave the phone or anything to her that's not your problem if she ask, try to give her sometime or breathing space and she will either come back to you or forget about your love, the love has to be 50 50 or you will be taken for granted....... E go be like say love they shak you...... And try and go to places you find other nice and beautiful women then she will be in 10th place fighting to be first place like she used to be.......

saweide:


She sent me a message to pay for d solar power for that week and she did not greet to say Good morin .so I ask her why she did not greet me ..that was when she sent the message

Even 3 days before then ..she ask me to send 10k I told her am broke and I manage to send her 3k ..she never say thank u or acknowledge the money till now

im trying to understand how you will cater for her, her children and the ones she will deliver for you when you marry her.

saweide:


She sent me a message to pay for d solar power for that week and she did not greet to say Good morin .so I ask her why she did not greet me ..that was when she sent the message

Even 3 days before then ..she ask me to send 10k I told her am broke and I manage to send her 3k ..she never say thank u or acknowledge the money till now

She knows you cant carry her problems. Thinking of an average Nigerian single mother with kids looking for who to carry their problem.

Run far away Op

Empty Headed Simps everywhere

she said she is tired of the r/ship, so why dont you jejely remove yourself from this headache?

Move on my friend! You can't fill in that hollow space caused by the death of her husband.

I hope you are not another male Gold digger trying to rip her and her kids what is left from her husband wealth.

She might see you as such.


Mothers with kids should be left for fathers with kids

Why can't human beings be reasonable for once? Op, ignore her for the mean time.

suckmedownthere:
Leave the phone or anything to her that's not your problem if she ask, try to give her sometime or breathing space and she will either come back to you or forget about your love, the love has to be 50 50 or you will be taken for granted....... E go be like say love they shak you...... And try and go to places you find other nice and beautiful women then she will be in 10th place fighting to be first place like she used to be.......

bros no mind this one o.

Please go and collect your things. Not showing gratitude is disgusting regardless of the gender.

Your mama no born u to slave for another person. Please go and collect your things and lock up

Queendera:
bros no mind this one o.

Please go and collect your things. Not showing gratitude is disgusting regardless of the gender.

Your mama no born u to slave for another person. Please go and collect your things and lock up

Thanks sir

suckmedownthere:
Leave the phone or anything to her that's not your problem if she ask, try to give her sometime or breathing space and she will either come back to you or forget about your love, the love has to be 50 50 or you will be taken for granted....... E go be like say love they shak you...... And try and go to places you find other nice and beautiful women then she will be in 10th place fighting to be first place like she used to be.......

Thanks I really appreciate your advice

How you go see wahala still dey choke your head?

Na waoh

I no want spoil my mind this afternoon so I no read the post but I know either you or the girl must be mad...

Its not a test or anything, she is over you, you dont excite her anymore, she knows you love her and she rarely gets it that easy. She is showing you how she regards you so dont ignore that or make excuses for her. You were born by a loving woman and cared for by a responsible father remember that, Love yourself enough to not seem as though you cant live without her. Show here you have value for yourself. Return her phone, transfer the easy buy payment account to her turn around and walk away. If she comes for you set the ground rules if she doesn't respect her decision and move on. Remember a woman who loves you will break all her rules for you, including appreciating 3k, its not the way you love her she loves, its the way you love yourself.

Single mother without reasonable means of livelihood is a burden to the man dating, cohabiting or marrying her.

I know a man presently; he is confused because he allowed a single mother of 3 to be cohabiting with him and he has done some things for her to leave but she is adamant. The guy in question is also afraid of dragging her out forcefully because, the lady's father is an herbalist.

@OP, your situation is even better than the one I stated above, please try and do away with her to have peace and as per you've done for her, just count them as a loss

What a shame 😪😪

Gboom:
Single mother without reasonable means of livelihood is a burden to the man dating, cohabiting or marrying her.

I know a man presently; he is confused because he allowed a single mother of 3 to be cohabiting with him and he has done some things for her to leave but she is adamant. The guy in question is also afraid of dragging her out forcefully because, the lady's father is an herbalist.

@OP, your situation is even better than the one I stated above, please try and do away with her to have peace and as per you've done for her, just count them as a loss

Tanks but pls ...how should I react to her
Mesages

Benjaniblinks:
What a shame 😪😪

Shame as how

Should I reply the message or just overlook it pls advise

Don't reply her again. If she calls, don't pick it too. If you eventually pick, don't reply her the way to make you look weak. After that, cut the phone on her. You are the boss. You are allowing her to boss you around. It will get worse if you marry her. The signs are there.
If she insists that you should come and pick your items , collect them with all gladness and return her things. Any woman that you even test with small things, and not appreciative will do worse soon. Let her source for her self .
By the way , did you ever found out what killed her ex husband? These are the type of questions you supposed find answers to before bulging in any relationship with a married woman...If not, I pity you eh...they do love is blind there until it leads you to a journey of no return. Just saying though.

Op what led you to a single mother in the first place? Love? If love, dead that idea, cos love will not keep you in a marriage. There are more to relationship than feelings, there has to be understanding. If she will not understand you and you will not understand her, just safe yourself the future stress that you cannot avoid or control.

1. You are not responsible for whatever happened to her, so let are not blackmail you emotionally or add unnecessary pressure to you.

2. Understand that she made her choice at some point, so if her husband did not die, there won't be you.

Don't kill yourself for someone that won't appreciate it. You can leave the message unattended to or fix a date to get your stuffs and end the whole thing.

saweide:
Should I reply the message or just overlook it pls advise

ask her when she'll bring ur phone bck... Collect everything she return gladly

incase you no see who to give the phone i'll be needing it

is either you are a dullard or you too slow to understand..
no too much talking,do as she says, it's over...otilo
how do you guys cope with a single mom of 2..1daful people everywhere

What's wrong with all this Simp self out of the whole ladies in this world nah single mum way no get hand work you go carry

priceactionx:
Don't reply her again. If she calls, don't pick it too. If you eventually pick, don't reply her the way to make you look weak. After that, cut the phone on her. You are the boss. You are allowing her to boss you around. It will get worse if you marry her. The signs are there.
If she insists that you should come and pick your items , collect them with all gladness and return her things. Any woman that you even test with small things, and not appreciative will do worse soon. Let her source for her self .
By the way , did you ever found out what killed her ex husband? These are the type of questions you supposed find answers to before bulging in any relationship with a married woman...If not, I pity you eh...they do love is blind there until it leads you to a journey of no return. Just saying though.

Thanks a lot .that is it ...when i asked what killed d husband she just told me it was an attack