annita19:

So where does that leave us? Probably with a lot to learn, but also with a great opportunity for personal growth and shared happiness. The bottom line for me is that when relationships do work they are fun and a source of great pleasure and security, but when they don't they can make one rather miserable. On the whole, though, they do work - or at least can be made to work - with the right skills, and in co-operation with your partner. [size=13pt]And for many of us, few things in life seem to be as worthwhile as investing in one's relationship.[/size]

claremont:

Interesting sentence! In other words, for some people, nothing in life is more important than the time and resources put into a relationship. How a group of people would choose to narrow down their life goals to something as mundane as a social intercourse is totally beyond me! [size=15pt]I have tried and totally failed to understand[/size] the motivation of these group of people; surely, there just can't be a rational explanation for this!

CalienteMi:

No one should tell you that relationships are hard work because each relationships have different outcome.

Anything you do in life is work. It doesn't necessarily has to be hard because your relationship is what you put into it. If you are lazy in your partnership then it will show.

Common sense will tell people to look at the couple to your right and ask yourself IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT in yours?

Problematic relationships in itself isn't the problem, you are. I believe we all get the memo that relationships require work but many of us chooses to ignore the memo hence the issues many of us are facing or have faced.

CalienteMi:

Thank you.

annita19:

Let's face it, relationships are hard work. But as human beings we need to be in relationship: we have an inbuilt biological drive to be in contact with other human beings.

As children we grow up in a complex matrix of relationships which to a large degree will shape who we become as adults. Later, we dream about romantic relationships; as teenagers we get excited about our first attempts at intimate relationships, and these first intimate encounters are an important rite of passage into adulthood. As adults we look for committed, long term relationships, and most of us envisage happiness as being part of a relationship (whatever that may look like).

What no-one ever tells us is that relationships are hard work. You could compare a relationship to a dance between two partners (or in some less orthodox cases more than two) where each partner is listening to a different tune and rhythm and they are dancing according to a different set of steps. To make the endeavor workable, possibly even graceful and good fun, a lot of resilience, trust, negotiation, willingness to compromise, skill and humor is needed. Again, this isn't really stuff that is taught to us beforehand, and we often believe that a relationship is supposed to save us from all our problems, rather than throw all our failings into greater relief.

So where does that leave us? Probably with a lot to learn, but also with a great opportunity for personal growth and shared happiness. The bottom line for me is that when relationships do work they are fun and a source of great pleasure and security, but when they don't they can make one rather miserable. On the whole, though, they do work - or at least can be made to work - with the right skills, and in co-operation with your partner. And for many of us, few things in life seem to be as worthwhile as investing in one's relationship.

egbesegbe:

Yh Relationships were not like those days that was why you were not told. The 21st century has turned everything less than what it ought to be.

Relationships--------- Meaningless
Feelings ----------------Heartless
Attitudes--------------- careless
Wives-------------------Fearless
Leaders-----------------Shameless
Youths-------------------Jobless
Children-----------------Mannerless
Education---------------Valueless
Food---------------------Fatless
Dress--------------------Sleeveless
Car------------------------Keyless
cooking-------------------Fireless
Phones-------------------Wireless
Infact Everything is less. Our prayer in this century is God don't let our endless hope make us speechless in this useless world.

Pls take heart dear.

M M M:

Annita19

am alittle bit confused here

can u come 2 my house and explian very well 4 me

Freesia:

I have also noted the foundation of a good r/ship is friendship.When you get to your old age,with fragile bones,and missing teeth the last thing on your mind is jumping the sheets,your bond is your friendship.

Meet Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of North Carolina. They have been married 85 years (86 in May)  marriage of a living couple and get this…. Zelmyra is 101 years old and Herbert is 104.

Due to their friendship they must have made a whole lot of sacrifices along the way to be where they are now.

ochukoccna:


Hope Nairaland's sex freaks are reading this.
There's more to a relationship than yan-sh-ing [Apologies 4 been so raw]