MightySparrow:



Money is not enough. If your man is cheating, find a way to make yourself happy by believing that no man is trustworthy and vice versa.

Why killing yourself?

Moreso, the children you gain from the marriage could be lost to the world when there's no adequate parental care from both parents. The father - figure is important in children' s development.
I will not my children to marry anyone from broken home. Majority of them are wrongly biased because of bitter experiences and indoctrination. It is better one sees añ erring partner as his/ her cross, not the family's.

komzy589:

You’re obviously less than 25years. Let me break it to you sweetheart. Society didn’t make anything up. The world is already unfair to the female gender, that’s why they always get the benefit of any doubt when there’s a case with the opp sex. This article is only trying to explain why you should pick your demons carefully.

linearity:


I beg, you fit show us where dem write am for Bible say, one man, one wife?

I don find am tire oh!

Donjazet2:
My only question for the original poster is this;

If the man is allowed to have a side chic and sleep outside the marriage, is the woman also given that same free roam?

Because what you've outlined here seems to be one-sided and caused by financial patrimony.

I hope all women reading this understand that they must strive to be financially independent, don't let yourself or your source of money be from any man even your husband.

Love and cherish any man you have, be obidient and respectful to him but make sure you are earning in your own right. Find something legit that pays you.

seguno2:


My answer was not about whether men can be community prick or not. My answer was to your question about women being free to roam.

Do you see the difference

linearity:


I beg, you fit show us where dem write am for Bible say, one man, one wife?

I don find am tire oh!

hardon1:

Poster why don't you look at the positive side too.

A lady leaves a cheating man and leave with her kids... she does her best and She struggles to feed them herself. Then she opens up to dating and dating responsible mature men.

She was lucky and finds a divorcee, a widower or a mature man who has never been married.
The man marries her and treat her right with love and respect

And the husband she abandon earlier is still jumping from skirt to skirt... And women keep turning him down for second marriage because he can't keep his dick in check

He comes later to beg her, but it's too late, she has remarried a better man

How about that Mr poster, let's not see only the negative side. Just as some women don't find love after leaving an unfaithful partner, there are many others too who find better men and are happily married after they left a cheating partner

koladata:
Men were never designed to sleep with one woman for the rest of their lives. That's why there's a virginity seal on women at birth while there's no seal on men. Even in basic biology, men's sexual anatomy is completely different , the hormones and desires are referent. most of us have only come to accept this one man one woman thing because someone wrote it in the bible which i'm sure God didn't write that thing, he's not an author of confusion because that would have contradict his designs.

Bvlgari:


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koladata:
Men were never designed to sleep with one woman for the rest of their lives. That's why there's a virginity seal on women at birth while there's no seal on men. Even in basic biology, men's sexual anatomy is completely different , the hormones and desires are referent. most of us have only come to accept this one man one woman thing because someone wrote it in the bible which i'm sure God didn't write that thing, he's not an author of confusion because that would have contradict his designs.

1Sharon:


And the man will in turn leave the kids to a wicked step mother that will be abusive?

Or is the man going to be single father?

folake4u:


Hahahaha. I feel you. I'm very picky in discussing sensitive topics with individuals, I usually gauge their level of sense and understanding before I indulge in such convos, otherwise I disengage immediately.

Hian. Which one is you're overthinking? Lol.

We don't pray for bad things to happen but it's also best to prepare oneself for the worst of situations.

People even prepare in advance for their funeral. There was a fellow who went to a funeral home in Lagos and posted it on Twitter. She was shocked that people were booking for tomb sites for themselves (and loved ones) in the case of any eventuality.

While some folks condemned the idea, I particularly like it because you'd be saving your grieving family from all sorts of funeral expenses.

Earthstorms:
It hurts when the trust is broken that is why some women leave a cheating husband.

However life later force such women to either become someone else side chick or a second wife. So the women do not really escape sharing the men.

What can the women really do? It is a man's world in Africa so it is more difficult for women to survive and take care of the kids alone. The first mistake they make when leaving is that they take the kids along.

To me, if a woman is leaving a man because he is cheating, she should leave the kids for him and bother only about herself.

Earthstorms:
It hurts when the trust is broken that is why some women leave a cheating husband.

However life later force such women to either become someone else side chick or a second wife. So the women do not really escape sharing the men.

What can the women really do? It is a man's world in Africa so it is more difficult for women to survive and take care of the kids alone. The first mistake they make when leaving is that they take the kids along.

To me, if a woman is leaving a man because he is cheating, she should leave the kids for him and bother only about herself.

dazzlingd:


You can cheat the system, get yourself one wife, but bang as many women as you can in your life time. Don’t just get caught by your wife so you can maintain a healthy family. Don’t let your kids find out too so you will keep your respect.
Make plenty money and go on some kind vacations where you can chop your life and what happens there stays there

Greenfusion:
I just like this write-up, not because it's morally right, I just like the twist....very funny how she became a side chic to her husband.

It's actually a difficult thing to bare as a woman and man when your partner cheats....I knew of some men then that were chronic cheats but never played with their families, gave them the best...their wives didn't leave, in fact they sent them abroad and continued their act....they are still together today in their 70's.... I don't just know how to place or judge this......I think some times we over react and make mistakes....... it's not easy sha, to be sincere

Rayban25:


God bless you...I love your disclaimer...because most men now bring outside babies and diseases which is very wrong.

dazzlingd:


You can cheat the system, get yourself one wife, but bang as many women as you can in your life time. Don’t just get caught by your wife so you can maintain a healthy family. Don’t let your kids find out too so you will keep your respect.
Make plenty money and go on some kind vacations where you can chop your life and what happens there stays there

Persephone1:
Folly you need to see me with this lady. We were talking and somehow dived into marriage and stuff. She asked about marriage,I told her I no get money, I'm broke then she asked what I needed money for which I responded to that i should be able to take care of at least a child myself without stress before I get hitched. Na so I enter am oooo. After deliberations leading to argument, I agreed with her and kept quiet.

But the truth is the last thing I will ever want to experience in being held in a loveless marriage for whatever reason or having my kids suffer. If at all person fit use love portion hold man for marriage ( which I will never do BTW) can his life be held too? Nothing is certain in this life anymore. Yes he may be rich and all but there are lots of what ifs that can be avoided.

We always hope for the best but that doesn't mean the best will always be there 🤷

I like what the lady did, at least it's certain she will rest well 😂

godliman:
If you know the long term consequences of this side chic nonsense you won't be saying this. Side chocking can lead to
1. The chic using juju to turn the husband's heart from his wife for good. The make men abandon their real wives.
2. It leads to baby mama. The husband can simply marry the side chic on the long run and begin raising another set of family elsewhere.
3. The promiscuous husband can bring home HIV and other STIs to finish his innocent wife.
4. The side chic might kill him if she wants to.
5. The side chic might kill the real wife and reign without rival.
Don't blame wives who quit, aside the pain, the life is not safe.
The solution is marry as genuine christians with premarital sex. A man who only eats his wife's soup is content but the one who eats about compares.