Persephone1:
The consistency with which you all sit and come up with write ups and topics that centers on women all the time should be studied in uni. Sadly you don't maintain this energy in researching how to make your lives and country better.
Tsk tsk tsk

Exmilitant:
But a real niggar should foot all marriage expenses alone if he is to claim the title of head of the house.

Exmilitant:
But a real niggar should foot all marriage expenses alone if he is to claim the title of head of the house.

Sirchiboy:
If a man comes to marry you now, how much are you willing to use and support him? Or you think it is the responsibility of a man alone to foot all the wedding bills?
Do you have one kobo to support him with or you're looking for who to borrow money from people just to impress you, your friends and your family members? You better calm down oh. Time dey go! Most men are no longer interested in ỌRỊAKU now. They want someone whose mindset is on multiplying the money the money they met before and after marriage. Except there are unseen forces fighting you or him. If not, you should be a blessing to each other and not office or money spender.

Antipob777:
If you don't have upto 50million credit balance, don't near me.

I dont flow with broke guys. Shishi I wont put in my marriage. Its the man's duty to fund everything.

Antipob777:
If you don't have upto 50million credit balance, don't near me.

I dont flow with broke guys. Shishi I wont put in my marriage. Its the man's duty to fund everything.

Kobojunkie:
Did those jobless ones put a gun to any man's head forcing him to date them or die? Abeg, stop blaming the girls and cast down the irresponsible nutjobs who keep dating said girls only to come back to whine about it! These men have options out there these days too... they can opt for a gay lifestyle or pick up a transexual mate of which there are a sizable number available these days. These options come equipped with a male brain to boot which means they might get alone better. https://www.nairaland.com/7610978/25-unbelievable-gender-reassignments-transformations#121739767

Sirchiboy:
If a man comes to marry you now, how much are you willing to use and support him? Or you think it is the responsibility of a man alone to foot all the wedding bills?
Do you have one kobo to support him with or you're looking for who to borrow money from people just to impress you, your friends and your family members? You better calm down oh. Time dey go! Most men are no longer interested in ỌRỊAKU now. They want someone whose mindset is on multiplying the money the money they met before and after marriage. Except there are unseen forces fighting you or him. If not, you should be a blessing to each other and not office or money spender.

Exmilitant:
But a real niggar should foot all marriage expenses alone if he is to claim the title of head of the house.

Persephone1:
The consistency with which you all sit and come up with write ups and topics that centers on women all the time should be studied in uni. Sadly you don't maintain this energy in researching how to make your lives and country better.
Tsk tsk tsk

Persephone1:
Culture differs and may influence opinions. Where I'm from, the bride's family shoulders the major responsibility when it comes to the wedding ceremony. The bride's parent carries most, and the couple supports them. Due to the economic situation, both the groom, the bride, and the bride's parents share the bills while the groom's parents support them.

Most brides consider what happens after the wedding so they hardly ever allow a man to go too extra. Yeah. You will see the color, the glamour, the flamboyant owambe but believe me behind it all is combine deliberations and calculations from both couple and parents. Nobody wants their daughter to end up soaking gaarri after wedding. It is very rare for wedding to be fully sponsored by the groom, that's a slap on Yoruba parents .

Shokoloko:

I wanted a very small traditional wedding -10 people from both families. He wanted a big traditional wedding, so I let him pay for the big traditional wedding.
I wanted a small white wedding of 80 people, he wanted a big white wedding as he had a large network. I contributed 50% of the budget for 80 people, he contributed 50% too and then paid alone for the wedding arrangements for the 200 extra people he invited.

Kobojunkie:
1. What is juju is intentionally dating someone who doesn't believe in contributing only to whine and complain about it later on as though a gun was put to your head in the first place.

2. The man who chose her for his bride agreed to it so why have a problem with her when you aren't the one she is marrying?

Mom007:
Foolish and godless generation. The more you fight against the will and mandate of God concerning marriage, the more diminished you become and the more you struggle yet you will not use your tongue to count your teeth. Just like esau you sell your headship and birthright as a husband and provider for a days meal and then you suffer for the rest of your marriage. You don't need to tell a good woman to support her husband in financial matters but for a man to stretch his hands and be counting on the income of the woman is morally and spiritually wrong. It hinders you spiritually but you children will not hear. Where is it written in the bible that a woman will be an equal partner or even earn income for the husband to share? Even Muslims do not propagate this kind of thinking but you see my "Christian' brethren that don't seem to know their left from their right these days and don't know that this world is first of All a spiritual place, its their mouth you will continually hear this rubbish. Marry a good woman, and her presence alone in your life will attract blessings but no, you will marry slay queen with big features and then be asking her what she will bring to your shaky legged table! Most of you are bad anyway, and you don't even carry the grace to attract a good woman so carry your crosses. After defiling countless number of sisters you complain that there are no more good ladies out there... Marry them like that! As you lay your beds, lie in them.

Mom007:
Foolish and godless generation. The more you fight against the will and mandate of God concerning marriage, the more diminished you become and the more you struggle yet you will not use your tongue to count your teeth. Just like esau you sell your headship and birthright as a husband and provider for a days meal and then you suffer for the rest of your marriage. You don't need to tell a good woman to support her husband in financial matters but for a man to stretch his hands and be counting on the income of the woman is morally and spiritually wrong. It hinders you spiritually but you children will not hear. Where is it written in the bible that a woman will be an equal partner or even earn income for the husband to share? Even Muslims do not propagate this kind of thinking but you see my "Christian' brethren that don't seem to know their left from their right these days and don't know that this world is first of All a spiritual place, its their mouth you will continually hear this rubbish. Marry a good woman, and her presence alone in your life will attract blessings but no, you will marry slay queen with big features and then be asking her what she will bring to your shaky legged table! Most of you are bad anyway, and you don't even carry the grace to attract a good woman so carry your crosses. After defiling countless number of sisters you complain that there are no more good ladies out there... Marry them like that! As you lay your beds, lie in them.

Ivanspring:


I wish "they" would all read this.

EXCEPT YOUR CULTURE STATES OTHERWISE, if you love yourself as a man, save money (no do pass yourself), marry according to your means and preserve your headship and authority both spiritually and physically.

Whether you like or not, whether you believe it or not, the spiritual ALWAYS controls the physical.

Be wise.

Sonnobax15:

I've been having this particular conversation with my current banny over some time now...

CuriousStudent:
then they should remain single. The very thought of marrying Nigerian men that look like Godzilla is hard luck. So you should pay. Except I am cripple or physically disadvantaged I will not pay a dime for a wedding to a Nigerian man.
Men that suggest this are broke and should be avoided

Sirchiboy:
If a man comes to marry you now, how much are you willing to use and support him? Or you think it is the responsibility of a man alone to foot all the wedding bills?
Do you have one kobo to support him with or you're looking for who to borrow money from people just to impress you, your friends and your family members? You better calm down oh. Time dey go! Most men are no longer interested in ỌRỊAKU now. They want someone whose mindset is on multiplying the money the money they met before and after marriage. Except there are unseen forces fighting you or him. If not, you should be a blessing to each other and not office or money spender.

bukatyne:


@ Bold:

An average Yoruba family rather go destitute than let the groom foot most of the bills

However, I think that's why marriages are the way they are in Yorubaland:

That a large number of the men have no shame allowing the wife to handle most of the financial responsibility at home without doing anything about it (not talking of a husband earning lower than the wife; I am talking of the husband not working hard enough to take care of his family financially or not making efforts to get another job etc.) and still be useless domestically.

And also their ability to suspend fatherhood and pick it up when it suits them (after the mother has struggled to bring up the kids alone).

Thankfully, they are doing better now apart from Lagos husbands who have modernized the ills of their ancestors.

CarlosTheJackal:
You strayed out of the topic like an hyena on heat

Mom007:
Foolish and godless generation. The more you fight against the will and mandate of God concerning marriage, the more diminished you become and the more you struggle yet you will not use your tongue to count your teeth. Just like esau you sell your headship and birthright as a husband and provider for a days meal and then you suffer for the rest of your marriage. You don't need to tell a good woman to support her husband in financial matters but for a man to stretch his hands and be counting on the income of the woman is morally and spiritually wrong. It hinders you spiritually but you children will not hear. Where is it written in the bible that a woman will be an equal partner or even earn income for the husband to share? Even Muslims do not propagate this kind of thinking but you see my "Christian' brethren that don't seem to know their left from their right these days and don't know that this world is first of All a spiritual place, its their mouth you will continually hear this rubbish. Marry a good woman, and her presence alone in your life will attract blessings but no, you will marry slay queen with big features and then be asking her what she will bring to your shaky legged table! Most of you are bad anyway, and you don't even carry the grace to attract a good woman so carry your crosses. After defiling countless number of sisters you complain that there are no more good ladies out there... Marry them like that! As you lay your beds, lie in them.

CuriousStudent:
then they should remain single. The very thought of marrying Nigerian men that look like Godzilla is hard luck. So you should pay. Except I am cripple or physically disadvantaged I will not pay a dime for a wedding to a Nigerian man.
Men that suggest this are broke and should be avoided

Persephone1:
I have never seen it happen! These people take pride in handling ceremonies and sending daughters to their husbands with bountiful gifts and joy. It's a nice culture as it gives women liberty and a sense of relevance. I like the fact that families do not neglect their daughters after marriage. I think I prefer to be actively involved in running my family and have a say than to be taken care of all the time and shut out of important decisions, meetings, and matters.

You are right about having high numbers of deadbeat fathers though.

sageb:


Wife material 5000 yards
When you come to PH, please holla.

CarlosTheJackal:
You always talk like a toddler left by the road side