DownTime44:
https://www.nairaland.com/7686172/been-restless-having-chat-elder


All thanks to everyone for their immense contributions towards my elder brother predicament. This place is truly home away from home. For those getting to know or who just come across this thread, you can read through the link posted above to get a grasp of where I'm coming from.


Someone sent me a mail having gone through my post and we both shared contact. He works on the island and he was willing to absorb my elder brother into his organisation. It's an organisation where one learn a skills and get paid monthly. Then after being certified in your skills, you can be employed as a full staff into the organisation. He would be given #20,000 monthly as stipend while learning as an apprentice but the man promised to be adding #10,000 to it making a total of #30,000 monthly. This person didn't know me from Adam but was touched by my brother's condition and he developed interest in helping him in his own little way. He asked me to inform my elder brother and get back to him.


I discussed everything to my brother verbally. Infact, i relate everything to him in my mother's tongue for ease of communication. I asked him if he has any interest in the offer and he said yes. He has interest. He's very much interested. He said he'd specialised in plumbing. I reached out to the man and we both finalise everything. He asked my brother when would he love to resume and he said month end. After the call, i asked him why month end and he said he doesn't have anything. He needs to get some few clothes, toiletries and some money for upkeep. I asked him where would he get money from less than 2 weeks to month end. He claimed if he can see any bus to work with. I told him you've been out of job going to a year, you didn't get any bus. Why do you think you'd get a bus within a short space of time? I asked him what if i rally round for him, is he willing to resume before the month end, he said yes with happy face. I borrowed #10,000 from a friend, i had #5,000 left with me, making a total of #15,000. I gave him 2 pairs of trousers and shirt i had. He bought a small school bag of #3,000 to put his clothes and he left in two days time. That was last week Wednesday. Oh! God, i was the happiest man on earth that very day.. I was so happy for him believing that he would become somebody from there. I called him to know if he has gotten there and how the work was. He said everything was fine.


I was surprised to see my brother at home on Friday, two days after he left. I asked him hope all is well? He said yes. I asked him why did he came back home so soon considering the cost of transportation to island. He was given a room he'd put up with. I expected him to stay there and focus on his job, whenever i have any money i would send to him. The man that helped him with the job called me later in the day. He narrated the gross misconduct of my brother. My brother left the job on Friday during working hours. The work is Monday to Saturday. Though Saturday is half day. He explained every details of the job to my brother before he resumed work. My brother was assigned to someone else to work with, not directly the man that helped him. The man only came to check up on him daily to know how he's fairing. The man was there when my brother took his bag, headed outside with the claim that he was going home. The man told him he can't go home now till after work, which is on Saturday. My brother didn't listen to the boss he was assigned with nor the man that helped him. He left right in their presence.


They do give daily report, and the man he was assigned with reported that he doesn't have anyone to work with, particularly on Saturday. The management asked him about my brother assigned to him and he said he has left on Friday. My brother was dismissed for his attitude. I pleaded to give him a second chance, but the man said it was beyond his power. The management has decided. I asked him to report there today and apologise for his gross misconduct. He went but apology wasn't accepted. If i was the man that helped my brother with this job or if i was among the management. I would do the same thing. I'd gladly lay him off without thinking twice.


My mother had been crying having heard the outcome of everything. I myself had cry my eyes out, all because of this my elder brother. I am fed up. The burden is too much. I might be tempted to harm him living under the same roof with him. I had been trying to console my mum but she wouldn't listen. Landlord came to harass her last week, the very day my elder brother left, because of house rent. I had 3 younger siblings to look after. Here comes my elder brother problem again. I am responsible for all of these with my meagre pay. I don't know what else to do for this guy. I don't think i can put up with him anymore. I am tired. Why is this life full of problems? I am losing my mind completely.

My only advice for you is to ignore him, and focus on your younger siblings and mum. What might be wrong with that guy is spiritual, and such elder brother will be very envious of their younger siblings ones they succeed, they become a threat to the family.


Pls just kindly leave him alone. Stay focus and keep the hustling spirit going, hold mama tight and your younger siblings. You're the hope in the family.

Kobojunkie:
1. So, his mother didn't do it well for 38 years, and it is only when it is done your way that it will work... this is your idea of how God works? LOL... Religion is a bitch!

2. But nothing of what you have stated here is in fact the Word of God. I mean even Jesus Christ healed people who did not know or believe in Him. So what part of what you are pushing is in fact the word of God?

3. The Holy Spirit carries his own atmosphere. Where in scripture is this written abeg so I at least understand where you are attempting to come from?

oga ,abeg pass, I DONT SHARE MY BANANAS WITH MONKIES . I know your type, keep at what you know and may it give True peace if it truely is.

achimendy:





My only advice for you is to ignore him, and focus on your younger siblings and mum. What might be wrong with that guy is spiritual, and such elder brother will be very envious of their younger siblings ones they succeed, they become a threat to the family.


Pls just kindly leave him alone. Stay focus and keep the hustling spirit going, hold mama tight and your younger siblings. You're the hope in the family.

This was what i was scared of seriously. He knows how to blackmail someone. Reason why i can't leave my younger siblings and parents with him. He's a complete burden. I wish i had money to get accommodation for my mum and younger siblings. I sincerely don't want him to live with them again. That's also the reason why i wish he could get something doing and live on his own as a man.

DownTime44:
This was what i was scared of seriously. He knows how to blackmail someone. Reason why i can't leave my younger siblings and parents with him. He's a complete burden. I wish i had money to get accommodation for my mum and younger siblings. I sincerely don't want him to live with them again. That's also the reason why i wish he could get something doing and live on his own as a man.

I have a brother like yours too, is just that the difference is that he works and makes money on his own, but the thing is he will spend that money for useless things until it got finished, he won't even remember his family. But the moment you start making your own and you give him little or nothing he will start complaining and be reporting you to everyone, and my mum will be begging me to help him but I refuse. I dealt with him by allowing face the consequences of his actions, so that next time he will be reasonable. And It really worked over time.



You're a man, just let him be ,b4 you'll cause BP for yourself. If your mum want to continue taking care of him leave her, most mothers are like that, they can't watch their children suffer. But you just stay focus and keep grinding, and also praying for your family while you still search for bigger opportunities.

Thank you.

Ur entire family will be jailed for stupidly jumping on my comment. Charity begins at home. U the bastard madcap!

chimpad:
That's crazy! You should be jailed for thinking this is the first place.

DownTime44:
https://www.nairaland.com/7686172/been-restless-having-chat-elder


All thanks to everyone for their immense contributions towards my elder brother predicament. This place is truly home away from home. For those getting to know or who just come across this thread, you can read through the link posted above to get a grasp of where I'm coming from.


Someone sent me a mail having gone through my post and we both shared contact. He works on the island and he was willing to absorb my elder brother into his organisation. It's an organisation where one learn a skills and get paid monthly. Then after being certified in your skills, you can be employed as a full staff into the organisation. He would be given #20,000 monthly as stipend while learning as an apprentice but the man promised to be adding #10,000 to it making a total of #30,000 monthly. This person didn't know me from Adam but was touched by my brother's condition and he developed interest in helping him in his own little way. He asked me to inform my elder brother and get back to him.


I discussed everything to my brother verbally. Infact, i relate everything to him in my mother's tongue for ease of communication. I asked him if he has any interest in the offer and he said yes. He has interest. He's very much interested. He said he'd specialised in plumbing. I reached out to the man and we both finalise everything. He asked my brother when would he love to resume and he said month end. After the call, i asked him why month end and he said he doesn't have anything. He needs to get some few clothes, toiletries and some money for upkeep. I asked him where would he get money from less than 2 weeks to month end. He claimed if he can see any bus to work with. I told him you've been out of job going to a year, you didn't get any bus. Why do you think you'd get a bus within a short space of time? I asked him what if i rally round for him, is he willing to resume before the month end, he said yes with happy face. I borrowed #10,000 from a friend, i had #5,000 left with me, making a total of #15,000. I gave him 2 pairs of trousers and shirt i had. He bought a small school bag of #3,000 to put his clothes and he left in two days time. That was last week Wednesday. Oh! God, i was the happiest man on earth that very day.. I was so happy for him believing that he would become somebody from there. I called him to know if he has gotten there and how the work was. He said everything was fine.


I was surprised to see my brother at home on Friday, two days after he left. I asked him hope all is well? He said yes. I asked him why did he came back home so soon considering the cost of transportation to island. He was given a room he'd put up with. I expected him to stay there and focus on his job, whenever i have any money i would send to him. The man that helped him with the job called me later in the day. He narrated the gross misconduct of my brother. My brother left the job on Friday during working hours. The work is Monday to Saturday. Though Saturday is half day. He explained every details of the job to my brother before he resumed work. My brother was assigned to someone else to work with, not directly the man that helped him. The man only came to check up on him daily to know how he's fairing. The man was there when my brother took his bag, headed outside with the claim that he was going home. The man told him he can't go home now till after work, which is on Saturday. My brother didn't listen to the boss he was assigned with nor the man that helped him. He left right in their presence.


They do give daily report, and the man he was assigned with reported that he doesn't have anyone to work with, particularly on Saturday. The management asked him about my brother assigned to him and he said he has left on Friday. My brother was dismissed for his attitude. I pleaded to give him a second chance, but the man said it was beyond his power. The management has decided. I asked him to report there today and apologise for his gross misconduct. He went but apology wasn't accepted. If i was the man that helped my brother with this job or if i was among the management. I would do the same thing. I'd gladly lay him off without thinking twice.


My mother had been crying having heard the outcome of everything. I myself had cry my eyes out, all because of this my elder brother. I am fed up. The burden is too much. I might be tempted to harm him living under the same roof with him. I had been trying to console my mum but she wouldn't listen. Landlord came to harass her last week, the very day my elder brother left, because of house rent. I had 3 younger siblings to look after. Here comes my elder brother problem again. I am responsible for all of these with my meagre pay. I don't know what else to do for this guy. I don't think i can put up with him anymore. I am tired. Why is this life full of problems? I am losing my mind completely.

what was his reason for leaving? Did you ask him

azpekuliar:


You contemplated poisoning your brother? You must be a bastard capable of great evil. You are the one who probably needs help not your elder brother.

Look at you. Pray to have someone like Op brother in your family first. An older brother o not younger. Look very well, some even advice him to use him for rituals, some advice him to sell off his two kidney, some advice him to kill him so the family will be at rest, peaceful and less burden. You can open your mouth to talk since you are not the one in Op shoe. Just pray for God to bless you with that Op brother as elder brother. Two years away from 40 and he still live with his parents eating the little food they are managing.

motta:
what was his reason for leaving? Did you ask him

Yes i did ask him. He said he wants to come and pick mosquito net, as there was mosquito there. The man who helped him got the job was there. The man was even telling him that he can't leave now because the work is Monday to Saturday and he left on Friday. He didn't tell the man his reason for leaving. He didn't listen to the man. He took his bag and left. I had to borrow money for him to go apologise on Monday. He doesn't want to go initially because the man has already explained everything to me in details. He told me the management has lay him off. I pleaded and cry to the man but he said it's beyond him. He doesn't own the company but he's one of the top boss

I'm sick and tired of everything

DownTime44:
https://www.nairaland.com/7686172/been-restless-having-chat-elder


All thanks to everyone for their immense contributions towards my elder brother predicament. This place is truly home away from home. For those getting to know or who just come across this thread, you can read through the link posted above to get a grasp of where I'm coming from.


Someone sent me a mail having gone through my post and we both shared contact. He works on the island and he was willing to absorb my elder brother into his organisation. It's an organisation where one learn a skills and get paid monthly. Then after being certified in your skills, you can be employed as a full staff into the organisation. He would be given #20,000 monthly as stipend while learning as an apprentice but the man promised to be adding #10,000 to it making a total of #30,000 monthly. This person didn't know me from Adam but was touched by my brother's condition and he developed interest in helping him in his own little way. He asked me to inform my elder brother and get back to him.


I discussed everything to my brother verbally. Infact, i relate everything to him in my mother's tongue for ease of communication. I asked him if he has any interest in the offer and he said yes. He has interest. He's very much interested. He said he'd specialised in plumbing. I reached out to the man and we both finalise everything. He asked my brother when would he love to resume and he said month end. After the call, i asked him why month end and he said he doesn't have anything. He needs to get some few clothes, toiletries and some money for upkeep. I asked him where would he get money from less than 2 weeks to month end. He claimed if he can see any bus to work with. I told him you've been out of job going to a year, you didn't get any bus. Why do you think you'd get a bus within a short space of time? I asked him what if i rally round for him, is he willing to resume before the month end, he said yes with happy face. I borrowed #10,000 from a friend, i had #5,000 left with me, making a total of #15,000. I gave him 2 pairs of trousers and shirt i had. He bought a small school bag of #3,000 to put his clothes and he left in two days time. That was last week Wednesday. Oh! God, i was the happiest man on earth that very day.. I was so happy for him believing that he would become somebody from there. I called him to know if he has gotten there and how the work was. He said everything was fine.


I was surprised to see my brother at home on Friday, two days after he left. I asked him hope all is well? He said yes. I asked him why did he came back home so soon considering the cost of transportation to island. He was given a room he'd put up with. I expected him to stay there and focus on his job, whenever i have any money i would send to him. The man that helped him with the job called me later in the day. He narrated the gross misconduct of my brother. My brother left the job on Friday during working hours. The work is Monday to Saturday. Though Saturday is half day. He explained every details of the job to my brother before he resumed work. My brother was assigned to someone else to work with, not directly the man that helped him. The man only came to check up on him daily to know how he's fairing. The man was there when my brother took his bag, headed outside with the claim that he was going home. The man told him he can't go home now till after work, which is on Saturday. My brother didn't listen to the boss he was assigned with nor the man that helped him. He left right in their presence.


They do give daily report, and the man he was assigned with reported that he doesn't have anyone to work with, particularly on Saturday. The management asked him about my brother assigned to him and he said he has left on Friday. My brother was dismissed for his attitude. I pleaded to give him a second chance, but the man said it was beyond his power. The management has decided. I asked him to report there today and apologise for his gross misconduct. He went but apology wasn't accepted. If i was the man that helped my brother with this job or if i was among the management. I would do the same thing. I'd gladly lay him off without thinking twice.


My mother had been crying having heard the outcome of everything. I myself had cry my eyes out, all because of this my elder brother. I am fed up. The burden is too much. I might be tempted to harm him living under the same roof with him. I had been trying to console my mum but she wouldn't listen. Landlord came to harass her last week, the very day my elder brother left, because of house rent. I had 3 younger siblings to look after. Here comes my elder brother problem again. I am responsible for all of these with my meagre pay. I don't know what else to do for this guy. I don't think i can put up with him anymore. I am tired. Why is this life full of problems? I am losing my mind completely.

let him be.obviously your bro is not serious with his life,just let him be.

And stop offering him free money.life will teach him some lessons.

DownTime44:
https://www.nairaland.com/7686172/been-restless-having-chat-elder


All thanks to everyone for their immense contributions towards my elder brother predicament. This place is truly home away from home. For those getting to know or who just come across this thread, you can read through the link posted above to get a grasp of where I'm coming from.


Someone sent me a mail having gone through my post and we both shared contact. He works on the island and he was willing to absorb my elder brother into his organisation. It's an organisation where one learn a skills and get paid monthly. Then after being certified in your skills, you can be employed as a full staff into the organisation. He would be given #20,000 monthly as stipend while learning as an apprentice but the man promised to be adding #10,000 to it making a total of #30,000 monthly. This person didn't know me from Adam but was touched by my brother's condition and he developed interest in helping him in his own little way. He asked me to inform my elder brother and get back to him.


I discussed everything to my brother verbally. Infact, i relate everything to him in my mother's tongue for ease of communication. I asked him if he has any interest in the offer and he said yes. He has interest. He's very much interested. He said he'd specialised in plumbing. I reached out to the man and we both finalise everything. He asked my brother when would he love to resume and he said month end. After the call, i asked him why month end and he said he doesn't have anything. He needs to get some few clothes, toiletries and some money for upkeep. I asked him where would he get money from less than 2 weeks to month end. He claimed if he can see any bus to work with. I told him you've been out of job going to a year, you didn't get any bus. Why do you think you'd get a bus within a short space of time? I asked him what if i rally round for him, is he willing to resume before the month end, he said yes with happy face. I borrowed #10,000 from a friend, i had #5,000 left with me, making a total of #15,000. I gave him 2 pairs of trousers and shirt i had. He bought a small school bag of #3,000 to put his clothes and he left in two days time. That was last week Wednesday. Oh! God, i was the happiest man on earth that very day.. I was so happy for him believing that he would become somebody from there. I called him to know if he has gotten there and how the work was. He said everything was fine.


I was surprised to see my brother at home on Friday, two days after he left. I asked him hope all is well? He said yes. I asked him why did he came back home so soon considering the cost of transportation to island. He was given a room he'd put up with. I expected him to stay there and focus on his job, whenever i have any money i would send to him. The man that helped him with the job called me later in the day. He narrated the gross misconduct of my brother. My brother left the job on Friday during working hours. The work is Monday to Saturday. Though Saturday is half day. He explained every details of the job to my brother before he resumed work. My brother was assigned to someone else to work with, not directly the man that helped him. The man only came to check up on him daily to know how he's fairing. The man was there when my brother took his bag, headed outside with the claim that he was going home. The man told him he can't go home now till after work, which is on Saturday. My brother didn't listen to the boss he was assigned with nor the man that helped him. He left right in their presence.


They do give daily report, and the man he was assigned with reported that he doesn't have anyone to work with, particularly on Saturday. The management asked him about my brother assigned to him and he said he has left on Friday. My brother was dismissed for his attitude. I pleaded to give him a second chance, but the man said it was beyond his power. The management has decided. I asked him to report there today and apologise for his gross misconduct. He went but apology wasn't accepted. If i was the man that helped my brother with this job or if i was among the management. I would do the same thing. I'd gladly lay him off without thinking twice.


My mother had been crying having heard the outcome of everything. I myself had cry my eyes out, all because of this my elder brother. I am fed up. The burden is too much. I might be tempted to harm him living under the same roof with him. I had been trying to console my mum but she wouldn't listen. Landlord came to harass her last week, the very day my elder brother left, because of house rent. I had 3 younger siblings to look after. Here comes my elder brother problem again. I am responsible for all of these with my meagre pay. I don't know what else to do for this guy. I don't think i can put up with him anymore. I am tired. Why is this life full of problems? I am losing my mind completely.

Sincerely, your brother might be under a foundational spell that needs to be broken if not every effort you make in his life will be like pouring water into a basket. He needs prayers

DownTime44:
I was told not to give up on him. My mum will develop high Blood Pressure seeing him wasting away. I don't know what else to do sis. At times i wish i had the mind to poison him silently. He was supposed to be supporting me helping the family. Unfortunately, he was a burden.

I was told not to give up on him. How is that possible please? How else can i help him? What can i do please? This is frustrating. I can't imagine crying over my elder brother. I'm tired

you’re not his father, he’s not your responsible, if you continue worry about him you won’t achieve anything.

oofy:
Hi poster, your brother is used to being on the road. working in a building will be difficult, please concentrate on getting him a drivers license and then look for a bus he can drive on hire purchase or uber.

where will Op get money for drivers license and bus? Op earn 25k with 4 or 5 dependant. Op has been indebted already because of his elder brother.

i dont waste my time with people like you!if you want to learn,you humbly seek for it!!

DownTime44:
Sorry i can't find that on the post. Maybe you can help direct me to the place if you don't mind.

I've checked but can't find it, but I will quote and mention you when I see it.

I no read pass 2 paragraph of your story but I'm telling you this...

Few Nigerians get good heart but our leaders are the bad leaders

Lol see people that has never had the experience or have an elder brother as such or have been in the same position saying all sorts of trash.

VTJN:
Look at you. Pray to have someone like Op brother in your family first. An older brother o not younger. Look very well, some even advice him to use him for rituals, some advice him to sell off his two kidney, some advice him to kill him so the family will be at rest, peaceful and less burden. You can open your mouth to talk since you are not the one in Op shoe. Just pray for God to bless you with that Op brother as elder brother. Two years away from 40 and he still live with his parents eating the little food they are managing.

I have seen worse children in my lifetime. I have seen children murder their own parents. The elder brother is not lazy. He is not a special needs child. His only 'crime' is a lack of desire to aspire beyond the level of a bus conductor. Perhaps that's the limit of his intellect, the level he can best function at. Is that why he should be killed and used for rituals?
How is his brother and the people making these suggestions different from a Hitler who wanted a master Aryan race in all of Europe and for that to happen he needed to kill all those he described as inferior or undesirables of society - black people, homosexuals, autistic and special needs children, Jews etc
Left to me all these people including his brother will be put to death before they can harm a single hair on the head of that man.

azpekuliar:


I have seen worse children in my lifetime. I have seen children murder their own parents. The elder brother is not lazy. He is not a special needs child. His only 'crime' is a lack of desire to aspire beyond the level of a bus conductor. Perhaps that's the limit of his intellect, the level he can best function at. Is that why he should be killed and used for rituals?
How is his brother and the people making these suggestions different from a Hitler who wanted a master Aryan race in all of Europe and for that to happen he needed to kill all those he described as inferior or undesirables of society - black people, homosexuals, autistic and special needs children, Jews etc
Left to me all these people including his brother will be put to death before they can harm a single hair on the head of that man.

Did you have Op brother as siblings? Do you have him as a child? Do you wish to have histype as a child?

Op brother is nothing but a thorn on that poor family life. I don't need to live with them before i could get where Op is coming from. I sincerely understand Op situation and i wouldn't blame him for any negative thought of his. It is natural for him to reason in that direction. You don't know more than Op. You have seen worse children but this is a man. 38 years old man still living and eating his parents food. 38 years old man without no education, no skills, no drive, he has absolutely nothing to his name. Despite his brother conditions as a graduate, he still carry him along. He wants to be useless at the expense of the poor brother and family. I wouldn't support that myself. It's never a crime to be useless provided you can fend for yourself and responsible for every outcome.

If you want me to take you serious, tell Op brother to come live with you or request for Op account and refund all the money his elder brother has wasted. I believe you know Op borrowed some of the money? Do either of the two now and let me take you serious henceforth.

Don't come here and be claiming holier than thou

Jamahyel:
Lol see people that has never had the experience or have an elder brother as such or have been in the same position saying all sorts of trash.

azpekuliar, this person is talking direct to you. Mr i have seen worse children, forgetting this is a man. Two years away from 40.

VTJN:
azpekuliar, this person is talking direct to you. Mr i have seen worse children, forgetting this is a man. Two years away from 40.

Even a 70 year old man is somebody’s child you m0ron.

azpekuliar:


Even a 70 year old man is somebody’s child you m0ron.

pray fervently for God to bless you with Op brother as children biko. Stop acting holier than thou.

VTJN:
pray fervently for God to bless you with Op brother as children biko. Stop acting holier than thou.

You wey dey condemn another person pikin, you don know wetin you go born. Comot God name from that your dirty mouth, he is very far from your heart

azpekuliar:


You wey dey condemn another person pikin, you don know wetin you go born. Comot God from that your dirty mouth he is very far from your heart

What right do you have to condemn Op because he said he feel like to poison his elder brother? Is that all you could see in all of his struggle with his elder brother? You calmly look for something to say against him without giving him a tap at the back for helping that baby adult.

You're not far from evil person

VTJN:
What right do you have to condemn Op because he said he feel like to poison his elder brother? Is that all you could see in all of his struggle with his elder brother? You calmly look for something to say against him without giving him a tap at the back for helping that baby adult.

You're not far from evil person

As a concerned citizen I have a right to condemn him and his thought process. he has no right over the life of his brother. Even if im brother na imbe.

azpekuliar:


As a concerned citizen I have a right to condemn him and his thought process. he has no right over the life of his brother. Even if im brother na imbe.

As a concern citizen what can you do to help Op and his baby adult elder brother? Or is your own concern citizen about picking fault without profering solution? What help can you render to Op and his baby adult elder brother?

Also, it is better to have a im.becile as a brother than to have Op elder brother as brother. At least you will understand he is a im.becile, than someone who isn't a slowpoke but chose to be less than im.becile at almost 40

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DownTime44:
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TreasureJunky:
I can't find you on WhatsApp with this number

I am on WhatsApp. Maybe you can drop yours if you don't mind

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DownTime44:
I am on WhatsApp. Maybe you can drop yours if you don't mind

Ko ni daa fun e and your entire family. Omo iran Kiran. All these useless kids talking anyhow. If you quote me again na die u go die!

bablon20:
Ur entire family will be jailed for stupidly jumping on my comment. Charity begins at home. U the bastard madcap!