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Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Ulunne777(f): 11:19pm On May 22, 2023 |
But pls indulge me a little. What reason 'did he say'made him to come home? I quoted that in particular you know what's going on in his head. Someone who has done conductor work no suppose cave in for something as lil as learning plumbing. |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 11:35pm On May 22, 2023 |
bummyla:Do you realize that what you are spewing here is the same exact reason why millions of families in Nigeria continue to wait for some of sort of magic to lift them out of poverty? They crowd churches that now line every corner of a country that is only about 1/3rd larger than the State of Texas, all waiting for magic to happen to them. This here is the reason why the vast majority — generation after generation — remain stuck in poverty in that very same Nigeria. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 11:37pm On May 22, 2023 |
bummyla:... bummyla:But your brother, even after many years, and these rituals, remains depressed to this day? Come on... you didn't solve a problem. All you did was allow your pastors and mogs fleece your heads in the name of fixing your brother. If you had taken that boy with all that money you gave to your church to a good mental health treatment center, not only would the psychosis which had him at that point in time had been treated, he would have been able to get his life back again and even become better than all of you combined. 2 Likes |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by bummyla(m): 1:30am On May 23, 2023 |
Oga my elder brother is doing great! He runs his own small business! And pays 3 staff. We give him money, because we are doing better and we want everybody to be on the same level ground! And he still lives in our family house! Kobojunkie: 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by bummyla(m): 1:33am On May 23, 2023 |
Are you impoverished? Kobojunkie: |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 1:33am On May 23, 2023 |
bummyla:Wow... yours is the exception to the rule but definitely not the rule. There are so many people who fill your churches year after year seeking the same thing and guess what? They are still there waiting for the magic to happen to them. Suggesting that because your magic works for all when you are well aware of the many thousands in your churches it never happened is a tad dishonest, don't you think? I know of at least 3 depressed people who were waiting for God to answer them in your church who eventually took their lives anyway. |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 1:34am On May 23, 2023 |
bummyla:You don't see the millions of impoverished Nigerians living right there in Nigeria at all, do you? The number keeps rising each year with no end in sight. So also the number of deaths which many of your churches turn a blind eye to. I can't count how many times people have paid money like you say you did to churches and received prayer for so long only to end up dead at the end of it all. The church no dey even bother to announce any of the deaths since it will blight their records so they simply move on to the next batch of gullibles. That your brother did not end up a church statistic means you were lucky! But don't for one minute pretend your case represents your church or denominational norm. 3 Likes |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:33am On May 23, 2023 |
Ulunne777:According to him he left because he needs mosquito net, he didn't even bother to call me that he wants to leave nor listen to the man that helped him got there He didn't tell the man his reason for leaving. I was the one that told the man what he said. The man was surprised because he has already bought a mosquito net for him but he didn't come with it that very Friday. He doesn't have anything to do at home. No food, no money, nothing nothing. I borrowed some of the money i gave to him. I don't understand his problem anymore. 1 Like |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:37am On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:he's using a botton phone, though i think it's accessible to nairaland but he doesn't know about nairaland. |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 5:38am On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:Just curious, but can you describe how your brother spends a typical day or week? Does he have friends who he talks to? Does he go out at all? Or does he stay to himself a lot? Does he throw sticks and stones around the yard or does he lie down in bed? Does he watch porn? does he read books? How does he pass the time? |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:54am On May 23, 2023 |
baby124:I can't leave my younger siblings and mother with that my brother. I don't think they are safe living together with that my brother without my presence. My mum has prayed and fasted on his behalf several times. Let me tell you something, my mum and late father were Muslim. We're originally from a Muslim background. My mum converted to Christian because of this my elder brother. He was seriously ill when given birth to him. They took him virtually everywhere but there was no remedy. It was our neighbour according to my parents that introduced christ to them. They came through my dad because my mum was a devoted Muslim then. My late dad had to convince my mum to take the little boy to church having gone virtually everywhere already but the sickness still persist. It takes God intervention before my mum took him to church and he recieve healing truly. My mum made a vow without being told nor compelled that she and her family will serve Jesus Christ throughout their life time. She automatically converted to Christian before she gave birth to others including me. We're known as Christian. We do go to church. Although my dad barely go to church but we do pray together as one family when he was alive. He has his own bible he read daily and he believes in Christ. 5 Likes |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:59am On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:he has friends but they are also conductors. He has been out of job for a year now and he stay idle at home. He often lay down on the floor, sleep, press his botton phone, sit outside later in the day when room temperature is high. My mum warned him to stopped staying outside during the day because of our neighbours to avoid using him as subject of spiteful gossip but he wouldn't listen. 1 Like |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Octopusssy(f): 6:02am On May 23, 2023 |
This matter tie Hollandis wrapper, come wear jungle boots join |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 6:04am On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:1. How does he pay for phone credit? 2. Your mum should really chill and let him be. It is not your brother's fault that the neighbors choose to gossip naw! Or does your brother cause them trouble? 1 Like |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 6:18am On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:He do ask me for money at times and i give him whenever i have. I guess he uses the money to buy card. This guy has shown me eh. I've spent money that i can't spend on myself. There was a time he told me that he can't continue sitting at home doing nothing. Then i asked him what does he want. He said if i could raise small money for him let him go and stay with a friend of his (conductor) probably he could help him look for bus to work with or anything else entirely. I discussed with my mum and we reason with him. Initially, I'm not happy seeing him sitting idle doing nothing as a man. I had to look around to borrow money. I met with my supervisor and begged him to borrow me any amount and i will pay back when i collect salary. He loan me #10,000 and i gave it to my brother and he left the following day. My monthly take home was left with #15,000 having given out the #10,000 to my supervisor. You won't believe this my brother came back home after four days. I didn't even ask him anything because i was angry. I don't want anything that will make me raise my hands on him or call our neighbours attention. It was my mum that was asking him why did he returned home after four days. He claimed his so called friend doesn't have a bus working with also. He has been idle as well. I think the friend is married but his wife had left him probably because he couldn't provide for the family 1 Like |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by VTJN(m): 6:25am On May 23, 2023 |
bummyla:I did not say Op elder brother is troublesome either. I'm only calling your attention to what you said about respect. Respect is earned irrespective of age. You don't demand for respect you earn it. If the elder brother is troublesome or does not stay on his lane, it is normal to be disrespected big time. |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 6:26am On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:1. OK. That makes sense. Nothing wrong with giving him your change from time to time. 2. The solution to that is easy. Stop trying to play Savior to your brother. If he needs money for any ideas, he can go work for it for himself. It isn't like bus conductors need to wear suit and tie to work daily, right? 3. I think you should simply focus on you; your mother too should focus on herself and her other kids. While you all leave him to work through his mental demons. |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by VTJN(m): 6:41am On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:What a useless country. A 2.1 graduate earning less than the mumu minimum wage. I think your country failed you Op and millions of unemployed graduates out there. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by xavuv: 7:12am On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44: Gbam! |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Ovieemmanuel: 8:12am On May 23, 2023 |
xavuv:there is the problem. Waka waka . Them don carry am go where dem no know. |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by xavuv: 8:18am On May 23, 2023 |
Ovieemmanuel: I believe there is more. Like i said the solution lies with the mother |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 8:18am On May 23, 2023 |
Ovieemmanuel:You are joking, right? 1 Like |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 8:19am On May 23, 2023 |
xavuv:Wait... et tu? |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by xavuv: 8:37am On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Watchu min? |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by VTJN(m): 8:42am On May 23, 2023 |
Ovieemmanuel:you will waka waka if you have a child in such situations. If she no waka waka that guy probably will not be alive today. She played her role as a mother. Go to general hospital in Nigeria and watch how people die daily like chicken. If you've been sick for long, you will eat faeces to get freedom. 1 Like |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Ovieemmanuel: 11:45am On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:no just pray you dont get situation that needs walking about. Then you see different sacrifices and all. Op sha you get patience if not ingor arrange boys beat am any how what nonsense. Better still make him sell him kidneys for the family. |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by baby124: 1:50pm On May 23, 2023 |
Ovieemmanuel:Walking about to where? Nigerians and mental laziness. So if where she waka to they say they should use OP as the most promising child, now what? You think she won’t consider it? All that waka is nonsense if you refuse to work hard. Nobody in this life will give you anything free. |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by VTJN(m): 3:37pm On May 23, 2023 |
Ovieemmanuel:Lol When some people were busy saying Op should not disrespect him. They were even saying he should apologise to him Weird people indeed |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by baby124: 5:00pm On May 23, 2023 |
OP, Never advise anybody to waka waka anywhere. Especially when you have a lot to lose. One fake babalawo will just use you for organ donor. And most parents think it is the first borns right to be the most successful so she won’t hesitate. Also a lazy boy like your brother is more prone to Yahoo +. Na why children who have head need to venture out and hustle on their own outside of their poor background. Many things could be working against your destiny and you are easy prey to jealousy, envy and cheap death. Goodluck to you! |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by descarado: 5:20pm On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:Listen and listen good. He is not your prerogative. He has his life, you have yours. Period. I have seen many people become nobody when they started off well cos they carry loads they are not meant to carry in the name of "be your brothers keeper". They will make sure they reduce you to their levels. 2ndly, you should look for a place outside your family house. If your mum can't pay house rent, let her move back to the village with the younger ones. They can start school in the village. Mama can farm and do small petty trading. You can send something WHEN you can. Third and the most important. It's your parents that gave birth to you all and their obligation to train all till 18. Its not your duty. If they happen not to, dont try to bevome a parent when you are not qualified for it. It will definitely crush you. Every action in this life have equal reaction. The fantasy of God will train has turned to reality when we give birth like rats. This will help you plan your life well and never make the mistakes of your parents. Stress is one out of so many causes of high blood pressure and I tell you thinking about your brother will not make your mum have hbp. One or two major factors must be inclusive. What makes men are tough decisions. Your family will thank you later, including your future and kids. 1 Like |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by descarado: 5:22pm On May 23, 2023 |
VTJN:He asked for advice. |
Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DearGorgeous(f): 7:55pm On May 23, 2023 |
Hi @ Downtime44. You have tried, ok? It's now time to help raise yourself from your current status. Thank the man that helped with your brother, pray for God's blessings upon his life and family, and then politely ask if there's still available vacancy in his place of work. And since their company provides an accommodation, you can as well give it a shot and try working with them. You're in a better position to save and take of your family back home. And for your elder brother, just let him be for now, while your family keeps praying for God divine intervention upon his life. The Almighty God will surely reward and bless you, for your family's sake, in Jesus Name, Amen. 1 Like |
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