We re 7 girls, 4 biological 3 adopted, 3 Drs, 2 Egrs and 2Lawyers. I have a son who bears my fathers name hyphen my husbands family name. If you feel risking ur life is worth it pls go ahead. My Exes mom had 4 boys didn't stop her husband from treating her like trash

Thanks for all your very frank comments so far.

Two months ago, this discussion transpired between my first daughter and my husband: -

Daughter: "Daddy, why don't we have a brother?"
Husband: " Because God has not given us one"
Daughter: "So, why don't you tell God to give us a brother?"
Husband: "I will, but why do you need a brother?"
Daughter: "Because John is always beating me and my sister and we don't have a brother to help us fight him"
Husband: "I will talk to your teacher to ensure he doesn't beat you again"

At that assurance, my daughter left my husband partially satisfied. But when my eyes caught his', he was a little bit downcast though he told me there was no problem when I enquired.

That was the incident that prompted me to start seeking advices.

@ OP (i assume you are an educated young lady), you sef no try.your 1st delivery was CS.logic should have told you the next delivery will most likely also be by CS.Thus, you should have taken steps to make the most of it.
BTW, do you know of that chinese baby gender predictor which it done using the age of the mother and the conception month? It's been around for ages
My Advice: ADOPT

E dey craze!
Y are pple particular abt a male child, pray 4 a glorifying child, dats all dat matters. Wat if a d child dishonors d family? Wat will be d fathers pride?

Hello poster,
I read your post and I must be sincere with you, I feel your pain.
This is Africa and the desire to have a male child cuts across all cultures so don't be deceived. You have every right to think about this considering the fact that you want to keep your man.
For me, my husband and I wanted a girl first and I worked towards it which evenutually worked. A long time ago, an Indian doctor I met gave me the secret and its not difficult at all. As a woman, you have to study your body thoroughly and be observant. You have to take into cognisance of your vaginal discharge and smell as it is extremely important. You also need to take note of some foods you eat as it tends to change the vaginal wall(acidic or alkaline) as this has been proved to influence the sex of the child by 90% and it has worked for some of my friends.
Kindly ignore some advises on nairaland which does not go down well with you;pick the comments you can learn from ok? I wish I had your contact, we would have talked better and I would let you in, into some very simple, yet significant tips that could help you. So sorry I cant put my contact on nairaland but if you can find a way for us to communicate woman to woman, I would be delighted.

LadyT:

Must you smoke crack before you post? Ode oshi

I'll let it pass, like seriously

hsert:

Hello poster,
I read your post and I must be sincere with you, I feel your pain.
This is Africa and the desire to have a male child cuts across all cultures so don't be deceived. You have every right to think about this considering the fact that you want to keep your man.
For me, my husband and I wanted a girl first and I worked towards it which evenutually worked. A long time ago, an Indian doctor I met gave me the secret and its not difficult at all. As a woman, you have to study your body thoroughly and be observant. You have to take into cognisance of your womanly discharge and smell as it is extremely important. You also need to take note of some foods you eat as it tends to change the womanly wall(acidic or alkaline) as this has been proved to influence the sex of the child by 90% and it has worked for some of my friends.
Kindly ignore some advises on nairaland which does not go down well with you;pick the comments you can learn from ok? I wish I had your contact, we would have talked better and I would let you in, into some very simple, yet significant tips that could help you. So sorry I cant put my contact on nairaland but if you can find a way for us to communicate woman to woman, I would be delighted.

Good points, but a lot of yous don't get it. Conceiving is not the issue. The CS after that is the problem. I once met a woman who was told by her Dr that she could have another CS after the 2 she had,I know of another woman who has done 3 and was going for another one. This woman had to lose that child because of the risk involved. It was either her or the child and the painful and unfortunate thing was, this woman was months gone.

A lot of women don't heal in the inside properly due to the scarring in the inside and when I read where they wanno have another child ASAP, I ask myself, do these people care about their lives? The more CS a woman has the more likely for a bladder, blood vessel damage bowel damage and infection. Sometimes the placenta attaches itself to the uterus(wall) and when it happens, excessive bleeding after childbirth is a lot of time inevitable . A lot of women has had hysterectomy done just to stop the bleeding. The more reason why a lot of them are told to wait for sometime before conceiving again especially first timers

Vck80:


Eegulize, I[b] 'll get you phones and address later[/b], need to find them.
I think it cost between four hundred thousand naira to one million naira or more.
God provided this new technology helping couples manipulate Mother Nature in their favor. It's an embryo screening procedure invented for the purpose of identifying embryos that carry serious, often fatal, genetic diseases.
But these days, it's being used for something very different – to help couples choose the sex of their child, I believe there nothing wrong with this procedure. If having a baby boy will make your family happy and you can afford it, please go for it.   I am not a doctor. A friend did it, the boy is 7 yrs old and very smart.  

Avoid being judgmental ppls.    As for any judgments needing to be made, leave them to God and the authority of God's Word.

Only Eegulize understands her pains, move to next threads if you have nothing good to post,  

@Vck80
Thanks a lot for answering three of the questions I posed earlier, I really appreciate.

@NL members
Please I want you all to put yourselves in my husband's shoes and react like a real African man. I don't care if you use insultive words, just be your real self and get your points across (after all, this is an anonymous site).

Sincerely speaking, my husband and I had agreed to have just three kids after I was told by Doctors that my system was too small to allow passage of a baby through normal deliver, this led to the first CS when they said dilation didn't progress as expected. We shrugged at that news and had oped that at least either my 2nd or 3rd baby would be a boy and we would just put an end to child-bearing. But unfortunately, things didn't turn out that way.

One striking thing that happened during my 3rd CS was that, there was this lady that went into the theatre before me. She told me that was her fourth CS, I didn't ask her why she was going for a fourth CS since she already had 2 sons and a daughter. Anyway, my meeting her disabused my mind of the initial belief that CS was strictly restricted to three times. That perhaps is yet another reason that is making me to feel I could make a 4th attempt especially when Doctors confirmed that was possible and I saw someone who had actually gone through it.

I'm not unaware of the enormous risk associated with CS but I just feel a strong urge to do the very best for my family. I know my husband would have done the same thing to make me happy if the situation was reversed, he has proved this to me on a number of occasions.

I'm actually feeling some sense of guilt because prior to the conception of our third baby, he actually came to me to say "please let's see if we can influence the baby gender this time around so we close this child-bearing thing once and for all". But I told him no way and that I was a Christian and wouldn't do any of such. But just two years down the line now, I'm regretting why I didn't listen to him then.

Though like I said earlier, he's very loving and caring but he now sometimes swing in between happy and downcast moods and when you ask, he tells you everything is fine.

Eegulize:

@Vck80
Thanks a lot for answering three of the questions I posed earlier, I really appreciate.

@NL members
Please I want you all to put yourselves in my husband's shoes and react like a real African man. I don't care if you use insultive words, just be your real self and get your points across (after all, this is an anonymous site).

Sincerely speaking, my husband and I had agreed to have just three kids after I was told by Doctors that my system was too small to allow passage of a baby through normal deliver, this led to the first CS when they said dilation didn't progress as expected. We shrugged at that news and had oped that at least either my 2nd or 3rd baby would be a boy and we would just put an end to child-bearing. But unfortunately, things didn't turn out that way.

One striking thing that happened during my 3rd CS was that, there was this lady that went into the theatre before me. She told me that was her fourth CS, I didn't ask her why she was going for a fourth CS since she already had 2 sons and a daughter. Anyway, my meeting her disabused my mind of the initial belief that CS was strictly restricted to three times. That perhaps is yet another reason that is making me to feel I could make a 4th attempt especially when Doctors confirmed that was possible and I saw someone who had actually gone through it.

I'm not unaware of the enormous risk associated with CS but I just feel a strong urge to do the very best for my family. I know my husband would have done the same thing to make me happy if the situation was reversed, he has proved this to me on a number of occasions.

I'm actually feeling some sense of guilt because prior to the conception of our third baby, he actually came to me to say "please let's see if we can influence the baby gender this time around so we close this child-bearing thing once and for all". But I told him no way and that I was a Christian and wouldn't do any of such. But just two years down the line now, I'm regretting why I didn't listen to him then.

Though like I said earlier, he's very loving and caring but he now sometimes swing in between happy and downcast moods and when you ask, he tells you everything is fine.

Honestly speaking, i WON'T BE HAPPY, i will probably conceal my resentment for a while, but will definitely explode someday, a son is important, IMO

careytommy:

@ OP (i assume you are an educated young lady), you sef no try.your 1st delivery was CS.logic should have told you the next delivery will most likely also be by CS.Thus, you should have taken steps to make the most of it.
BTW, do you know of that chinese baby gender predictor which it done using the age of the mother and the conception month? It's been around for ages
My Advice: ADOPT

@careytommy
Thank for your comment

I lost my first pregnancy at three months due to complications from the treatment of a malaria attack (miscarriage after 5 days of 3 daily doses of chloroquine injection though the Doctor then argued that the pregnancy loss was more due to the malaria attack than the chloroquine injections). There was no pregnancy after this miscarriage until after 2 yrs, this brought about anxiety and being a first child, no one bothered about the gender anyway as any gender was just okay. So, there was not attempt at influencing the gender of my first baby.

Due to the anxiety that followed delay in arrival of the first child (meanwhile I was later diagnosed to have a retroverted ovary and the usual missionary style was never going to get me pregnant except the woman facing down position), we wanted to be sure this was correct and at the very first attempt, I was pregnant for my 2nd baby. Again, we lost the opportunity to influence the baby's gender for the 2nd time.

At the third pregnancy, I learnt about the Chinese gender selection chart from friends and asked my husband to study and apply it as I was ready whenever he was ready. He did but it failed as well. This prompted him to research deeply into it, only to discover that the chinese age calculation was slightly different from the conventional one. Conventional age 32 for instance is 33 yrs on the Chinese calendar. So, although my husband eventually pointed out where he suspected the problem came from, my third daughter had already been born and we had already lost confidence in the chart.

@OP. Count your blessings and give praises to the good Lord. I have a friend who would give up everything to have any child at all, how much more of 3 girls.

Relax and pray for the family instead of worrying yourself over what you have no power about. What if your have the 4th one, it turns out to be a boy and (God forbid) you lose him later, would you go for the 5th?

saworoide:

@OP. Count your blessings and give praises to the good Lord. I have a friend who would give up everything to have any child at all, how much more of 3 girls.

Relax and pray for the family instead of worrying yourself over what you have no power about. What if your have the 4th one, it turns out to be a boy and (God forbid) you lose him later, would you go for the 5th?

Hell yeah, had an aunt that prayed for a child for 6years,had a baby girl, had 2 other lovely girls in quick succession, now her wahala is how to get a baby boy, as in, its so intense, going to church, medical examinations, etc, the list is endless, having girls is a wonderful idea, but a son is equally good, com'on, the girls need a brother figure while the husband needs one to carry on the family name, its as simple as that, the OP should adopt a son if all known medicine/scince procedures has failed.

My dear I understand your feelings. But remember that some women out there are in search of any sex. If your doctor suggests that you are not at risk, then you can try once more if you are not above 40 years of age.
Scientifically, so many things are involved -
1.You need to know if your system is Acidic or Alkaline, because alkaline system is the best for a male child.
2.Monitor your ovulation and make sure you make love with your husband on the 12th or 13th day of your cycle counting from the first day of your menstrual cycle.
3. Make sure you flow very well before making love, because your fluid has an important role to play.
Personally, I believe God does all those things. Just let him know you need one, if it pleases him he will give you.

The fact remains that this woman is going to try to get pregnant again. And she can. Because CS is maximum of 4. She has identified a specific need which will make her marriage happier. I wonder why people are coming here to criticize. All well and good, your marriage may not be affected by such issues. But all marriages are different, and so are the individuals. OP the procedure is called microsort. Being that this is going to be your 4th by CS and you are interested in Microsort, i advice you look outside the country for specialist medical assistance. You should talk to your husband and Dr. . What makes you happy cannot be judged by the expectations of others. Some people will come here and advice, but will do worse to keep their marriage if that is what it all depends on.

ROTFLMAO . Who told you it is a maximum of 4? The things I read on this site. People say maximum 5, others said 3, now na 4. Nairaland ''diagnosers'' .

jennykadry:

ROTFLMAO . Who told you it is a maximum of 4? The things I read on this site. People say maximum 5, others said 3, now na 4. Nairaland ''diagnosers'' .

We all know you are a nurse as been publicized, but i know the safety range is 4 CS's. Maximum as advised by Dr's. But this varies by individual. Since you are not a Dr. anyway.

First off, I am not a nurse and please quote where I have ''publicized'' it. Seriously show me where I wrote ''jenny is a nurse'' . Have you seen me post in the health section before?I have never hidden the fact that I work in the hospital and I have not publicized a million times my exact profession, so what the bleep are you talking about? Just be quiet when it comes to sensitive issue like this, you know nothing.

All I ask is for you to quote 3 of my posts were I have screamed ''Jenny is a nurse''. Olodo

jennykadry:

First off, I am not a nurse and please quote where I have ''publicized'' it. Seriously show me where I wrote ''jenny is a nurse'' . Have you seen me post in the health section before?I have never hidden the fact that I work in the hospital and I have not publicized a million times my exact profession, so what the bleep are you talking about? Just be quiet when it comes to sensitive issue like this, you know nothing.

You shut the bleep up if you dont know what the bleep you are talking about since you are a toilet washer in the hospital. If you have nothing to add to the discussion then clear off. . The specialist that hangs around hospitals with an opinion. The person that knows it all but rants and raves on this section like a mental patient. Probably works in the mental ward. Who burts out in insults like that? Mentalo

^^ Lol, I struck a nerve . Suck a dyyk and if it is not enough, get another one and suck on it too. Answer my question and stop being an azzhole. Where have I publicized a million times my profession here?

Shameless piece of trash.

jennykadry:

^^ Lol, I struck a nerve,D. Suck a dyyk and if it is not enough, get another one and suck on it too. Answer my question and stop being an azzhole. Where have I publicized a million times my profession here?

Shameless piece of trash.

silly lowdown useless trash. I wonder which man will marry such crap like you. What a shame. chai. Animal. With this kind of attitude you run around here with i wonder who keeps you in a cage. I also wonder about all your contradicting know it all stories about what you actually are. Seems a load of bullsh*it. Enough of talking with this dimwit. OP the maximum due to safety of mother and child as advised by Doctors is 4. This is why i said speak with your Doctor and not this toilet washer masquerading as a health care professional.

@2mch & Jennykadry

Please when I said I wouldn't be bothered if you use insultive words to get your points across, I didn't mean contributors should use them on one another.  

Kindly direct all insults @ me and not at yourselves or better still, let's eliminate abusive words if possible.

Lol, look at him venting like a woman. Take a deep breathe, I am no threat to you. All I ask is STFU before yoou kill someone with your community high school advise.

jennykadry:

Lol, look at him venting like a woman. Take a deep breathe, I am no threat to you. All I ask is STFU before yoou kill someone with your community high school advise.

You are a mental case, no two words about it. Dont think you can open your cheap mouth to everyone on this site. Some people will respond. Cheap rat.

Lol, all I asked is for him to defend his answers and he is squirting his seeeeemeeennn on my head. Face front boy, and answer my question. Confused tout. Look at him jumping up and down and masturbati/n/g with my posts. it's been a while hasn't it? Eeyyaaaaa, put your s///pe/rm to good use and stop being a psychotic low lifed b/as/sta/rd.

Onye ara.

jennykadry:

Lol, all I asked is for him to defend his answers and he is squirting his seeeeemeeennn on my head. Face front boy, and answer my question. Confused tout. Look at him jumping up and down and masturbati/n/g with my posts. it's been a while hasn't it? Eeyyaaaaa, put your s///pe/rm to good use and stop being a psychotic low lifed b/as/sta/rd.

Onye ara.

You are a cheap rat. See what you are saying. Who will marry such an animal and call it wife. hahahhaha. Cheap monkey full of lies.

STFU dumb shyt . Who cares if you respond? I never get tired of replying small guiness bottle looking puzzzziesss like you . Yes, I am mental, my location has made it clear for years, so na now you know? Slow gay.

I live in Yaba left. Swallow it down or choke on it, fucking reeeetarrrddeeeeee

jennykadry:

STFU dumb shyt . Who cares if you respond? I never get tired of replying small guiness bottle looking puzzzziesss like you . Yes, I am mental, my location has made it clear for years, so na now you know? Slow man-lover.

I live in Yaba left. Swallow it down or choke on it, bleeping reeeetarrrddeeeeee

Since you are so thirsty for spe*rm and bodily fluid, i suggest you go and suck on the various retards that give you the opportunity to have internet.  Mine is too precious for a wild animal like you. Cheap rat. Which married woman will be shouting about Joystick and Fluid? hahahha. so cheap. Who married this thing? Responding to it is even ridiculous. It has showed its true nature. This thing is a fraud.

oh, now na marriage you wan talk about? Lol, e dey pain you say I just described your silly azzed loser person?

@OP

Sorry, sometimes I cannot resist giving this good for nothing cheap one kobo looking dirty men with va/g/i/n/a/l holes, a piece of my mind

And no, I won't insult you, let me save it for that smelling cockroach that calls himself 2mchdumbness.

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Lol, ode oshi. Don't worry ehn, I have been called names on this forum. No shaking . Infact I have been banned cos of my trouble making ways a million times and I am shocked that this ID is still going strong, guess Seun knew I had run out of ID's

Now back to the issue at hand. So if men wan come out, you go follow come out? You reach to call boy talk less of men? . Please save your half a gallon of s/p/e/r/m for those useless gurls you collect 20 naira to visit the cafe. Your fluid even when inserted into the down below of a teenager will record ''Error, please check for infection, eliminate any akamu and wash off with normal saline''. . .  please stop fantasizing about me. I do not hold the keys to your first c/u/m,

@Topic

Please ignore 2mch's post. like I said, there was a woman who had to chose between herself and her baby. She gave up the child after weighing the risk. There come a time when CS becomes ''at your own risk''. I am just after the health risks.

jennykadry:

Lol, ode oshi. Don't worry ehn, I have been called names on this forum. No shaking . Infact I have been banned cos of my trouble making ways a million times and I am shocked that this ID is still going strong, guess Seun knew I had run out of ID's

Now back to the issue at hand. So if men wan come out, you go follow come out? You reach to call boy talk less of men? . Please save your half a gallon of s/p/e/r/m for those useless gurls you collect 20 naira to visit the cafe. Your fluid even when inserted into the down below of a teenager will record ''Error, please check for infection, eliminate any akamu and wash off with normal saline''. . .  please sgop fantasizing about me. I do not hold they keys to your first precipitate.

We know your father has been feeding you with Fluid before your husband came along. Not much can be expected from damaged and destroyed goods. I told you you are a cheap rat. Only cheap rats will talk like you do. No self respecting human being would. Take constructive criticisms (you are a cheap rat) and stop alluding to things you are not. I am sure your husband will agree that he made a mistake marrying you. True talk. Take it easy, and easy on the Fluid fascination, you sound really cheap and stup*id . People respect Chaircover but not you, i wonder why. Small cheap rat.