mashnino:

rokiatu d only thing i think you need now is prayers ooo, is he a muslim or christian?


Gosh GOD please don't lemme face dis kinda situation in my life,

Da_b¤§§.:

he is definitely a xtain. Its only muslim families that give crazy conditions like that.

Da_b¤§§.:

he is definitely a xtain and she a muslim.
Its only muslim families that give crazy conditions like that. No offence muslim bros but yall know its true

Orton1_0:

A trip to the Sahara coupled with intense prayers, fasting and abstinence from s*x might give 'em a head-way. Worked for my sister's Aunt's in-law. True story.

Nayah:

hELLO Rokiatu  

I think people should stop taking religion as an excuse to attack people in general, religion is personal and has to be applied in everyday life not ponctually

Then religion has nothing, NOTHING to do with love, the most important is to believe isn't it? so let's be tolerant and leave these religion issues that way, now I can understand people who don't want to disappoint their parents

omega25red:

Roki
This is tough

If this woman needs her family's approval to get married then she might as well look else where or run away with the man but remember that when stuff goes wrong you need to be able to run back to your family. Then again if the man is willing to forgo his religion (which i dont see why this is important for marriage) then he can convert to the on the bride's family is and maybe they will accept him then because we all praise the same God.

Nayah:

hELLO Rokiatu

I think people should stop taking religion as an excuse to attack people in general, religion is personal and has to be applied in everyday life not ponctually

Then religion has nothing, NOTHING to do with love, the most important is to believe isn't it? so let's be tolerant and leave these religion issues that way, now I can understand people who don't want to disappoint their parents

sexkillz:

Roki, It all depends on you, because, in the end, it's your happiness that's at stake, not your parents! The guy has gone all out for you, and right now, he is tied! Where i'll have an issue with the guy is if he only converted, just to win your love, and not because he loves islam! Those are two different things! And the way i see you too, you are quite willing to convert to Christianity, if need be for the sake of the love you two have for each other!
Now, mind you, your parents have your best interests at heart! you are their daughter, and NO PARENT would like to see their beloved daughter fall into wrong hands, especially if you have lived your life throughout with them, and if you have been a good daughter to them! Eloping with him is not an option! You yourself dont want to give your parents any heartbreak or disrespect by going out of your way to marry him! Yes, it's you life, but you have to show consideration to the ones that always got your back since you were a precocious toddler!
My advice forward is to reach a concession with your parents! You ALONE can do that! FACT! No one else would be able to convince them otherwise! Why? Because they dont give a damn about anyone else, but you! So if you can convince them that you will be fine, and that the guy is of good qualities and that he can continue the tradition they set in taking care of you, i think they'll see reasons with you! Their concern here is not his religious status, else they'd have accepted immediately you said that he agreed to being a Muslim! Remind them that they want you to be happy, and with him, you have found your happiness! It should be evident to them that he makes you happy! Remind them also that sooner or later, they wont be there to take care of you! FACT! Wont they rather rest assured, in the knowledge that their beloved daughter is in safe hands? He is your safety! they have to understand!
It would take time, and effort from on your part before they change their mind! Bringing in 3rd parties in issues like this is often not the way to go! When discussing the issue, never ever raise your voice, or use words like, i'm grown up, i can make my decisions yada yada yada! You'll only worsen matters, because parents believe that only immature adults make such comments! Remind them of how happy they are as your parents together, and how you will want to be happy like them! Respectfully and tactfully explaining your stand on your feelings for him, to them would definitely yield results! But how long it would take, sexkillz doesnt know! All i know is that they are humans with emotions, and humans with emotions always follow a pattern: Sooner or later, ALL humans,. . . Yield! your happiness, should be their happiness!

rokiatu:

He is 100% ready to do so but still the family disapproves. Read what I wrote.

Another bomb has drop, they are now talking that the guy is not the same tribe blah blah blah.

Poor guy is so depressed.

Hope everyone could understand like you. Another reason why the family is being strict is because they believe the guy wouldn't take the religion seriously. And they are afraid he may becomes weak after her finally gets the woman.

Thank you, thank you so much.

P.S this story is not about me.

Lol! Sorry about that! I always find it easier to address whoever posted the topic, irrespective of whether the story is theirs or not! My bad though!

sexkillz:

Lol! Sorry about that! I always find it easier to address whoever posted the topic, irrespective of whether the story is theirs or not! My bad though!