rokiatu:

Thats ok, great advice, thank you once again.

You are welcome!  

Hotie Tima:

i don't really think religion should become a problem if there is love i am pretty sure ALLAH ( SWT) loves does that wants to take his path and the dees is forever great-full, but i guess is not the same for everyone else in life , but one should really try that best with they parents and try to bring them around u know, coz in time it will get to a place where u wish your parents was there with u. u know.

but i swear is fighting to keep the person u love don't work with your parents been disown wouldn't kill u either no joke

rokiatu:

In this story ma'm we are not thinking about going down that path, thanks for the advice though.

omega25red:

wow now they are talking tribe? well tell that guy to cheer up and find another woman and leave that family alone because they see something in him they "hate".

Hotie Tima:


okee i am just saying now u know how black parents are sometimes now

omega25red:

wow now they are talking tribe? well tell that guy to cheer up and find another woman and leave that family alone because they see something in him they "hate".

Nayah:

Hottie looove your pic honey  

rokiatu:

Tell me about it, fu ck up 1920 mentality.

I wish I could flog some sense into some of them head. Excuse my language but I am pissed off!

Mr, Cork:

Rokini. Sweeery do u want my advise or not?

Nayah:

HOTTIE

Nayah:

HOTTIE  

Mrs, Chima:

Nice picture Hottie Tima.  

Be proud and flick the haters off.  

Nayah:

hey thanks Mrs Chima sorry I can't see you

maclatunji:

Rokiatu, every couple need a strong support system. You may be in love now, but familiarity breeds contempt. By the time you get married, your differences will become amplified and your families will be like- did we not tell you so? Ultimately, you may end-up being bitter. Remember, there is a thing line between love and hate.

Nayah's thoughts are cute but not realistic if you take your religion seriously.

Let the guy go, now is the best time to break-it with less hurt.

rokiatu:

Let me just make myself an example alright,   is there a guarantee that if I married a man of my religion I will have a successfull marriage?

Only a dumb person will go into a marriage thinking everyday will be like a honeymood, People have fight, and people make up esp if there is love, understanding and respect in the marriage/relationship. No normal relationship goes on without a fight or a conflict once in a while.  

We need to learn to be tolerance of other people, and treat people as individual and not based on religion, colour, or race.

Next advice please.

rokiatu:

Let me just make myself an example alright,   is there a guarantee that if I married a man of my religion I will have a successfull marriage?

Only a dumb person will go into a marriage thinking everyday will be like a honeymood, People have fight, and people make up esp if there is love, understanding and respect in the marriage/relationship. No normal relationship goes on without a fight or a conflict once in a while.  

We need to learn to be tolerance of other people, and treat people as individual and not based on religion, colour, or race.

Next advice please.

maclatunji:

Tolerance does not necessarily mean you have to marry a person with a different ideology from yours. I have Christian friends (that is tolerance), me marrying a Christian is just going to ask for unnecessary drama and trauma (that does not make me intolerant- I am just being sensible and pragmatic).

Spot the difference?

topup:

I understand why the family might disaprove, because I believe it's slightly fickly to think that someone can just forgo something that should be his everything - his faith.

It doesn't say a lot about the guy and his commitment to things he believes in, and also there is always the uncertainty that he will one day want to convert back. If he wants to marry the woman I would advise he convert the religion and study it for a couple of years and then if he is still a believer then he can come again to seek acceptance.

We can't be naive, some people will say anything to trap a person in such a bond - what's to say he's not being genuine either.

nicky4lif:

My dear,ask your family maybe is his head they want.who knows,he might aswel giv it to them.since u can't be by the side of the man u claim to love.most times,problem always come in when u the woman refuse to join him,not the other way round.now he has shown u how much he loves u,yet u are still asking what to do.u better marry him now b4 somone better than u sees his worth.nd his kind,if he starts lovin somone else,u will never look bk.then,u will be like.is this what ever your guys name is?be wise.

maclatunji:

Girl you are not looking for advice; you are looking for support and validation. You want to give yourself the best chance at a happy marriage, this means being pragmatic about many things and not starting-off on the wrong foot. Going against your family for this man is not exactly the best thing- Note your parents don't hate you with what they are doing.

A married woman is vulnerable (especially if she is not a wicked woman)- think hard about it!