Wawelexy:
Allow your poor niece breef.... If you stop her from watching it, then she will get in the real act... Nothing can make her stop it now, if you block her from the router, she would purchase data with her money, if you expose her and start monitoring her, she will wait till midnight when everyone is asleep, or better still go into the bathroom to do her thing...

Since you have blocked her from the router, don't kill her self esteem by letting her know you are aware of her secret, allow her use her data, Xvideo and XNXX will reset her brain when she keeps using her food/transport money for subscription every two days.. when the time comes, she will forget about it...

One thing I discovered about porn addiction is joblessness, boredom and being alone, once you get yourself busy, it stops or drastically reduces.

90% of people viewing this thread have once been addicted, or still addicted to porn. Infact this thread will trigger some people to watch it tonight .. like the false prophet use to say; This I have seen

questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on

Samantha124:
I was just a curious teenager and once I was satisfied with what I saw in those sites, I completely stopped checking them.

[b]I was just going through a phase and it soon passed... [/b]A lot of teenagers at that age are curious about sex and it's a normal thing.

So the op should just let his niece satisfy her curiosity and the whole will soon pass.

I can't remember the sections I used to visit because it's been a while.

nairamaniac:


You are sooo wrong here. For the fact that the phased just came and passed without damaging effects on you doesn't mean it would be the same for everyone else.

Perhaps if a guy or guys had enguaged you during the phase, it may have been a totally different story today.

Curiosity begets actions/practicals most times.
I personally feel OP should rehabilitate her in one way or another, albeit nicely without disgrace.

Samantha124:
You can't prevent a teenager from having access to pornography in this era and no one can rehabilitate her until she decides that she wants to be rehabilitated.

And porn is everywhere nowadays, it's in music videos, movies, and telenovelas.

Especially your Nigerian Afrobeats, they praise sex too much... Even if the op tries to rehabilitate her, she may pretend that she's listening, only for her to go and watch it with her own data.

At the end of the day, only she can help herself by deciding when to stop.

nairamaniac:


Never say never or can't.
As long as she's still a teenager, the mind can be channeled into other tasks and aspects of Life.
Besides it's better to try than fold hands and give up before the race even starts.

What you see movies and music videos isn't as raw as porn from websites.
No comparisons.

questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on

Samantha124:
A lot of her agemates mostly discuss about it because they're at a stage whereby they'll soon be transitioning to adulthood and they're curious to know more about sex.

And those movies and music videos would only make the teenager more curious about sex, hence she'll still go to those porn sites.

Only she can stop herself from doing it.

Kryzboy:
How did you install the network tracker and what's the name

nairamaniac:


Samantha, an elderly one can help a teenager transform into a sexually active adult without pornography being in the entire transition.
See, partaking in sex without porn or masturbation is very very possible and more healthy to the mind and valuable use of time.

No one says she shouldnt be curious about sex.
But you can be curious and satisfy your curiousity by talking about it with more matured minds/elderly figures.

Samantha124:
Let's say she talks about it with matured minds, will those matured minds tell her about things like doggy, missionary, 69, or cow girl?

I mean those are the things that her agemates will be talking about.. We've been teenagers before and we know

Samantha124:
Let's say she talks about it with matured minds, will those matured minds tell her about things like doggy, missionary, 69, or cow girl?

I mean those are the things that her agemates will be talking about.. We've been teenagers before and we know

CCIA:

Shalommy come here and tell us about Lizard style

Shalommy:
Chaii.. That samantha have spoil and corrupt. Amos goaty, where is your fu..ckman(fman)? Is he dead?

nairamaniac:


See samantha, there is one word that matters alot from AN ADULT to A TEEN/CHILD;
The WORD is TRUST.

When a Child has complete trust for the adult, the child would trust that process of maturing.
One good reason teengers sway more towards their peer group than adults that mean well is due to Lack of trust in the adult and whatever the adult actually wants them to later become.

CCIA:

Fman was arrested for raping a 15 year old girl in makurdi.

Didn't you hear the news?

---

By the way. Hope say that your breast never first you settle down!

Shalommy:
No wonder you're Hot like this. Make use of your hands. Chaii...

Samantha124:
A teenager can fully trust his or her elders, but still enjoys hanging out with his or her agemates because there are some things he or she can only discuss with his or her agemates.

And you still haven't answered my question, will those matured minds tell her about different kinds of sex positions?

nairamaniac:

No, the matured minds wdnt tell her about the sex positions. But they would let her know that her body may be developed for sex. But her mind, responsibilities and fatalities that comes along with sex are alll above her age&pay-grade.
Also, one other reason some kids stay away from certain vices is making them know the value Of being CLASSY.

I personally never smoked or drank beers whole growing up cos I saw it as something for the drivers who drove me out in my parents cars to school or outings.

My parents made me see it as something kind of local. Which worked till I was even above 20years of age.
And when I started drinking much later, I never got to points of abusing it cos I had a very low regard for drunkards and chronic smokers while growing up.

As a parent, or adult you can actually make a teenager know the value of being CLASSY/CLEAN, which could transform into being Decent.

Samantha124:
I was also taught sex education from primary till high school, but that didn't prevent me from being curious to want to see the real action from those porn sites...

nairamaniac:


We are not saying we can stop her curioisity. But we can control the addiction to spending valuable time watching/streaming such things.
First of all the girl would need a long holidays indoors with no access to smart phones at all. That itself is a subtle rehabilitation.

She would realise that she can easily/quickly graps her school work when she's away from any possible access to porn sites.


When she sees her scores/performances in periods she's always from porn and compare to when she's addictively into it, she would mostly likely know what's good for her time/her brain.


This worked for me while growing up as a video game adddicts.


Trust me I had access to world-class game consoles and computers as a kid.
Hardly could any of my friends afford what I got.

But when my parents started giving me access to these things only during weekends and longvacs, it helped my concentration levels more.


It would be dificult at first.

But with time, you would adjust and find values in the encouragements your elderly ones(adults) are giving to you.

Samantha124:
1. You'll be preventing the girl freedom of movement by keeping her indoors like a prisoner during long holidays, no teenager wants to be suffocating indoors during long holidays.

Samantha124:
1. You'll be preventing the girl freedom of movement by keeping her indoors like a prisoner during long holidays, no teenager wants to be suffocating indoors during long holidays.

Samantha124:
2. Some school work requires students to surf the internet and she'll need her phone to do her school work and pass with flying colors, you'll be depriving her her right to education if you take her phone away from her...

Samantha124:
3. The op said nothing about his niece performing badly at school.

nairamaniac:
this is necessary as a subtle method to rehabilitate her.

you are right with this. We can't deprive her of her Fon. But then, the sites she opens can be controlled.

yeah I know the op never talked about her performing badly. But most likely from the way the op says she's always back to porn sites on the internet anytime she is free or alone, it's likely to affect her studies

Samantha124:
A teenager can fully trust his or her elders, but still enjoys hanging out with his or her agemates because there are some things he or she can only discuss with his or her agemates.

And you still haven't answered my question, will those matured minds tell her about different kinds of sex positions?

Samantha124:
Okay Sir, you've made your point..

questioner:

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ?

Padipadi:

So that she can ever olosho biz abi. She deserved family beating that ll reset her to default

questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on