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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by dinachi(m): 5:45pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on
You just lost a golden opportunity to unveil your niecies lesbian activities. Now, I am not so shocked actually because most guys are not sensitive enough to know these things. Most of you young guys of nowadays are very shallow.

Most young girls who are addicted to it this way only watch lesbian porn. Do your research. Quote me anywhere, even if you have the balls call her and ask, she is a hardcore lesbian!

So, the issues are deeper than just watching porn or male women relationship.

So now you know your young niece is a clossetted lesbian, do something about it.

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Gandrova: 5:47pm On Jul 13, 2023
richeeyo:
Abeg leave the girl alone
You don't have Common sense

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by uuzba(m): 5:49pm On Jul 13, 2023
Samantha124:
I still wonder how do people get addicted to it.

I mean, I don't see anything addictive there.
That is exactly how addiction starts.
1st stage: Ew! Repulsive. I hate it
2n stage: I don't see anything addictive there
3rd stage: Let me even see it sef.
4th stage, I didn't see yesterday let me see today
..
..
10th stage: I can't do without it. If I stop I will die.
-
You are then a confirmed addict. Unable to stop.
These stages happen very fast.
Just run away from the beginning.

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by ThothHermes: 5:50pm On Jul 13, 2023
Kobojunkie:
1. What exactly did your mom speak to her about then? undecided

2. Routers usually come with ware to help track network traffic and maybe even send you an email on a regular basis too. So maybe you can tell her that you are setting it up and monitoring the sites she accesses to score her off. Then when next you are at your mom's, you can put parental lock on and also set network monitor on proper then. The key is to get her scared and aware that you are able to sniff her online activities out. undecided
Everything na argument to you. Psycho.

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by fortunechy(m): 5:52pm On Jul 13, 2023
U are very stupid for not confronting her and u are more stupid for not telling ur mum. If anything happens to her in future cuz of it, u are the cause..
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Slynation(m): 5:53pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:



You echoed my exact view about this.

I just needed the reassurance that I did the right thing
You did everything right apart from letting her to know that you know what she's doing...!!
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by FireUpNow(m): 5:54pm On Jul 13, 2023
Act now before she puts it into practicals and come home with pregnancy
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by illicit(m): 5:54pm On Jul 13, 2023
Candidlady:


Truth is parenting is really tough


Iknow cos iam one crazy child...

What would your advice be to the girl
grin
Let's craze together one of these days tho

I am crazy and cool altogether

My advice is that she should be a good girl, like she should be good at whatever she does.... wink tongue grin
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by mercy87(f): 5:55pm On Jul 13, 2023
How could you not intervene since
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Hotwest: 5:56pm On Jul 13, 2023
Wawelexy:
Allow your poor niece breef.... If you stop her from watching it, then she will get in the real act... Nothing can make her stop it now, if you block her from the router, she would purchase data with her money, if you expose her and start monitoring her, she will wait till midnight when everyone is asleep, or better still go into the bathroom to do her thing...

Since you have blocked her from the router, don't kill her self esteem by letting her know you are aware of her secret, allow her use her data, Xvideo and XNXX will reset her brain when she keeps using her food/transport money for subscription every two days.. when the time comes, she will forget about it...

One thing I discovered about porn addiction is joblessness, boredom and being alone, once you get yourself busy, it stops or drastically reduces.

90% of people viewing this thread have once been addicted, or still addicted to porn. Infact this thread will trigger some people to watch it tonight cheesy.. like the false prophet use to say; This I have seen grin
Omo xvideos get varieties. Anything u want to see...Naakednesss is nothing on d net these days. Me sef don tire ..I have seen it all
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by VULCAN(m): 6:01pm On Jul 13, 2023
Please which Network Tracker did you use?
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by SweetDipBenny(m): 6:01pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:



If it is a guy, I wouldn't bother much cos I know too well that lots of young boys go thru this phase but even though I know it exists but this is the first time I am seeing a girl in this situation - if it portends the beginning of trouble, I will just advice that she should be returned to stay with her dad
It's normal now with girl child. D all have access to internet now unlike before. And she's not even payin for it. Free data d sweet grin
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by VULCAN(m): 6:06pm On Jul 13, 2023
So both you and the group of 25 people who liked your comment didn't READ the part where he said he blocked her.

No wonder your responses are usually off point.

You just skim and rush to comment

Kobojunkie:
○ Block access to inappropriate content on the network using your router. There is no sensible reason why you or your mom should be paying for her to visit porn sites. She can go make her own money to do that with her life. undecided

In addition, ensure everyone is aware that there network use is tracked down to ID used to access a site, the number or minutes spent on what page/site etc., so she is alert to the fact that whatever unacceptable activities she engages in online can be reporter back to her parents if need arises. undecided

○ Your mom has already spoken to her about it so no need for you to say much except encourage her to use her mind wisely. She can chose to be promiscuous without porn. That you can't do much about. Sending her back to her Dad because of that will just be your family abandoning her for no real reason. undecided
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Kobojunkie: 6:09pm On Jul 13, 2023
VULCAN:
■ So both you and the group of 25 people who liked your comment didn't READ the part where he said he blocked her. No wonder your responses are usually off point.You just skim and rush to comment
I am obviously not for him completely blocking her from using the internet as she can easily find a way around that. undecided
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Neoteny7: 6:09pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on

Dude, face it: you're an enabler.

Your cowardly silence enables her act.

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Expanse2020(m): 6:11pm On Jul 13, 2023
You can pasuede her and let her know you were aware that what she had been viewing and consuming the data then you will enlightened her about
The addiction
The danger attached to it
and let her know if she indulge in the act again, you will reviewed her secret to the family and let your mom return her to his dad (just to scared her)
She may put stop on it.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by VULCAN(m): 6:11pm On Jul 13, 2023
"People" that are browsing on top your money.

Just Imagine

What kind of silly entitlement mentality possessed you to make such a statement?

1Sharon:
I think it was an invasion of privacy to view people's browsing history.


Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by bizhop01: 6:19pm On Jul 13, 2023
When she become porn Star you will be proud of her.
According to you, with her daily dedication and consistency she will overthrow Victoria Cake to be the next black queen of porn cool
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Kobojunkie: 6:22pm On Jul 13, 2023
bizhop01:
When she become IndecentStar you will be proud of her.
According to you, with her daily dedication and consistency she will overthrow Victoria Cake to be the next black queen of porn cool
People who watch porn are more likely to become masturbaters rather than sex addicts or p0rn ztars. undecided

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Decarbonisation: 6:22pm On Jul 13, 2023
Wetin concern you?
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by UdeywhineMe: 6:28pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on
bring her let me buy data for her
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by kwasoly(m): 6:31pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on


Sit her down and talk to her first and an elder sister, before you know the next thing to do.
She needs to know the dangers so as not to waste her life.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by SIRTee15: 6:32pm On Jul 13, 2023
1Sharon:


Abeg. Back in the days you guys had blue films. Most men have been watching porn from way younger than 17, from around 12.

Sharon how do u what's called blue film.
U grew up in UK...who told u about blue film.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Bimpe29: 6:46pm On Jul 13, 2023
Handle the matter as if she's your biological daughter.

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by mariahAngel(f): 6:51pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:



Even though I dont agree with this, I respect your opinion cos it's coming from a lady.
You said do something - what do you suggest can be done ?

Just admit that you simply do not have the courage to handle the situation.
Not everybody can be bold.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by busybay: 6:51pm On Jul 13, 2023
Small girl wey you for flog wella wella una dey here dey speak English.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Donpenny(m): 6:53pm On Jul 13, 2023
That girl have started masturbating

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by busybay: 6:56pm On Jul 13, 2023
Small girl wey e for carry leather belt lash wella
Neoteny7:


Dude, face it: you're an enabler.

Your cowardly silence enables her act.

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Ikpunnegi01: 7:05pm On Jul 13, 2023
Porn! Porn! Porn! it had destroyed so many destinies and still destroying them! I can't imagine seeing a friend posting porn on whatsapp statues! People no get shame oooh! Stop her, before it reset her memory or make her go mad!
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by mercy87(f): 7:11pm On Jul 13, 2023
Pootle:
i hate this generation, back in the days of old such an act is treacherous and should be dealt with before it degenerate to pregnancy or other bad stuff, but people are out there saying leave her alone. that why we keep breeding oloshos everywhere undecided

note she fit don dey upload her nude and earning some change o angry

As in....I can't imagine the responses. Is this how bad it?

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Bluearrow: 7:37pm On Jul 13, 2023
Wawelexy:
One thing I discovered about porn addiction is joblessness, boredom and being alone, once you get yourself busy, it stops or drastically reduces.
You are very correct
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Chris2863(m): 8:06pm On Jul 13, 2023
Ever8090:
You don't want to confront her but you come dey confront us, na we use your data watch pone ?
the guy no too get sense

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